Thanks to all the advice on my very first discussion and the way I got My grandmother to choose to do dialysis.

By michelle2385 Latest Reply 2012-01-19 13:22:48 -0600
Started 2012-01-09 19:04:15 -0600

A big Thank you to all the wonderful new friends and people . I have changed my grandmother mind and attitude towards dialysis.
My grandmother woke up this morning and I just got back home from taking my 5 year old son to school she said get us a cup of coffee and lets talk. I said ok while I was in the kitchen my mind was all over the place, think is it going to be good news or bad new. So I feared the worst and told myself well I have been waiting for this talk to be approached since we went to the doctor last thursday. So I put my brave face on and sat next to her and said ok we got coffee and I am ready to talk about. She said well I have made my decision about the dialysis, I choose to do it , I said ok, She said I am doing it to prove to my 5 children that its going to result in me ending my life alot quicker by doing it but if they insist on pushing me then Im doing it, And her attitude about it was all wrong and hateful. So I answered and said if thats how you choose to do it ok, she said and I wanted to tell you. So she was done talking . For a few hours after that I was upset and I thought to myself I am not going to let her do the dialysis with that attitude. So I posted on her she had made her mind up. After all of you had replied, I sat down with her and hour ago and I told her grandma I got a better idea for you to choose dialysis, she said oh yea whats that. I said I want you to do it for me and the three great grandkids who are living with you. I said try it for two weeks and follow the right diet with me eating the same as you, then we will have your doctor take blood and see how your kidney fuction is , I said if it is worse you can stop treatments, but if it is still at 9 percent the do it for two more weeks, I said and after a month see how you feel and if after a whole month of treatments and dieting if you feel better then make me a promise that you will continue trearments until my 5 year old son starts his first day of kindergarden in September of this year. She said well I can promise you after a month if I am feeling better by doing treatments and dieting then I will fight to make it to that day, she said it may not be a promise I can keep but its a promise I will fight to try and keep and I told her thats all I am asking. So I came up with that by getting all the advice on here and the research you have given me to study. I know this isnt really something to be discussed but this way I could let everyone know at once that by getting her to listen to my idea, she had a more positive attitude about her decision and its taking the baby steps she needs to take in just trying something she is scared of . I also promised her from the day my mother and I take her to the dr. to get her preped and ready for treatment to her last day of the two weeks I will be there right by her side holding her hand and giving her the confidence she needs to stay strong because by taking it one day at a time together we can be as strong as she needs to be. So thank you to all , and I got her and appointment next thursday instead of her waiting until feb 3rd. I will keep everyone posted.

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jayabee52 2012-01-10 16:17:52 -0600 Report

I am overjoyed to hear this! And that was some change in attitude and the Lord used you as an instrument of change.

I am glad that we were able to help you in some little way.

I am also just a hairs breadth away from needing dialysis, I think so I will probably be doing it in Las Vegas while you're doing it wherever you are.

Let your grandma know that I will be continuing to pray for improvement in her sense of well being and some improvement in her physical condition too.

Blessings to you and yours


Young1s 2012-01-10 00:10:35 -0600 Report

Of course this is something to be discussed. This is great news for your grandmother. And for Hooray for you, on how you so cleverly negotiated that agreement. This way she doesn't feel guilty or pressured, but instead, knows that she still has control over her choices. This is awesome. I will keep you all in my prayers for more mountains to be moved. Be blessed.

michelle2385 2012-01-10 09:53:24 -0600 Report

thank pcyoung38, if it wasnt for the advice and research that i got given to me on hear that i was telling my grandma about everyday, i don t think i would have been able to get her to make a positive decision like this. you are always in my prayers as well

pixsidust 2012-01-09 21:56:52 -0600 Report

Oh, My heart leaps with joy and aches all at the same time with the tenderness of the moment…You have HOPE!
Thank You God!..
Thank You…

michelle2385 2012-01-10 09:54:50 -0600 Report

thank you pixsidust, my heart and my mind does have hope now thanks to my grandmother at least giving the treatments a chance. and yes i have been thinking god every minute of the day for all his help as well

dietcherry 2012-01-09 19:11:15 -0600 Report

Yay Michelle!! Only the Lord can change an attitude from hateful to grateful and it just takes patience :)

michelle2385 2012-01-10 09:56:54 -0600 Report

yes only the lord can change attitudes and , sometime it takes just a little negotiation to push that person in to believing what god is telling them they should do .

michelle2385 2012-01-09 19:27:49 -0600 Report

yes that is true and that is why i have had better luck with my grandmother than the rest of my family because i do have more patience with her and I do believe in the lord very much. And i knew if i just gave her the right amount of time to come to the right decision that it would be the one her whole family what for her, just i wanted her to have a positive attitude because you dont get good results from a negative attitude.

dietcherry 2012-01-09 20:31:07 -0600 Report

Absolutely! You did a good job and a good thing! Many Blessings to you and your family sweetheart!

michelle2385 2012-01-10 09:58:32 -0600 Report

thank you dietcherry for all the support you have given me . you and your family god bless to them and you will always remain in my prayers.

Caroltoo 2012-01-09 20:07:24 -0600 Report

Sometimes it easier to be patient with older people because we can see their fears and beginning hesitations and incompetence. It's harder with others cause we expect them to think like we do!

michelle2385 2012-01-10 10:04:32 -0600 Report

no i havent met your mother, but as me and you talked i think her and my grandmother would get along well. because like your mother my grandmother thinks she cant eat unless it has cornbread at the me , or coffee, or cookies and cake for dessert. but hopefully after two weeks i can show her that she may still get to eat some of all that just not the serving size she is use to.

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