Where would you like to be this afternoon?

By Caroltoo Latest Reply 2012-01-30 18:35:07 -0600
Started 2012-01-16 19:27:06 -0600

Let's have a little fun. Diabetes is serious stuff and we are all really treatment oriented and trying to improve our diets, exercise plans, and BGS. This is all very valid, but there is missing piece.

Our mental health contributes immensely to how we cope with stress and how our BGs respond to stress. Relaxation and guided imagery are ways to deal with stress. Relaxation techniques like this sometimes get bad press as not being reality based but, gee, when think about what our reality is, why would we not want a time out? When the stress gets too bad, I like to do is to take a mini-vacation in my mind. It doesn't cost me anything except a little time and I can go anywhere I want.

If you could be anywhere in the world this afternoon, where would it be? Would you be alone or with someone? What would you be doing? (OK, you romantic types may need to sensor this response in view of our "family friendly" website.) How would you spend your perfect afternoon?

When you are really stressed out over the complications and hardships in your life whether they are from diabetes, finances, relationships, or other losses, this is a fantasy you can create again in your own mind and a safe and pleasant place where you can seek a few moments of respite.

So where would you go?

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MrsCDogg 2012-01-30 18:16:51 -0600 Report

I'm a little late on this too but here goes…If I could be anywhere else it would be in our new house with all the work done sitting in the family room in front of the fire…:o)

AuntieBear 2012-01-26 03:10:10 -0600 Report

Ok, I am a little later than most in posting this. I am going to post anyway. My perfect afternoon would be spent in the Black Hills of South Dakota with a really good 35mm film camera and an unlimited supply of film as well as a decent digital camera with a memory card that would hold over a thousand photos. I would spend the afternoon photographing the snow as it glistens peacefully upon the landscape, I would photograph winter critters frolicking in the snow and I would just. . . . Well who am I trying to kid here? Stick me in the Black Hills with oodles of film and oodles of digital camera memory and I will shoot just about everything I can get sight of long enough to take my shot. I love the Black Hills and would love to shoot it in the snow. Of course when I was finished I would need a humongous hot cocoa, a jacuzzi, a warm fire in the fireplace and pain meds to ease the arthritis flare-up I would have from being in the cold. But Oh how it would be worth it!!!

Caroltoo 2012-01-26 06:28:33 -0600 Report

You are just welcome to join this party anytime the spirit moves you, so come right on in.

Black Hills in winter — a beautiful sight and a photographer's dream. Hot chocolate, jacuzzi and a warm fire don't sound half bad either, but let's just skip the arthritis all together. After all, this is a fantasy!!

pandalays 2012-01-25 03:31:14 -0600 Report

Oh !Good.I would love to be at bangalore in my sons house and play with my little granson who six months old.cuddle him and enjoy playing with him.

berryj09 2012-01-22 20:13:05 -0600 Report

Paris always wanted to go…

Caroltoo 2012-01-22 20:52:44 -0600 Report

Hi, Berry, that would be a trip wouldn't it? Eiffel Tower, boats on the Seine, old city, lots of sights and history were made there! Any particular spot intrigue you?

CaliKo 2012-01-22 17:52:20 -0600 Report

Italy. It was my favorite vacation ever.

Caroltoo 2012-01-22 20:48:30 -0600 Report

Where did you go? My short list is Capri, Florence, Rome, Tuscany, and maybe towards the Alps. I'm a history buff, so there is lot's of interest to me in the "boot".

CaliKo 2012-01-22 21:25:25 -0600 Report

Landed in Rome, spent several days there. Took a train to Florence, spent a few days there. Spent a day in Sienna, a day in Pompeii, a day on the Amalfi coast. There is so much in Italy, we didn't have enough time to do nearly everything. I fell in love with the people, the countryside, the history, the lifestyle, … the wine, the olive oil, the pasta, the pizzas from stone ovens on the street, the cheese, the chocolate… I could go on and on.

CaliKo 2012-01-22 21:59:59 -0600 Report

I'm making me jealous, too, I want to go back! And it was pre-D, my last pre-D vacation. I would like a few pre-D days anywhere.

Caroltoo 2012-01-22 22:08:05 -0600 Report

True, but once you get it under your good management, you can go back and have a glorious post-D visit there again.

CaliKo 2012-01-22 22:23:47 -0600 Report

I like that idea! :-) I'm under good management now, maybe I should start planning! And 35 pounds lighter. That run for the train station in Sienna would be a bit easier these days. There was a train strike, and rather than make travel impossible, they just made it more difficult. There was only only train back to Florence that day. Of course, worst case, a night spent in another Tuscany town…

classof78 2012-01-21 22:26:32 -0600 Report

I would have to say O'Hare Int'l Airport-snow and all. I took my daughter to the bus station in Cedar Rapids IA yestrday to catch a bus to Chicago. Then from there she flew from O'Hare to LA. She is in the air as I write this. Her original bus from Waterloo was cancelled due to the snow storm. We made it to CR thru blowing snow and white-outs. We arrived as they were loading passengers. I wish I could have had more time with her.

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 22:36:21 -0600 Report

Sounds like you got her there safely and you are home ok despite the weather, so congratulations on a good start. What is she planning when she gets to LA?

We parents are so funny (and I hope you can laugh with me as I say this): when they are little we want them to grow up and stop being babies, then they become teens and we either wish for the cute little 3-4 year old or want them to grow up some more, and then they are their own and we suddenly realize what wonderful young adults they are and wish we could have more time with them. Typical child/family development has to be viewed with a touch of whimsy!

I hope you were able to enjoy all those stages with her as she grew up. I did with my son and cherish memories from each age and stage. He is now 40 and the father of two.

pandalays 2012-01-25 05:12:53 -0600 Report

Very true and now i wish they come home after school.I watch their school bus everyday.But i know things has happen this way and enjoy.Even i enjoyed bringing up both my kids myson and my daughter.Days were very busy.24hrs wasnt enough to make a day!

pandalays 2012-01-25 07:14:38 -0600 Report

Oh no my daughter is in chicago and my son lives here in india.Though i talk to her everyday i get to see her only once a year.

Caroltoo 2012-01-25 07:19:27 -0600 Report

Oh, I am sorry to hear that. I live in Kailua, Hawaii and my son lives in Burleson, Texas. I don't get to see him or my two grandchildren very often either!

Were the pictures of you in the snow taken in Chicago while you were visiting your daughter? They are what led me to ask once if you were here in the U.S. also. For some reason, my impression that photo was that it was taken somewhere in the northern part of the US.

pandalays 2012-01-26 00:04:08 -0600 Report

oh yes! the photo was taken when we were with our daughter at michigan.but dont remember seeing you asking me if we were in us.we were in michigan for a holiday.We travelled wide .We visited 14 states.We had agreat time.saw almost every thing like tallest building largest lake and the longest bridge,it was wonderful.Above all that being with our daughter made it even greater!

Caroltoo 2012-01-26 00:15:08 -0600 Report

Sounds like it was a terrific trip for all of you. Many of us who live here couldn't claim to have seen 14 states. Impressive trip.

The question came up a month or more ago when you posted the snow picture and them some of your home. I kept thinking the details in the photo of the wood carvings looked like India, but the snow looked like the US. I think my question was in response to a gift or something not to obvious…you may have missed it completely.

classof78 2012-01-21 23:39:01 -0600 Report

She is attending West Coast Baptist College in Lancaster CA. I just checked and the plane has landed, so now she has about 1 1/2 hrs of drive time to get back "home". I loved having my kids little, and am proud of them now, but one is in CA and one in WA-I miss them.

Caroltoo 2012-01-22 00:22:38 -0600 Report

So true. I did most of my growing up in the So. Cal. area. Upland, Rancho Cucamonga, Riverside, later Costa Mesa, Tujunga; quite familiar with Lancaster. It's a drive w/r/t time, but not a difficult drive. I moved from that area to WA, then over here to HI. I'm glad you enjoyed them in all stages. It makes parenting such a rich experience. My husband is an ordained Bapt. minister, long since retired, but spent 5 years on the mission field. His brother spent his entire life in South America on the Amazon, and his sister in Manilla with her husband.

Caroltoo 2012-01-22 14:16:45 -0600 Report

Jack Hough. Jack went out under a Canadian board and later became their exec. Jack's son Tom Hough is now living there on the Amazon where he grew up.

Lydickk 2012-01-21 10:28:58 -0600 Report

My answer is simple. About 50-100 miles north of here where the real snow is falling. All we got was a light dusting covered by slushy ice. We are still getting a light drizzle off and on in Baltimore County, MD which is just below Baltimore City. That means I can't even have fun cleaning off my car since I need the layer of snow that is still on it to buffer the new mess that is coming down and would create a sheet of ice on the windshield if it were not protected by the existing coat of snow. Bummer . . . we got ripped off yet again. And yes, I am a snow bunny - I love the stuff. Anyone have the number for the police district that covers snow theft? Our local police department doesn't seem to think theft of predicted snow is a crime.

classof78 2012-01-21 23:40:02 -0600 Report

We got 7" of real snow. (Waterloo, IA) Come on over-bring a shovel!

Lydickk 2012-01-22 05:31:43 -0600 Report

Can't get there and back in time to make it to work on time tomorrow where I'm really needed. Can you ship it to arrive 4:30 pm or later tomorrow? All I have to show for yesterday's snow is slick walkways and a car covered lightly in snow that is now encrusted by ice. Boring . . .

Young1s 2012-01-21 16:27:53 -0600 Report

I was feeling like you until I woke up and saw it coming down quite nicely. It was continuous until about a few hours ago, but there's more acoming. I'm as happy as a pig in slop. Sorry so little for you though. But there's still time yet. I was saying earlier today, it just doesn't feel like winter without snow on the ground.

Lydickk 2012-01-21 17:23:14 -0600 Report

Ok - I'm desperate. We got a little dusting which is now covered entirely by ice. All that can be done with is is slide around on it which the kids have been doing outside my apartment window all day. Luckily I'm in the 3rd floor. I feel rather sorry for the 1st floor residents. Where are you located and can you bring some of your nice new snow over? After all, it is nice to share.

Young1s 2012-01-21 17:40:39 -0600 Report

LOL!! I'll overnight it to you, cause I don't see myself making it to Maryland any time soon. I'm just a few states away in Massachusetts.

Lydickk 2012-01-21 17:58:54 -0600 Report

OK!!!! Fantastic!!!! Can you get it here tomorrow at the latest? If not it will probably arrive while I'm at work . . . be delivered to the rental office where they will let it melt or be returned back to UPS or the post office where they will also take it inside to melt. That would be a real waste.

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 16:05:04 -0600 Report

Karen, what a surprise. You live right near where I was born. My parents lived in Olney and I arrived by emergency cesarean in the hospital in, then rural, Silver Spring. Mom says I got my name because of the docs & nurses taking a sleigh ride around the hospital singing Christmas Carols (BD: 12/19). That is all that saved me from being named Henrietta (shudder) after my father.

Lydickk 2012-01-21 17:20:55 -0600 Report

You're right - Both areas are a hop, skip, or jump away. I was a surprise premi - My parents lived in Baltimore (actually Sparrows Point Edgemere Jones Creek area) since my they both moved here from PA and got married when my dad found work at Bethlehem Steel. They were going back to Pennsylvania for her mom's funeral and I was born 2 months premature at 3 lb 2 oz (hard to tell that now) in Indiana, PA. She missed the funeral and I ended up there perfectly healthy but stuck being spoiled by hospital staff in an incubator for 6 weeks. Small world! And, unfortunately, I didn't have your luck with my birth names. Mom pick one and dad the other - plain old Karen Jane - add the last name Lydick and the worst I got out of it was a boring spelling and teased in elementary school when we began writing our names because Jane was a character in our reading book AND my parents didn't know the alphabel, i.e. KJL instead of JKL.

dietcherry 2012-01-21 16:17:38 -0600 Report

LOLOLOL A Carol by any other name would still be a treasure!! ;)

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 16:40:32 -0600 Report

Oh, thank you, Renee, but a "Henrietta?!" Makes me think of chicken little and the sky is falling!!!! Do you remember that utterly silly story???

Young1s 2012-01-21 17:46:43 -0600 Report

I remember that. Along with Make Way For Ducklings and Where The Wild Things Are. Oh, and Fun With Dick And Jane. Haha!! Or were these after chicken little?

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 16:53:20 -0600 Report

At least in the version that I heard, but that was about 20 years before you did and things do morph in the telling. Who knows. I don't think actualy that I ever saw a book, I believe it was one of the stories my mom told.

dietcherry 2012-01-21 17:02:25 -0600 Report

No wait Henny Penny was a hen so thats probably where the Henny came in. I remember the episode of The Golden Girls where they did a school play of Chicken Little; thats still my favorite TV show!

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 17:07:31 -0600 Report

Ah, missed that one. I'm thinking my mom must have been a little more creative than I realized! I was a "war baby" and mom's creativity was about all I had to play with in those earliest years and the mind was fertile!

squog master
squog master 2012-01-20 22:49:10 -0600 Report

My answer takes in location AND time. Right now I would love to be in mid April. That would mean I've gone thru and recuperated from my upcoming surgery. And I'm out coaching on the baseball field again. I haven't been there since the emergency hernia surgery in 2009 & I miss it sooooo much. :( But then again I still have to wait for the pelvis fracture to heal. Well, I can still be a bench coach.

margokittycat 2012-01-20 19:22:24 -0600 Report

I would have to go to Hawaii, with my husband. Kick back in the sand and soak up some ray's. Go swimming and maybe take surfing lessons, I have always wanted to learn how to surf.

I watch Dog The Bounty Hunter on TV all the time and they live in Hawaii and it would be fun to kick back with them.

Some Nice drinks a great food and maybe a little dancing would be nice too.

Caroltoo 2012-01-20 22:31:19 -0600 Report

I'm beginning to get the idea that we ought to have a conference here and do a Diabetic Bootcamp or something similar mornings and have afternoons free to explore the island.

Surfing lessons happen daily in Waikiki and Standup Paddle out at Haleiwa. There is an ranch over here on the Windward side where they have horseback riding, hummer exploration tours, and bus tours of the ranch which is where several movies have been filmed.

Interestingly, while Dog and family do live here, they are very extremely low-key here…never see them on t.v. or in the paper.

margokittycat 2012-01-21 18:36:18 -0600 Report

I would really like to be there now after running a girlscout cookie booth from 8:30-4 in 16 degree weather a freezing. The store said the area had a heater and it would be fine if it was cold, but we did not feel heat at all. My feet are still frozen.

margokittycat 2012-01-21 21:47:18 -0600 Report

Oh I had two that stayed for an hour and one that stayed for a 1/2 hour and my daughter and I were there all day. I have a friend who has two little girls in our 5 troops and she lives two blocks from where we where I text her and asked her if she had any blanks we could borrow because the girls and I were freezing and she said be there in a minute and she dropped of 4 heavy blankets to us and we each rapped up in one it help some but not a lot. I really felt sorry for the girlscouts over at the walmart store because Walmart does not let you set up in the store or in the lobby and they had to set outside in the freezing cold and with that wind it was worse. I am finally defrosted.

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 21:56:12 -0600 Report

I hope you feel it was worth it … people do lots of snacking of carbs especially in cold weather. Glad your friend brought blankets … it can get so cold and penetrating.

One year while I was living on the side of the US/CAN border, my mom called me to tell me we were going to need to repair her steps. We had a cold front come down from Alaska the night before and her step had frozen and split right down the middle.

Here's to warmer days ahead! Where's a diabetic hot chocolate recipe when you need one?

margokittycat 2012-01-22 08:44:32 -0600 Report

It was worth it we sold we sold 140 boxes of cookies. I am going to talk to the Girls Scout counsol and see about getting a sugar free Girl Scout cookie. We are replacing one next year and I had several people as if we had one yesterday.

Caroltoo 2012-01-19 14:58:03 -0600 Report

I'm really enjoying sharing this fun topic with all of you. Today, I've planned an afternoon of self-care for me. Here's how it is planned.

First, the nitty-gritty of life:
have to bathe and feed my husband, then put him down for a long nap during my afternoon. (He sleeps 8-10 hrs at a time now and is up 2X/day; also have neighbors who will take a peak at him sleeping just to be sure he's ok.)

Then, for me, myself, alone—here's the plan:

Lunch at the Greek Marina: cute waterfront restaurant in Hawaii Kai that has a wonderful Greek salad, moussaka, and baklava.
Chiropractor appt: new doc, hopefully less back pain and more sleep.
Shopping: mostly looking, but relaxing.
Walk: along the beach in Ala Moana Park (see my photos)
Dinner: little Japanese restaurant in Honolulu
Massage: heavenly relaxation for 2 hours!!
Home for a good night's sleep.

See, I do practice what I preach! Talk to you all tomorrow. Bye for now.

squog master
squog master 2012-01-20 22:55:26 -0600 Report

Baklava! YUMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2012-01-21 01:11:31 -0600 Report

One afternoon last month at work a resident's family gave us a huge tray of Baklava. I told my coworker to lock it in the Med Room. He did and he had the key that shift. For my supper break he let me go in and I took the smallest piece. The next night when I returned to work only 4 pieces remained. I was alone all night with the Baklava and the med room key. There were 3 pieces left in the morning.

Caroltoo 2012-01-20 23:02:17 -0600 Report

Melt in your mouth yummy. What I had a hard time beliieving is that my BG did NOT go up despite the Baklava and pita. It was all soooo delicious. Unfortunately, my gluten intolerance has made a few rumbling remarks about it, but nothing too bad.

Caroltoo 2012-01-20 22:25:47 -0600 Report

Report: turned out to be a lovely afternoon and I'm feeling much more relaxed today which is a good thing cause Wayne and I ended up having a serious end-of-life discussion this afternoon and I needed my wits about me.

sonas 2012-01-19 14:41:10 -0600 Report

Carol my afternoon would be spent in a hot public square in Buenos Aires sipping a cool drink watching a couple of slim sleek dancers doing the tanco to exciting accordeon music!!! so sensous so enticinf so uplifting !!!

Caroltoo 2012-01-19 14:44:27 -0600 Report

Now that is a visual that I like and it doesn't have a beach in it! Don't know how much you have read of these responses, Brendan, but most seem to have a tropical beach.

That is why I've always been intrigued by Flamenco: beat, heat, sensuality.

sonas 2012-01-19 14:50:25 -0600 Report

Beach is probably too obvious
but ihave seen Tango on film and live once in Sisily
i defy anyone to remain unmoved when watchingTango or any South American dancing !talk about a prelude to love!!!!

of course a dusky Hawainn beauty in a grass skirt flashing eyes come -hither look is hard to beat as well!
and judging by your passion for sport and activity
i bet you could fit the bill eminently !!!

fantasy rules!!!!

sonas 2012-01-19 16:19:31 -0600 Report

Carol i think im seeing a new side to your personality
lots of passion excitement and a willingness to take on the world

can you bottle all that energy???

lovely to see you "on top of the world""
your true home
take care
kindest regards

Caroltoo 2012-01-21 02:40:06 -0600 Report

Thank you, Brendan. I'm not usually as subdued as I have been for this past year. Watching Wayne fade away has had a definite impact. He and I had a rather serious discussion this afternoon about whether or not he is dying (now, not some vague point in the future).

It was hard to say: I want to keep you comfortable, to call the doctor if you are in unusual pain, or if you want to see her. I know you have asked to be able to stay here at home. What do you think is happening now?

He replied that he thought he was ok here, not in pain more than his meds could handle, and wondered if this was not nearly the end of his life.

The energy you are seeing right now is the real me, but it is also a reaction to the reality of coming death. I have been so close to this man, that I have, at times, felt I was dying with him. Periodically, I realize that and pull away from it rather violently. On a very deep level, that is what I am doing now. Rejecting some form of emotional sati even as I try to help him find peace and acceptance of his own death.

sonas 2012-01-22 11:13:32 -0600 Report

Carol i do feel for you in your dilemma
you are part of Wayne as he is part of you
its almost as if you have to make the decision for him

Awesome responsibility!

you are emotionally torn at the moment
but you are so caring of others
you almost feel guilty for having feelings wants and desires of your own
i know tha t femininity and outgoingness is part of you and yuo cannot subdue it

luxuriate in those times when you are just being kind to yourself
let your heart roam wherever it takes you
and live in the moment
im glad you confide in me tho im no expert
thinking of you Carol
kindest regards
let me hug you today
chat soon

love hearing from yuo

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