Do You Share The Fact That You Are Diabetic?

BarryE
By BarryE Latest Reply 2009-03-10 16:21:48 -0500
Started 2008-11-07 21:34:05 -0600

If I am asked, which is usually after someone sees my ID on my wrist, I have no problem in telling anyone that yes I am diabetic. I still get surprised at how many people, even those of us who have it, don't really know alot and are thirsty for the knowledge needed to manage it.

Do you share the fact?


69 replies

Pauline B
Pauline B 2009-03-10 16:21:48 -0500 Report

I do, as it's a chance to correct the misconceptions and errors that many people have about the several kinds of diabetes. And when they see me eating foods that they think I should not be eating, it's a chance to give my lecture about "all foods in moderation" and the role of exercise.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2009-03-10 16:01:50 -0500 Report

I tell everyone. All my close co-workers know. I want people to know just in case something happens. My 8 year old daughter even knows how to call 911 and tell them whats wrong and call her dad at work.

Anngelia
Anngelia 2009-03-10 15:20:42 -0500 Report

I have always been very open about the fact that I am diabetic. I figure it is not something that I asked for it is just what happened. So if someone doesnt feel positive about me they just need to go away and get over it.

Sarguillo
Sarguillo 2009-03-09 18:58:10 -0500 Report

I am open about it and will talk abou it if asked. I remember when I was in high school, a buddy of mine that I used to go fishing with was T1. i didnt know what that meant. He just said if he ever passed out, get him to a hospital as fast as possible. Leave the boat and fishing equipment. He never explained it past that. I wonder what hes doing now. Lost touch with him about 20 years ago.

MeiMei
MeiMei 2009-03-09 11:09:00 -0500 Report

I will if given the chance, lately I have not had the chance.

tabby9146
tabby9146 2009-03-09 11:32:11 -0500 Report

yes I do, usually on a need to know basis, but I am not ashamed of it. I've been more vocal lately, because I want to show people that yes, there are diabetics who are doing well, and can live normal healthy lives. With all of the weight loss,a nd being at an ideal weight now, I try to let them know that this can be acheived with diet and exercise, especially those who are only on a pill and that it isn't hard , we don't have to go hungry, or deprive ourselves. People are so amazed at the things I can eat and how well I eat, and how 'often' I eat and still lost the weight.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-09 12:16:45 -0500 Report

Way to go to everyone. It isn't something we should be ashamed of and we should feel good about talking about it to friends and family. I know sometimes when someone looks at me and they say ,"Gee Mark you are looking a little low, what's up?" Then I tell them and they look back and say you don't look like you have diabetes! I have to laugh. Sometimes if I am in the right mood (cocky) I'll say , what am I suppose to look like? IfI am (normal) I just let it go and say well do you know what diabetes looks like and then I explain. Mostly lately I have been cocky because it seems it is adults my age that say the dumbest things. That shows me how little awareness we have as diabetics in this world and that is why I am trying to make that awareness better.

2009-03-09 20:40:42 -0500 Report

Yep Mark, I've found a sense of humor is better sometimes than an injection!! When you are dealt the deck of cards we have been dealt, you have to have a good sense of humor!

2catty
2catty 2009-03-04 21:23:51 -0600 Report

I share the fact all the time if asked or if the need comes up. I usually get something like oh you must be T1 cause you are so young. I say no I am T2 and have been since probably 17 but did not get diagnosed till 26.

optimalirish
optimalirish 2009-03-04 21:04:54 -0600 Report

I am type 1 and I wear my pump in plain sight. I have people ask me if it's my phone. I say no, but it is my lifeline. You'd be surprise at actually how many people do know what it is. I am currently doing an internship for school with the local sheriff's office. I have decided not to say anything about my being a diabetic. I fell, even in this day and age, that it will hurt my chances of getting hired on if they knew. I don't what to pass all the requirements and then not get it

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-04 02:37:41 -0600 Report

I do share the fact. In fact we have started a community where people can stand tall and say I am diabetic and proud. Also a petition to get President Obama to have a recognition day where people can say I am diabetic and proud. I know we have an alert day at the end of March but this day would be different. in that it is solely built around pride.

Anyway I do share and now I tell people I Am DIabetariffic. My new word. I just wrote about that also.
It work when asked how do you feel? You don't look like your a diabetic?

Share it! Let other know you are Diabetariffic. There not!

datzme
datzme 2009-03-03 22:15:27 -0600 Report

I first was going to hide it but I had to face this mess head on so if anyone wants to know not a problem I am not ashamed of myself and honestly there are far more things that I could have that are worse then this.

2009-03-03 20:29:27 -0600 Report

Why should something we didn't ask for, be hidden, or be ashamed of having?

dj7110
dj7110 2009-03-02 01:13:21 -0600 Report

My family of course all know I am. but when I'm out in public and others look at me strange when I inject insulin I inform them I'm diabetic.. I come from one of them small towns (less than 1,000 people) where everyone knows one another. Would rather everyone know I inject insulin than suspect I'm injecting something else. Not only that, but feel it's good for others to know. Such as, if the case would happen along in an emergancy, and I'd be unable to speak for myself.

sparkyakita
sparkyakita 2009-02-28 15:48:12 -0600 Report

yes I have always told the people i am in contact with that i am diabetic. i have always done so since diagnosed in 1965. As a child my parents let me grow up as normal as possible. Played football, stayed overnight , took bikerides, etc.. Because of sharing this information and explaining to people what to look for when having a reaction, my life has been saved a couple of times by people recognizing that I was in trouble. Will i stop being active? no. So I tell everyone.

Amanda1980
Amanda1980 2009-03-01 19:59:09 -0600 Report

I don't really like to tell people that I am diabetic. I find that people treat me very differently after I do and I'd just rather not people think I am this "sick" person. I tell my friends after I've become really close to them, but I usually wait like a month to tell them.

Paula - 14421
Paula - 14421 2009-02-28 15:20:28 -0600 Report

Yes I always let people know that i'm with like co-workers, friends or if someone just happens to see my braclet. I don't have a problum with talking about. I find people are sometimes surpraised that I have it:)

2009-02-27 21:18:02 -0600 Report

I don't hide it. It's not like it's contagious, and if I touch someone they'll get it. When someone asks how I got it, I just tell em, I drank my pancreas to death. The young ones that hear that hopefully will change their view on drinking, and I get questioned on how it did that!

This is not a disease to be ashamed of, nor should you feel embarassed to have it, it was a card we were dealt.

roshy
roshy 2009-02-26 18:59:34 -0600 Report

thanks rog!!

Somebody also mentioned that when they talk about diabetes it may help someone become aware of their own personal suituation! Because we (as diabettys) know so mush we do give others the oppertunity to learn and be more aware of different smptoms, treatments etc and this could help alot more people to be alert if they believe someone or themselves might have diabetes!!

I do use my condition to my advantage sometimes!! i pull what is known to others "the diabetes card" !! if i get caught sitting around in work and my boss approaches me with the angry "what the hell do you think your doin" eye i can always have the excuse "well actualy i was sitting down because i felt low all of a sudden!!" and there is ABSOLUTLY NOTHING HE CAN SAY TO THAT!!!! he he he!

roger
roger 2009-02-27 17:41:33 -0600 Report

but that was the old you . now you wont have to becouse you have changed .my bad just joking with you . i do that but with my test kit in my truck . just needed to test my bg works every time

roshy
roshy 2009-02-26 18:27:10 -0600 Report

hi friends!! I love the discussion!!

When i was first diagnosed my friends were the first to find out. Ill never forget the day they came to visit!! they had balloons, a big basket of fruit, and a huge bundle of flowers!!
They, just like me had no clue what dibetes was, how it was treated and controlled! I found myself as soon as i got educated i educated them beause i felt they had the right to know about my diabetes!! They are the people who care for me, they are the people who may rescue me in a tricky suituation!! They want the best for me therefore i believe it is a good idea to take the time to talk about your diabetes to those who truely care about you. I even sometimes let my friends give me my shots (i carefully supervise them of course) as they are intriged by the whole thing!!
Because i have been open about my diabetes they have also pulled me up when i needed to get a reality check. If they see me eat too much sugar they will tell me that they are concerned and i need to change. Which is scary but this just shows how much people will look out for you when they understand your condition.
As for those i new people i just meet i dont straight away say "hello im roshy i have type one diabetes and take needles four times a day!! who does!!!! id rather them to get to know me as a person first, then when i eventualy feel ready to talk about it i will.

And family is family!! they all know about my diabetes!! Sure its not like a dirty little seceret or anything!! I have already too many of those!! (only kidding)

I think if someone feels ashamed or humiliated about a condition like diabetes they have a very negative out look on their condition. You have to come to a realisation that it is only a mire fraction of who you are, if your diabetes makes you feel like this then it will eventualy take over and turn you into a resentful, pesimistic person with diabetes!! There is help and support out there and to be honest diabetes is here to stay so why not embrace and feel comfortable with it!!

roger
roger 2009-02-26 18:51:52 -0600 Report

first i want to say you go roshy the new you looks good so far keep it up.
as for shareing i do as much as any one will let me. not like i have a choice i work out side and my pump is on my shirt coler. so my hose will not freez keeping it close to me and warm. so people see it all the time . and tell every one that askes about how the pump has made my life mine agan .

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-02-26 08:05:07 -0600 Report

I will share the facts with anyone if they are willing to know. I want the public to be educated on this disease. If we the diabetics don't educate them, they may never know and feel stupid to ask us on their own…Debe

rbergman
rbergman 2009-02-26 07:58:18 -0600 Report

I don't hide it but if someone asks for whatever reason I will tell them. I find most times they just say "oh" and leave it at that, like they are afraid to ask any more about it, other times the more curious ones will ask more questions, like how long, what type, and usually they always assume insulin is the medicine, for me it is, but it wasn't always that way, and when I was on pills they seem surprised that not every diabetic has to have insulin.
I find that with our daughter however, they ask every question imaginable. I don't know why it seems easier for people to talk about kids with diabetes rather than adults with it.

tira
tira 2009-02-26 07:04:12 -0600 Report

yes i share,
sometimes i just wait till i showed em that i need to take my insulin shots b4 i eat,
that turn them up real surprise!
n i luv the way they showed their faces=P

2008-12-27 18:55:12 -0600 Report

I definitely don't hide it. My wrist band shows anyone who cares to look. When I was diagnosed with diabetes, I never got upset or mad. I just said thank God it's something I CAN control if I do the right thing. I don't mind people asking me about my health issues, because it could be much worse.

Meridian - 26751
Meridian - 26751 2008-12-24 17:15:34 -0600 Report

I tell everybody that's interested. It is nothing to be ashamed about and if the person I tell just happens to be around when I need help, then I might have not wasted my time in telling them. The more people that know the safer I feel. I especially make sure the people I work with know what to do if I get confused or show some of the other signs of hypo.

caragypsy
caragypsy 2008-11-29 19:09:40 -0600 Report

If it comes up I will talk about it. It's not a big thing for me to talk about all the things wrong with me. there are so many of them. Cara

ancoto
ancoto 2008-11-29 15:27:22 -0600 Report

I am very open about sharing that I have diabetes. The way I see it if the people around me are aware that I'm diabetic if something happens they might be able to react faster and if not at least they can let emergency workers, plus I always wear my Medic Alert braclet and I have the emblem in both my vechilcles.

2008-11-28 19:16:54 -0600 Report

Yes, I do share. I feel that I may have some info that would help someone else who maybe diabetic. Or, they may have something that would help me.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-11-27 08:23:59 -0600 Report

I don't make an announcement when I walk in the room at a party :-), but I don't have any problem talking about it. Now, I DO make sure that people I am close to know about it, whether they ask or not. Like people at work. They need to know in case of an emergency.

I've actually found that, 9 times out of 10, if the topic comes up and I tell people I'm a diabetic, I get questions that might actually HELP someone else. Questions like "What were your symptoms?", or "Is it hard being a diabetic?". I've found that educating people is the best way to help EVERYONE, diabetic and non.

Melissa Dawn
Melissa Dawn 2008-11-18 14:13:43 -0600 Report

Absolutely. Not that I'm putting out announcements, but I never struggle telling people about my disease. I'm happy to talk about it, answer questions, and do whatever I can to educate the populace. I think its important for people to see diabetics from all walks of life. It helps clear up misconceptions.

Petrea
Petrea 2008-11-11 23:58:30 -0600 Report

I have a "feel good" story about this subject. My brother has a group home/half-way house for boys coming out of lockup but not yet ready to be on their own. Because we are both diabetic the first rule of the house the boys learn when they enter is what to do if we become low & need help. One day my brother was out doing errands, the rest of the boys were in school or work & I was home alone with one of the boys. I get low really fast and I was able to say I needed help. He ran over & asked if I was low & by then I could not talk. He ran & got orange juice & because I was shaking so bad he held my head steady, put a straw in my juice & fed me the orange juice. He then fed me a spoonful of honey & called my brother & asked permission to fix me something to eat. By the time my brother got home I was feeling pretty good. I later wrote a note for my brother to give to the judge during this boy's evaluation. The judge read the note outloud in his courtroom, stood up and said I'm going to shake the hand of a true hero. I am happy to say this very 'cocky" boy has turned into a wonderful & loving husband and father of 2 little boys & has turned into a good friend of mine!

momoftype1
momoftype1 2008-11-11 22:57:08 -0600 Report

Being the parent in this situation I share with anyone who opens the door for the conversation. I find that these are the best ways to get educated and to educate others. There is nothing to be shy or ashamed of about having diabetes. My daughter even talks more about it now. I think that is because she never sees me make a big deal or act like there is something to hide. Diabetes becomes a way of life for the entire family and school and team (anyone that we are in contact with on a regular basis). There may be other health issues that may not be as easy to discuss, but I know that I want everyone around my child to know as much as they can to help her stay healthy.

Dawn

enigmalady777
enigmalady777 2008-11-11 16:15:20 -0600 Report

I share if asked. I don't go out of my way to tell people about it, but if we are at a social gathering, people tend to notice when I check my blood sugar or scrutinize the menu to ensure there's something I can eat. If they ask, I tell them. It's not a big deal to me, never really was.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-11-09 23:00:25 -0600 Report

I do share. I get a lot of people now asking me if I have lost weight and I use it to explain why and how. I don't tell it to everyone, but people who are close to me, I keep very little hidden, so this is not any different. This year in my annual Christmas letter, it will have a featured column. It has been a blessing to me in a lot of ways, so I like to share that perspective. It surprises people.

Carol11
Carol11 2008-11-11 13:49:14 -0600 Report

Never. This is just too humiliating. embarassing. and shamimg to bear. And I resent my mother for telling even family members. I rarely see them and prefer it that way. And they certainly do nor need to know my private business.

uniqueone63
uniqueone63 2008-11-11 13:59:09 -0600 Report

i do tell others i have it in cases like i have to be driven to springfield to a doctor once a month by medicaid transport and the driver needs to know what is wrong with me in case something is to happen on the way to and from there it is nothing the be ashamed of i always used to say when i was younge i dont know what i would do if i became diabetic because i loved sweets so much but you do learn to deal with it unfortunatly

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-11-12 08:19:34 -0600 Report

To Carol11, I don't understand your attitude, embarrsing, humiliating, you have a disease, that a lot of people have,it is not like you have leprosy, and body parts are falling off.with a little medication, a proper diet, and exercise, You can have a somewhat normal life. I hope you read the decussions, and ask for friends, because there is a lot of help out there, not only on how to live with this disease, but how to be comfortable talking,& living with this diseaee

sparkysmom
sparkysmom 2008-11-09 19:45:41 -0600 Report

I share if asked. All my friends know. The people in my art class know. There have been times when I lost a "friend" or two. No big loss. I try to be upfront with all my medical problems.

caspersmama
caspersmama 2008-11-09 12:11:49 -0600 Report

What I hate is when you tell someone they automatically say " oh you must eat alot of sweets" well i did not. I am from the south and I loved to eat grits, potatoes, gravy and anything fried. So that really does get to me.

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2008-11-09 11:53:13 -0600 Report

I wear a bracelet, and feel free to talk about it, when invited to dinner, or eating out at a restaurant,so far I have been lucky , most asked questions about diet, none of the horror stoties that some people get, I am also on insulin and most people are interested, in the fact that I can give myself shots, there is I lot of fear out there about needles, but on the whole ,I find people are receptive to information if given in an easy and forthright way. Not the can you beat this type of way

Bobriith
Bobriith 2008-11-09 09:47:17 -0600 Report

I do share the fact that I am a diabetic, especially when I talk to an obese person. I tell them diplomaticly that I am diabetic, because I was over weight.

DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn 2008-11-09 03:54:22 -0600 Report

All the time! I clean houses for a living and let the clients know that I will need to take a short break to snack. Actually, its not even a break. While I am eating, I do notes and billing for them. I actually have cleints making sure that I have eaten!

Dennie52
Dennie52 2008-11-09 03:39:38 -0600 Report

i do now but dont always been meaning to get braclet, i have low blood sugar sometimes. almost passed out at work but when i told supervisor he just said if i did pass out be sure to clock out.

bluerose2
bluerose2 2008-11-09 11:43:59 -0600 Report

i had the same thing told to me when i was at work and took time out to get some OJ because of low sugar - make sure you "clock out" before passing out ! Can't believe the insensitivity of people!

vgarrison
vgarrison 2008-11-09 00:47:48 -0600 Report

Not only do I gladly share the fact that I have diabetes, today I got a medical alert tattoo. I figure this way if I take a shower I don't have to worry about making sure that I put it back on. LOL…

Vicki
Blessed Be

Xa
Xa 2008-11-09 09:27:17 -0600 Report

Hey - I started a new discussion about this. You should weigh in. AND you should totally post a picture of your new tattoo!

Xa
Xa 2008-11-09 00:40:12 -0600 Report

Interesting question. I've been thinking about getting a medical ID tattoo actually, but my only hesitation is that I would theoretically be less able to hide the fact that I have diabetes. I tried to go scuba-diving once and when they found out that I was diabetic they refused to let me go. But other than that one instance, I can't really think of a situation where I would really regret being "out" about my diabetes. On the other hand, I don't exactly announce it either unless it comes up, because over the years I've lost patience for lay-person medical advice and faux-empathy ("You're diabetic? Oh my second cousin has diabetes… She's a blind double-amputee now.")… Over time I've had to learn the art of diplomatically telling people to shut their trap.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-11-28 17:11:31 -0600 Report

Actually, diabetics SHOULD be careful about tattoos. Of course, the obvious reason is the possible infection, but there IS another reason. Tattooing can "change" your blood, making it difficult for future transplants.

Before I underwent my kidney/pancreas transplant, one of the main questions they asked was, "Do you have any tattoos?". I don't recall what the change is, but there were two of us called in for transplantation at the same time. The other guy had gotten a tattoo since his original evaluation and that disqualified him (at least, at that time).

Just for your info.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-04 14:09:01 -0600 Report

I checked out everything prior to getting my tattoo and there was nothing to really worry about now. in fact they are developing a new tattoo ink just for diabetics that changes color when you blood rises or lowers. I know they are working on it but don't know where they are in trials. If you have hesitation because of infection check it out if it is because of not wanting everyone to know that's different. Read my theory below about saying it out loud. Actually I have come up with a word to say to people who either have dumb comments or don't know what to say. You look them straight in the eye and say, Hey I am DIABETARIFFIC. They either look at you with a dumb look to go with their dumb remark or they laugh.
I made the word up to describe us. Our philosophy. Have a DIABETIRIFFIC day.
Mark

2009-03-04 22:25:58 -0600 Report

I have 42 tattoos, both arms, both legs, and all the vital organs work just fine!

morris.js
morris.js 2008-11-08 09:04:53 -0600 Report

I tell everyone who will listen that I am Diabetic. This disease has forced me to take the needed steps to stay healthier than I have been for over 30 years, and I'm proud of that fact.
I try to be a positive example for those who face the possibility of dealing with this disease in the future, or those that are already dealing with it. When I compete in my Tae Kwon Do tournaments, I show people that this disease is not the "death sentence" most believe it to be. We all can improve our quality of life if we begin to focus on the proper aspects of taking care of ourselves.
My best wishes to all of you! John

Audge
Audge 2008-11-08 14:18:59 -0600 Report

Where I work they know I am diabetic but I get so mad sometimes I will say I am feeling awful my sugar is low and these are my friends and it takes alot for me to admit I do not feel well also ,they say oh what did you do to cause it r or turn around in their chairs I am amazed everytime if they ever had this disease they would not be able to deal with it. But I get so mad when they say what did you do to cause the other day the one girl said oh hope my husband does not get diabetes amazing sorry just had to bitch.

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2008-11-09 10:28:49 -0600 Report

yeah that is rough to deal with. we all have our bad days. but i've been thinking that since this discussion was started that we do need to educate those around us,they may not get it at first,but if you have a low,they should remember enough to you some help.

caspersmama
caspersmama 2008-11-08 08:46:33 -0600 Report

If some one asks about my bracelet I will tell. Or if I am going to be around them alot. I just had to tell my daughter's new boyfriend and he was really cool about it. He even wanted to know some stuff about it just in case I had a low when he was around.

Leigh Marsden
Leigh Marsden 2008-11-08 00:22:14 -0600 Report

Hello,
I usually tell people that I am with (esp. if I am going to be alone with them) that I am diabetic in case something happens while I am with them. Some people ask what could happen and ask how to react. Which could save my life. Or another diabetics life somewhere down the path of thier life!
I figure a little bit of knowledge never hurt any one. It helps break the ice too! Leigh

sexyswamprat
sexyswamprat 2008-11-08 00:13:21 -0600 Report

I'm not afraid to tell anyone that I'm diabetic. We had a family reunion back in June and when my nieces(one 13 and one 11) saw me taking my blood sugar they wanted to know what I was doing and why I was doing it. They had never seen anyone using a little meter like that. I thought it was great that they asked and I was more than happy to explain everything to them. They asked so many questions. They are very curious girls by nature.

Avera
Avera 2008-11-07 22:16:47 -0600 Report

I always do, lol, even with those who don't want to hear about it. Most people think that diabetes is a death sentence and are surprised to hear some straight facts. I'm a retired teacher. Once an educator always an educator. Maybe I just feel the need to help others understand the disease.

highlandcitygirl
highlandcitygirl 2008-11-07 21:41:33 -0600 Report

i don't know how. i'm pre-diabetic and i have trouble explaining that to people. and when i tell them i have neuropathy they look at me as though i were lying. so i don't bother telling about the other stuff and that leads to having no one to talk to.

2008-11-07 21:41:05 -0600 Report

I share that I have Diabetes but only if someone asks me or is in a 'need to know' position. Co workers, friends, family, etc… I have issues with reactive hypoglycemia along with Diabetes so it's important that those that spend a lot of time with me know how to deal with that.

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