Friendship is Like a Tree

By GabbyPA Latest Reply 2015-01-16 10:34:45 -0600
Started 2012-03-04 09:46:08 -0600

A dear friend shared this with me when I was having trouble with a friend whom I loved very much, but we were parting ways. I felt hurt, I felt like a failure. This is what she told me that made all the difference in the world.

Imagine your relationships are like a tree. You are the trunk and it is full of spring leaves. Each leaf is a friend in your life. They are beautiful, and in the beginning they are attached to you mightily. As the seasons progress, you find they fall in the breeze. Some stick with you until the frosts of winter, but even then they fall to the ground.

Then there are some friends who are branches. They are with you season after season. They grow and mature with you. They will be with you through big storms and hard times. But even some of those can fall and give way when things are too hard.

Of course, there are the relationships that are like the roots of the tree. They feed you, support you, and give you strength. They keep you upright and growing year after year. These are the ones that will be with you through most of your life.

We say to ourselves, that we would like only the root friendships. But a tree is not made of just roots. We need the branches and the leaves to be whole. So when a friendship falls to the side or drifts apart, then their season is done. New leaves will grow into those places in our lives. They have filled their purpose and we move on.

Those that hurt more are the branches that go, but they too give way to new growth. Maybe allowing a better balance in our life or even to leave a scar to show we lived a long life that had taught us life lessons.

I am not saying people are disposable. I am saying that this is the way life works. Holding onto a dead leaf does nothing but remind you of what you had and prevents new leaves from growing in it's place. The tree that doesn't shed it's sick or weak branches will often become sick itself, thus killing the whole instead of loosing the part that was holding it back.

I feel like social sites such as FaceBook have made us forget what friends really are. They are not a number on your profile page. They are part of a beautiful tree that will live many years and see many seasons of friendships flourish and fade. Each of us is part of the whole, but we do not all play the same role. In nature it makes sense…so we should make it part of our life cycle as well.

Many of you have asked to share this, and it is here for the taking. Share it with your leaves, branches and roots.

10 replies

Beca1 2015-01-16 10:34:45 -0600 Report

I loved this Thanks for sharing! I would like to add this too? I have had many close friendships actually kind of go dormant for a long while and one day I see a bud appear and the regrowth of that friendship blossoms and grows in to something far more beautiful than it ever was before! Never give up on a fading friendship. Our lives take us in many different directions and many times we stop nurturing those friendships, we have all experienced it at least once in our life. Be a friend, take the time to nurture that friendship and try not to let it fade.

GabbyPA 2012-03-04 17:10:59 -0600 Report

Share it as much as you like. Change it to fit your story is a priceless piece of wisdom.

Young1s 2012-03-04 17:02:46 -0600 Report

What a beautiful metaphor. Thank you for sharing that. That's one wise friend you have. If it's alright with you, I would like to share this as well. In particular with my children.

Tess K.
Tess K. 2012-03-04 15:03:46 -0600 Report

I too think this is beautifully expressed. With your permission, I would like to copy and pass this along. Thank you.

Type1Lou 2012-03-04 14:55:51 -0600 Report

This was beautifully expressed Gabby. I am copying it and sending it to a friend who has been dealing with the loss of another relationship that has been difficult for her to handle. Thanks for sharing!

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 10:00:08 -0600 Report

I simply LOVE this! Thanks for sharing. I may copy it so I can print this out ok? Let me know either way. Hugs

GabbyPA 2012-03-04 10:03:12 -0600 Report

Sure, make it your own. I know I share it often because it was such a huge help to me. She shared it just over the phone, I am sure she still has no idea how big of a help it was for me.