How do you keep yourself encouraged??

By Lydia2177 Latest Reply 2012-03-28 02:08:06 -0500
Started 2012-03-22 14:16:25 -0500

How do you keep yourself encouraged with the whole diabetic situation?
I am having problems and I am not doing what I know to do…that's nuts!

39 replies

wholegrains 2012-03-26 02:54:15 -0500 Report

I know Lydia! no one comprehends or cares to until it happens to them. it can be very difficult at times.

Lydia2177 2012-03-26 22:23:05 -0500 Report

That is so right. They look at you as to say, what's the problem Ha! It is a fight but I am determined now to get myself on the plan and stay there. It's stupid not to.

annesmith 2012-03-27 01:29:41 -0500 Report and on I've had some people look at me and say " Well, you just ate at McDonald's..if you ate all greens and nuts, you'd be cured." Ha, ha. They just don't understand usually because they can't feel it themselves. I have had once in a blue moon a non diabetic say to me " You can't have sugar at all..what are you doing eating that?" I just pause, smile, and say " Until you do become diabetic, or you do more reading, you'll find that we can have sugar..I'm not are correct in that I should probably have had half of what I had…so sorry." Ha, ha, ha…sooner or later, when they get to know me better, they figure out that I am a dedicated walker and runner…it's just so hard for me to eliminate all sugars and carbs …I focus on my walking and running..I keep that central to burning off a lot of excess, then I tell myself " I'm human." It's not always easy..what gets me is that diabetes is not always so black and white..for example, the other day, I was under a lot of stress, and my blood sugar fell very low—-then, on another day awhile back, I was under even more stress, and it soared into the 500s—-I'm a generalized person, so, tiny little details I am not good at…ANNE

Set apart
Set apart 2012-03-25 08:21:52 -0500 Report

I am a T1 and still new 7 mos. Now. When this happened I read everything I could get my hands on. I am determined to live life to the fullest and that means taking care of myself. I want to grow old with my children and their children. I feel better when I eat the right foods, I will always need insulin as a T1, but the amount depends on me. I am on a very low dosage have lost weight and feel great! I now fit into all my clothes with some of them too big, and one of my greatest motivators is DC, it is my go to place, my support group, real people, great people who I can relate to! Be careful, like James says it is addicting! Stay positive, find hobbies, I love to sew and am changing colors in some of my rooms, I love to paint! It's all about YOU!

jayabee52 2012-03-25 11:50:12 -0500 Report

why would we need to be careful SA? This site may be addicting, but it is a GOOD addiction IMO

Set apart
Set apart 2012-03-25 21:51:37 -0500 Report

James I totally agree, I find myself busy sometimes, yet in the back of my mind I am wondering what's new on dc, who's saying what, etc… It's a GREAT addiction! :-)

watson4042 2012-03-24 12:57:34 -0500 Report

this is the place to come for your encouragement. it helps me.

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 20:28:09 -0500 Report

I think it is going to be what I need as well. As I wrote YoungIs…I am not believing how encouraging just being able to have some advice and encouragement from the different ones. Thanks

Young1s 2012-03-24 09:55:04 -0500 Report

I just tell myself if I stay on track, I'll be healthier and look better than I have in years. When my family sees me about to exercise or when I tell them what exercises I've done for the day, they cheer or say they're happy for me. That motivates me to keep at it. I've recently brought my favorite sun dress out from the back of the closet. It's my visual reminder of doing what it takes to reach my goal weight and get into that dress. Also I love to cook, so my D has faced my with the challenge of making healthier versions of my favorite foods/recipes and that's fun to me. And lastly, now that I'm back to checking my BG's 6x a day, I have been seeing my numbers look better and better by the day. I feel like I'm in control again because I see my efforts paying off. It's just wonderful.

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 20:26:33 -0500 Report

I think what caused me to lose control again was when I stopped checking my BS as much as I should. I know I am off base so just didn't wamt tp see but I am going to…making a choice to get back to checking it and quit eating out so much and make some better choices. I think this site will help me as well. It's good to be interacting with those who know what you are going through. The encouragement is more than I could have believed. Thanks

Young1s 2012-03-24 20:47:24 -0500 Report

I felt like I was going stir crazy when I couldn't test like I wanted to. So, I stop for a week. I was amazed by how easily it was to fall back into not being concerned about my levels. Then a discussion from here put what I was doing or about to do to myself back into perspective. So now I'm testing again the way I like to. It means paying out of pocket for some of my strips but it's worth it to me. Maybe I can convince my insurance company to pay for them all but in the meantime, I do what I need to do for my sake. My doctor says that I am one of only two of her patients that are more comfortable testing more often.

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 21:09:18 -0500 Report

I'm like you its amazing how easily it is to go back to not testing and eating everything that is anywhere close. So…I'm back testing and i know that's what I MUST do. It's crazy to put myself in jeopardy. Thanls

cindygal1 2012-03-24 06:46:35 -0500 Report

If you don't stay encouraged then you are cheating yourself. We all get that way at times, I have lost 7lbs in two months and managed to keep my sugar down in the 80's and 90's. but yesterday it was 153 and then last night it was 152. so I just have to work harder at it today and get it back down to where it should be. Everyone has problems at first and your sugar will vary, it will straighten out, we all go through this, it will take time to keep it just right, being upset can cause it to go sky high. Just keep working on bringing it down. I would like to be friends, and hope that you want to be friends. Cindygalq

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 08:43:43 -0500 Report

That helps, my blood sugar as 154 this morning so I will have to watch it today as well. Thanks for understanding and being helpful. Friends would be fine.

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-03-23 22:36:22 -0500 Report

By watching my numbers go down, and keeping a picture of my Mother suffering and denying that she had diabetes, going on dialysis. I will not allow myself to go that way. I keep a mental picture and try try try very hard to do the right thing and so far I am doing wonderful with my bs, I am now on insulin and I am doing okay.

Now if only I could encourage myself on the weight gaining side:) That keeps me a little discouraged, but I bounce back.

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 08:47:02 -0500 Report

I understand the weight gaining side too. I have had 3 surgeries in 2 years and my pain is not always controlled, have a good bit of nerve pain so I EAT!! Like that helps. Maybe if we hang together we can encourage each other to make some changes. When my pain is bad I just have to keep busy if not I am like a ravenous animal HA!

Type1Lou 2012-03-24 11:39:12 -0500 Report

There is something to finding a pastime or hobby that you can get engrossed in. I find that when I'm working on a sewing or quilting project, I don't feel the need to snack and sometimes even forget about mealtimes.

annesmith 2012-03-27 01:36:15 -0500 Report

I have a big problem with cigarettes…I have cut back to under a pack a day for a whole year now, and am finding that when I sew, go online to DC—this wonderful site, I don't smoke. I never snack..never really did most of my life…I eat 3 meals a day, but started adding crackers in between to try to level off my highs and lows's helping. When I was on Metformin, I became borderline anorexic, then it turned out my pancreas rejected the Metformin, so I had to stop taking it.

Type1Lou 2012-03-27 07:50:13 -0500 Report

Luckily, I never got into smoking. My younger brother has been a life-long smoker and is now being treated for bladder cancer. As I've mentionned before, dealing with our diabetes is a life-long challenge and requires constant adaptation. I've seen how hard it is for people to stop smoking and I know haow hard it is to deal with diabetes. Wishing you continued strength!

annesmith 2012-03-28 02:08:06 -0500 Report

Thank you, and so sorry to hear that your brother has bladder cancer. Since I cut back to under a pack a day, I feel better about myself, but I still have a ways to go. It's the nicotine that's so addictive to me. I feel so bad that I smoke when I hear about people that get cancer. My dad smoked for 40 years and it got him with heart disease in the end. I figure if I can somehow quit altogether, then I may gain 10 years of life. Newest research shows that all cigarette smokers lose about 10-15 years of life, and it is not always fully gained back after they quit. So, for example, I knew a man that smoked for 42 years, and he found out he had emphycema, then he quit..well, he died of emphycema. However, my dad quit at age 53 after his first heart attack, and they gave him 7 years to live after that. They say because he quit, even though he was 53, he did gain back a few years he lost. He lived TWENTY years after, not seven…it was a true miracle..I am sorry to sound selfish, but I just love the gives me this huge LIFT, then it relaxes me to the point where when I go to bed at night, I sleep so darned good—it's the dopamine effect it has on the brain I found out—my body has grown so accustomed to the dopamine effect ( I have smoked pretty much since 1987), that I do have some serious withdrawals over the last year—I just force myself to say " Hey…do I want to live longer, or do I want to go through the hell of getting shocked in the emergency room several times?" It's hard , no doubt, because the nicotine is a stimulant and a sedative both..ha…I'll keep on at least staying under a pack a day—the cigarettes also affect the diabetes I found out—after a person breaths in the cigarette smoke, the blood sugars can go down or up, dependent, because it affects the whole body…interesting…ANNE

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-03-24 11:14:09 -0500 Report

At last I have found someone like me — thank goodness now we can understand each other:) When I am sad and overwhelmed about anything, boy can I eat, I love food :). I am sorry for your pain I can keep you in my prayers. I think our meds have a lot to do with our weight gain, I know my Doctors told me that the Actos would put weight on quickly and it did, along with my eating:)

Maybe we can try to walk more, if the pain is bad perhaps you could take a quiet and slow stroll and eventually build it up and/or we can find a quiet place to just pause for awhile until the feeling of having to eat goes away. What do you think?
We should really try hard to do something so that we can conquer this, goodness I feel if I can conquer the BS, I surely can get this weight down. What do you think??

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 20:38:03 -0500 Report

I appreciate that you understand my situation. I am still in rehab two days for 2 hours a week and after those sessions I am through for the day. HA! I am making a choice to check my BS more each day…and I am working at the church which is helping me keep busier. I do not have anywhere close that I can walk at home that is safe. But I am going to walk around inside the church building and can also find that quiet place to just be and I need that as well.
I was very active before having the back surgery last year. I had so many people around, calls, etc. During the time of convolesing everything pretty well came to a halt and I am not good at just sitting around the house. Never been my thing and I guess never will be…I know both of us will make it. You remember me and I will you. Thanks for your comments. Blessings

June Tademy
June Tademy 2012-03-24 22:55:03 -0500 Report

We are going to be fine and we will help each other, I think that is a great idea to walk around the church, (inside as well) just take your time, ask your Doctor if it is okay before you do it:) I walked up and down the driveway and around the house many times before I would take the streets and the
doctor says as long as I move it was fine. You sound lovely and you have the most important person on your side-God. Let us look for our quiet place first then take on the rest, I know we will be fine. Good luck my friiend and blessings to you as well.

Type1Lou 2012-03-23 18:34:50 -0500 Report

I think growing up with a diabetic Dad makes me grateful that I have so many more options in food, meds and devices to make controlling my diabetes easier. Dad had no BG meters, no disposable needles for his insulin and only saccharin as an alternative sweetener (besides honey, molasses and corn syrup). There were far fewer food options in the 1950's and 60's than we have now. I've dug down deep and realized that only I control what goes into my mouth and whether I exercise or not. I try to make the right choices but it's a constant adaptation and you have to be ready for that too. Wishing you the courage to make the right choices…your life depends on it.

Lydia2177 2012-03-23 21:24:07 -0500 Report

Thanks for the encouragement. That helps to know some of you have walked this way and are making it.

jayabee52 2012-03-23 21:32:44 -0500 Report

I keep remembering just how far I have come in managing my D without the use of D meds. I had wandered around for about 16 yrs until I finally got enough knowledge to try my "experiment". I had lost 65lbs, keep my BG levels normalized and my A1c in the 5.5 range. I don't want to lose the ground that I have gained. I also want to see my as yet unborn grandchildren, so I plan to stay around for quite a while, and pay my sons back for their misbehavior when grandmas spoiled them. *evil laugh and grin*

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-03-23 04:07:13 -0500 Report

By celebrating the victories. A victory is going grocery shopping without the tears that threatened to cascade down my checks like the first twenty times afer my diagnoses. Now I know what is a good food choice, and that I enjoy eating it as well.
For now, I am lucky enoug to be able to control with diet and no meds. I hope to continue doing so for a long time. My food choices have changed radically from pre diagnoses, but the food I eat does not leave me wishing for the ones I should not have. Well, at least not very often. When I start craving the food that causes BG troubes I try to remember what they do to me, blurrier vission, dizzy, tired, more confused than normal. While I was taking Metformen my BG would drop suddenly. I did not really like the shaking, cloudy headedness, and sudden depression that hit with no warning. By modifying my diet, the highs and ows are less. Plus the metformen seemed to make my kidneys hurt. Some people have mentioned their Drs. stopped their use of metformen because it was affecting their kidney function. I didn't like the nagging back ache type pain, or the idea of having complications.
Another motivation is trying to avoid complications. As MewElla said diabetes never takes a day off.

Lydia2177 2012-03-23 08:00:07 -0500 Report

Thanks so much it is so good to have those that will talk to me and understand the struggles and need for acceptance.

Gambling 2012-03-22 18:23:33 -0500 Report

Stick to the diet . Try and do some walking even a little after each meal helps Get a friend to walk with you .
It is hard but once you can get into the grove it is so much easier

Lydia2177 2012-03-24 08:51:24 -0500 Report

I have to find a place to walk. I liive by a little road that is a race track, lots of traffic and they drive fast, otherwise its fields and no paths. I am fearful of falling in the uneven fields…had major back surgery last year, so I will have to find somewhere else. But I will, I must get things in control. Thanks for your reply.

MewElla 2012-03-22 16:13:09 -0500 Report

For me getting diabetes was a reality check. My husband had major complications from diabetes/heart problems and I saw first hand what this disease can do. I will do everything I can to stay as healthy as I can. Since being diagnosed 2 yrs ago, have turned my lifestyle competly around, lost a lot of weight and never been on meds or insulin…am still diet/exercise controlled. I make it a priority to walk 5 miles ea day. This is a fight I will stay on the rest of my life, it's not easy and sure gets old, but I will not slack off, 'cause I know diabetes never takes a day off. It is great to feel good ea day, but this is something I have to do for myself, no one can help me. Good Luck to you…

Gambling 2012-03-22 18:20:21 -0500 Report

I am not up to 5 miles a day .I have been trying to walk after every meal and one also mid afternoon after a snack .Just walking around the block or up and down my street has done wonders in a short amount of time. Some day I will get to the 5 miles a day part

Lydia2177 2012-03-22 17:31:16 -0500 Report

Thanks for your reply. I am on meds for diabetes. I am 72 and have had a lot of health issues the last two years. I have chronic pain and even though I know what I should do and want to do…all I want to do is eat and know I am doing that for comfort. I am alone a lot and that's why I was reaching out on this site. Thanks for your help and I will continue to try. Need a lot of encouragement.

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