What to do when all you want to do is cry but cant?

TsalagiLenape
By TsalagiLenape Latest Reply 2012-01-20 15:16:41 -0600
Started 2012-01-17 20:29:45 -0600

The reason I ask this is because my BG's go off the wall when I cry. For I can cry more than a newborn with colic. Yet this doesnt help the situation(s) that I am dealing with. Tired of having my rage or temper let loose. Cant see my therapist for no money for gas. Yet husband thinks I am stupid to where I cant add up all the money he has been spending. I get maybe XXX dollars every two weeks. Yet getting oil for heating around YYY dollars, I have not much else to use for any other bills. I only have a cell phone yet need it for the doctors for my father-in-law who has prostate cancer, who lives with me, doesnt want to move to the new house in another town; and myself for medical and maybe a job. Yet I strive to find ways to do as best as I can manage what I have. Please I am NOT asking for money, pity, sympathy or anything like that. I just need to release this and not in a destructive way. I have called other agencies with no results thus far. So sorry if this is upsetting but I know I will make it in due time. Just very hard with this on my mind and thus far no answers. Ugh! Thank you for letting me vent. Hugs MMM


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Caroltoo
Caroltoo 2012-01-19 14:13:47 -0600 Report

Temi,

Joyce makes some good suggestions for when you are ready to move forward.

If you are still in the venting stage, you might try some physical way to let out the anger without hurting anyone.

I have a friend who lives in cold country who used to go beat up a pine tree. (She stopped when she shook one so hard, it dropped snow down her back.)

Another acquaintance beats up a pillow with her tennis racqet (eventually the racquet broke and she didn't need to replace it.)

A third has confessed to getting on hands and knees and pounding the floor until she relized how silly she must look with her butt in the air!

Point is, physical activity does relieve stress. Your BG may go up for a while, but it will come down. Meanwhile with reduced stress, you can think more clearly.

Find a silly physical activity to do and you may laugh your way back to health!

Carol

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-01-19 13:57:21 -0600 Report

Tsal­agiL­enap­e, I know how you feel. I use to have an anger problem but with therapy I learned how to make it work for me instead of against me. I also learned to ask myself is it really worth getting angry. In most cases getting angry isn't worth the time. I also learned to ask myself can I control the situation that made me angry. I realized I couldn't so I stopped worrying about things out of my control.

It isn't easy with the economy the way it is. Crying isn't helping you. Take one day at time. Contact your county and find out if you qualify for EBT (food stamps), see if they have an energy assistance program to help with gas and electric and fuel if you need it. Try to reach Joe 4 Oil at 1-877-563-4645. Look around your area for mental health groups, some of them may be free or offer a sliding fee scale also find out if they offer free anger management assistance. Catholic Charities has agencies all over the place and will help even if you are not Catholic. Also contact your local Churches. Some might help even if you are not a member or may know where you can get help.

The energy you use in anger can be turned to your advantage. Good luck.

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2012-01-20 15:15:46 -0600 Report

Thank you Just Joyce. I usually do that. Venting lets it out so I can figure out what to do. Yet until he decides to move out which he claims he cant due to his probation for a DUI, I cant apply. Yet that is changing so I can take care of his Dad who has prostate cancer is 75 years old and doesnt want to move. My Father-in-law doesnt want to do radiation. So I am going to make his last days better as best as I can. So I can do what I can when I can. Yet hoping by next week to get an interview done and move forward. In time I know I can then get what I need. Hugs

Set apart
Set apart 2012-01-18 20:49:41 -0600 Report

You picked the perfect place to vent go for it! I do this is my release, I will also keep you in my prayers, no pity just like God says, "where there are more than one, let them pray in my name and I will hear them". Blessings my friend!

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