Well, I did not think it would happen; but my daughters Graduation/25th Birthday party was a complete success.
I have learned a lot through this experience and what to expect of myself and others' because of my illness and my limitations. Because of the people here and their excellent advice about how to handle my upcoming party and preparations, and myself; I have realized that I can not do it all. I tried really hard, but then Thursday and Friday a good friend of my daughters' stepped in and basically, took over what I could not do myself. I did not have the choice to deny his offers. He was insistent, and came over and started in. I never let people help me do my work; and, like my husband says; I will never ask for help. I usually feel like I am taking up someone's time, or taking advantage of people. He did not make me feel that way; he just genuinely felt concerned about my health and how I would feel Saturday if I did it all myself; as did my husband, although my husband was still feeling his injuries from the accident the weekend before he did all he can.
I guess everyone was right, because the pain I had to endure the day of the party, was overwhelming, as I leaned on my cane. But, again, because of my family and friends, I was able to sit and enjoy my relatives, and everyone took over most of the cleaning up. That was good; I really have been feeling a severe amount of pain over what I have already done.
The biggest lesson I learned was to let go; while my expectations were still very high. I accepted the help, and let them take over, as my daughter did her cooking and put the faith in them that things would get done, and it did. With a little help from my friends.
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