What do you do when you get angry or mad or frustrated?

By TsalagiLenape Latest Reply 2013-06-13 20:55:31 -0500
Started 2012-03-02 11:24:18 -0600

Well I usually clean but I cant do that at 10 p.m. So I woke up somewhat in a good mood until I get a message on Facebook telling me those who left me high and dry do care about me. Really? Hm Snort I dont think so. If they cared about me why leave me this way? I have no one to make sure I am ok. If I am sick or in need due to my diabetes, there is NO ONE THERE. I have a 75 year old father in law I do take care of. But what about if I should fall from sickness or whatever. Who then will take care of him and the other things that I do? NO One. SO thus I am angry mad frustrated. Then someone says they are being nice and I am being a smarty pants. Gee hmmm I am not I am just mad angry and frustrated which they'd be pissed off. So it doesnt matter. I cant please everyone but I am doing my best to take care of my responsibilities and my priorities first. What do you think?

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CADebbie 2013-06-13 20:55:31 -0500 Report

I think that I have been a care giver all my life. My first thought is don't bring them home, they will get bored, not have friends the same age, etc. etc. And kill the care giver quicker. My Uncle just went into "My Place" with Alzhiemers etc. he is happy as can be. When guilty family members take him out or to their houses he is not happy. There are many things to help with this and money can be put other places etc. The guilt is there if they are in your home or being cared by from others.

troublemaker27 2012-03-15 15:34:06 -0500 Report

i can't think or see straight my job is taking a toll on me i keep having nightmares and problems sleeping at night.
i don't know what to do.
can anyone help me?
sorry about this

GOARMS 2012-03-19 12:17:13 -0500 Report

I had the same problem about 6 months ago. I found myself on the floor looking up at people trying to wake me up. It was scarey, but it was then that I realized I was killing myself for an employer that would replace me at the drop of a hat. I was diagnosed with High Blood pressure and 3 months later High sugar (456). I made a change in my life because I didnt want to leave my 17 year old alone in this world. Please start taking time out for you. The nightmares will stop and you will find that you will think better with a clear mind rather then a stressful mind. I hope this helps

jayabee52 2012-03-15 19:20:24 -0500 Report

I am sorry to hear that Troublemaker!

Could you share more about your situation which might be causing this?

How have your blood Glucose (BG) readings been?

J Kate
J Kate 2012-03-06 16:59:04 -0600 Report

It would be appreciated if the posts can be kept positive. Please do your best to keep our community a happy, safe place. Thanks.

jayabee52 2012-03-15 15:44:03 -0500 Report

Sorry Kate, I try to do that most of the time, BUT sometimes somone (usually with some ulterior agenda) makes statements of "fact" which are not so factual. I really feel impelled to politely challenge that person's statement and use logic to try to change folks' minds. I find that when I do that I become extremely polite, and don't call names.

I see that as trying to keep DC a safe place, even if it doesn't win me any friends sometimes.

J Kate
J Kate 2012-03-15 16:06:32 -0500 Report

Tsk, tsk, I see you as DC's Knight in shining armor… I appreciate those who take a shift on the DC patrol. You're wonderful James! :)

jayabee52 2012-03-21 12:28:54 -0500 Report

I had filed the song away in my memory bank (brain) when it first played when I was a kid. "Knight in shining armor" tripped a trigger for me and brought this tune to mind. Then I had to find if it was on you tube, and it was. Voila!

jayabee52 2012-03-15 19:12:30 -0500 Report

well I have to LIVE in my armor! I see all my imperfections, (and sometimes admit to them) and have to live with myself inseurities and all!

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2012-03-05 19:01:00 -0600 Report

How far do you live from me? You can come and clean at 10PM. Would you prefer to clean the cabin or the log house? I can sleep in the other. You can play your music loud, because no one will hear.
Seriously, (well, I am serious if you want to come and clean), I have not followed a lot of this lately because of being very busy at work and life, so take this into consideration.
No matter what is said here on DC, it comes down to sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me. Really, the words do not hurt, unless you accept them and internalize them. We do not need to respond to idiots. A fire can not burn without fuel and air. Report them, don't tell them you did it (as in don't respond) get your friends to report them (tell them who it is and what the discussion title is about)
There are things in life that matter, crap coming out of the toilet mouths is not one of them. Realize this and relax a bit. The stress increases your BS.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-05 20:15:07 -0600 Report

Yes mind you this was after the private message on FB then husband harassment for 3 days straight and then this? Yeah my meter was bonking and I wasnt doing well for I tend to get violently sick. Then not able to eat at least til the tummy felt better. I actually forgot my meds twice due to this. But I am getting on track. By the way Jim, I clean good. My Mom used to do the government housing units back when I was a tyke. LOL I can do both though! LOL Yes words can hurt if you internalize them. Mind you the frame of mind I have been in. Like I told my gf earlier, the hubby and etc trips me up, where I fall back into the defensive mode and ready to kick his butt. I agree about the Fire. I figured out the little red flag things thanks to another! :) Otherwise I am now bouncing back. I am staying. Hugs :)

pixsidust 2012-03-03 11:39:59 -0600 Report

Why isn't he blocked from your facebook?
Why are you leaving yourself open?
You know what we think and that we are behind you.
So why are you putting yourself through this again and again?

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-03 20:56:16 -0600 Report

He is blocked but its his gf who sends me an inbox messgae

Jeanae 2012-03-04 09:12:00 -0600 Report

change your privacy settings and when you see a message from her or anyone that is connected with him or her, delete. Do not open. Do not read. Just deete it and delete them from your mind. So sorry you are going through this. btw- NO ONE has the right to tell you to get over it, grow up and move on. They may have gone through lots of terrible things and triumphed but they are not you. What some people can conquer. others struggle with. What shatters some people, strengthens others. Everyone deals with things- good and bad in their own way. I am sure that that advice was made under the tough love and support mind set but seriously- you do what you have to do to get through it. You count on your d.c. friends to support you, encourage you, and lift you up in prayer. Sending hugs and good wishes to you today.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 13:59:33 -0600 Report

Well I know you are right but she isnt my friend nor do I want to be friends with her at all. She blew it when she slept with my husband after the first time. Trust me I can do Tough Love I am good at giving and receiving it. What I didnt need is someone to treat me like an idiot. Especially when they dont know everything. Which I can forgive for. I am doing what I can and needs to be done. Hugs and thank you!

pixsidust 2012-03-03 22:20:53 -0600 Report

block her too

jayabee52 2012-03-06 05:54:40 -0600 Report

In the early days of my being on DC I had created a 2nd account because I got points from some other website to join DC. I had by that time already joined DC but I wanted the points.

I don't even know my old unused screen name now. I'll have to go to the email to which I tied that account and see if I could discover the screen name and perhaps have it deleted.

I don't think it is ILLEGAL, LoL! This is the internet, right?

cavie2 2012-03-06 07:19:43 -0600 Report

Never knew you could do that jayabee52. You learn something new on here every day. Thank you for enlightening me

Young1s 2012-03-03 10:02:53 -0600 Report

I've been known to hold a grudge when I get angry. It was really bad when I was growing up but I have learned to recognize those feelings and put them in check before it gets out of hand.

I remember not speaking to one of my childhood friends for about a year for something she did to upset me. Sounds ridiculous when I say it now because a) after a while I forgot why I was mad, so I was just mad for no reason. And b) I lost a good friendship that was always strained once we started talking again, and eventually we drifted apart for good.

I tell you that to say this, don't let your feelings of being hurt now ruin whatever relationship or friendship you may want or need in the future. Maybe these people who are trying to reach out to you are sincere, maybe their not. The only way to figure it out for sure is to extend your hand of friendship and see what happens. Who knows. It could turn out to be the best thing for you. But I'd do it with a little caution in mind. Because like Renee said, if they've wronged you before they may do it again. But if you have your guard up and you're looking out for the signs of it happening you may be able to get out of the situation before they hurt you again.

Sorry if that's not making sense or isn't what you wanted to hear. I'll leave it at this. Do what you feel is the right thing to do. Trust your gut and follow your heart. We all have that inner voice that guides us for a reason. I wish you well in this and all you do.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-03 20:57:44 -0600 Report

It does makes sense yet same said people rather judge and accuse instead of talking to me. They talk down to me. Which no one should do to another. So I am now blocking those who are negative and trying to pull me down.

Young1s 2012-03-04 15:09:34 -0600 Report

I'm sorry…I hadn't realized who you were talking about when I posted my reply above. I thought you were talking about someone else. By all means don't let these people who have wronged you in this disgraceful manner back into your life…for any reason. They are a pariah and are not worth your time or kindness. Good for you for blocking them on the web, now work on blocking them from your life for good. Take care my friend and be blessed.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-03-03 17:38:15 -0600 Report

Young holding grudges is a waste of time so I don't do that. When someone makes me angry, I simply let them know. Depending on what made me angry, I might be angry for a day or so and then it passes and I move on. Most of the time once the argument is over, so is the anger.

Young1s 2012-03-03 18:38:52 -0600 Report

I agree but because that was the way I handled things from such an early age, it was my natural response to hurt feelings of any type. But I've long since learned to recognize it for what it is and deal with the situation accordingly. Life's too short to walk around being angry all the time. It's not who I am nor who I want to be.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-03-03 20:06:03 -0600 Report

I told a neighbor who told me she was mad at me that being mad was like being constipated, that too shall pass. She didn't speak to me for two weeks when she realized I didn't care if she was mad with me. I totally agree with you, life is too short to harbor anger and hatefulness. It wears down the body, mind and soul.

Dan360 2012-03-03 09:02:50 -0600 Report

Interesting! If you have never felt angry, mad or frustrated you have never lived or you have no heart. You hear a lot about tough love which is the term used when people leave you high and dry and say they really do care. Whatever others may think or do it is important to realize that your first responsibility is to yourself. Feeling angry and frustrated is not bad. Making a habit of it is. You need to address such feelings and realize that life really does get difficult at times and you have to learn to cope. Coping effectively means you don't have to continue to live with such feelings. I wish you well.

cavie2 2012-03-03 10:18:11 -0600 Report

Sooo well said Dan360. Coming up against difficulties and bad situations in Life is a challenge. What is important is how you deal with it and what you learn from these experiences. Never give up hope, try as best you can to think positive, and yes there will be many times you will fail miserably to be positive but you are only human as we all are and no-one is perfect. Praying that things will get better for you Temi. LOL XXX

Dan360 2012-03-03 10:41:24 -0600 Report

Thanks for your input, cavie2. I would just add that while positive thoughts should be the long term goal, it is not a sign of failure to express negative thoughts. In fact it might be quite appropriate. The key is not to harbor negativism or resentment. Get over it as quickly as you can.

cavie2 2012-03-03 10:47:40 -0600 Report

Some of us are more eloquent than others Dan but that is what I meant, it is only natural that we all have negative thoughts but the best way to deal with it is to change it to positive as soon as possible, and yes on many occasions this is very hard to do depending on what has been said or done but the more we work at it the better we become.

Dan360 2012-03-03 13:30:12 -0600 Report

Again, Carvie2, thanks for your input and I do not wish to belabor your points. I respond not necessarily to your words but to others who have offered guidance on the subject matter. What is taught in psychological circles is that anger is bad for you — period. That sort of nixes the whole fight or flight response that is a part of us and for good reason. (Like, the amygdala is this growth in the brain that really shouldn't be there. Our purpose in life is to defeat it as best we can.) My point is that anger is a valid response to a threatening situation, whether it be physical or psychological harm. We should not feel guilty about expressing anger. The problem with anger is when we try to use it to manipulate others and get our way on matters of little significance. To use it to prove our manhood for example. Trying to categorize everything into either a positive or a negative really does not work well for me. Whether my expression of anger is a positive or a negative depends upon the situation. I hope I have not frustrated you with my hair splitting, but I think the difference is important to recognize.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-03-03 07:00:37 -0600 Report

Oh and when I get angry or frustrated with others I usually like my space away from them for a while. This helps me clear my thoughts, words can be so hurtful and can always stay with you! If I need to deal with it and end it, I hope and pray I don't LOSE it!

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-03 20:59:56 -0600 Report

Well I dont talk normally. I wait til I am calm and rational. But asking me if I am ok after the fact you ignored me when I needed it is a bit too late.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-03-03 06:57:00 -0600 Report

Hello Temi, Like everyone here I have been hurt badly in my life. I had to grow a thicker skin, and a shell around me. This means yes when people come into my circle of life whether through work, school, etc… They Become a part of my life to some extent, I don't open myself up just to anyone. I distant myself to some degree and am very cautious of those around me. For those that have hurt me I see it this way I gave them all the rope they needed, meaning freedom in our relationship, they chose to hang themselves, now they either dont exist in my life or are always hanging on a tight rope! As for FB am not a part of it, I just feel as if you open yourself to hurt or drama! As for DC I consider this my FB, nice people, and people I can relate to! Remember your heart discussion, although we can forgive others, there's no reason we have to condone their actions and for that matter even stay connected to them! Blessings!

JSJB 2012-03-03 04:51:38 -0600 Report

When I get mad, angry or frustrated I jump on the ole hog and cruise for an hour or two. You would be suprised how relaxing it is. I have learned to control my anger so not much riding but I still lose my temper but now I just go somewhere by myself, usually the mall, or tend to the veggie garden or fruit trees and relax.

Jeanae 2012-03-03 02:11:24 -0600 Report

well… I have to say there are those people in my life that have hurt or disappointed me over and over. I finally had to look really close at the relationship and decide if it was worth saving or better to drop. The ones tat O dropped are no longer able to hurt me any more. I choose to remember only the good aspects of them (and some I had to think really, really hard to figure out what they were). Life is just too short and too complicated for us to allow toxic people to affect us and our health. There are people who are in our lives that are supposed to care about us but really can not wait for us to fall. Get rid of them. Harness that frustration and anger into energy. Anger can hurt us- our b.s. Release it. Look at your life and see that it is moving in the right direction. Remember your post about what is in your heart? You have a big heart. Focus on that and let the toxic relationships go. As my father-in-law used to say "it is better to be a smarty pants than a dumb ___" hugs.

GabbyPA 2012-03-02 18:05:53 -0600 Report

Oh the joys of virtual friends on virtual social sites. (That does include here to a degree) I hear people get so upset when people "unfriend" them or post some snippet that they would never say in person. I am not a fan of this kind of behavior, but then it is easy to be a friend with someone on a screen and never be there in person to deal with hard things.

Now if these people are part of your physical life and it is degenerated to FB contact only, there is not friendship really there. If they were never part of your physical life, then loosing them on FB is not really a loss. Just an adjustment in your number of "friends". It is all so shallow to me. That is why I don't do those sites.

Here, I feel different and know there is a purpose. I have a lot of "friends" here that I have never spoken to. I have a hand full that I keep up with in a much more personal way, and some that I know even more personally. But I would never expect anyone here to come to my aid. I have their support, but to be physically with me, I don't expect that. I have to develop my support around me that I see face to face.

That is why I still encourage people to reach out to support groups locally. There is nothing that can replace the depth of face to face friendships. They don't last forever either, but they are much more fulfilling.

dietcherry 2012-03-02 18:36:57 -0600 Report

Gabby how do you always know the right words? In reading your post, Im wondering: do you think that, even tho members dont personally know each other at DC, sharing D transcends that of knowing people in real life and not sharing D with them, even if we've known them our whole life? And if so, is it because we all are feeling THAT misunderstood?

GabbyPA 2012-03-04 09:06:11 -0600 Report

I do believe that having a common battle or struggle bonds people a lot more than just arbitrary "friends" on social sites. I know that I share stuff here that I don't talk about much outside of the screens.

Our feelings of misunderstanding among non-diabetic peers are probably exaggerated in some ways. We tend to be on our guard around them, but here, anything goes. There is a freedom and a bond that comes with that. I know that there are some here that if we met in person, we would pick up right where we left off. That is special. BUT, what makes that special is that it is a rare thing indeed. Not all friends fall into that place, and well it should be. Because if we fill it to overflowing, there is not specialness to it anymore.

A friend shared with me an analogy of friendships that is so spot on. I have shared it with many here, because we seem to want to hold onto friendships, even when they are no longer healthy or helpful. I think I will post it in a discussion so you all can find the reassuring jewel my friend shared with me. It helps me so much when I am feeling hurt or let down by someone I have in my life.

Here is the story: http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/14772-friendship-is-like-a-tree

dietcherry 2012-03-02 15:01:14 -0600 Report

Temi based on the limited information I have of your dynamics with these people, I would never speculate that it is your fault theyve treated you this way.
Sometimes people just suck. Ourselves included

Ive learned that when someone hurts me, to regard them as someone who may potentially hurt me again, often in the very same manner as the first time. If they lied to once, they might lie to me again. If they betrayed me once, they may just betray me again. You get my meaning.

It is okay to draw a line in the sand and let them know that if they cross it again, you are through with them. We dont have to martyr ourselves for the sake of peace. Forgiveness is great and the ultimate goal, but if someone is treating you badly, its foolish to enable them to continue to do so.

I know this situation makes you sad; I can read the hurt in your words. Only you know what needs to be done here; you have my support in finding a resolution that is fair to all.

I have faith and confidence in you, that if you know YOU are part of the problem, you will make the necessary changes in your own attitude so that you can heal and move forward. Much love and luck dear Temi.

Caroltoo 2012-03-02 13:27:58 -0600 Report

Following the recent death of your grandchild there has been a lot of very intense emotion in your family. I have no idea what has been said or done by any of these folks. I'd look to the past, if they typically weren't there for you or were condemning, I'd view it as more of the same. If it is someone whose attitude could be impacted by the new grief and they were usually more supportive, I'd consider reconciling. Much is said and done in the heat of grief that is regretted later.

You have a good brain in your head, so stop and think it through before you decide who needs to be outed from your life and who may be able to be saved. Families can be toxic, only you know what is best for you … just think it through before you act.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-03-02 13:17:48 -0600 Report

Putting it bluntly, GROW UP. I think you should give those a chance who left you high and dry. If they reached out to you why let your anger destroy any chances of reconciliation? You have "NO ONE THERE" yet when they reach out to you, you snort. Do you have friends? If not why? Over the years, I have learned that if you don't have friends, it is because you don't know how to be a friend. I had a boss like that. Had no friends and non of us who worked for her liked her. She was a very miserable person and that made those around her miserable.

Why are you trying to please people? If people view you as someone trying to please people, they are going to run away from you as fast as they can. People don't want people to please them. Pleasing people is like buying friends. They will be your friend until the money runs out. They will also be your friend until they have gotten what they want from you so once you stop pleasing them, they don't need you. Remember, you can please some of the people some of the time and none of the people all of the time. Stop trying to please people and make friends instead. Otherwise you will never have anyone there for you.

If someone told you they were being nice and you were being a smarty pants. They were telling the truth. You are not giving people a chance to be nice to you so they leave you alone. If you rebuff, snort, use sarcasm when people are making and effort to be nice to you, they view you as immature and want nothing to do with you.

The fact of the matter is you are angry at yourself and instead of dealing with your anger, you take it out on people around you in the manner in which you treat them. I wouldn't want to be around you under any circumstances.

What you should be doing is making a list of all of the reasons you are angry. Omit the fact that no one is there, that is your fault because over time you have pushed them away. Review your list, ask yourself why you are angry about each item. You might find out that they are not worth being angry about and you can scratch that off the list.

You have to understand. Most people don't care if you are angry and if you are always angry they won't want to be in your presence. Not everyone wants you to please them. Not everyone wants to be your friend. More importantly not everyone is going to care about you, love you, like you or even care that you are on earth.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-03 21:04:49 -0600 Report

Well they did this to me last year. When they didnt need me they left me alone. When I called to ask for help, I was ignored and help no where to be found. Now they expect me to do this all over again. Would you? I am no one's fool or sucker. That is what they expect me to do is drop everything fix their crap and then leave me again? That is ok and acceptable? Well sorry its not for me. I will help if you yet when I ask I hope that you would do the same in kind. I am sorry for not doing illicit drugs that makes me forget my PRIORITIES and RESPONSIBLITIES. Dang Today isnt good nor is tomorrow. Then to top it off, I get mentally, verbally and physically abused by the same ones I helped? Then expected to drop EVERYTHING and take care of their stuff while forgetting the 75 year old man who has cancer and is dying? Or better yet I know FORGET my own health right? Um NOT any more. I have been done this way for over 3 years. I have finallly said NO MORE. IF having a FRIEND is a person you talk to, share personal info then have said FRIEND share it with those who LAUGH, HATE AND WISHED YOU WERE DEAD, then I dont want any of those. I will go alone again. Nothing new here for me. So in other words, take their ABUSE; be their VICTIM; end up DEAD? Sorry guess I was STUPID to think that isnt something I dont want anymore.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-03-03 21:36:41 -0600 Report

People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. They know they can use you so they use you whenever they choose to do so. They look at you and see DOOR MAT on your forehead so they proceed to wipe their feet on you. They do this because you ALLOW it. Why are you calling people for help when you know they are not going to help you?

I had a boss who was a very nice person. He was the Facilities Manager. He had a maintenance supervisor under him. Whenever anything went wrong he was blamed. One day he came in my office very upset because he was blamed for something and couldn't understand why he kept being blamed for everything. I told him you get blamed because you have no backbone at all. Grow a backbone and stand up for yourself. Not only will they respect you for doing this but they will also know that you aren't going to be the fall guy anymore.

Stop worrying about those people who mean nothing to you. A true friend is someone who will be there for you through thick and then, who will cry with you, laugh with you and at you, who will fight your battles with you and more importantly they will be able to tell you the truth even if they know you may be hurt. They do all these things because they care about you.

I know a lot of people. I put them in 3 categories, best friends, good friends and acquaintances. My 4 best friends will move heaven and earth for me as I will for them. My good friends are those who I talk to on a regular basis and we may do some things together and acquaintances are people I either work with or those I know and talk to but don't see on a regular basis.

I know you are a caring person. Stand up for yourself, never let anyone try to make you do things you don't want to do and be true to yourself.

TsalagiLenape 2012-03-04 06:06:53 -0600 Report

I did and was told to no ACCEPT their OLIVE BRANCH of FRIENDSHIP. Ha another way to get back in my life to HURT ME. I dont do ILLICIT DRUGS not for ANYONE EVER! I have chosen what I ALLOW. WILL ALLOW. But these people are part of what I WONT ACCEPT ANYMORE! so now I am leaving this wonderful website… Here is something that you should stop and think of first! Being a VICTIM isnt a choice one makes! Accepting the crap isnt another. Yet for whatever reasons it was done. Yet now I have made a choice to stop it all together. Now after they have realized what is they want me to know they care. RIght that is a joke! My first post on here was having no support. If I have to accept their support on their terms i.e. doing illicit drugs and etc refer to ChickenHawk, then that isnt what I am going to ALLOW for me. You may not know all that has transpired in my life. That I can forgive. What I cant and wont accept is to GROW UP! LOL that is a joke. For I am GROWN UP! I am not going to take crap, being a VICTIM or being ABUSED AGAIN for ANYONE. if that makes another happy to do so ok that is their choice. My CHOICE is to stop that crap and move on if being alone means I dont do ILLICIT DRUGS like bath salts so I can take care of my RESPONSIBILITIES and PRIORITIES like my father in law who is 75 years old has PROSTATE CANCER who has chosen not to do CHemo fine. At least I will have a life of my choosing. Then on top of it all, My 3 1/2 month old grandson died from SIDS. I may make mistakes but at least I am willing and wise enough to learn from them. So if this makes you mad or whatever GET OVER IT! You walk a mile in my moccasins then let me know. At least when I go to bed at night for my ritual prayers and etc prior I know I can sleep with my words, actions, and etc not hindering me from the next day. The last part about STANDING UP FOR MYSELF I am doing that. Now said ABUSERS dont like the results they are getting. They have threatened to KILL me, so that isnt ok with me. I am fighting back in a good way so that when it does come back on me I know I am going to be ok with the results. The ABUSERS arent oh well they can GET OVER IT. When I love and care I do so unconditionally! They dont. Oh well Have a nice life!

cavie2 2012-03-03 10:28:06 -0600 Report

Wow joyce, don't pussyfoot around will you. Just tell it like it is. Whatever happened to giving people on here some support.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-03-03 21:59:45 -0600 Report

cavie, I don't pussyfoot around with anyone. If I have something to say, I say it. I don't look at life through rose colored glasses. I live in the real world. I have seen people living in places that a pig wouldn't walk through. I have held peoples intestines in their bodies with my hands and tried to save a man's life who had been shot in the head 10 times in front of my house. I will help anyone to the best of my ability and ask for nothing in return. I live in a depressed community. For the pass 13 years, I have dedicated my life to rebuilding, improving the quality of life for those living here and fought city hall tooth and nail and won 99% of the time. I was abused as a child, abducted and raped at gun point as a teen and spent many years rebuilding my life. I write my elected officials when the need arises. I work with the Police Department to help build the bridges of trust and communication between the community and the officers. I was hand picked by the police department to serve as President of their community council for the district where I live and have held that position and this will be my 11th year in that position. I went back to school and studied Criminal Justice as a means to work towards reducing crime and criminal activity in my community. I graduated in the to 10% of my class. My degree has Magna Cum Laude on it. I have served on boards that founded a community association and a program to improve and bring new businesses to the community. I have worked with a program that helped those in need get food to feed their families and helped deliver the food. I have spent time getting a kid support for him and his siblings because he was living with a drug addicted mother who thought it was okay to leave her kids at home with no power, food or money for school. I have received certificates from elected officials for the work I do. When you have walked a mile in my shoes, then you can sit back and say I don't support people. I can't support them if I am going to sugar coat anything because in the end they could be very disappointed.

If you sugar coat reality, people don't grow or change. Sometimes being blunt works because in too many cases when people seek help they get the sugar coated version and end up still in the same rut. If you don't snatch them out, they will never see reality and begin to take steps to help themselves.

Caroltoo 2012-03-03 21:15:29 -0600 Report

Because your comment ended up under Temi's, Joyce will probably never see it. You said what I was thinking and still trying to decide whether or not to send it!

Why don't you do an edit and copy yours up to the "reply" button attached to Joyce's comment. Then she will get to see it.

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