Vote Now: The Term Friends vs Followers

By LizSpring113 Latest Reply 2012-03-05 15:22:11 -0600
Started 2012-02-28 13:54:36 -0600

When I first came here, people were saying thaqt they really wanted to go back to the word Friends like Facebook uses. As time hs gone by have you changed your mind and now like Follow better than Friend or do you still prefer Friend over Follow? This is the time to state your true feelings. I can't guarantee that it will be changed back. But I can guarantee that Adminstration is interested in the outcome of the vote; as we all are.
So please let us know your thoughts. To take the pressure off being the first one to vote, I will vote too. It will be fun to see the results!

49 replies

pixsidust 2012-03-04 19:07:48 -0600 Report

I am not happy with following. To my personal email I received an Email from DC that gave a sample of what they were thinking theres still following but they would also send out a friend request. Convoluted!

They need to get rid of following altogether. I gave feedback as such.
I send out my own message to be friends along with the following thing but now they want to do that too…for me.

We need to be heard to tell them to"DROP FOLLOWING ALTOGETHER"
"Do not repackage it".

Everyone please send an Email to John Crowley here and tell him that.

I thought they were getting it but after seeing that email. I know they
are not.

Anonymous 2012-03-05 15:22:11 -0600 Report

Bearing in mind that i feel very passionately about the verbiage as well, if i understood it correctly and i am not sure do. Most people
will just choose the second choice and go directly to friend. From the appearance based on the amount of people voting, strangely enough we are in the minority. In Obesity, the one person that voted thought the new words were cool and different. Only a few voted in favor to change from F&f in anxiety. And maybe 10 or 20 in Arthritis and Diabetes. While he clearly understands or passions and concerns,
he also has to respect those that y their silence
have placed themselves okay with the
F&F CHANGE. That is why i day he is being very
gracious to us. Based on voting evidemce
alone, we are in a minority.
I must have a cidently hit the wrong button amd cant figure out how to fi it. Ut i am Liz

tabby9146 2012-03-03 16:03:57 -0600 Report

I prefer the term friends and I think I will like those changes that Liz posted

LizSpring113 2012-03-03 23:19:12 -0600 Report

I am very excited about the new ideas that John Crowley and Administration came up with. I am also glad that they told us about them noe. Iyu was like a breath of fresh air or a light at the end of tunnel. People are laughing and joking again! And thank you for your post Dear 1. I was feelinf discouraged after that other post. I try so hard to help people. Not upset them.

LizSpring113 2012-03-02 19:23:41 -0600 Report

Hi Gang! I think you will be very pleased with what ADMINISTRATION and IT are working on. If it goes as planned, there will be an add button to the right of your profile pic
When you click on that a popup will appear. Two radio disls appear.tthe first one says Follow and bellow that ot says add this member's posts to your acti ity feed. This is for those who like a pre-friend for awhile. The second radio dial choice says also send friend request. Below that it states add this members posts to your activity feed and share private medsages and information
This one is for those who already made up their mimds and want to add the other person as a friend.
In either case, there is no sense of stalking and it also goes back to beimg as warm and fuzzy as it was before.

I hope you like it.

Anonymous 2012-03-03 15:14:46 -0600 Report

Liz they asked us to keep quiet about this until they could launch it.

LizSpring113 2012-03-03 15:51:30 -0600 Report

Dear Anomymous, please provide your name so we can speak to each other directly thru Inbox. Other than that, please be advised that the information you just stated was incorrect as some of us know it.. A CA on another site discussed it before myself. Obviously, neither of us were told. Also please be advised that lack of communication caused the problem in the first place. KUDOS to those in Administration who understand that communication to us is essential for trust, understanding and cooperatiom. I am sure that if IT has to alter the diesign in anyway that the people will unserstand. We are not IT Specialists so we do not know what is entailed to get it from a Prototype to reality. Thanks ago to all in Administration who understood that Communication calmed peoples fears, anxiety and tempers. Thank you for your input though. Your kindness is appreciated. Possibly, they chose to go public in this particular reason i ha e stated. People are very passionate about this stalking issue and people were already coming to the site less due to what they felt was lack of understandinf and empathy by Administration. Administration is redeeming themselves in the eyes of the gang by showing that they truly do care. That they ha e a prototype worked up that that are hard at work on but they dont know the exa t date that it will be out. In the meantime, with this knowledge in hand, we should be responding graciously and go back to coming to the Alliance sites as they used to. And get back into their friendly roles that they have not felt up to for a month or so now.
Thanks again!

Caroltoo 2012-03-02 19:43:06 -0600 Report

Sounds promising.

LizSpring113 2012-03-02 20:02:50 -0600 Report

I think so. I am very excited about the change. It might have been a bit tacky but i also asked them about giving us the ability to put the people that we comtact on a daily or weekly basis in a FAVORITES or FRequently Contacted area like cell phones have so we are less apt to forget someone and we can add or remove as many as we want to from that list but still keep the other list intact. Or keep them in them same list but move them to the front of rhe rest of the group. I was also hoping that they would give us a way to sort our friends group for those that have a lot.

LizSpring113 2012-03-02 20:23:22 -0600 Report

Yeh. I couldnt think of znything bit gavorites when i asled him about it. I che ked my new phone and ot says Ftequently Conta
cted which sounds much etyer. Your cat bests up on the neighbors dog???

LizSpring113 2012-03-02 21:29:24 -0600 Report

I suppose your cat doesnt feel like a bully? Ypu are a family counselor. Cats and dogs are com
Considered peoples children. Have you tried counselling???

Caroltoo 2012-03-02 21:44:11 -0600 Report

My cat is a house cat and VERY territorial. The big black one gets out to play and then comes and sits by our screen and taunts my cat. So, when he occasionally makes his escape through an open door, he goes to the neighbors to return the favor.

Actually, they have never fought. They just hiss and spit at each other. The black one has been in a number of fights with other cats who do attack (and gotten the bad end of the deal), so the neighbor is concerned about him. After several hundred in doctor bills, I don't blame her a bit.

Actually, I think if I left Pip out more often, he and Tiki would learn to coexist without the spitting. They are really just doing a territorial dance that looks aggressive…you know, like a maori dance at the Polynesian Cultural Center.

LizSpring113 2012-03-02 22:20:59 -0600 Report

It must be rather amusing to watch. I have a dog and when i take it o er to my cousin house, their 3 month old beagle picks on my 4 year old dog something fierce. She knows that he doesnt want to hurt her so she flirts with him all the more. I finally have to break it up so he gets some peace and quiet :)

Misspearl01 2012-03-01 12:24:07 -0600 Report

I prefer friends also
But love DC more than face book. At least here people are going through battles of a lifetime not what they are gonna make for dinner. All though diabetic recipes are welcome any hints. Getting tired ad the same old same old.

jayabee52 2012-03-01 13:12:43 -0600 Report

have you been to the recipe section Pearl? Lots of stuff there! Link which takes you there is toward the upper left of this page.

jayabee52 2012-03-01 11:47:30 -0600 Report

Hang on everyone! They're working on something which hopefully satisfies both those who prefer the use of friends and those who consider friends too familiar to be used with an online stranger. I pray that their fix comes out soon and pleases both sides in the debate.

Tess K.
Tess K. 2012-02-29 13:12:24 -0600 Report


LizSpring113 2012-02-29 13:52:22 -0600 Report

Thanks! I knew of someone in a large company that i worked for that was stalked by her ex husband. She worked in a different state than i did and i didnt know her personally but her immediate co-workers said she was very ni e. One day her
Ex came into the office. Shot and killed her and wounded several of her co
workers. With what is going on in the schools and work places by stalkers, bullies and others i can easily understand the fear or creepiness that a victim and their friends, relatives could feel will feel for the rest of their li es.

locarbarbie 2012-02-29 10:53:34 -0600 Report

Is this the actual "vote"? If so, I am all for "friends".

LizSpring113 2012-02-29 11:09:39 -0600 Report

Thanks! We are hoping to get enough votes so Administration will change it ba k. We want to explain that our request is not based on the fact that we are not fle i le to change. But rather we have a true concern for our fellow members. If we can get it changed back and help even one person from being upset we would have su ceeded but we know that there are msny many people who will be happy a put the change. If this were not the case, we wouldn't be asking.

JANETJANITO 2012-02-28 20:36:50 -0600 Report

I like friends better. I don't even like Twitter b/c i don't like the idea of following someone.

LizSpring113 2012-02-28 20:45:13 -0600 Report

Thats what i was thinkimg. FRIENDS ARE side by side supportimg one another. Following is like stalking and that is just plain creepy. Or they could be following miles behind you and what good is that? Give me a friend any day!
Thanks for your vote.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-02-28 15:58:47 -0600 Report

If we are already friends with the person, why do we have to follow them. Sounds impersonal and to me it seems that in order to remain friends, you have to follow the person. I think it should remain friends and eliminate "follow".

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