Do you like the change from friending to following?

By pixsidust Latest Reply 2012-03-04 19:09:32 -0600
Started 2012-02-03 12:07:42 -0600

Everyone got the community update in their box
about the change of making friends by following first?

Diabetic Connect is an excellent site and venue
for those of us in need of community support for diabetic needs
either for ourselves or those we love.

I can not say enough good things about the offerings here
let alone the good folks who I am proud to call Friends.

So…that brings me to our new method to make friends.
You follow them first and if they follow you back then you are friends
Gone is the simple request to be friends.

Personally I put thought behind who I friend and do not reach out
to each one as some do here. Nothing wrong with that, they are
the saints who can handle so many. I try those I feel led to or have something in common with.

I can adjust to new and change if I must. Not all changes are good and not all change are necessary. Following has an impersonal feel to it. I may follow a company, a group or organization but not a person. Following a person has some negative connotations of its own. Stalkers follow.

I prefer the old way because it feels like a hand extended
in warmth to be my friend. Letting someone know I am following them
has lost that personal feel of caring and warmth. All the little tweaks to the system could still remain under the heading of friends.

I miss the gesture of warmth in the request of friendship vs following.
Do you like the change from friending to following?

17 replies

pixsidust 2012-03-04 19:09:32 -0600 Report

I am not happy with following. To my personal email I received an Email from DC that gave a sample of what they were thinking theres still following but they would also send out a friend request. Convoluted!

They need to get rid of following altogether. I gave feedback as such.
I send out my own message to be friends along with the following thing but now they want to do that too…for me.

We need to be heard to tell them to"DROP FOLLOWING ALTOGETHER"
"Do not repackage it".

Everyone please send an Email to John Crowley here and tell him that.

I thought they were getting it but after seeing that email. I know they
are not.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-02-03 14:41:05 -0600 Report

You know, I was thinking the same thing. I don't like the new way at all. It seems kind of creepy to know someone is following you, and that person may not want you to follow them back, which could cause a whole lot of problems here. I also don't get why anyone should be able to see how many followers and following a person has. Do they not think somethings should be kept private? We should be able to choose if we want those numbers to show, as well if we want to participate in the new way or stay the old way.

I like to check out posts and such before deciding who I befriend and have a more personal touch, they have taken that option away from me and it really ticks me off!!!
It was fine before, other then the dislike being conveniently not available. I guess maybe they are bored as they sure as heck haven't put enough thought behind this:(

I cherish the friends that I have and hope to make more, but in a positive, caring, and friendly manner.

nzingha 2012-02-05 15:22:09 -0600 Report

i dont understand what this following thing is about… i tried reaching out to all the people who have friend requested me and am happy to say they all responded even once…

edvel54 2012-02-03 13:47:54 -0600 Report

I would rather have my friends, rather than followers.

pixsidust 2012-02-03 14:01:25 -0600 Report

lets let them know!

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2012-02-03 13:13:06 -0600 Report

I think it is a case where the team is trying to hard to fix something that they thought was broke, but I liked it just the way it was, there is too much going on here now and as Pat said I choose whom I friend or if the case may be unfriend. I follow the posts that catch my eye not the posters, I would more prefer an Iggy button than a follow button after he mess here last month.

pixsidust 2012-02-03 13:20:28 -0600 Report

I knew you would say this and that why you are my friend.
It wasn't broke! The upgrade really isn't an upgrade just trying to keep up with the trend terms but when its personal one on one it does not apply in my book. We could do all that is offered now under our friend heading. Thank goodness last month is over in more ways than one!

Young1s 2012-02-03 12:53:51 -0600 Report

Nope! Can't say I do, Christy. I'm with you, in that, I like the extending an olive branch approach making friends.

I don't necessarily have a problem with Following per se, because that's kind of what I do anyways. If I come across a person in discussions that I want to become friends with, I may check out their profile and other discussions, then send the request. I assume that others do the same.

But I think the old way felt more special, and yes, it was more personal. To me it meant that someone thinks that your contributions are helpful and appreciated. Sure this way means the same thing but we're talking about the friending aspect of it.

And what if someone is Following someone else and the Following isn't reciprocated? Are they to assume that that means the other person doesn't want to be friends? I can see how it can be interpreted as such and could be very hurtful to someone.

How about meeting in the middle? Maybe, give us the option to do both?

pixsidust 2012-02-03 13:20:58 -0600 Report

I agree

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