what should I do

By gymnasticsfreak1989 Latest Reply 2012-02-20 10:28:51 -0600
Started 2012-02-17 05:19:53 -0600

i love to cook, and eat healthy with an indulgence once in a while but my parents look at food as just a surviving method which makes me so mad because they just try to go as fast as they can to make something. i tell them how much i hate crap that comes from a jar but they still buy it, i cant eat oily products because it makes my stomach hurt which I take prilosec for but they still continue to make tacos and rice and all this stupid **** and when i cook all they care about is if im cleaning up. like last night i wanted to make chicken menuire and instead of me making my own sauce, they want me to use spaghetti sauce i mean what the *****, im fat because of them and they dont see it, they say its my fault, they act like ****** hillbillys, and if it offends anyone im sorry but im so pissed right now, so people tell me what to do!!!! please

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Misspearl01 2012-02-20 10:28:51 -0600 Report

I feel for ya I two have problems with some of my people. My boyfriend likes to add more to my plate with out me looking no matter how many times I tell him not to
My sisters hate it when I go to my moms because my mom god love her calls me to see If I can have this or that. I tell her to make what ever. I am trying. To do his all myself. Lot of tears and fristration. Has been shed. I never knew D was such a battle. Hang in there. I'm trying too

Jeanae 2012-02-19 09:25:33 -0600 Report

First) - let me say I am sorry they are not being more supportive of you. Sometimes people are not because they do not know how serious diabetes is. My Mother-In-Law (who is a retired nurse) told me when I was diagnosed that it just meant I couldn't have dessert and that I did this to myself." Wow. Sometimes people are not supportive because they are afraid of the changes it woud make to their life and their habits. So even though they are not supportive of you, I am sure they love you and they just have a different way of showing it.
Second) - take over the cooking and menu planning. Yes you wil probably have to clean up too and I won't lie- it can be a hassle but your health will improve and you will feel better. Plus you might discover an inner gourmet!
Third) - try and move past the anger. That stress is bad for your body, your mind and your well being. Redirect that energy into something positive for your sake as well as theirs, but mostly for YOUR sake.
Lastly) Hang in there. I don't know your age or your circumstances but you can do this. Yes sometimes you will feel alone in this journey. Yes, sometimes it can get depressing, discouraging, and just plain hard but you can do this. Take charge of your life. Good luck. I will be praying for you and please update so I can see how you are doing! Have a wonderful day and a great, positive week!

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-18 13:49:41 -0600 Report

Thanks for removing the foul language from the post as we do have underage members here.

jayabee52 2012-02-18 15:10:24 -0600 Report

That was probably done by a community manager since once posted the poster does not have the ability to edit. Undoubtedly someone red-flagged it and the community mgr edited it.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-18 16:00:06 -0600 Report

That is who I was thanking, as I reported it. I was concerned because we do have kids here, not to mention it was offensive for this forum. But I do hope she is able to find a solution to her problem, and feel free to ask for help here anytime. I know when we get mad, we may say things in a way we normally wouldn't do:)

jayabee52 2012-02-18 16:29:26 -0600 Report

I wasn't here yesterday so I didn't see it until after it was edited. Yes most websites have similar rules prohibiting profane language.

And some people use the F-word when ever, even when not mad. Their friends say it commonly, so there is no big deal for them to say it either. My son in the Navy is one who had used that word in that fashion. At least he did with me until I called his attention to it. He no longer says it with me. Don't know if he has cleaned up his language around his workplace. I suspect he has outside of his workplace as he has met and married a very nice young lady, and I think she might have said something to him about the issue also.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-18 16:44:25 -0600 Report

My husband has been playing hockey since age 8, and he did play some pro so I heard my fair share of cursing, but this was with the guys. He always kept himself in check when not in that situation and it amazed me he could. He said it was a matter of respect. Just another reason to love him.

But, you are right in people using prfanity in their every day life that they don't even care how they come across to others. I remember when it wasn't this way and more respect was given to others, manners.

jayabee52 2012-02-18 17:12:30 -0600 Report

my dad would use profanity around the farm and his brother (his farming partner) and of course I heard it growing up. He NEVER used it in mom's presence or in the presence of other women.

In my son's case I think he was so used to using it on the ship (a destroyer) that until I called him on it, he seemed to think it was not unusual. I reminded him that he wasn't raised that way and his mother and I never used that word, even to refer to the sexual act. (I would occasionally slip, usually by myself with nobody around and utter a profane word but never around people).

It is showing more respect to others, and what is more I can say the same thing in language which is acceptable to use in polite circles. Example you son of a b**** = "you puppy" or you b**** = "female dog" ect. I liked to be able to say equivalent words for profane words to see how many I could figure out how to best say them. It became like a game for me.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-19 10:43:16 -0600 Report

Yes it is showing respect which sadly our society does not do much of anymore. We raised our four kids to have manners, like opening doors, saying please and thank you etc…it's not that hard and parents are being lazy and hurting their children who do not do the same. I have a 25 yr old son that when his shift is over at night, if he is not the last driver in, he waits so the female dispatchers are not left in the office alone or if he is the last then he waits and walks them to their cars. This he does on his own and it makes me proud. I know when he is with his football buddies, he too can get cought up in the moment and use language he shouldn't. He would never write for help and use it, is what i'm saying.

locarbarbie 2012-02-17 15:50:54 -0600 Report

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. From reading your profile, you were diagnosed about 2 1/2 years ago, right? I can understand your frustation, in order to eat properly and eat healthy, it does need to be something that you enjoy for the most part. This is important so that you can stick to a healthy diet plan. It is also great that you enjoy cooking. It sounds as if your parents are a bit confused as to what is necessary for you as far as your diet is concerned. One possibility might be to have one or both attend a diabetic class with you to become more informed as to why it is important for you.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-17 12:48:50 -0600 Report

Understand being upset, but using profanity here is not ok, I think it is also not allowed?
You are in control of what you eat, so if they cook what you don't agree with, then don't eat it, or eat a small amount. You can always make something for yourself. You are old enough to take on the responsibility of
changing what, how and when you eat as well as exercising and stop the blaming and move on. I'm not sure if you work, but maybe you could buy your own food and prepare it for you and keep it seperate from theirs?

jayabee52 2012-02-18 15:07:05 -0600 Report

yes Darlene it is forbidden by the Terms of Use (TOU), something to which she agreed when she joined DC. Anyone can access the TOU easily since a link to it is at the bottom of every page on DC.

Harlen 2012-02-17 10:26:26 -0600 Report

I am so sorry your going thrue this But this is the place to vent ,you may wish to drop the F word for it makes you look bad not them ???
I do not eat out of a box iether it will make me sick.
Are you of age ? can you get out on your own ?Do you go to school or work ?
thrue out time the yung have always neleaved that the last gen where hilbillys lol

Ok this is what I would do
On one day make three meals just for you make as much as you need for the week and brake it down and freex it .
That way you can have what you need and only need to clean up one time then they will be off your back ????
Best wishes

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