By RG77 Latest Reply 2012-01-10 23:01:45 -0600
Started 2012-01-07 17:40:27 -0600

I just found out that I am diabetic with Type 2 a couple days ago. I feel like crap. I am already on disability due to other health conditions and already on a lot of medication. I am too young for this…I have 2 wonderful daughters (11 and 1) and a loving wife who works two jobs to support us all. I feel horrible that I have to bring more expenses to the family for more medicaiton and supplies.

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RG77 2012-01-10 23:01:45 -0600 Report

To be honest at first I was not sure what type or that there was a type 1 and a type 2. My wife's father was diabetic and from what she told me she thinks I am type 2, becuase it can be controleled with my eating and I am on pills (not insulan). My wife has a doctors appointment next week and plans to ask our doctor. With medication my fasting (AM) check is just below 90, but at times below. Also with medication after eating the average is 120, but there has been a couple times it was 140. Which from what I understand 140 is not the best and neither is 90 for fasting. My wife just finished the grocery shopping before I found out that I was diabetic. My wife then went out shopping again after we found out and bought groceries for me to change my eating habits. She is very supportive and has been trying to help me understand when she can (not home much do to working two jobs). I don’t know my level without my medication and I don’t know what my A1c is let alone what it is. I do know that I was checked a few months ago and I was told to change my diet and I didn’t listen very well. I guess I was in denial of having a problem. No one in my family has it and I thought it was only hereditary. I have fibromyalgia and depression from it. My specialist told me that I am the worse case of fibromyalgia that he has ever seen. I am doing better, but at times it is very hard. A year ago I couldn’t even hold my baby girl or care for her. We had to get a babysitter, while I sat at home. Now I can hold her and care for her however; at times I still have to have a babysitter to care for her on bad days (which I hate). I can walk, but for a short time. During the winter it is harder for me due to the cold weather. I do try to walk as much as I can. My therapist told me she has a treadmill that she is going to bring me when she comes to my house next time . My therapist comes to the home due to me not being able to drive a far distance and I live in a very small town that does not have a therapist in town.

sweetkyfirefly83 2012-01-08 21:14:04 -0600 Report

I completely understand where you are coming from. As a mother of two (ages 8 and 1) I feel more like a burden to my family. My fiance is wonderful with helping when I'm feeling bad. It is stressful being diabetic and I'm right there with you on that. But we can do this, with the support and love.of those around us we can!

jayabee52 2012-01-09 01:21:31 -0600 Report

I would expect that THEY don't feel that way about you. I would expect that they look to you for comfort and encouragement. You are most likely the glue which holds them together.

lifedriver 2012-01-08 13:39:13 -0600 Report

We cannot foretell our medical conditions. The best thing you can do is live and don't put yourself into a state of depression. Be thankful for your family. You are a part of their life and that will never change. Enbrace your family and let them know how much you appreiciate them. Your understanding of Diabetes is the key to successfully controlling and possible the reversal of it's affect.

Young1s 2012-01-08 12:53:20 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC RG77. I'm sorry to hear that diabetes has added to the hardships you are already facing. It can be tough enough without them. There are probably options available to ease some of the burden but without more information, we wouldn't know how to proceed in trying to assist you. In the meantime, work on controling your diet so that your BG (blood glucose) levels aren't getting further out of control.

One of our dear members, James (Jayabee52) just posted a discussion (see link below) that may help in dealing with the stress of your situation. Be blessed.

Kirla 2012-01-08 10:14:11 -0600 Report

This is what I believe has helped me a lot. It may help you and again it may not. I just don’t see anything wrong with eating lots of low carb vegetables drinking plenty of water and cutting back or eliminating high carb starchy foods. Testing blood sugar before and after eating should give you an idea on what to eat and what not to eat.

Feb 2009 I was diagnosed with a fasting blood sugar of 366 and A1C of 14.1. Started to eat a salad every day at supper. Also started to eat lots of low carb vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, cucumbers, spinach, pickles and sauerkraut. Started to drink 8+ glasses of water every day.

I then bought a meter and started to test my blood sugar before and after each meal. At first I was testing 2 hours after each meal and when my numbers dropped a lot I started testing 1 hour after meals. I test 5-7 times a day. I cut back or eliminated foods that spiked my blood sugar more than 50 points after eating.

By testing I found that foods like bread and most foods made of grains along with pasta, rice, corn, potatoes, oatmeal, cereals, chips, crackers, cakes, cookies, candy, soda, fruits, fruit juices, milk and most foods that contain more than 5-6 net carbs per serving as found on the package label all spiked my blood sugar. Some people can cut back on these foods and some people like me have to stop eating them.

After about 6-8 weeks my blood sugar readings were almost normal levels.

I found by reducing and eliminating high carb starchy foods helped me a lot. By adding small amounts of chicken, beef, pork or a hard boiled egg to my meals helped reduce blood sugar spikes also.

Good luck

Caroltoo 2012-01-07 18:22:39 -0600 Report

I'm sorry you are feeling so disheartened about this, but I can sure understand it since most of us have been there at one time. It does get better. I've been diabetic for 8 years and am now able to control it on my own without medication. I don't say that to boast, but to encourage you that it doesn't have to progress negatively. You do have lots to learn and choices to make, but it can be a good thing with you feeling better and being healther because of the changes.

Why don't you give us some more information, so we have a better idea how to offer some suggestions? Are you Type 1 (don't make insulin) or Type 2 (pancreas makes insuling but your cells are insulin resistant and don't use it)?

What medication(s) has the doctor given you for your diabetes? Pills or insulin or nothing yet?

What is your fasting blood sugar reading (morning before getting out of bed)? Where does it go 2 hours after you take your first bite of a meal? Do you know what your A1c is (that's a lab test that the doc does to see what your average reading has been over the last 3 months)?

You mention being disabled. Does your disability prevent you from walking? If so, can you do some exercises sitting on a chair?

pixsidust 2012-01-07 18:18:17 -0600 Report

Its with heartfelt care and concern
that I write to say I am sorry
Like Forest Gump says "One More Thing" with that southern twang.
I know your bucket is full to the brim and your heart is heavy.

How does one breathe easy when your chest is heavy?
Or relax when the weight of the world lies there…
You question yourself and your value and its all too much

I can only share what has helped me
in hopes some part sheds light for you
taking the gloom from your countenance.

God can make a way and usually does when we look for it.
I do not know what meds the doctors are choosing for you
Many of them are on the 90 day supply for $10 at Wal-Mart.

If your doctor can prescribe an Accu-chek compact meter
if you have insurance then it should be free
but call your insurance to see which one they do cover.
Accu-chek will send you a discount card when you register your meter bringing your test strips price down to $15.
This price is only available unfortunately if you do have insurance.
I think its kind of a matching program
Other Brands may have this as well.
I have asked my doctor to write the prescription for testing 6 x per day before and after meals so I get 204 for the $15
Otherwise test strips are the truly expensive thing here

Some here with diligence, control their diabetes with diet alone
They are the most disciplined with their diets.
I have also heard being Type II I have a chance to reverse
my Diabetes through diet and weight loss.

The best thing that helps me is to plan how to be successful
I plan my grocery list, my meals, my exercise and my day.
I feel good with each achievement.
So I encourage you to take this thing by the horns
and work at being your best you can be and getting healthy
You will see many milestones along the way
and in time you will be proud…
We will all be proud!

You have joined us here
We are a family of friends that meet under the one roof of Diabetic Connect. There are some fine people here and with an arm around your shoulders, I say join in and Welcome.

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