Good By

By Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser Latest Reply 2015-02-20 18:46:57 -0600
Started 2012-01-13 16:06:03 -0600

I have decided to take a break from the forum for a while, not to sure if I will ever come back I guess I have started to care what happens to people to much to see them directed down a road full of pot holes.
My friends can still contact me throurg my profile.
Good By my True Friends
Old-n Grey

34 replies

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-20 18:46:57 -0600 Report

We don't know each other but I am sorry to see you are leaving, I have found your advice helpful. having someone who has already gone through some of those pot holes around is helpful. Thanks for being so generous with your wisdom.

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2012-01-17 06:02:04 -0600 Report

After seeing the friends and support I have here I realized I would be losing more than I would gain by staying away, so like it or not I guess your going to have to put up with me.

pixsidust 2012-01-17 14:55:07 -0600 Report

Tom, Consider yourself hugged and a proper smooch on the cheek!
Thanks for being willing to be there for us…and we for you!!!!!!!!

granniesophie 2012-01-17 06:54:00 -0600 Report

Those of us who are your friends thank you very much and say that we are not "putting up with you", we are enjoying your wisdom and what you have to say! And no, before everyone kills me, I am NOT speaking for everyone, but I bet our sentiments are the same, I just said it first ;)

Young1s 2012-01-17 10:32:18 -0600 Report

Well said and here here. In this instance, I don't mind being spoken for. I would only add his off beat sense of humor, as well.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-01-17 05:50:08 -0600 Report

Oh I hate go see you leave it's not going to be the same without you around you. I will keep in touch. Thank you for always having such kind and supportive input. Will miss you

dietcherry 2012-01-14 21:56:37 -0600 Report

Instead of asking Im telling you Im going to send you an inbox message.There is something I would like to discuss with you and maybe shed a little light on something.

Anonymous 2012-01-14 17:56:19 -0600 Report

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jayabee52 2012-01-14 21:51:51 -0600 Report

I fail to see the import of that unless you might be intending to start a fight?
If I am mistaken please explain either here or in an inbox to me.

Perhaps you and we all would do well if we would read what Gabby just posted here ~

Caroltoo 2012-01-14 21:56:50 -0600 Report

Anonymous has apparently noticed that there was more to this fracas than just the portion relating to Melissa reading Tom off. I suspect Tom would have handled that, but it went on another step or two in capitalized yelling comments that were totally unnecessary and unhelpful.

Nick1962 2012-01-14 15:36:35 -0600 Report

Tom buddy, some people you just can't shelter from the pot holes. Hitting them is their only way to learn how to avoid them. As a parent I know too well that sometimes all you can do is watch, painful as it may be. Eventually, it is what makes them stronger, and in the end, they find their own little way to thank you.

pixsidust 2012-01-14 15:28:26 -0600 Report

Tom, there are many and I speak for myself
who need you. I will take it a step further
Tom I need you.

I worked for a boss who was the woman from HELL
She was mean undermining and self serving
She never worked but talked on the phones personally all day
and we did everything completely.
We had to worry who she was going to fire on a whim
because she did that
In the midst of the hell I loved placing people
in permanent jobs and making a difference
I slept good at night and always tried to do the right thing
If I let her ruin my career by fleeing her horrible attitude
I could never have helped the people I helped
of had the relationships I treasured along the way.

I do not know what occurred but do not
let someone else influence the relationships you've developed
the good you bring with your thoughts and ideas
and the home you have here.

I also worked at a Hospital prior to my last job.
I had a co-worker who was upset that a patient called her ugly
and made fun of her. The patient was on the psych ward
I told her, why be upset, you have to consider the source
This person is not right mentally
You can not be offended by mental illness
Drunk as James thinks… or not, do not be offended by mental illness

This is your home, stay for those who do loves you.
Thats the majority you know…doesn't majority rule?
We will stand up for you, do not be concerned for that.

Please stay!
You are one of the dear voices I can not imagine doing without
I love you and I am grateful for you.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-01-14 21:39:59 -0600 Report

So beautifully said, this is why I love your posts<3

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-01-16 01:49:54 -0600 Report

Pixsidust, my post above is for you and I know you truely are a friend to Tom as am I. I'm still wondering why anyone would like Tom leaving?

Caroltoo 2012-01-16 02:09:24 -0600 Report

Darlene, I really don't think anyone wants Tom to leave. Tom said it hurt to watch Melissa self destruct and, for his own peace of mind, he needed to step back for a while because he was becoming to emotionally invested. He then got into a rather pointed exchange with one other person and that person was nasty with him. Melissa, I believe he understood. This other individual was an annoyance he didn't want to deal with right then. Tom was on here shadowing, watching, last night. I think he will be back because he still wants to see Melissa succeed.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-01-16 02:32:43 -0600 Report

Hey Carol, I have been in talks with Tom, so I know what his plans are. I also want Melissa to succeed and hope with all my heart that she see's the light and gets the help she so desperately needs by professionals and is able to turn her life around. She is too young to give up on a healthy and happy life.

Thanks for the chat, hope all is well with you:)

TsalagiLenape 2012-01-14 14:51:24 -0600 Report

Not all that sure why you would leave and stay gone but your unique way of thinking and helping all of us not being here would be a sin. I know some people are happy causing chaos for others. Yet stop and look at all the wonderful people who have responded to you. Who love you even thru the website. Look forward to your thoughts and posts. Now you can deprive one but not all of us. Just remember that person whoever it is, may be down but you dont have to be. We all need you and your thoughts. Please dont leave us hanging. Hugs

jayabee52 2012-01-13 20:20:33 -0600 Report

TOM, I too want to add to the chorus of people, who are your friends, wanting you not to go away or if you do, to stay away for long.

Some one who cares enough for people and posts a lot (like I do too) is bound to draw some flack.

I have drawn my share of flack, most of it a couple of years ago.

Just because someone is drunk and tells you to F - off is no reason to still your wise voice and counsel on this website. I have been personally enriched by some of your counsel

I had made some folks p!$$ed off at me too.

In one case that person told me off via DC email and unfriended me. Another time another person got irritated with me and told me to back off, and I did, and I avoided posting on that person's postings, and now after a while we are good friends again.

So Don't go Tom. Don't stay away if you do go.

As always, praying the best for you and yours


Jeanae 2012-01-13 19:57:07 -0600 Report

I don' t know what post everyone s referring to but it sounds like you have been very helpful and important to most of the people here. Life is too short and precious for you to let someone's bad day or hurtful post get to you. Please take a break if you need but please don't stay away for too long. God bless you.

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-01-13 19:45:28 -0600 Report

Boo, being new here I really enjoy your contrabutions. While I understand the need to take a break, I hope you're not gone too long as I will miss you. Please, please, don't let that post ruin the relationship you have with the rest of us!! There are some people that you just have to ignore and rise above them, as they have their own agendas:) I wish you well.<3

roshy 2012-01-13 19:28:07 -0600 Report

heya mate.

If you gain support and advise and have mate solid friendships on this site do not throw it away over apost. Go away for a while and come back when it has settled down. you the positive side of the site to your advantage. dont let other posts stop you from developing friendships, learning new information and socialising with others!!!

hope you stay well my friend!!

granniesophie 2012-01-13 18:52:45 -0600 Report

I understand as well. I have not been able to even reply to the poster that you are referring to, nor can I even read anymore. It has been very painful.
Tom, you will be missed here, and I will miss you as well. Please see if just taking a break will help, I know it helps me when I do that, and I have done a few times, I think a lot of us have, and then I come back and start fresh.
Please don't leave us for good, please just take a break and come back soon. I may message you separately sometimes, if that's okay.
Miss you, my friend.

Young1s 2012-01-13 16:19:38 -0600 Report

Tom, I know that it's been an emotional few days but please don't let that drive you away. We appreciate your insights and would be less than complete without your input and directness. I can understand if you need a break but the thought of you never coming back saddens me. Please don't go.

Caroltoo 2012-01-13 16:11:59 -0600 Report


I am very sorry to hear this, because you have added so much to many discussions I have read or been a part of since coming on here in late October.

I do understand what you are saying about it being hard, so hard, to watch someone self destruct. It grieves me also.

I respect your right to make this choice to protect yourself from additional stress, but would also like to say that you will be missed and we will all lose the benefit of your wisdom.

Thank you for being open about your decision. I hope you return soon.


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