Happy Mother's Day! Sharing my thoughts about this day!

By Nana_anna Latest Reply 2012-05-17 15:34:26 -0500
Started 2012-05-13 11:38:11 -0500

Today is an off day for me. Partly because its Mother's Day. I hate it because I am always alone. My son is grown and is in the Navy. So he is extremely busy. My husband works on Sunday. This day depresses me because of my own mother not wanting to speak to me, or wanting a relationship with me, as she has said many times. Even though she says that I know with her hard of heart, that she really does try. I don't know what can possibly make a mother this way. When all I ever did was take crap from her to begin with. I love her, but now I know that if she doesn't want a relationship with me, than that's on her. That's her choice. I wish that it were different. Its hard to face on day's like today. I still send her cards not sure if she reads them. Thanks for letting me vent! I hope that everyone will have a Happy Mother's Day! :)

14 replies

nzingha 2012-05-15 06:48:48 -0500 Report

how sad indeed… i know the feeling …u need to get to the root of the problem. life is too short …try to reach out to her to uncover and release the pain on both sides…

Nana_anna 2012-05-16 11:10:41 -0500 Report

Thanks for the tip. Believe me, I have tried, I know some things, but now she won't even open up about it. She says she's to old, and doesn't want to talk. Then she starts cussing at me, in emails, or bad letter's. I just continue to pray for her.

jayabee52 2012-05-17 15:34:26 -0500 Report

let her know that you are praying for her. You may not see a difference immediately, or even at all, but it would be good to try to not break off lines of possible communication.

I feel the pain of being estranged from my youngest son. He seems to be coming around though! I kept letting him know that the lines were open on my end of the relationship.

eristar 2012-05-14 06:21:39 -0500 Report

That's so sad - I am fortunate that at least in later years I had a good relationship with my mom and my kids and I have super relationships. Well, you have lots of sympathethic and caring mom-type people here to whom you can vent any time you need. I hope you had a better day than expected yesterday, and now it's over for another year. Happy MONDAY!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-05-13 23:33:17 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear about this! I go through the same thing with my dad so I know what it's like to be rejected! Like Red Flower said you can continue to send cards and be the one who forgives. Ni wrote my dad a letter about 10 years ago and wrote my true feelings, asking him why he didn't love me and wasn't there for me! I also forgave him in that letter. The letter brought closure to the heaviness I was carrying around, the baggage was gone with the letter! Take care my friend!

Nana_anna 2012-05-14 12:36:43 -0500 Report

I think that is the right thing to do. I have done that with both my mom and dad. They have to know that forgiveness is a must. I cannot do anything to make them forgive me. I can do something, and forgive them. I have. Its the heaviness that I seem to have later, or just appears at certain times. I don't like it either. I know I love them. I have to other sister's that know this and yet that don't back up anything on my side. I am just leaning on God through it. So be it to them. My door is always open to them. Thanks for your input ;) and I hope things will clear up to with your Dad.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-05-13 23:16:16 -0500 Report

Well, at least you try and that is all you can do. Just keep sending the cards and be the bigger person. I have no idea how a mother can act this way or show favoritism toward a child when they have other children. As a mother you should love your children unconditionally and understand that they are different from each other as they should be:) I know that at times children can do things to drive us crazy and may on occasion use poor judgement, but all we can do is love them and hope they learn from their actions.

Some people are not ment to ever be a mother and can be resentful of it. Just be glad she gave you life. I'm sure you are a better mother because of her, and that is a blessing.

Lots of hugs to you on this day and everyone after!!

Nana_anna 2012-05-13 14:04:57 -0500 Report

Thanks for that Gabby! I have a friend like that to. So many people in my life have been more of a mother to me than my own. I appreciate you reminding me of that today :) I am doing better. I put in the movie, "Mama Mia" love that musical. I did some crocheting socks that I started yesterday and just got that done. I am glad to have the support of you all on DC also! Thank you :)

GabbyPA 2012-05-15 12:43:39 -0500 Report

You cannot watch that movie and not feel great. I love it and it is one that can cheer up a sad day. It makes me smile to just think about it.

GabbyPA 2012-05-13 11:44:47 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to hear that your mom is not willing. I have more than one mom, and maybe that is what you need. I have an adopted mom that is a friend of my moms, I call her mom 2. And I have a friend who is more like a mom than a friend. Those people are special. Blood doesn't mean you are a great mom. Being a great mom can go beyond that if you look at it.

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