I want to have a good time!!!!!

Set apart
By Set apart Latest Reply 2012-01-13 05:49:59 -0600
Started 2012-01-12 06:04:03 -0600

Good morning my D family hope you are all having a good week. My week has been a bit whacky BGs are up and down not sure maybe a little stress. I have a dilemma my husband and I are attending. Family wedding on Saturday and this will be the first time we go out officially since this all started more than 5 months ago. To be honest I should be looking forward to this, but am not I am scared. We have to travel 2 hours away so the day starts early, so have to plan my snacks, am worried when will they actually serve dinner, should we just eat a peanut butter sandwich in our room. Thank goodness everything takes place at our hotel. I love to dance, but if I dance too much will I experience a low and get sick in front of everyone, obviously no alcohol for me. I bought a beautiful dress, but other than that am scared and not sure how to feel. This is also the first time a lot of family sees me I don't want everyone asking oso many ?s I know they care, but I want to be just part of the group. This is why I initially called myself Set Apart, I just want to belong and be myself again if onlyfor one night!!!


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Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-01-13 00:50:34 -0600 Report

I was scared my first camping trip for a lot of the same reasons. How do I test on a hike, what should I pack to snack, and all kinds of worries. I got into the trip and before you know it, I was just having a good time. I let go of the worry, got some good advice from friends here and off I went. It was great and we have done it often. It gets easier as you go, so this will be a testing ground for you. You will do fine.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-01-12 23:52:59 -0600 Report

I understand you wanting everyone to see you as you were. And I suspect there will be little fuss over you as most of the attention will be on the wedding and the couple getting marrried. And I can understand you not wanting to detract from the happiness of that happy day by causing a scene should you go low or get sick.

But you have a "new normal" now. And to a large measure you need to find out what that new normal for you IS. Yes, prepare for the worst, and hope for the best, and cope with the rest (as my late bride Jem used to say). Jem & I both were very fragile people but we handled weddings well. (after all we HAD 3 of them without a diabetes related problem) and attended a couple more.

So pack your peanut butter sandwiches. Take your glucose tabs with you should you feel low (teach the "rule of 15s" to your hubby so if you do go low he knows how to get you back up without putting you on the BG roller coaster.

I suspect that you will have fun and not make a scene.

Let us know how you do!

You've been invited to the wedding. You belong already. It is not like you are some wedding crashers (like I used to be) Having diabetes didn't divorce you from the rest of the family. It has just made you more aware of your limitations and your need to find your new normal. This is one way to find it.

Praying blessings on you and yours, and on the new couple!

James

Set apart
Set apart 2012-01-13 05:43:17 -0600 Report

Thank you James, you always say the kindest words. I do plan on having a good time, will let you guys know how it turns out!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-01-12 13:51:44 -0600 Report

Hi Set have fun at the wedding. Enjoy yourself. As with all weddings they tell you dinner will be served at 4 and it ends up being much later. Eat a snack. I carry a tube of my favorite flavor icing when I am going somewhere with an evening bag. It fits in and I can have it if I feel my sugar level dropping. For the drive, take a lunch container with an ice pack and carry veggies or cheese if you can have it. For the trip back you may want to stop and get something for the road. You can also check the hotels gift shop for snacks and put ice in a zip lock bag (I keep those in my lunch container) for the trip back. Pace yourself and have fun.

CaliKo
CaliKo 2012-01-12 08:26:12 -0600 Report

It is scary the first times you are out, but you can do it. Just be sure and have your meter handy, and carry a healthy snack and something with glucose fast-acting for if you go too long between meals, or dance too much. I go dancing occasionally and that's when I err on the side of a little too many carbs so I will feel good. But eat good carbs, and stay away from the cake, it may make you feel bad if its sugary. Depends on your personal situation. I'm T2 with no meds, so it's easier for me than for someone on meds. Have fun!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-01-13 00:47:46 -0600 Report

Be yourself! CaliKo is right, keep your meter handy and as long as your husband knows what to do if you are having trouble, you will be safe. Have FUN! Don't stress. This is a once in a life time opportunity to share with those you love. Be aware, but don't be dowdy.

Set apart
Set apart 2012-01-13 05:49:59 -0600 Report

Thanks Gabby will be on my way meter in one hand, pb sandwiches in the other, glucose in my purse and God at my side. I was blessed to find this site it is truly one of the blessings of the New Year!

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser
Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2012-01-12 07:03:46 -0600 Report

Go and have a good time, do what you have to to prevent lows, pace your self on the dance floor. Think of it as your coming out party. By now you know what you can and cannot do.
Tom

Set apart
Set apart 2012-01-12 09:11:13 -0600 Report

Thanks guys, I do so want to have a good time. That's a good way to see it my coming out party. Oh and no cake for me I don't eat that stuff anymore—thank you again-Blessings! I already feel better!!!!