10 Things People With Chronic Illness And Pain Need To Know

By jayabee52 Latest Reply 2012-01-13 18:01:48 -0600
Started 2012-01-08 06:15:22 -0600

Although this article from ThirdAge.com by By Maggie McReynolds is not specific to diabetes, she has some good thoughts for anyone who has a chronic illness (which includes diabetes) Read her thoughts here ~
What do you think of her thoughts, and do you have anything to add which may be specific to what you suffer or "enjoy"

To your better health


14 replies

Caroltoo 2012-01-08 11:57:48 -0600 Report

Good reminders. Two are, I think, particularly important: don't isolate/stay in touch with the world around you and give others the benefit of the doubt. When we are wrapped in an isolated world of our making, it is so easy to mis-attribute others motivations.

jayabee52 2012-01-08 23:30:30 -0600 Report

I have noticed a tendency to isolate, to become a bit of a hermit, in my physical life. One wouldn't know it from my presence on DC, would one?

When I think someone is hostile toward me (or even indifferent) my mind often jumps back to my catechism instruction in my teens and a line from Luther's explanation of the 8th commandment " . . . but defend him, speak well of him, and put the best construction on everything." jumps to my mind. I gotta then ask myself is this the best consruction of what s/he is saying or doing? What is the evidence for or against my current interpretation of deeds or statements?

Caroltoo 2012-01-09 14:42:06 -0600 Report

How true. I used to wonder about some of Wayne's comments/actions early in our marriage. When I'd finally get it sorted out, it was beneign. I finally just taught myself to believe that he wanted what was best for me. Then if something odd would be said, I could think about it rationally before reacting. Usually, I found there really was no reason to react. Eventually, I came to generalize this thought process to most people I meet. True, it gives a few the benefit of a doubt that they do not deserve, but it usually keeps me from over-reacting before I have thought something through.

jayabee52 2012-01-09 14:58:15 -0600 Report

I find that I am more of a "thinker" than a "feeler" too. Others (likr my ex) have told me that I am "in my head" too much but I find if I act out of what I feel rather than think something through for a bit I end up making mistakes or hurting others. Fortunately Jem was rather cerebral also so we had that in common and when there was miscommunication between us we would talk it out (some would say talk it to death) and usually would end up resolving the difficulty.

My new lady friend is so new to me that we haven't yet had a disagreement or miscommunication. I am sure they'll come eventually. It is interesting to me to see our relationship developing. We're already on the phone nearly every night and making plans to meet in the real world, perhaps in March.

Caroltoo 2012-01-09 15:04:10 -0600 Report

Glad to hear this James. Acting before we think can cause so much hurt. I, too, really think it is a sound way to approach disagreements. Good luck with your new relationship! I'm routing for you, both of you!

Young1s 2012-01-08 11:33:25 -0600 Report

Thank you for this article, James. In the midst of a bad/hectic day, these things can easily be forgotten. I know that my D isn't who I am, it's what I have, but I do get a little discouraged when I feel like I'm loosing control or not maintaining as well as I could. But I do try to go with the flow, for the most part, and keep things in perspective.

Unfortunately, there are those times when I feel overwhelmed because my day doesn't follow a particular plan and unexpected events get thrown in. I allow these times to frustrate me BEFORE I step back and reassess the situation. Of course by then, I'm so frazzeled that my mind tends to focus on the bigger issue(s), rather than dealing with the smaller/easier ones first. Which then leads to me feeling stressed over minor issues/problems. Not good.

So, I'm going to print this off and put a copy on my fridge and reminder board in the hallway. Seeing it on a regular basis, in black and white, will keep them in the forefront of my subconscious. Hopefully.

jayabee52 2012-01-08 23:17:15 -0600 Report

I am glad it spoke to you, Patricia, and your situation and you found it useful enough to print and post.