How do people deal with diabetes?

Melode
By Melode Latest Reply 2012-05-03 17:20:47 -0500
Started 2012-04-26 16:43:11 -0500

Sometimes I just feel down because of everything that is associated with diabetes. I just remember when I was younger and people would make fun of me for having it. They thought I deserved it since I was a bit heavy.
How have other people dealt with depressive symptoms or just feeling like you do not want to do anything? sometimes I feel like no goals. Thanks for help.


7 replies

Melode
Melode 2012-05-03 17:20:47 -0500 Report

I really appreciate all of your feedback. It actually has helped quite a bit. I just need to keep remembering my dreams. Thanks for all of your guys helps!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-04-30 22:34:34 -0500 Report

You know, I thankfully didn't have anyone treat me bad for being diabetic. I think it maybe due to my attitude about it? It is what it is, I didn't choose it, and I can't make it go away. I learned the entire insulin routine and everything that goes with being a type 1. I was very thin and athletic, sports, dancing and a runner, etc.. So, nobody could blame it on my weight or diet, or lazyiness. I was also so young, but had great family and friends. My husband has been with me since I was 15 yrs old, so he has been right there with me and learned what my daily life was like and accepted it. He also, wouldn't have put up with anyone trying to bully me about it if they dared to try! Now I have four kids that are great about it and my situations and such a hugh help.

I know how blessed I am, and am truely sorry for all the diabetics who have had it so hard. The people who treat diabetics bad are small minded and rude. Their lack of knowledge about diabetes is what motivates them to be this way. It is easier to be cruel then to educate yourself for some people. This will always be as it is human nature and we just have to develope a thick skin, or give out phamplets on diabetes to them.

roshy
roshy 2012-04-28 06:28:06 -0500 Report

Hi Melode.

i think looking back and thinking how i delt with the sad emotions i usually just had to remember that their understanding of diabetes is so limited therefore it becomes easy for them to mis-judge or or make fun of you.

I have had type one for 8 years ( since i was 16, now im 24) and and had a number of experiences where peoples lack of knowledge and sensitiviety can be both frustrating and hurtful, and so have many, many other people so try and remember that your not alone and it isnt just you that has experienced this.

The way i delt with it personally was to just make light of the misconceptions people make. "like, not everyone who takes needls is on drugs dude, go get an education!!"

I think speaking about how down you get is a big help too. Theres nothing worse then holding all your feelings back or keeping them inside, its damaging and can make you feel depressed at times.

On a smaller note, if your blood sugars are not in control this can have a massive impact on how you feel; you may find you dont have energy, have mood swings, extremely tired etc, but the sooner you get them in control the better you wiill start to feel.

Have you ever investigated the local support groups in your community for people with diabetes? Being able to meet other people and share stories can be a big help. It provides that huge gap where you might feel isolated or alone. Its a great feeling having someone to relate to.

Hope you start to feel better soon.

Roshy!

kintana
kintana 2012-04-27 17:22:11 -0500 Report

I'm very sorry you had people like that in your life. You definitely don't deserve it, and you're a strong person for getting through that. Have you ever thought about getting involved with diabetes advocacy? Something to help break down misconceptions of diabetes and diabetic-shaming. You could help people who may be going through what you did, which could help with motivation and purpose! Just a suggestion - I hope this site helps! =)

techguy87114
techguy87114 2012-04-27 10:48:50 -0500 Report

Melode,

This is a great & tough question! For me I just stay as positive as I can. I remember and appreciate the great things I have in my life- family/friends/job/roof over my head/food in fridge etc.. Its easy to get down and be upset that you have diabetes.. I know I was when I first found out ( diag'd 02/07/2012)

Faith is a good thing to lean on as well. I am not sure what your beliefs are, but whatever they are..that is an avenue for strength. Keep your chin up! Do something nice for yourself. You are special as a person. Surround yourself with postive poeple and shut out those that are not. They only infect your thoughts and attiude.

Use this forum as a place to get support.. we are all the same here ( T1 or T2 is still diabetes) and we all understand.

Hope this helps-

Best,

techguy87114

"keep one foot in the gutter and one fist in the gold"

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-04-26 22:58:02 -0500 Report

Howdy Melode WELCOME to DiabeticConnect!

Nobody "deserves" diabetes. Those who said that were simply mean-spirited.

I am 60 y/o now and I had depressive symptoms up until I was about age 55, yet I went to college and grad school and graduated with an earned master's degree.
I did it just by putting one foot in front of the other and not let situations stop me.

I do know how it felt to me not having a goal to shoot for. I was like that when I graduated from HS. But I was interested by a particular subject and pretty soon I had a direction, which took me to college and grad school. It took me 3 years beyond HS graduation to get my direction for my life and to get to college.

I believe it is a rare person who graduates from HS knowing what they want to do. My #2 son, Jon, thought he knew what he wanted to do in his life, but circumstances blocked his smooth path to adulthood. He had to enlist in the Army national guard for about 6 yrs before he got a profession which would pay him well enough to support a family.

My suggestion to you is find something which excites you and follow your passion.
You may not end up in a place where you can use what excites you, (I worked in my profession in which I trained for 10 years but could not remain there — I ended up in a profession which satisfied me more and had less stress than the previous profession).

BTW I get the sense you are on the youngish side of your life. No info on your profile. How old are you? (PS I have followed you, please follow me back so we can be friends. )

Anyway Praying for you and yours to be blessed!

James Baker