I am leaving

By TsalagiLenape Latest Reply 2012-03-08 06:54:20 -0600
Started 2012-03-03 21:20:59 -0600

I am leaving this wonderful website. Why? just think of someone condoning you to be a VICTIM of ABUSE: MENTAL, VERBAL AND PHYSICAL. I am sorry I didnt think that anyone should ever be done that way. I choose to stop all of the above from others in my life. It saddens me to the point of now crying cause I cant GROW UP. Well when you have been VICTIMIZED to the point you either keep on with the status quo or say NO MORE! So in my search of a better life, I thought I found it here. But alas tis not the case. I love it here. Yet I wont stay and be someone's VICTIM for anyone. I will defend my reasons and beliefs if need be. But alas it falls on deaf ears. Many of you have reached out to me in more ways than I expected. While I was getting help I hope that I did so for some of you out there. Sorry if it wasnt "GOOD ENOUGH" but I hoped it was ok for whatever it was for. I wish you all the best. Take care, help each other, be true to yourselves and each other. May you be truley blessed. Good Bye…

106 replies

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2012-03-05 18:50:50 -0600 Report

You know, there are "people" in every group that feel the need to beat up on others. There are over 500,000 members of DC. If 1% are jerks then that means there are 5000 jerks on here and jerks like to be heard. What needs to be done is everytime someone gets "beat up" then we each report them to Alliance so they know we do not appreciate our friends being treated like that. When we choose to depart because of comments, then you lose, we lose and the jerk wins.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-05 20:04:29 -0600 Report

Thank you Jim by the way if you scrolled down and read my previous posting earlier today, I am staying. Hugs

melissa1987 2012-03-05 22:23:41 -0600 Report

Happy your staying :) there are very rude people on this site! But also a lot of good people with good hearts and so helpful . I went through a hard time when I first joined and was called a attention case n everything but I ignore it now . Still bothers me tho because I can't really vent anymore because I'm eaither being judged or just looking for attention so that girl said. Everyone should respect each other because we are all going through the same thing . Some worse then other! That's why I hope they will update the cell application so I can just inbox my friends :) stay strong Hun n forget about the negative comments

pixsidust 2012-03-07 14:57:15 -0600 Report

Melissa we are glad you are here too.
Do not be afraid to ask for attention if you ever do need it
I do all the time!

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-06 21:39:48 -0600 Report

You can vent to me by inbox if you like I dont judge I am only putting out the truth for some wont or dont know the right words for others to understand sometimes. So no worries. Hugs

MAYS 2012-03-05 12:51:49 -0600 Report

Just think of all of the people who lives you will not be able to touch on this site if you leave.
Sometimes we need the negative people and their responses to motivate us to push on in life (some people cannot help having a negative disposition).
So, before you leave (not that I want you to) think about it, at least take the time to think of those who may need your words of wisdom and experience to help them throughout the day…

"The sun is always shining above the clouds of a storm!"


TsalagiLenape 2012-03-05 08:04:18 -0600 Report

Ok all you LOVELY WARM HEARTED WONDERFUL PEOPLE on DC I wont leave. I will be staying on. Just know that I am here if you ever need a hug, a shoulder to cry on, a back to vent your spleen on, and loving kind words to help you find your solution if need be a kick in da pants! LOL j/k Remember before you post something, stop before posting, re read it aloud. Put yourself in another's moccasins and think how they may perceive it. We may listen to others, yet if we dont stop and listen to what we say before posting, we are losing something that is invaluable to ourselves. Sort of like forgiveness, If I dont forgive one then NO ONE is able to forgive me. As well as forgiving yourself. Trust me on this, that we are bound and determined to mess up a MILLION times today before our head rests on our pillows. So learn what you can, change what you dont like if you can, and hope for the best. Thus you are not only learning, growing, evolving, but embracing your future and becoming stronger for it. That my friends is my hope for all of us. Empowering all of us to becoming Stronger and able to adapt, bounce back yet keep moving forward. HUGS to all of YOU Wonderful Lovely Kind Thoughtful Supportive Caring Friends of mine and others on DC. Have a great day!:) I will because of each and everyone of you who has blessed me with yourselves.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-03-08 05:29:37 -0600 Report

Yahoo, so glad you are staying! This place wouldn't have been the same without you here! hugs always!

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-08 06:18:40 -0600 Report

Well understandably I was originally very upset. This is the time when I had to step back, regroup, think over the posts made by many of you. Who would benefit from me leaving and me staying. What did I get out of coming here versus me leaving? So bottom line is that I get more out of here than any can imagine. I need it to keep abreast of the current meds and etc. To help my awareness stay on point. To help others who dont come here. To be able to "harass" er um Have Fun poking and questioning things I dont understand. To help others newly joined. To be able to reciprocate all the love, support, and help I get from here. Thus these are the things that helped me realize I am not leaving. I hope no one misunderstands that "harass" thing. I do things to mainly not be mean, spiteful, ignorant or malicious. But to make light of something to help relieve their stress and if I can get them to smile all the better. So that is my personal M.O. and FYI for all of you! Hugs

locarbarbie 2012-03-05 08:51:23 -0600 Report

Temi…So glad you decided to stay. Wow, this sure was one rocky ride …but look at all the good that has come from it. I think that we have all learned some valuable lessons. And how lovely of you to not only forgive, but to have compassion and love in your heart for those that have hurt you. God Bless You Temi.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-05 08:56:16 -0600 Report

Tis the best way to be. For if you dont forgive it will be like extra baggage or an albatross hanging around your neck. Ugh! So forgvie love and move on. Hugs

annesmith 2012-03-05 01:12:46 -0600 Report

I hope you aren't leaving!!!!!! I enjoy reading all of your posts, and look forward to them every day/night. Who wrote you and did all that bad stuff to you on the e-mail? I can't find it…please write me back…sorry I'm kind of late writing tonight—-ANNE

cavie2 2012-03-05 01:18:42 -0600 Report

annesmith - Try reading the replies to the coversation "what do you do when you get angry or mad or frustrated" That will tell you all you need to know.

locarbarbie 2012-03-04 18:28:12 -0600 Report

Temi…you would be missed by too many for you to even think of leaving for good. You are a valuable voice on this site. Somehow, without even meeting each other…I believe you can "read between the lines" with each members post and get a pretty darn good idea of a person's character. And you my dear, have a beautiful soul that stands out loud and clear. Even when you were attacked, you behaved like the lady you are. You are appreciated and valued.

cavie2 2012-03-05 01:21:06 -0600 Report

Hear hear, I second that, pity I couldn't have behaved like a lady but I was sooo angry. And that person has replied to me on that conversation too and just as rude as everl

locarbarbie 2012-03-05 06:58:27 -0600 Report

Cavie…You stood by and stuck up for a member who was unfairly treated ( to put it kindly!). That is admirable on your part. I also know that your response was not at all out of line because I did not audibly gasp or experience my jaw dropping like I honestly did with the post you responded to. There is nothing wrong with righteous anger…Jesus even overturned a table when he was angry!!

cavie2 2012-03-05 07:49:56 -0600 Report

Thank you locarbabie, I have had time to think things through and wondered at all that has happened in her life if maybe, no-one was ever there for her to give her support when she needed it and her hurt and isolation has now manifested itself into anger against other people she sees as getting help and support that she never had, and that may be the reason she is rude to other people. I don't have the skills or experience or qualifications to counsel someone through anger like that and that may be what she is needing. However that does not excuse her bad manners and rudeness

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-05 07:57:15 -0600 Report

Or perhaps in her own unique way she was doing what was done to her. We dont know but its a moot point now. People are people and If I can forgive so can everyone here right? THus we move on. Hugs to all

cavie2 2012-03-05 08:23:19 -0600 Report

Did I not say that woman T has a beautiful spirit, to forgive is to set yourself free. When you hold on to negative feelings it drags you down, like a virus it spreads like a poison. The best thing you can do is let it go.. T you have a big heart and are beautiful inside and out.

dietcherry 2012-03-04 16:00:25 -0600 Report

Dont you DARE leave Temi! I wrote so many responses to that post to you and then didnt post them! It helped me work thru my anger at the callous way you were spoken to. Im not sure if that person even realizes that their style of offering advice needs some work. When you insult people, putting them on the defensive right out of the gate, youve already lost your audience.

pixsidust 2012-03-04 15:49:04 -0600 Report

The wounds you have born in the face of great need
have been harder than most
You have faced this with bravery.
Your feelings are valid and have always been valid
Yet in the hearing, of all the turmoil and lack of love
Its with a mothers wing I seek to cover you
and see yourself cover you from the wounds that have laid
you bare and broken.
I can not close the doors for you but can ask you too
In Love, In care your trusted the man
who married you to be the same as you,
but he was not made of the same piece of cloth.
He was a cheat, a liar, a tormentor and many other things
that hurt your open heart.
You are so dear, so precious and so very kind
that you must block all attempts of stealing your peace.
Block facebook, block girlfriends, block people who
with sad stories walk into your safe place…to steal
the pearls that make you the gem you are.
Temi, you have no loss of Love here
Protect yourself because only you can as much as I would
if I were there with you
I feel protective and indignant about that for you
I am proud of you going to school and finding work
Yet to feel peace, I want to know you are taking care of Temi
and not just the rest of the world.
Temi, you are loved…rest in that love

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 17:28:03 -0600 Report

Yeah I know…but what was done was wrong. I wouldnt do that even to an enemy. Now if it was the husband welll I aint promising nothing there. Hugs

pixsidust 2012-03-04 17:19:30 -0600 Report

Something else to consider
You have had much taken from you
I can not imagine letting someone's harsh words
take you from me or us from you
You're family…my family…Remember?

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-03-04 15:23:18 -0600 Report

Temi, Please don't go! I guess I haven't seen the post you talk about, but just ignore it. If that person isn't happy with what you post, then they don't have to click and read them. Also, if you are being abused here, then red flag that person's post!

Don't know why that person said what they did, mabe they are just an unhappy individual, but you are a bigger person and can move on from it. I hope you reconsider and stay:) If not, then I wish you well with your new job, and anything else you do in life.

Take care my friend

cavie2 2012-03-04 14:37:26 -0600 Report

Please don't go Temi, there are sooo many people on this site who love you and support you. The person you talk about is just a nasty person with a razor sharp tongue. THAT is the person who should go, so many people are praying for you. You are the better person Temi, don't let her win. Whatever you decide I wish you well, you are a beautiful person with a loving spirit. No-one can take that away from you. Love you loads - Gerie XXX

flipmom 2012-03-04 13:41:40 -0600 Report

i'm sorry that you are thinking of leaving..i have enjoyed your discussion post on here…I am not you so i cant tell you what to do…but please dont let a handful of thoughtless post ruin your day my friend!! (((HUGs))))

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 14:02:44 -0600 Report

Well I am doing what I can right now for me. I do my best not to bring drama and nonsense. Yet most of the stuff I do bring is not any of that. Its my life. Thoughtless posts made sure didnt sound like it. Read it out loud then you will know. Otherwise still debating. Hugs :)

Young1s 2012-03-04 13:14:06 -0600 Report

Hi Temi. I wasn't on too much yesterday so I didn't realize you were even considering this. My hope is that in the light of a new day and after reading what everyone has said, that you've reconsidered this. You can't let one persons comments or opinions turn you away from something that you consider to be a great help and place of comfort. Not now…not ever.

You are wanted and needed here. The love and kindness that flows through you runs deep. You wear your heart on your sleeve and that's okay. That's what's so special about you. Never mind what others say, focus on you for a change and what's going to make you happy. And know for sure that we appreciate you for what you do and for who you are.

jayabee52 2012-03-04 09:51:09 -0600 Report

I pray, Temi, you will reconsider and will stay. I thought that response to you was rather thoughtless. I pray she reconsiders and uses the "edit" function and change what she wrote.

I have ADHD and sometimes I may impulsively say/write something which upon further thought may have been inaccurate or "over the top". Who knows what she had been through just before she wrote that. I don't seek to make excuses FOR her but want to point out there may have been other things which may have been going on in her life which eliicted that reply. If it were me, I'd come to you privately and talk about it and apologize, but that's just me.

I pray you will stay and keep your voice here.

You can only be the "victim" if you act the victim, (= leaving here with your "tail tween your legs"). Just my 2ยข.

Blessings to you Temi, no matter what you do!


kaiya2465 2012-03-05 07:55:33 -0600 Report

Why should she edit it? The thoughtlessness & rudeness has been put out on the table. Maybe she needs to think before using the keys more. Right or wrong we all need to be Respectful & Thoughtful on our posts.

Caroltoo 2012-03-04 16:46:40 -0600 Report

Good thought, James. Some editing would be very much in order. It was so insensitive!

cavie2 2012-03-05 00:50:37 -0600 Report

She has had a go at me and replied on the other conversation. "What do you do when you get mad, angry or frustrated"

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 09:56:47 -0600 Report

Yes thoughtless comes to mind regarding that other post. Insensitive is another. It doesnt matter what she was going thru. It was about what I am dealing with on a constant basis daily. I dont need her type of nonsense to put me down and make me question myself. That is wrong, rude and insensitive. Sometimes I may post hard core to the point. But I soften it with hugs and words to the effect that will help not hinder another. I now dont know what to do as of yet. But am seriously rethinking this all out. Hugs

jayabee52 2012-03-04 13:51:32 -0600 Report

I agree Temi! Nobody deserves to be put down like that.

I pray you won't leave, OR if you decide to leave us for a while, that you eventually come back. I would hate to lose your voice here forever! ((((hugs)))) in return!

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 07:40:44 -0600 Report

I am seriously rethinking this. I more than likely reacted to being ATTACKED on one of my posts. Needless to say, I have more caring friends on here that count and make me glad I am here. I also have responded in the best way I can to that post. So still thinking but I am more grateful and happier than before. Thanks to those of you who posted or sent inbox messages to me. It does make a difference. As do all of you! REMEMBER someone like me does appreciate and love all of you for what you mean to me. Hugs

northerngal 2012-03-04 14:09:44 -0600 Report

We haven't typed to each other before, so some of the messages to which you are referring are unknown to me. However, please let me add to the messages encouraging you to continue checking in with this site occasionally. It is a great source of new information, encouragement, and understanding what others are going through. As prevalent as diabetes is, its amazing how uninformed people can be. Please don't allow a few thoughtless comments to discourage you from getting as much from this site as possible. There are always new articles to read, varying opinions and tons of questions. While none of us has medical training, we've all been there and can understand what you're going through. I've had it over 40yrs now and have had more than a few complications along the way. I've also had it since before anyone ever spoke about it in public, like it was something to hide and/or be ashamed of. Sorry folks, but its part of who I am. Since it affects EVERYTHING I do, it will always be that way. I've gotten lots of practice ignoring uneducated comments and helping educate those who are willing to ask questions. Hope to see your messages continue.

Jeanae 2012-03-04 09:35:01 -0600 Report

Please do rethin it. I can not imagine dc without you on here. You provide such gems of wisdom, pass along lots of great information, and are always there with words of encouragement and support. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not leave… ever! hugs.

jigsaw 2012-03-04 08:50:29 -0600 Report

Personally, I think it's a pleasure to have you here! No matter who you are, there are going to be some unpleasant characters that come along. Simply can't be avoided. There really is no running away, but we can learn to deal in a constructive and intelligent manner. Consider the word perception. How we perceive, interpret, and reinterpret is important. Is the glass half full, or is it half empty??? I think it's half full, I hope you agree!!!

GabbyPA 2012-03-04 08:28:12 -0600 Report

When you are attacked then you have the right to use that little red flag. I know the post you are talking about and it just curled my hair when I read it. There were hundreds of ways to say it better. There was nothing that broke the terms of use, but it is still your right to flag it as it hurt you deeply.

There is a lot more to benefit from here than to leave over one post. Don't let that person win. If you really like it here, then sometimes we have to take the good with a salting of bad.

Posts like that are the ones I just ignore and move on. Don't even give them the chance to fight back with me. It is not worth my health to do so, and even more not the kind of things I want to see on the site.

I hope you will stay. You share a lot of thought provoking things that get us to focus on other parts of our lives as well. I would miss you if you were to go.

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