By Laura500 Latest Reply 2012-05-03 04:29:55 -0500
Started 2012-04-20 15:08:15 -0500

I have been coming here since I was diagnosed three weeks ago and now have the courage to speak. Type 2 :/ It's been hard to wrap my head around it. So far the meds are working and my diet but I get scared wondering about the road ahead, etc. It's so helpful to read what everyone posts here. Just wanted to say hello :)

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TsalagiLenape 2012-04-25 05:54:05 -0500 Report

Hey Laura500 No worries hun. When I started here I had no support or anything. Now I have loads of support and lots of friends who are like family now. So relax, ok? We are here to help you like we were and still are being done. Hugs

EdnaShukis 2012-04-24 19:25:04 -0500 Report

Hello Laura500 Welcome, after a while it is not so scary… glad you are doing the right thing… It can be over whelming at first but this is the place to be. Good Luck in your journey to wellness!

Laura500 2012-04-25 14:55:36 -0500 Report

it's getting better every day, although if i think too far ahead i get upset.

EdnaShukis 2012-04-25 17:23:02 -0500 Report

That's the way to do it, I have been a diabetic for over 36 years and have no complications and I lead a normal life, rarely even think of being a diabetic.!!! But this place is the best for support, I was having problems last month sticking to a proper diet and they helped me to get back in control!

Set apart
Set apart 2012-04-23 05:59:08 -0500 Report

Hi Laura and welcome to DC, I've been here 7 months as a T1, like others was reading and wanting to learn when I found DC. What a great day that was for me. It has been my support group, my never-ending continued learning site, and a place where I can give hugs, gifts, and get some back! You'll love it here!

KarynCandy29 2012-04-22 19:48:34 -0500 Report

Hi Laura,
Hello,Nice to meet you, I as well am new to this illness as of last November..Type 2 same as you…It is hard to wrap ones head around it all so much to take in and so much to understand and go through..Do you mind me asking do you have a good support group behind you,family,friends ..ect…as for the road ahead I'm trying to take one step at a time..I find of me it is the only way, or I get to over overwhelmed by it all…glad your here hope to get to know you better..


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-23 15:07:35 -0500 Report

Karyn, it can be overwhelming if you allow it to be. You are doing the right thing by taking it one step at a time. When something is overwhelming, it can add stress to your life. Stress can play a role in your blood sugar. Try not to be overwhelmed and keep your stress level down.

DIXIEGIRL69 2012-05-03 03:30:48 -0500 Report

Hi Joyce & Laura & many others…I'm new here just finding this site today, I'm 3 months new with T2. I relate to this issue you speak of about stress, I have so much stress in my daily home life, I can get B/S under control, then someone in my house creates a bunch of stress and out of control goes my B/S & all my other health issues, ie fibromyalgia, RA, Lupus, and other newest health concern: my heart I have Super Ventricular Tachycardia & Arythmia problems for past year…so its bad for me in my own home…I can't stop the stress…it comes from my husband who is ADHD severe & OCD…he is very loving & wants to do every good thing for me, but what I need most from him is for him to slow his life down & give me time to calmly rest with no judgement or expectations of me. Its long to explain. I love him, but my body can't keep up with his demands to go & do & do & do…he just doesn't acknowledge that I'm a sick person right now. My family & closest friend thinks that I could die of these conditions if I don't get a long period of peace & rest, they want me to move away for a while til I'm healthy to return to please my family & husband again. I get stressed just thinking about telling him that I agree and think I need time away, he will be upset, he will not understand or support me on this. I feel frightened to think about it. We'll, thank you to whomever has read my words here. I continue to pray for guidance…I hope my prayers are heard soon. Blessings to All. Dawn

jayabee52 2012-05-03 04:29:55 -0500 Report

Howdy Dawn, WELCOME to DiabeticConnect!

Your words and situation remind me so very strongly about my 2nd bride "Jem" when she was alive. She had most of the "medical challenges" (as she liked to say laughingly) and probably a couple more.

I came to her later in our lives and I knew how bad she was before I took up with her, so I had no expectations of her. I just loved her, and she loved me!

I am so sorry your husband is a source of stress to you and I pray it could be different. Have you suggested the two of you see a marital counsellor? Even if he refuses to go, you go by yourself to get suggestions of how to deal with the demands he seems to put on you.

You might also wish to contact Dr Gary [McLain PhD] His profile is here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/users/265624-d... He counsels people who have acute and chronic conditions for a living in New York City. You might want to try to private message him and see if he might be of help for you.

Sorry I am unable to be of further help to you


Laura500 2012-04-23 10:35:51 -0500 Report

Thank you! I do have a wonderful husband I've been with since we were teenagers (24 years!), and friends and family (although the family are all on the otherside of the country. Right now my husband is my rock :)

pixsidust 2012-04-22 14:26:20 -0500 Report

Laura, I take hope from all those who have lived life with longevity
and Type 2. I was diagnosed about 15 months ago.

There are ups and downs, changes to our body
and yet being aware, caring and trying we can meet it all toe to toe.

Loving ourselves enough to forgive ourselves when we stumble,
taking each day fresh

Look for beauty and joy in the success, a sunny day
or even the rainy ones that give me the excuse to curl up with a book

Your life will be a planned one
where you will make the right things happen
choose your health and your life
and truly all will be well and all will be right.
You will be alright, living life with longevity, telling your story
and giving comfort to one who is new
diagnosed with Type 2

Welcome, so glad to hear your voice!

Laura500 2012-04-23 10:36:34 -0500 Report

How beautiful! Thank you! You are so right on especially the forgiving ourselves…i had a few rough days and have been hard on myself, like i'm supposed to get perfect readings all the time :/

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-22 13:16:24 -0500 Report

Hi Laura, welcome to DC. There is a wonderful group of people here who give very good advice. I know it is hard to wrap your head around but as the weeks and months go by, it will get much easier. Testing your blood sugar, diet, exercise and taking your meds are very important. I have not stopped doing anything I was doing prior to being diagnosed. My rule of thumb is "I control my diabetes, it doesn't control me". If you need help just ask and do research. Make a list of questions to ask your doctor. Good luck.

Young1s 2012-04-22 11:53:01 -0500 Report

I almost forgot. Here are some discussions that may clear things up for you. Hope this is helpful.
Tips For The Newly Diagnosed
A Dietary Checklist for People with Diabetes
Newly Diagnosed (in the Living With Diabetes section on the Home page)

chevystang 2012-04-22 06:18:16 -0500 Report

I was told that I am boderline, and i started looking for info, thats how I found this site. It has great info and the people that I have dealt with are really nice. They are hear to lend a helping hand .I am a new comer too. So hello Laura,nice to meet you. Iam not on here a lot because I am a trucker, &on the road 5 days a week. B ut this site and the people will help both of us. Have a great day!!

Laura500 2012-04-23 10:37:52 -0500 Report

nice to meet you too! it must be hard being on the road so much but you can do it! do you get a chance to get some exercise?

chevystang 2012-04-23 21:19:38 -0500 Report

Yes I do , I deliver supplies for one of the top pizza chains.I have to unload my self . So I do get exercise . It is not that bad, I get home on Thursday for about 12 hours, then back home saturday till Monday night. I am on vacation this week. You have a good week Laura

JSJB 2012-04-22 03:58:12 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC laura500. I'm new also. pre diagnosed 6 month ago and since joining this site I have received some valuable information that has helped me. Ask questions and join in on discussions and most important is to read, read, and read. It is up to you to make the road ahead a smooth one or a rocky one. So HELLO :)

Laura500 2012-04-23 10:39:15 -0500 Report

hello! you are so right it IS up to us whether it's smooth or rocky. in a lot of ways this is making me take better care and pay more attention to my needs and health, instead of worrying so much about others.

watson4042 2012-04-21 15:43:48 -0500 Report

welcome to the family laura500! the information you now have access to is invaluable when first starting out on this journey. don't be shy, asking is 1 of the tools needed in order to deal with this disease. and remember, the only dumb question is the one not asked. :)

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-04-20 23:39:29 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome. You are in the right place to get answers, and you'll get alot!!

Laura500 2012-04-20 23:44:17 -0500 Report

Thank you! It's so important to have each other to talk to. I don't know anyone right now besides my sister in law who has it (and she was recently diagnosed too)

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-04-21 00:17:48 -0500 Report

It really does help to have other diabetics to turn to. We will all have our own issues, but our experiences hopefully will help another. I have been a juvenile diabetic for so long, but always learn something new:) I too can relate to not knowing another diabetic when first diagnosed. I am the only one on both sides of the family with it, so no help there. I say I must be adopted all the time:)

Absolutely love your picture, doesn't matter it's not red:D

Caroltoo 2012-04-20 23:54:01 -0500 Report

Oh, that was my experience too. When diagnosed I didn't know anyone who was. Had to find my own way. Soon began to talk about it and found lots of people who were diabetic and just hadn't shared that information.

Laura500 2012-04-23 10:40:22 -0500 Report

I am looking forward to the point where I can be of some help to someone who is newly diagnosed :)

Caroltoo 2012-04-23 13:03:12 -0500 Report

You already are, Laura. I saw an example of it just a few minutes ago as I was looking at another discussion. Welcome.

Caroltoo 2012-04-23 10:57:15 -0500 Report

I've noticed that most people on site begin to help other newcomers within just a couple of weeks. You can always empathize with others and be supportive while the actual knowledge base about diabetes is being accumulated. It won't be long!

Young1s 2012-04-20 20:28:44 -0500 Report

Hello Laura500 and welcome. I know it may be hard to even imagine right now, but things will become less confusing and scary with time. It's all about putting together the right components or things that will help with the transition.

Asking lots of questions. Learning as much as you can about D and how it will effect you personally. Making testing, taking your meds & exercising part of your daily routine. Making the right food choices (portion control included) & eating on a fairly consistent schedule. And so on. It's a matter of finding out what works for you. But most importantly is patience. Like I said, it takes time to learn these things, and you do have time to do it.

Fortunately, this new annoyance (as I like to call it) is manageable and well in our capabilities to control and maintain it. It's what WE do or don't do that determines what kind of effect it has on us later down the road. This is the thing that you have to wrap your head around. This is your journey to walk. How you travel this road and the bumps you find along the way are in your hands. But we are all here in support of you whenever you need us. Day or night, rain or shine.

Laura500 2012-04-20 21:00:59 -0500 Report

Thank you so much patience is something I really need to practice. I feel a lot better already which is motivating to keep at it. I had a realization today that I need to just adjust my course in life by changing my lifestyle and take better care of myself. It's been hard to face I was told two years ago I had it but didn't need meds yet. I went into total denial and ignored. Hopefully I don't have damage for being so foolish. BG readings are improving. I've been reading everything I can and got myself a med alert bracelet. Does anyone else feel embarrassed or weak? A reaction I've had which I know isn't helpful. Like you say it will take time. I know I can do it!

Young1s 2012-04-20 21:27:25 -0500 Report

It's only human to feel embarrassed or weak and that's okay. As you get to know us here, you'll see that we all have these feelings every now and again. But you have to be able to use this to motivate you to do better.

Believe me, those times when I'm having a particularly bad BG day, it's hard not to dwell on it or get down about it. But I just come here and I'm quickly reminded that I'm not alone. Those days will happen but I can't let this make me lose focus on the big picture. For me that's becoming med free and maintaining my D through diet and exercise. Then I get up the next day with more of a determination to get myself back on track. This is where patience comes in again. Having patience with yourself and understanding that mistakes will be made, but it's not the end of the world.

Yes you can do this!!!

Nick1962 2012-04-20 18:03:15 -0500 Report

Hey Laura! Sorry you qualify for our little party but glad you're here!
This might sound strange, but getting diagnosed made my life better.

KarynCandy29 2012-04-24 11:11:27 -0500 Report

Nick,May I ask how getting diagnosed made your life better?
Hope you don't mind me asking..:0)

Nick1962 2012-04-24 12:05:24 -0500 Report

Don't mind at all. I'll give you the short version here and e-mail you the long one with all the particulars if you like.
I was perfectly content being 100 pounds overweight, and I carried it well, and was fairly active for someone my size. Figured that was just who I was and accepted it. Trouble was I didn't FEEL good, and was achy and crabby all the time because of it. I'm a very conservative person, so I had put off things I wanted to do (like travel) thinking I'll do them when I got to the age where I could afford such things. Well, I'm 10 years past that age. Life snuck up on me and here I was in no shape to do any of the things I had saved up for all my life. My diagnosis was a wake up call. I needed to do something or I'd never see those things I put off. It made me seriously re-evalute things. I could down a 12 pack on the weekend, but in a few years that'd turn into downing 4 units of insulin per day, possiibly in a wheelchair. That one decision had a snowball effect, and bit by bit my health, weight, attitude, relationships and outlook all improved. I'm doing things now even I never thought I would.

KarynCandy29 2012-04-24 12:53:17 -0500 Report

Wow Nick.Thank you for answering my question..
A lot of what you said" rang bells " for me…You've giving me things to think about…I am working on improving my health ,weight.but I feel my whole outlook needs to be revised…I know someone here not sure who said it in another topic about writing everything down you do and eat and drink throughout the day..I think this will be something I will have to do in order to be accountable to myself( to be true to myself..) …you can E-mail me if you like..I don't mind..How do I go about giving you my E-mail?

Nick1962 2012-04-24 13:39:19 -0500 Report

Writing things down is generally the first step. It lets you see just what exactly it is going into your body, and yes, it makes you accountable. Something about seeing it in print makes you feel like you are being watched. It also helps if you link it to your testing. It actually became a second hobby for me, well more like a second job really, and I was going to get darn good at it. Not only that, meds and testing costs money, so it's far cheaper if I do what I know keeps me in line, so I don't always have to spend the $1/strip to guess.
As I was going through it, I wasn't self-aware of what was happening while I was doing it, so most of what I just posted is hindsight.
Since we're already friend on DC here, I'll just drop something in your inbox and we can e-mail through there. Give me a few days and I'll write something up. There are a few things i discovered that i never thought of would happen.

Laura500 2012-04-24 12:50:13 -0500 Report

It really is true how the years get away from a person. That is awesome that you took control and recharted your life direction. Once in a while I long for before I knew, and think "when I could eat junk or drink a lot of booze etc…not exercise etc", and guess what? I NEVER should have been doing those things to the excess that I was. I'm thinking of it in terms as Laura version 2.0 is gone and has been upraded (Version 1 being my childhood etc leading up to the years I started bad habits that helped contribute to bad health)…version 3.0 is going to be healthy, happy, youthful, and appreciative of the knowledge i have let into my brain. It's been a short time since i started meds and put the snazzy med alert bracelet i bought on my wrist…but i am hopeful the day will come when i stop taking pills and i can take the bracelet off…and if that isn't in the cards for me, well then the road along the way will be full of optimal health. I expect there to be low points too, and having to get back on track after times when it'll be too hard, or despite what i do i still am having a hard time controlling…but the point is to fight! I'm not going to just sit back and let this get me so I can eat junk and drink lots of booze and not exercise ;) Okay, hopping off my soap box now just needed to get that out! Have a super day!

Nick1962 2012-04-24 14:01:13 -0500 Report

Laura V3.0! I like that! Have we set an unveil date for her yet? Hopefully that'll be the same day you take off that bracelet and throw it into the nearest large body of water. To quote Tom Petty "you can look back, but it's best not to stare". Those past excesses had a reason to bring you here today, whatever reason that is. You could have lived a perfectly clean life, and got hit by a bus, but you didn't. Chances are good that what you learn through your journey is going to help someone else profoundly, and you'll be the only teacher qualified to reach that individual. So yup, time to start the fight, people are counting on you!

Laura500 2012-04-20 18:08:13 -0500 Report

yes i am beginning to really see that for myself as well :) i know i am supposed to be learning a huge life lesson here. it's scary as hell though to wonder if i am destined for it to only get worse as i go on, and will wind up with complications no matter what i do. i'm a bit stuck on that notion at the moment. i try to be mostly optimistic, and cut myself some slack because it's new still…but I'm guessing everyone here knows what I mean.

Nick1962 2012-04-21 13:32:56 -0500 Report

It’s good to see you’re getting your head into it Laura. You will hear stories here from folks that are having a tough time of it, or are experiencing complications, but there aren’t many. Considering there’s over half a million members, I think that says a lot. I’ve been at it a little over 5 years now, and I can tell you my life made a 180 degree turn, both physically and mentally. I’m doing and experiencing things I never thought I would. Sure I can’t eat like I used to, but I really don’t want to anymore anyway.
The nice thing about this group is we’re not all diabetes all the time. We have our diversions that can get fun. I’m a music freak, so I really appreciated Flipmom’s post “What song are you listening to right now?”
I found so much new stuff to listen to and download that I never would have found otherwise. Sometimes its books, sometimes its bugs, so feel free to share whatever is in your head. Looking forward to seeing you around more often!

Laura500 2012-04-21 13:42:14 -0500 Report

I just had a temper tantrum over something really dumb. I tend to bottle up stuff then I blow. I feel okay about things and then dissolve into tears. This sucks! I know i have no choice but to keep moving forward. Since it's new my brain is oversaturated with D thoughts. Glad you pointed out it's not always about that it's a relief to think of other things.

Nick1962 2012-04-21 14:02:38 -0500 Report

Oh have I been there! My co-workers were afraid to talk to me for fear of the beast (but I sure came in handy when they needed to get rid of salesmen). That too will go away. Moving forward always takes you to a better place, and each satisfactory step makes you want to take another. Since you already recognize that its happening, you're already on the journey! If you do need to vent from time to time, we'll let you. :)

jigsaw 2012-04-20 21:25:38 -0500 Report

So far I have lived with diabetes for 18 years, and no confirmed complications. Only thing is, I got a little older, but that's a good thing!!!

Laura500 2012-04-20 21:31:21 -0500 Report

That is the goal! To be a nice ripe old age :) I can see already this place will be huge in my managing this. Thanks!

MewElla 2012-04-20 15:45:34 -0500 Report

Hello and so glad you are here. This is an invaluable site with terrific folks who can help you in so many ways…anything we can do, just ask…Enjoy your afternoon!

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