Momma Always Said...

Somoca
By Somoca Latest Reply 2012-04-22 11:17:26 -0500
Started 2012-04-08 22:54:39 -0500

I heard my pastor today quote advice from his mother and he said that he never forgot it. I wondered how many of us hold to our heart advice that came from a friend or family member. Does anyone have a pearl of wisdom that remeber and hold close to their heart?


33 replies

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-04-19 09:56:40 -0500 Report

I do have one that comes from my adopted Jamaican mom. "What not kill ya, fatten ya." I used to use it to try to get people to try new foods. LOL

Sly Kitty
Sly Kitty 2012-04-19 12:51:41 -0500 Report

We had wise ole moms and now we are.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-04-20 14:25:27 -0500 Report

I suppose if I am going to be like my mom, I would like it to be in the good ways...unfortunately, we get most all of it, good and bad. LOL

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-04-21 05:28:42 -0500 Report

There's a saying among guys, "If you want to know what a woman will be like when she is older, just look at her mother" My ex became a dead ringer for her mother. It was spooky!

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-21 12:44:51 -0500 Report

OMLord, I hope not. I do not like what I see when I watch my mother. Even before the Parkinsons, she was bitter and selfish as the result of living with my father. Jayabee, I really hope that you are wrong.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-04-21 19:20:13 -0500 Report

I was speaking more of physical appearance than of emotional issues.

And I know that Jem did not look like her mother, because she was too short.

So it is not an absolute fact.

Young1s
Young1s 2012-04-21 19:44:39 -0500 Report

I've always heard that saying about women but paid little mind to it. My situation is the same with my mom…she's 4'11" and I'm 5'5". I can literally eat off the top of her head if I sat a plate on it.

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-21 23:24:58 -0500 Report

My mom is 5ft from 5ft2 when she was younger. i on the other hand am 5ft8, lol. I look like my aunt, my father's sister, so much that people use to whisper about it. My aunt's daughter looks like my father…now that's some gossip right there, lol

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-04-21 13:54:37 -0500 Report

I think it might be more in looks than character, as other things change who we are inside. It's those dang genes that get us. When I saw a picture of my great grandmother, I was looking at my mom. It was incredible. I see my mom peeking though and I hope that I too don't end up in the undesirable parts of her life in mine.

Nick1962
Nick1962 2012-04-10 09:19:30 -0500 Report

Wasn't Mom, but my Uncle always said:
"Want to make God laugh? Tell him your plans"
So I always remember, no matter how well I may have something planned, always make sure you have room to redo it if necessary.

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-10 10:35:54 -0500 Report

AMEN to THAT!!! Nick. I know that I have made God double over from laughter when he has heard me making plans. So now I just leave it to the lord and hold on for the journey.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-04-09 10:28:26 -0500 Report

"Speak smoothly and sweetly, for one day you may have to eat your words"

"You cannot make people change, but you can change yourself and in turn that may change the world"

"If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all" (I think she stole that one from Thumper, but she used it a lot)

I think my mom lived more with example than words. She was the block mom, and all my friends loved her growing up. We were just a family that lived and worked well together, and for that I am so grateful, because I didn't have to go through the struggles like so many of my friends. I think that is where I get my empathy from.

shnell25
shnell25 2012-04-09 09:19:39 -0500 Report

my mom always said to me and still says to me "If you don't remember anything I say to you after I'm gone remember this, as your mom it is my duty to tell you what you do or don't want to hear, because that's the job God gave me and if I don't tell you these things, then I am the one God will hold responsible and the same goes for you, your job is to tell your son what he needs to know whether he wants to hear it or not. If you continue to tell him what he needs to hear, it will sink it and it will help him in his future."

Never have her words rang more true than in my life now. Everyday as I go along, if I'm about to do something or say something that may or may not be in my best interest, I can hear my mom's words of wisdom as she reprimands me and reminds me of my duty as a mother and why I have to carry myself a certain way.

My mom says so many things; but that one always rings true. She always says to me "be careful what you say to others, because those words may come back to slap you in the face"; My dad always says "don't let your mouth/tongue write a check it can't cash".

Lizardfan
Lizardfan 2012-04-09 22:56:08 -0500 Report

Awesome words from your Mom! My Mom always told me that whenever I had a overwhelming urge to do something nice for someone else to do it. She said that was how God spoke to us to do right things, to heed them and follow thru. Works for me all these years!

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-09 10:35:14 -0500 Report

omg shnell, my uncle would say the same thing your daddy said.

shnell25
shnell25 2012-04-09 10:53:52 -0500 Report

I always remember that one and as much as I used to dislike hearing my father say that, I understand it now and am glad he said that to me and my sister as often as he did.

Young1s
Young1s 2012-04-09 09:45:32 -0500 Report

Very good advice. I don't recall my mom saying that but I guess it's something that my husbands mom said, because he says it to our children all the time. "It's not my job to be your pal, it's my job to guide you, tell you things you don't want to hear and correct you when you're wrong."

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-09 10:36:38 -0500 Report

I remember my son saying one day, " I don't like you right now and I replied, " I must be doing it right then"…ladies in the store clapped.

Young1s
Young1s 2012-04-09 09:09:23 -0500 Report

There were two things that my mom said that I passed on to my children. She said, "never make fun of someone for something they can't help (physical appearance, speech impediment, etc), not only is it wrong but I could be closing the door on a future friend." When I got older she told me, "never make promises to do something if I have no intention on following through."

jigsaw
jigsaw 2012-04-09 09:19:03 -0500 Report

Probably something in the genes! Sounds like an intelligent mom that had an intelligent daughter that had intelligent children and so on and so on!

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2012-04-09 06:25:38 -0500 Report

My Mother (RIP) always said, " dont judge another for if it was you in their shoes what would you want?" I thought of this many times over the years. I would want acceptance as I am flaws and all, love, respect, honesty, courtesy, and understanding.

Somoca
Somoca 2012-04-08 23:05:02 -0500 Report

My uncle always said, " be nice to everyone you meet going up the ladder because you will see those same folks when you go back down.

shnell25
shnell25 2012-04-09 10:55:05 -0500 Report

That is a good one Somoca! I heard that one growing up too; my dad is a minister and he used to say that a lot to us whenever he was talking to the youth department at one of our meetings.

jigsaw
jigsaw 2012-04-09 09:16:00 -0500 Report

That is one of my favorites also! Had alot of impact on my thinking over the years as I grew and matured!!!