By optimistic Latest Reply 2008-11-08 11:17:34 -0600
Started 2008-11-07 15:51:04 -0600

My blood sugars have been running between 200 and 350 for the last couple of weeks. I beleive it's because of the stress I am under. Let me explain what the problem is and I would love to hear any input you may have!
My mother recently fell in her home and broke a rib, her right shoulder blade and tore her left rotator cuff. My older sister, Kathy, put mom into a skilled nursing facility for her recovery. Kathy promtly went to my mother's primary care doctor and told her that my mother had become a pain med junky and could no longer be trusted to take care of herself…
Kathy then convinced the doctor to go to court and have her assigned as Power of Attorney over my mother's care and finances. All of this was done behind my mother's back as well as the rest of the family.
My mother still has all her mental faculties and only needs a little help around her condo. She also see's 1 pain management doctor for all her pain meds, which consist of 60 methadone and 60 hydrocodone per month. I don't beleive that constitutes a junky, do you?
Kathy then changed all the locks on my mother's condo and won't give anyone a key including my mother. She then told the skilled nursing facility that my mother is to have no visitor's other than her. I also just found out that she intends to put my mother into a nursing home. My mother would rather die!!!!
My mother has asked for my help in this matter. I am at a loss as to what to do! Can anyone out there help me??????????????? PLEASE!!!!

11/12/08*********MORE STRESS ADDED*******
Last friday my sister ambushed my mother at the nursing facility by bringing in my brother & his wife, her daughter, the head therapist and a SOCIAL WORKER FROM SENIOR SERVICES. They all told my mother that she will no longer be able to drive her car, set-up & take her own medications or attend any Doctor appointment without my brother or sister present. They claim that she cannot do these things anymore because she apparently can't remember what they tell her or what she is suppossed to do, according to my sister! But that is a lie.

My mother called me Friday night in tears, asking for my help. I have approached my brother about fighting for my mom but he's already onboard with my sister. He's a wuss!


For some reason I am unable to reply to comments the normal way so I'll Do it this way.

Patti, Thank you for your response, unfortunately I am on a fixed income and cannot afford an attorney.

Gabby, Thank's for your response also. I did talk to my brother with no possitive results. My mother's brother Bob Crutsinger lives in Napals Florida during the winter month's but I don't have a phone # for him. He was my only other hope!

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GabbyPA 2008-11-08 11:17:34 -0600 Report

You need to find some other family members and get together and confront her. That is unbeliveable that they are letting that happen. The doctors and your mom all still have a say unless she cannot, and according to you, she can. I had a similar issue happen to my grandmother, and my mom stepped in with her brother and nipped it in the bud. It was not as dramatic as yours, but you have got to find some solidarity with other family and get that fixed or at least get involved in the decisions.

patti 2008-11-08 10:30:22 -0600 Report

So sorry for what your sister is putting you through. It sounds like you need an attorney to figure this one out. Also contact her doctor the pain management doc, see if he/she can help. Good luck to you,