How do you stay motivated?

By kkd67 Latest Reply 2012-05-09 12:19:59 -0500
Started 2012-04-27 22:53:53 -0500

Hi. New to group. Have been a diabetic for 10+ years. Really can't stay motivated. Any advice . Thanks.

57 replies

John Lassider
John Lassider 2012-05-08 18:30:52 -0500 Report

Write to yourself what your goals are everyday. Make sure that you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you can achieve your goals. It really helps. Believing you can achieve your goals is the most important thing.

Sharri D
Sharri D 2012-05-08 17:24:58 -0500 Report

Hello, after reading all these posts I am getting myself motivated to go walking. thanks. this is my first time here…

jayabee52 2012-05-08 19:13:48 -0500 Report

Howdy Sharri! WELCOME to DiabeticConnect! Sorry you qualify for our little party but since you do, IMO this is one of the best places to be.

I pray your walk was helpful!

Blessings to you and yours

James Baker

MoeGig 2012-05-02 19:30:22 -0500 Report

Fear. Fear of failure has always been my motivator. Fear of developing debilitating complications which really can make life miserable. If you understand the physiology, you know that not achieving the goal of an A1c below the 7's, is very bad. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure…as one of our famous americans once said. (I know it's Ben Franklin :>)

GolfNshape 2012-05-01 16:35:56 -0500 Report

Find out what you do like.. For me it's working out.. I get pumped when I exercise and it helps my diabetes too!

Nana_anna 2012-05-01 13:03:04 -0500 Report

Today I decided to give my day an uplift by singing the spiritual hymns, along with the Gaither Home Coming band, as well as others. I miss the choir, but I always sing at home and at church. It lifts your spirit. Takes away the blues!

Young1s 2012-05-01 13:06:45 -0500 Report

I'm a fan of the Gaither Band too. Have you listened to this one yet?

EDIT: Couldn't get the link to work so, the name of the song on YouTube is "It Is Well With My Soul" By Guy Penrod And David Phelps.

chief2156 2012-05-01 14:18:34 -0500 Report

I just listen to the new song by the Gaither's . It was AWESOME. Thanks for sharing that it was a Blessing.

chief2156 2012-05-01 23:43:31 -0500 Report

I didn't have any problems with it, I was able to go right to it through the site. Thanks again you have any more let me know.

shortysmalls 2012-05-01 00:40:18 -0500 Report

Hey if like to walk get a walking buddy, an ipod with earphones and go for a walk. I used to listen to the tv while I was on the treadmill…Felt like a hamster but kept me motivated to walk or do some everyday activity like mow the lawn etc

Caroltoo 2012-05-01 03:11:40 -0500 Report

When I was using the treadmill, I had a series of books I wanted to read … found them in large print so I could read and walk. Had to discipline myself to only read them when I was walking. Also watched video I really wanted to see … only as long as I was walking. I've done the same with the T.V. — would only watch it when I was using my cardiofit machine.

troublemaker27 2012-04-30 16:25:30 -0500 Report

hey i'm type two diabetic since 2008.
so what's it like being diabetic?
well it's not so bad to me.
we're still trying to find a cure.
but no luck.
well good luck i'm tori ann steele big fan of this site.
are you a coffee drinker?

LukeL 2012-05-02 10:57:27 -0500 Report

Hi tori this is luke, yes I'm a coffee drinker and maybe tomany a day lol but I'm driving for living so keep me going

shortysmalls 2012-05-01 11:16:25 -0500 Report

being diabetic was nuts at firstbut now is ok.. no not a coffee drinkd but a big fan of diet coke and chocolate. Not that bad now

troublemaker27 2012-05-01 11:35:29 -0500 Report

hello there oh i crave chocolate and diet drinks.
so what do you do for a living?
i myself go to day adult program monday through friday.
thanks see ya-tori

troublemaker27 2012-05-02 10:57:06 -0500 Report

hey there shortysmalls
tori here well i would like to sort things as a job.
just checking my emiail.
ready for the weekend?
i am got a lot to do this weekend.
do you like the 80's?
i do see you oh by the way what's your real name?
mine's is tori ann steele

shortysmalls 2012-05-02 18:47:36 -0500 Report

my real name is sharon benitez and am bout as ready for the weekend as i can, hubby andi need to do laundry alittle food shopping, pool practice and yes like the 80's also started selling avon on the side and just see how it goes not feeling too great but ok catch up with you later

troublemaker27 2012-05-03 10:58:01 -0500 Report

hey sharon how are you?
it's tori well i'm just reading my emails on yahoo site
oh i'm ready for the weekend.
got lots to do.
my check from trust management is coming i only get $100 dollars a month from them.
i have a boyfriend his name is dean vernon christopherson we been together for 7 years since june 28th 2005.
on june 28th i will be 35yrs old.
ta ta-tori

sseddog 2012-04-30 08:24:44 -0500 Report

I am not on a diet, I am making better choices. That is what I tell myself. I bought myself a thumb ring with the serenity prayer etched inside. I always wanted a thumb ring. Whne ever I get discouraged I just twist the ring and think about how far I've come. Most times it works. Some times it doesn't and I don't make the best choices. I just dust myself off, put on my big girl panties, and move on.

DeanaG 2012-05-09 12:19:59 -0500 Report

I have the Serenity Prayer hanging in my dining room. It is a needlepoint that one of my Aunts did for my Dad shortly after he was diagnosed with diabetes.

roshy 2012-04-30 06:41:45 -0500 Report

support groups: . ) !!! I know how you feel, ive been t1 for only 8 years and if motivation came in a glass vial like insulin id be golden!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-29 18:19:17 -0500 Report

I motivate myself (can't stand motivational speakers) by doing things I like to do and setting goals. I don't set goals so high I can't achieve them. I am very independent and like doing things for myself. Being helpless is expensive. If there is something you would like to do, teach yourself. You Tube is filled with all kinds of instructions. We saved some bucks learning how to change the kitchen faucet on that site. Make plans to do something fun. If you don't like to walk for exercise, do it in small doses. There are hundreds of ways to motivate yourself if you really want to do it. All it takes is some thought and planning.

Winks61 2012-04-29 17:25:45 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed 3 years ago and literally almost died from it last year. I power walk to help keep the numbers down even A1C. I also don't want to loose any body parts.

pixsidust 2012-04-29 13:30:48 -0500 Report

A failure to plan…will result in failure
If you plan tasty things to eat.
You can just put it out of your mind and enjoy what you
purchased to eat and what you have planned.
It becomes hard for me when I haven't charted my weeks food
in purposeful shopping and believe me I have those weeks.
Its nice not to have to think and not to crave!
I have to find motivation if I have made my eating work
by not planning and shopping weekly for a menu
that caters to what I like and all my cravings!!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-29 18:28:54 -0500 Report

Pixi, I do not sit down and plan meals and shopping for the meals because it ended up wasting too much of my time. I either forgot about the plan or didn't care about the plan. I also am not one to make a list for the supermarket because I either forget it and leave it at home or get tot he supermarket and forgot I have it…LOL. Under no circumstances am I going to a supermarket every week. I buy enough meat to last almost a month. I buy fresh veggies that I like and can be frozen, cook them and freeze them. I go buy foods that I like and if I have the urge for it, I cook it and eat it. I no longer track everything I eat. It helped when I was first diagnosed and got my blood sugar under control.

I tried the meal planning thing and it made me crazy. Besides, there are certain times of the month when sales at supermarkets are not as good. I find the best sales near the end of the month. I like not having any idea what I am going to eat for the week and making it a surprise meal.

pixsidust 2012-04-30 10:40:34 -0500 Report

You are keeping healthy foods around and you shop sales and are smart. Because you do then you do not have to think about things so hard. You have what you need.

Getting back in the saddle when you lack motivation or feel like giving up takes a little regrouping and with regrouping comes planning. The first time I went shopping for my Diabetic self. I simply shopped sales and read labels up and down the aisles till I knew where stuff was. I planned as I went. I told myself chicken this day, stir fry the next. I especially planned my cravings sweet and salty both. With time that became second nature. It sounds like with you lack of tracking that maybe you do not have too because you are under control. Thats wonderful!!! But if you got lost along the way. A little 101 basics can set a person back on the path!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-30 11:47:01 -0500 Report

Don't get me wrong, I still read labels. Since being diagnosed, it has become second nature. The one thing I don't do is go through the supermarket thinking baked chicken tonight, soup tomorrow night. Too distracting for me because I may not want any of that during the week.

I do go through periods of slumps when I an unmotivated. That is because I can't think of what I want to do or I may be bored to the point of screaming. Then something happens and I am up and running again.

The problem I think people have is that too many have become codependent on other people to motivate, inspire them or to get their approval. I don't need approval from others to get through the day. I don't need Joel Olsten to tell me how to be happy. I can do that myself. I don't need a talking head on a tv show to motivate me, I am good at doing that all alone. Every now and then I can get inspiration from something or someone but I don't depend on doing that.

I also think people are passive/aggressive when it comes to motivating themselves. For example the elderly lady across the street might need her lawn mowed. You sit in your house and think how horrible her yard looks which is passive behavior. Why not become aggressive and ask her if you can mow her lawn or help her? In the end, you not only have helped someone but you are helping to motivate yourself into taking action. Motivation is taking action. You can sit back and let the world pass you by or you can grab the world and yell here I am, let's do something today.

pixsidust 2012-04-30 15:17:31 -0500 Report

Everyone is different just as Diabetes is not a one shoe fits all
My reply was written as a possible help to the slump the person
making this discussion is in. I hope she can pick and choose what helps
her best…perhaps my answer may help and your view point as well

Kkd67 I still adhere to my original advice. Hope it helps!!! There is joy in success!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-05-01 16:50:56 -0500 Report

I hope she does also. The key as you said is to pick and choose what she likes to do and what will help her the best.

Nick1962 2012-04-28 19:07:42 -0500 Report

Funny, everybody below seems to have a different answer, but the message is still pretty much the same. Like techguy said, I'm prettty blessed to have what I do, and I can always come here for those times I need to feel a little better. And Young1s sure is right, if you start sliding, the treck back up the hill is just that much more brutal. I can identify most with Carol - there's too much in my life I put off for that time when I could afford to really live like I wanted. I gave up a lot of things in my youth to have this time, and i need to stay healthy to protect that investment.

I really need to see my stepchild have children that grow up just like her, and make sure what goes around comes around, and say to the little monster to be "aww sweety, you're just like mommy" while mom gives me a nasty but defeated look. I know it sounds nasty, but I need my "I told you so" moment. I want to take my wife snorkeling in Maui so she can swim with all the exotic fish she loves so much. And I still need to build that oak paneled wine cellar/library downstairs where she can sit with a glass of wine and read after along day.

So each day i get up, not necessarily in the mood to see another day, but I test my BG's, go to work, eat what most see as a really strict diet, come home, exercise, and do it all again the next day. I see it as each day i successfully keep my diet and numbers good, its another $100 dollars in that jar on top the fridg. marked "once in a lifetime experience".

I'm sure you've got things on your list too!

Young1s 2012-04-29 12:41:21 -0500 Report

LOL! Believe me those I told you so's are important. My mom has had, and is still having, her fair share of them. I always say that I must have been four times the headache for her when I was younger, because I have 3 girls just like me and my son is the tomboy side of me. Looking forward to my turn too.

techguy87114 2012-04-28 09:47:12 -0500 Report


That is a tough one! Ii am newly diagnosed and its hard for me to stay motivated. I just in the last few days asked myself if the medicine, diet and all was working because I wasn't feeling well. I had to refocus an understand that I am going to have lows, and that along with those Ii will have LOTS MORE HIGHS and great days!

What works for me as a T2 diabetic- know there are others out there that are going through the same things.. I take a few moments to take some "inventory" of my life.. I have great friends, an even greater family.. I have a place to call my own, food in the fridge etc.. You get the idea…

If I let T2 get me down and I focus on "why me" or that I'm not feeling well it tends to drag the rest of me down as well. Lean on your faith ( whatever denomination it may be) and SURROUND yourself with great things.. treat yourself to a spa day or even lunch with a friend.

Keep your chin up! Ii know its hard. Try and remember there are many others closer around you than you think that have it WAY worse! Talk to your doctor about whats going on.. it could be as simple as a meds change.

there is this community as well. We are all the same ( T1 and T2, be they different.. is still Diabetes) Everyone here so far has been great to me and I suspect that will be the same going forward.

I hope this helps a little!



"keep one foot in the gutter & one fist in the gold:

kkd67 2012-04-29 12:32:18 -0500 Report

thanks a lot tech guy!

Anonymous 2012-04-30 12:01:57 -0500 Report

tech I love my "I am not diabetic today" day. That is the one day I can eat whatever I want. Warning: this only works if your blood sugar is under control. If I want cookies, I eat them. If I want some chips I eat those usually much later in the day. I do not focus on being diabetic anymore because diabetes is not going to control my life.

I have friends who worry about what others think of them. I ask them how many people do you think actually care that you are having a problem with your husband, car, paying your bills, that your hair, makeup, clothing are not perfect etc…a lot of people are having the same problems. People will ask how are you feeling as a courtesy. Half the time they aren't listening when you tell them.

I think if you focus on things that matter instead of things that are not important then life will be much easier. I may not have a fancy house or car, The latest gadgets, the nicer clothing or a wonderful job but I make the best of what I have because I believe that some day things for me will improve. In the mean time I have fun and do things I enjoy doing and that makes me feel better about me as a person.

Thanks for your post.

Young1s 2012-04-28 09:41:33 -0500 Report

I've had some days that I've just threw up my hands and said, not doing it today. I think most diabetics do. The problem is, the longer you do that, the easier it becomes to be complacent and getting back on track becomes harder to do. But, the way I see it is, every day that I don't at least try to work on being and staying healthier, is one day more that I become closer to getting one or more of the many complications that come with having D, or worse. And I have too many things left to do with my family and my life to allow my D to get the better of me.

cbelyea 2012-04-28 06:36:57 -0500 Report

Sure ain't easy. Unfortunately the only real motivation I see is avoidance of the nasty complications. Still, neutrality is a piss-poor reward. I've been less vigilant than I should be for a while and it's hard to get back into good habits, so if you've got good habits, hold on to them.

Caroltoo 2012-04-27 23:02:39 -0500 Report

I think in terms of what I want the rest of my life to be. As long as I have a choice in the matter, I don't want it to be hampered by major illness that I could prevent. I still have mountains to climb, cruises to take, and lots more friends to meet. It's the decision to keep moving forward toward what I want and doing everything I can to make it happen.

shortysmalls 2012-04-27 23:19:49 -0500 Report

I try to stay as positive as I can. true didnt ask to get diabetes but still have control in what I do, phyically and emotionally and can make choices on how I manage my diabetes and how I can change what I need to…weather its meds, diet etc by taking an active role in what happens. yes get discouraged sometimes but bounce back. and welcome to the group