Why Most Resolutions Fail

By Dixiemom Latest Reply 2012-01-09 16:03:15 -0600
Started 2012-01-07 18:49:38 -0600

Why Most Resolutions Fail (and How To Succeed)

Why Most Resolutions Fail (and How To Succeed)
As part of our work on Diabetes Daily University, we spend a lot of time analyzing research on changing behavior to achieve success. As we enter the new year, let's review research-backed strategies for meeting your resolutions. This is from Heidi Grant Halvorson's fabulous new book, Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals.

Two Types of Goals: Be Good or Be Better

Setting a specific goal to "be good" at something, like losing 10 pounds this month, is a double-edged sword. It's very motivating, but if you fail to reach that goal, it's demoralizing. If your goal is to drop 10 pounds and you don't, you're a failure. You start to see yourself as incapable of ever achieving that goal.

On the other hand, if your goal is to be better, then you react to failure differently. You didn't fail because you lacked the ability, but because you haven't mastered the skills you need to get there. You have taken steps to improve and just need more time or experience. It's not that you can't, it's because you haven't yet.

For example, there was a simple study where students were given a test. One half were told the test gauged how good they were at problem solving (the "be good"). The other half were told it was part of a training program (the "be better" mentality). When faced with hard problems, those in the first group gave up while those in the second group worked harder and ultimately did better. When faced with adversity, those striving for improvement actually outperformed those who sought an all-or-nothing goal.

"Be better" goals are also more enjoyable along the way. If your reward comes when you reach a milestone, it can be a long and lonely wait. But if your goal is improvement, your reward comes with each step forward. It is literally about the journey rather than the destination.

Bottom line: "be good" goals are all-or-nothing. "Being better" goals are more enjoyable and sustainable in the face of adversity. So when working to change ingrained habits, set "be better" goals and your chance of success immediately goes way up.

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5 replies

jayabee52 2012-01-08 02:37:11 -0600 Report

Where is the link for the rest of the Article Dixie? The link is not active.

To your better health


Dixiemom 2012-01-08 15:30:35 -0600 Report

Sorry about that. I had brain fade again. It's DiabetisDaily.com. They have some pretty good articles ande recipes.


jayabee52 2012-01-09 02:11:23 -0600 Report

I know the site. You don't have to do it for me, but it would be nice for those who come after. To make an active link follow the steps below:

If you use a computer, there is a link in the address bar at the very top of the page. Right click and you can highlight it Then from the drop down menu you can select "copy" and then add it to your posting. Once you post your posting (or reply) the link will show up in blue, which means the posting is an active link and can be clicked to take you where ever the link directs you.

If you use a smart phone, I am of no help there, cause I haven't used it to access DC.

Dixiemom 2012-01-09 15:53:54 -0600 Report

Thanks Jay. I learn something new every time I get on DC., especially since I really am electronically challanged when it comes to things other then the basics.

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