A dear friend shared this with me when I was having trouble with a friend whom I loved very much, but we were parting ways. I felt hurt, I felt like a failure. This is what she told me that made all the difference in the world.
Imagine your relationships are like a tree. You are the trunk and it is full of spring leaves. Each leaf is a friend in your life. They are beautiful, and in the beginning they are attached to you mightily. As the seasons progress, you find they fall in the breeze. Some stick with you until the frosts of winter, but even then they fall to the ground.
Then there are some friends who are branches. They are with you season after season. They grow and mature with you. They will be with you through big storms and hard times. But even some of those can fall and give way when things are too hard.
Of course, there are the relationships that are like the roots of the tree. They feed you, support you, and give you strength. They keep you upright and growing year after year. These are the ones that will be with you through most of your life.
We say to ourselves, that we would like only the root friendships. But a tree is not made of just roots. We need the branches and the leaves to be whole. So when a friendship falls to the side or drifts apart, then their season is done. New leaves will grow into those places in our lives. They have filled their purpose and we move on.
Those that hurt more are the branches that go, but they too give way to new growth. Maybe allowing a better balance in our life or even to leave a scar to show we lived a long life that had taught us life lessons.
I am not saying people are disposable. I am saying that this is the way life works. Holding onto a dead leaf does nothing but remind you of what you had and prevents new leaves from growing in it's place. The tree that doesn't shed it's sick or weak branches will often become sick itself, thus killing the whole instead of loosing the part that was holding it back.
I feel like social sites such as FaceBook have made us forget what friends really are. They are not a number on your profile page. They are part of a beautiful tree that will live many years and see many seasons of friendships flourish and fade. Each of us is part of the whole, but we do not all play the same role. In nature it makes sense…so we should make it part of our life cycle as well.
Many of you have asked to share this, and it is here for the taking. Share it with your leaves, branches and roots.
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