seeking advice about parenting a Type 1

By jani Latest Reply 2013-03-17 06:08:39 -0500
Started 2008-05-11 17:06:30 -0500

I worry a lot as a parent how I should react when my 16 year old son has a high blood sugar, or several high blood sugars in a day. Sometimes, he feels that I get overly stressed and it really annoys him. But I don't want to act like it's no big deal either because I care about him and his future health. Any advice on how I can help him know that I am concerned about his blood sugar without annoying him and causing him not to share how his diabetes management is going?

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Set apart
Set apart 2013-03-17 06:08:39 -0500 Report

I am a T1, but was diagnosed as a woman so I don't know what's it like as a teenager. I do however have a nephew whom was diagnosed at 5 years old and he doesn't take care of himself. A while back his Endo actually had him see some of his patients with him, who were already experiencing the complications of Diabetes, this helped a little. He sometimes still thinks that it only will affect as an adult. I think now that he's 20 and has been hospitalized 4 times in the last year he is beginning to realize how serious it is! Don't think I helped, but tried!

Deb-G 2010-03-18 13:30:02 -0500 Report

Although I dont have a diabetic child, I have two teens…and I was a diabetic teen myself…Kids his age think parents overact about EVERYTHING…My oldest has a severe Asthma and she thinks I get too excited when she gets a cold and I hear that same cough…but then its me she's looking to to help her when she cant get air in…So I have this rule…My house, my way lol…You know I know she would rather I care too much then not at all…so she deals with it…Kids that age make dumb choices…as parents…its our job to bug them…and one day they will bug their own…I tell her its because I love her so deal with it…and she rolls her eyes…but you know…she does deal with it…lol…he'll appreciate you later :) Keep up the good work in caring :)

Melissa Dawn
Melissa Dawn 2008-07-23 12:58:02 -0500 Report

I remember when I was a teenager wanting to keep my sugar levels from my mom because I didn't want her reactions. I think you have to have a conversation about why you're concerned. Make sure its not about "What did you do wrong" and more about "How can this improve?" Diabetes can be very harsh on your self esteem if you're doing the best you can and still having unexpected highs and lows. Just be sensitive to that fact.

Good luck!

John 2008-07-13 00:46:54 -0500 Report

I on't know what this site thinks of mentioning forums, but there's a couple you may be interested in. is designed for youth. Unfortunately it's not real active. is designed for parents, but anyone is welcome. It's great for parenting issues, but I find it's a little thin on diabetes management. A place like diabetic connect with real diabetics excels in that.

stef 2008-06-27 03:13:03 -0500 Report

My son is 9 and also type 1. I let him choose his snacks which are mostly the 100 calorie snacks and or lucnh meats and cheese, diet soda, simple things that will help lower his blood sugars.

Is your son active??

I also have involved his grandparents and ordering books and cookbooks and let him pick the recipes and have him help cooking.

What about the public library in your area to get him info, the library near me also has some cook books for diabetics.

I hope that this helps

morris.js 2008-06-27 03:20:18 -0500 Report

Can you get him interested in joining this "community"? There are other teenagers here that can relate to his particular feelings and problems. It might help him to accept your involvement a bit more, but if not, at least he will have others his own age to bounce things off of.

optimalirish 2008-06-16 05:48:53 -0500 Report

Hormones in your sons body may be a factor in his blood sugars. Even though I am female, I remember all the ups and downs of puberty. Try to get your son to make his own appointments and to make his own lists of questions to ask when he goes to the appointment. He will feel like he has a more active role in his care.

gabrg 2008-06-24 07:24:12 -0500 Report

I recently decided to take a hyatus from working and let my wife take care of the finances for a bit. God love her.. I know I do; she's not as good with his sugars.. She doesn't know how to tell him no when it comes to snacks between meals. She took him to an appointment one time that I missed and came back sayint the doctor said that if his A1C wasn't brought down (it was high.. Sometimes the glucometer read "Hi" (meaning 5oo+)) that he could be blind if not dead by the time he was 16. It's especially difficult when a child is maybe too young to understand why he can't have all the foods and sweets that his friends are having. I know that even at an older age it must be hard.. I'm proud to hear that people are handling it so well and that there's somewhere I can go where people actually understand. Because as a general rule…They Don't! In my experience the best thing to do is to be stern, but nurturing at the same time and hope it sticks.. So far, anyway.

Nopainnogain 2008-05-24 16:12:16 -0500 Report

As a 16yearold myself, I can completely relate. I HATE my parents involvement, and I feel my medical condition is something I like to care of myself. High blood sugars are common, especially for teenagers, and though you may be worried, I am sure, if he cares for himself, that it is manageable.

tm1957 2008-05-11 17:59:05 -0500 Report

HI! Jani,

All kids at this age will get annoyed but he has to know what can happen if he doesn"t start taking care of himself. My kids are not diabetic, but they still don't want to listen to MOM. I started taping articals on the fridge for them to read and now they come to me when they are ready to talk. It does help to get the point across. Hope this helps.

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