Overwhelmed and upset. Help...

By Shelbo09 Latest Reply 2012-04-07 23:10:04 -0500
Started 2012-04-02 17:27:13 -0500

For starters, I just got diagnosed with Type 2 not even a full month ago.
I'm a 21 year old female.
The thing that frustrates me most is that while I may not model skinny, I have never in my entire life been obese. Even my BMI chart says that I'm just inside the overweight range. I'm one or two points from being "normal weight".

About 4 months ago, I started noticing that I couldn't get enough to drink. I was constantly thirsty. Which then led to me urinating a lot. I also started to lose weight without trying…to make a long story short, I went to the doctor not even thinking ONCE that I could have diabetes.
But sure enough, my blood sugar was 435 with an A1C of 12.0 and I was spilling sugar into my urine. Needless to say, it scared the living hell out of me.
I was completely taken back by the news, as was my doctor. Even in his words "I don't fit the typical diabetic patient." I'm not obese, and I'm extremely young. And not to mention, very active at my job.
I may not eat all my servings of fruits and veggies in a day, but I didn't eat horrible. I never sat around and snacked on chips cookies and cake. I barely even ate sweets as it is. I never had a sweet tooth…or a snack tooth.

All these things running through my head…and I get this scary disease at the age of 21? I should be worried about college or my plans for the weekend. Not the next piece of food that's going into my mouth. I'm angry, confused, petrified,embarrassed…I just don't get it. It doesn't seem fair.
Please NO ONE take offense to what I'm about to say..it's just a feeling of mine..
I've known people WAY more overweight than I am my entire life..including some friends and family…teachers, friends parents…older people that have been obese their entire life, and they don't get this disease. How is that fair? How does that back up medical science? Doctors make it seem that T2 diabetes is from a sedentary lifestyle and bad eating habits with obesity..if that's the case, EVERYONE that's overweight and sedentary should get diabetes. But they don't…There was even an Olympic gold medalist (forget his name now) that was diagnosed with T2 diabetes. How?? He was in perfect shape!

I'm just so angry and confused. I don't know why I had to get this. My Grandma is the only one that had diabetes in my family that I know of, but she was in her 50's when she was diagnosed. I just don't know how I got this…

The only upside is that my Doc thinks I caught it early (within a year) and I'm keeping my blood sugar levels around 100-115 after eating and around the 90's-100 with metformin and dieting.

The second I found out, I completely cut out any minimal sweets I had been eating, and SERIOUSLY watching my carbs. No breads, pastas or chips for me anymore. I'm taking this extremely serious.

But it almost feels like a lost battle already…
I'm going to have this now for the rest of my life.
I'm going to be at a greater risk of heart problems now for the rest of my life.
I'm constantly going to be battling food for the rest of my life.
I'm constantly going to have to keep an eye on my blood sugar..for the rest of my life…
I hate to say this, but I almost wish if I was meant to get this, that I would get it later in my adulthood. I have my whole life ahead of me..
Getting into a career, marriage, having a family…now I have to worry about this. I'm just so upset! I don't know how to handle it.

I'm scared that I've damaged my body at such a young age that I will be battling health problems for the rest of my life…I understand health problems come with age, but now mine is doubled, maybe even tripled, than your standard person. It's so frustrating…and I'm so worried. I'm scared I've whacked off years of my life because of this…
I love life. I love MY life, my friends, my family..I don't want my time with them shortened because of diabetes.

I may sound like I'm overreacting, but I'm genuinely struggling with these thoughts every day. It's like a train hit me out of no where.
I felt completely fine up until the day I went to the doctor. I wasn't sluggish or funny feeling…just thirsty. And BAM, you have full blown T2 diabetes.
Talk about a stunner.

I know this is long and most won't make it this far, but for someone that has, thank you. Getting this out has helped a bit…and I figured reaching out to a community with people like me could help in any way.
Any advice or similar stories would be so appreciated…
I need all of the words and advice I can get right now…

41 replies

MAYS 2012-04-07 12:28:40 -0500 Report

We are all individuals, there are many more health issues to have besides diabetes.
I have an autistic son, i'm sure that he would rather have diabetes any day instead of autism…

What's so fair about life?
We are all gifted with life itself, and eventually death, which comes to us all.
In between the two we must make our lives the way we want them to be, are we successful doing so?…Maybe, but either way we must try.

We must deal with the hand that we have been dealt with in life, we must play our cards until the game is over, the main objective with diabetes is not to win, (because we can't) but rather to keep the game going on for as long as we possibly can, hopefully complication free!

Don't let diabetes color your world blue, if you do it can go from "blue" to "black" rather quickly, brighten your world with many colors, chase those "blues" away!
Diabetes is one of those "lifelong" companions, try to get along with one another now before it's too late (no divorces permitted)…you will be glad that you did!


Set apart
Set apart 2012-04-07 07:07:49 -0500 Report

Hi you know your story is exactly like mine. I've always taken care of myself, etc, never obese. In august I was in your shoes left the emergency room as a T2 at a loss, and angry, hurt, you name it I felt it! Clueless as to what was going on,within 2 weeks new bloodwork indicated T1, a peptide test showed this. I have asked you to be my friend. Our stories are so similiar, this site has helped me to learn and deal with my every day life as a PERSON with T1. Best wishes!

J Kate
J Kate 2012-04-06 13:35:58 -0500 Report

Here's an article that might help: http://www.diabeticconnect.com/news-articles/...
Diabetes is an equal opportunity offender. Life is not always fair. We are dealt our cards, but we get to decide how to play them. Take care.

melissa1987 2012-04-06 10:06:12 -0500 Report

I'm sorry if this sounds rude to everyone but all I hear about is type 2 n complaining I wish the god I had type 2 … It's not even bad type 1 is like a death sentance

MAYS 2012-04-07 12:09:12 -0500 Report

Diabetes is a death sentence, whether it's type 1 or type 2.
Look at it this way, everyone is on death row (!) some are just a little closer to their execution date, while others aren't, but with careful planning we can prolong that date with destiny!

Type 2 diabetics have it bad also, most of them have complications that haven't been diagnosed yet but have been developing for many years due to bad diabetes management, or lack of management.

This damage is non-repairable, all they can do is lessen further damage by managing their diabetes!
Type 1 diabetics have no choice, it's manage it (by taking insulin) or die, no middle ground!

Either way, diabetes is bad, but what can we do?
Manage it, make sure that we are always in control of it, live a nice healthy, happy life!

Try to focus on managing it, whether it's type 1, or type 2.
Enjoy life, live it to the fullest, see the world and all it has to offer, it's your life, your journey.
If diabetes wants to go along for the ride, tell it to sit still and be quiet, you're driving!


jayabee52 2012-04-07 12:13:13 -0500 Report

If you want to look at it that way (and I don't) LIFE is a death sentence, as we are ALL gonna die eventually!

jayabee52 2012-04-06 12:58:24 -0500 Report

A 66 year death sentence (and he is not dead yet)? Check out Richard157 who has had type 1 for 60 + yrs and has not had complications to speak of except for the past 2 yrs or so as I remember him saying. 66 yrs and counting is quite a long death sentence.

Type 1 or type 2 CAN be hell, or can be managable depending on one's attitude. Attitude is the major part of coping with ANY disease.

Example: My late bride "Jem" had so many "medical challenges" it was not funny! She was blind (totally from age 14) T2 diabetes, heart problems, kidney problems, stomach problems, lung problems, had Rhumetoid Arthritis, Lupis (SLE), female reproductive problems. One would take a look at her and her situation and think that she would be a miserable person. However, she was the sweetest, most upbeat and kindest person that I have had the pleasure of knowing. She had a T-shirt which said "I don't do Perky", however she WAS perky personified. Every day she had a choice when she got up: moan and groan about her lot in life, medically speaking, or try to make her world and the world of others a better place. I am glad she made the latter choice. I am quite blessed to have known her and to have been a part of the last few months of her life.

shortysmalls 2012-04-05 19:58:41 -0500 Report

I know this sounds very overwelming when you first get diagnosed with diabetes weather its type one or type two, but going to dr and getting all the info you can get, going to a diabetic educator to get diet and ask more questions helps. I even have my DE in my phone list so can call and ask something if have to. I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes later in life and ask questions on stuff that made them nuts but like you, needed answers. Dont be afraid to ask questions on things that YOU need to know and just take it one day at a time. You will learn how to live with the disease, Good Luck and welcome to the DC

marla50 2012-04-04 23:49:02 -0500 Report

Hi. I am so sorry you have the dreaded D. There is no explanation for why we are chosen to have it. I was diagnosed with type 1 at the age of 6. I have been insulin dependant for 47 years. I have 2 healthy sons and I have gone to college and gone on a cruise and lost my husband and have grandchildren. In other words,life goes on. Going thru life,I always heard you are or you aren't a diabetic. Then there came type 2 and now you have pre-diabetic,1.5's. It's becoming an epedimic . From what I understand a type 2 still has a working pancreas,it just doesn't work enough. I understand your frustration. I spent alot of time thinking, if I ignored it, it would go away. But that didn't happen. I always took my insulin and tried to watch what I ate. But I spent alot of time without insurance so I didn't have a doctor. And now I am dealing with the complications. You are lucky that you paid attention to the signs and found out early before it could do alot of damage. Now you don't let it ruin your life. Read up on it,adjust your lifestyle a little bit and live. This is a great support group.
When I first was diagnosed I had to weigh all my food,pee in a cup and test my urine daily,the only thing to drink was tab and fresca. I couldn't have popcorn or chips ever. I could eat cake 3 times a year and I could only chew 3 sticks a gum a day.lol
Your reaction is right on!! Be pissed!! Then use that energy to kick it's ass!! Good luck!! I hope you can read between the lines because I think I got off track a few times.lol

annesmith 2012-04-04 02:50:52 -0500 Report

Yes, I'm type 1.5 and brittle. I have always been a dedicated walker and runner. I would say that if you follow your diet and exercise, you will be very happy. I know that for all types, diet and exercise is always a plus. Hang in there, as over time you'll come to accept it . I wish you the best! Sincerely, ANNE

suziesgirl 2012-04-03 20:35:17 -0500 Report

You are not alone. This is a growing problem around the world. I highly rec. a book called Diabetes without Drugs by Suzi Cohen. You will be amazed at the great information in this book. My reaction was the same when I was diagnosed, however It is so possible to control this disease in so many ways. All of the advise you recieved on this site is so true. However everyone is different as how they contracted this little monster. I do believe there is a reason for everything. Stay calm, read and apply what you learn. There will be days of total success and some days you just want to give up. Testing is the key, it helps you to stay on target. I was very overweight unlike yourself. I did lose the weight and paid very close attention to the label ingrediants on anything I purchased. I soon realized that additives in processed foods were not exactly what they claimed to be. If you study the above book I meationed, it will be a great tool on your way to recovery. You can do it and you will.
Best wishes to you

maxshockwave 2012-04-03 19:13:38 -0500 Report

You have met the 'devil' diabeties or T2 and 'it' never looks how you would expect; it is O.K. to be mad and get "mad" of course you did not ask to be a diabetic, but longer term perspective that is not productive to maintain, and just as damaging to the body as loss of sleep, and stress which all people have to some extent in different ways, stay or get as positive and pro-active as possible which is also hard in the early stages because T2 will steal your motivation, and will to 'love' yourself, and know that you are not the disease, not doomed to die, and not condemned to be less then perfect. The way you are 'is' how you were made, no problem is so great that GOD in Jesus's name through prayer will address it, you may ask, you will receive; the answer is not always what we expect! In our weakness with our LORD in us his strength is PERFECTED, there is always a reason, but wisdom does not always give us that knowledge or understanding so Oh woe's too me as to you and we move on - you are already a survivor, you will be a winner; I know!

LeilaB 2012-04-03 18:40:16 -0500 Report

I can understand how you feel. I was diagnosed four months ago at the age of 33. This is older than you, but still much younger than most people diagnosed with type 2. I have a very strong family history, and I'm pretty sure that I was destined to have this disease. I just thought that it would be later in life. I was very angry too…I'm still angry like you are. I want to have children, and I feel like I still have my life ahead of me. Here is the good news, you caught it early and you can keep ahead of this and keep yourself in good health. I had it probably for several years before I was diagnosed, and had already done some real damage to my body. I have nerve damage in my feet and the beginnings of diabetic retinipathy in my one of my eyes. Luckily, the doctor says that I can reverse this damage if I keep my sugars under control. You may always feel angry that it happened when it did, but you cannot torture yourself about this. No one really knows why it happens when it does. Promise me that you will be kind to yourself and try to see that you are going to be ok :)

byrun 2012-04-03 15:12:10 -0500 Report

Hi Shelbo09. Except for our age difference and weight before diagnosis, your story sounds very similar to mine. I lost about 80 lbs in a year and could not explain why for the last 6mos, of that year. Also the excessive thirst and lethargy. My A1C was 15.2 in June last year and my diet changed quite a bit, as has yours. With the metformin and diet change my A1c was 6.2 at 3 mos. and 5.4 @ 6 and 9 mo appointments. I do find that I don't miss bread, rice, pasta or potatoes too much and the BG testing has just become part of a normal day. The testing is invaluable as it will tell you how your body reacts to different foods. More or less a journey of discovery. There are members here who have lived our new exciting lifestyle all of their lives. At least one of them is well into his 70's or 80's now. You do have your whole life ahead of you. It is up to you to make the best of it and I believe that you will. You have already made some excellent choices. Continue to do so and you will outlive most of us here. I tell my family and friends that I will die someday with diabetes but not because of it. I also believe that because of my diabetes, I am healthier today than I have been in decades. I am glad that you have joined our community. I know you will learn so much from the wonderful people here. I have.

Young1s 2012-04-03 14:33:49 -0500 Report

I didn't have these feelings when diagnosed (Type II), but that's because I was in a situation where either I made certain life changes now or run the risk of not being here for my family this time next year. I wasn't having that, so I jumped on the bandwagon real quick. However, with that said, I can see how unfair this all can be for someone your age. Even though I'm twice your age, I have daughters close to your age and can see them reacting in the same way. What I will tell you is the same thing that I would tell them.

The beginning of all of this is going to be tough and frustrating. There's so much you have to learn and do on a daily basis that may seem overwhelming right now but you will adjust. It's great that you're thinking long term about this and are aware of the lasting repercussions of not getting your D under control but don't let what may happen hinder what it is you want to do today. Take it all in at the pace your comfortable with. There's time to learn what you need to do. But please don't look at this as a life sentence in hell. It really isn't. Sure you'll need to schedule your time and activities around some things but you can do this. Soon you'll start to see that this new annoyance in your life will be just that…an annoyance. But one that you can live with.

So, welcome to DC. You've made one of the best decisions for your D journey in joining this community. This is the best place for learning all about diabetes and so much more. We're here for you whenever you have questions, need a shoulder to cry on, need a good laugh, or just want to vent. And no you're not overreacting. What you're feeling is perfectly natural. So, feel free to vent whenever you need to. This is the perfect place for it. Just remember, we can't make you test, eat (or not eat things), exercise, etc… these things are for you to do for yourself. While we'll do our best to be of support, this is your journey to walk. But take comfort in knowing that we're right there beside you, walking our own separate journeys.

Harlen 2012-04-03 13:04:02 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
I cant help but smile a little for I whent thru the same thing .
So menny think that if your fat you will get or are diabetic .
that we dont work out run play hike camp that we only sit and eat lol

First its going to take time to ajust to doing some things differnt then before
One thing that made my life 100% better was a book cald The Calorie King
It have all the food and what the carbs are .
I was unable to just quit eating all the foods I loved so I just cut out one thing at a time and cutting back on other things and slowly I was able to give them up .
soda was very hard but bread is the thing that I LOVE but it sends me way high so I had to cut it out .
When you have Q just ask
Best wishes

Misspearl01 2012-04-02 21:39:40 -0500 Report

Well I am sort of glad to see that I'm not the only one upset angry confused about being told I'm a diabetic. I went for months in denial. But in the long run after what they were testing me for diabetes didn't seem so bad. It only took them six months to figure that out I went from doctor to doctor till I found some one to listen then I started all over I to went to an endo. People are right. Endos are a diabetics friend. Being on control I am not. I am a little over weight. But workin on that. But I two feel the same as you I have friends who are 80 to a 100 lbs over weight and continue to eat whatever they want hopefully one day we can be in control and walk with our heads held high and bg's in normal range thy what I'm waiting for

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-04-02 21:15:24 -0500 Report

Obesity is not always the cause of diabetes as babies can also be diagnosed. You should make an appointment with an endocrinologist. I am a former EMT and have taken this an obese people to the hospital because of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure.

You are 21 there are children with type 1 who have to take shots to keep their glucose levels under control so age has nothing to do with being diabetic. A sedentary lifestyle has very little to do with being diabetic since there are athletes, actors, singers, judges, lawyers, and many other people fighting the disease just like the rest of us.

I understand you may be shocked at the fact that you now have a disease. Being diagnosed as a diabetic is not a death sentence unless you choose to make it one. If you go into denial, fail to take proper care of yourself, not monitor your glucose you will only be hurting yourself. I have been diabetic for several years and I have not stopped doing any of the activities I did before being diagnosed. I now eat healthier and make sure I have something with me in case my sugar level drops unexpectedly. You can choose to take your diagnosis in stride and make changes to live a longer healthier life or do nothing at all and suffer for it in the end. I hope you take it in stride and learn as much as you can about diabetes and live a long and fruitful, happy life. Good luck

annesmith 2012-04-04 03:02:57 -0500 Report

Yeah..I was always next door to being an athlete..and I've had diabetes since age 4. I am type 1.5 and brittle, and age 41 now. I still love to walk and run, and I have developed a love for broccoli and salads. I have a weakness for cheesburgers and fries. The disease is still a mystery in many ways, yet , at the same time, so much of it seems obvious..ha, ha. Being obese doesn't cause it, like you said. It's primarily genetic. Today's pandemic of it they say may be caused by the hormones that are injected into meat and related, aggravated by eating fast food. It's probably true also. I don't know fully of course. I do know that balance is the key. Sincerely, ANNE

kdroberts 2012-04-02 17:54:19 -0500 Report

A few thoughts. Diabetes isn't caused by being overweight or eating certain things, genes are key. Are you sure you are type 2? And by sure I mean you have had all the tests that are done when diagnosing type 1, not just because your doctor told you you were. While you do have your life ahead of you, you have already lived a fair few years. People do get diagnosed with diabetes when they are months old and there are a very large number of diabetics with one digit ages. If you take care of yourself, there is no reason why you shouldn't have a life expectancy like the general population. Remember, the stats about doubling the chance of this, tripling the chance of that are largely due to ignoring the disease.

roshy 2012-04-07 22:51:24 -0500 Report

Kdroberts, can i ask you a question. . . .

Do you ever feel like "yoda" when you comment?? because you always have this " a facto" feeling about ya!!! ya never really share a personal experience you just give the facts and advise ( which is brilliant considering the amount of false shxte posted on here) . . . . .. your like the Gandi of the group!!! sorry im not trying to be a smart arse, i just want to break that outer shell and reach into the . . . . diabetic inside ya!!!!

kdroberts 2012-04-07 22:59:14 -0500 Report

I tried that, it didn't go down very well so now I tend not to. However, a lot of what I post is based on personal experiences I've had, the rest is things I've talked to doctors and CDEs about.

roshy 2012-04-07 23:10:04 -0500 Report

hahaha!! god i sound like doctor Phil!!!!!

well i just want you to know if you ever have a bad day, or you need to vent and get a heavy load off you chest or even if its something simple like you had a sore finger prick and it putsyou in a bad mood. . . . we are hear for ya . . . . dont be afraid to open up and express your . . .feelings. or even if you want to be told a good joke . . . . . WE are here for you ok!!!

Shelbo09 2012-04-02 18:07:56 -0500 Report

Thanks for the reply.
Honestly I'm still learning about this disease…I've seen two doctors and they just seem to make out that T2D is all about obesity and a sedentary lifestyle. I understand Type 1 is a completely different story and most people that have it are born with it.

Both my doctors seem to be certain that I have Type 2. I even questioned it, saying that since I'm young and don't live that bad of a lifestyle, could I possibly have type 1? In a summed up version, both of their answers where along the lines of this.."No, type 1 is very rare…you would have found out years ago…etc."
I'm also responding to a better diet and Metformin. It's keeping my fasting blood sugar numbers under 140..and my numbers are staying under 140 even after eating a meal. I guess if it was type 1 I would be getting different results from what my doctors are telling me..

But I'm honestly not sure..
How would I be tested for type 1? The same way for type 2? I've had tons of blood taken already…
My pancreas and kidneys were "in range" according to my doctor. Basically he meant that they didn't show any signs of stress…thank God.

I also understand that many people get diagnosed at a young age…
I'm just very upset about it. The diagnosis is a heavy one as I've been reading with most people with it..and I definitely get that now.

And I guess you're right. As long as I'm aware now, I guess I have a better hold of my health than most people. I hate having to constantly worry about it…but I guess I gotta count my blessings and take this as a wake-up call :/

RitaLynn 2012-04-03 14:54:18 -0500 Report

I just want to say that I was diagnosed with type one when I was 45 years old.
If you can go to an endocrinologist asap. That is who discovered i was type one.
Good luck to you and honestly once you get use to all of it it isn't that bad. :)

kdroberts 2012-04-02 18:25:44 -0500 Report

Sounds like you need to go to an endocrinologist who specializes in diabetes. If you are type 2 you would likely show increased insulin production, or to put it another way, out of range. Type 1 is also not rare and can happen at any age, no one is born with it. Google search LADA and MODY, you may start seeing lots of interesting and applicable stuff.

Shelbo09 2012-04-02 18:31:01 -0500 Report

I'm not sure I'm catching what you're saying…
It sounds to you that I have type 1 then?

Even though my body is responding to low carbs and the metformin?
My blood sugars are staying mostly normal. Maybe the high end of normal..but..normal.
If I was type 1, what would be the case otherwise?

I'm literally just going by what my doctors have told me. They seem to be positive I'm Type 2 from the blood work they've gotten.

Boats@52 2012-04-03 20:34:04 -0500 Report

I doubt your a type 1 your Doc seems to be on the right path i for one do watch what i eat but we all can have something we really love just a smaller portion. Best advice is if you eat out take half of your meal home always you still get to eat it just not all of it in one sitting. Blame the AMERICAN DIET for much of diabetes epedemic read your labels on food and make smart choices if it looks bad it most likely is. My diabetes got kick stated from taking steriods for a foot injury so there is no funny or specialt ype of person any one can get Diabetes don't blame your self. Learn as much as you can about Diabetes some things work foods or meds but where all different so you need to find what works for you.

Boats@52 2012-04-04 13:14:39 -0500 Report

Look for Dark or brown breads and brown rice still need to read the label on carbs and look for high fiber !

kdroberts 2012-04-02 18:38:49 -0500 Report

I'm type 1 now, but I was not given an official type for a couple of years because of how I presented. Musdiagnosis of type 2 in the young, and the not so young, is not uncommon. Get a copy of your blood work and if you dont see things like c-peptide, gad65/67 antibodies and insulin antibodies then ask for them. Especially if all of a sudden things stop working, you change medication and you get in control and then the same thing happens. You may well be type 2, but it doesn't sound like your doctor is really weighing up the options.

annesmith 2012-04-04 03:09:32 -0500 Report

I'm brittle and type 1.5—so, can kind of relate to your experience. There was several times my type was written in as a question mark. For a long time, I did not know what a question mark meant . I tested positive for antibodies, and my C-peptide showed I produce between 4%-10% of my own insulin. Sincerely, ANNE

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