My new family i need your help

By medic673b Latest Reply 2011-12-01 12:15:16 -0600
Started 2011-11-26 00:07:59 -0600

A dear friend of mine whom i have known since she was a day old died tonight after she delivered her third child a baby girl. Nobody knows why she died but she was still very young and leaves behind a little girl that will never know her moher and 2 small boys who probaly not remember her. But most of all a husband who now has o raise these three kids alone. i won't ask you to pray for him because that may offend some people. She was such a sweet girl she did not deserve to die at the age of 23,it will be rough but those of us who new her will always have her in our hearts amd memories.

48 replies

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-11-29 13:58:37 -0600 Report

Dear Medic: I'm in shock…I've read 2 very distressing posts today and am greatful you both felt like you could post to all of us for help and support. My heart is with you for the loss of your friend. But leaves a hole in my heart for the Father and his 3 children. The advice I would give is to reach out and help the Father and children as much as possible. I think through your help to them it will help you heal as well. Know my thoughts and prayers are with all of you now and in the future. May the Lord rain many Blessings on all of you…Hugs…Valentine Lady

margokittycat 2011-11-28 21:02:43 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Her family will be in my prayers as will you be. Please take care of yourself and let us help you if you need it. We are always here to listen and help and give comfort and support to our family here in the DC.

Sashay19 2011-11-28 16:43:20 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your loss, and I will pray for her husband and family. Take it easy and keep the Faith.

Jan8 2011-11-28 09:21:17 -0600 Report

Believe me when I say she will never be forgotten by all the members of her healthcare team in the hospital. I am very sorry for the loss of your friend.

Mickey/CCHT 2011-11-27 22:12:17 -0600 Report

That is terrible. My heart is hurting for her family. It is never easy to lose anyone we care about, but for it to be a young person with a young family is so tragic. I know you must be hurting also for you to reach out. It does not matter that it is not diabetec related. It effects you and you are apart of our family. We want to you reach out.
This young family will be in my prayers of course! Please stay strong as you can for this family, they are going to need you. You will be able to keep their mother alive for them is sharing her love and kindness with them. I will pray for your strength also.
God Bless You.

medic673b 2011-11-27 22:05:56 -0600 Report

Again thank everybody for wondrful warm replies.I realize that this is not diabetic related but i did not know who else i could turn to but my Daibetes family

Young1s 2011-11-27 22:22:23 -0600 Report

In a way it is diabetic related. Your friend's passing is effecting you deeply, which in turn is going to effect your personal health. So please be sure to care for yourself as you try to be there for her family. And don't feel like you are imposing on us because you are not.

Jeanae 2011-11-27 20:57:58 -0600 Report

I am sos orry for your and their loss. I will definitely pray for the family and for those who knew and loved her.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-11-27 20:23:45 -0600 Report

I just wanted to say that you are in my prayers. I hope you are doing ok. I know that there is nothing anyone can do or say that can make it better but it's important that you always remember her and keep her memory alive. Her children will need others to share her with them when they are older. I'm sure you would do this anyway. I have lost alot of loved ones these past few years. The good memories of them is what get's me through some days. - I will be praying for you as well as her family.

Caroltoo 2011-11-27 20:28:33 -0600 Report

Teresa Rose: how true…children needing someone outside of immediate family to share memories of their mother with them.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-11-27 20:16:10 -0600 Report

chetsgirl, I'm so sorry that someone has done something so mean to cause your brother-in-law to be hurt in such a terrible way. To be burnt even in a small area is bad enough, but 40% of his body is horrible. I will always remember him in my prayers and also pray that he will get S.S.Disability soon.

KBtown 2011-11-27 18:33:19 -0600 Report

I'm sorry to hear about your friend and i will keep the family in my thoughts and prayers.

berrykins0 2011-11-27 11:00:41 -0600 Report

sorry to your friend has passed on. the husband has got alot on his lap to deal with.the worst thing is christmas is coming thats the hardest part to deal with is the holidays and christmas is the biggest holiday of the yr.feel really bad for you and the family.the best thing you can do is be there if he needs someone to talk. i don't know how well you know all support helps a person feel better. take care time heals pain along with prayer.

eristar 2011-11-27 06:21:37 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to hear about this - what a tragedy. Prayers being sent for her husband, those sweet children, and you, my friend…

nanaellen 2011-11-26 21:55:04 -0600 Report

Can't say any more than everyone else has already said, just know that your in my heart tonight! Ellen

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-11-26 20:50:16 -0600 Report


I am so sorry to hear about tihis tragedy. There is so much in life that cannot be explained, and the death of someone so loving and so needed is so hard to understand. But of course it is not ours to understand but, instead, to learn to accept, and to treat each other with kindness. Can you reach out to her husband and children and offer them support, can you get together with friends and offer to cook for them or help them in some way? This might help you to deal with your own grief, and help them with theirs.

I am cetainly not offended by a prayer request!

How are you doing? I hope you will stay in touch with us.


medic673b 2011-11-26 22:30:21 -0600 Report

thank you Dr. Gary i will kep in touch. and again i appreciate all of you

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-11-27 20:04:48 -0600 Report

I meant what I saed in your note. I am standing by. Please keep in touch. I know this is a very hard time for you. It is so hard to lose a friend.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-11-26 19:51:38 -0600 Report

I am so touched by this and am so sorry to hear this about your friend. I can identify with this because 3yrs. ago this past Oct. 15,2008 my daughter gave birth to a son. She also has a 9 yr. old daughter. I was with her when she was having her baby. Before he was born she had gotten an epidural and after that she had a really bad headache. When she was delivering the baby she didn't hardly have any strength to push. I put my body behind her and used my body to help her push when it was time. She had to strain really hard to push him out. He weighed almost 9 lbs. The next day I went back to see her and she wasn't acting like herself. I thought it was just postpartem depression. She still had a headache and her neck and jaw hurt and she was really tired. She went home from the hospital. The next day they had to bring the baby to the hospital for his test so her husband made her go to the ER to get checked out. They found that she had cardio myapathy and they put her in the hospital and did a bunch of test on her. She was in there for a couple days and they got her on Meds for her heart. She had to quit breast feeding the baby and her husband took him home where his mom watched the baby and their daughter. She came home from the hospital on Oct. 23 and the next morning Oct. 24th they got up and she was talking on the phone with the babys pediatrician and her husband was getting ready to go to get some things from the store while his Mom was still there so my daughter wouldn't be alone. He was getting ready to go out the door and all the sudden he noticed that my daughter didn't look right. She put the phone down and started down the hallway and collapsed. Her husband helped her to the couch where she began to lose her bodily functions. She was dying. His mom was calling 911. The ambulance was right down the street from them and they were there so fast. They were doing every thing they could to keep her awake. They got her in the ambulance and on the way to the hospital she died 3 times and was shocked back. When they arrived at the hospital her heart doctor was on his way out the door to leave and heard her name on the ambulance radio and stayed to take care of her. They rushed her in and placed 3 stents in her heart. And that is when the cardiologist discovered the problem. Apparently during the birth of her son she had suffered an Aortic Dissection. She was rushed to the Indianapolis Heart Hospital and they did Emercency Open Heart Triple bypass surgery on her. She has been living for 3 years since her heart attack. Last year she was given a pacemaker because her heart wasn't beating properly. Its wired to her heart and she has this box under her skin. She has now been sent to a cardio specialist that you are sent to when there is nothing else they can do for you. Only 30% of her heart is good and the rest of her heart will never heal. She could die at any moment. I pray that she lives to see her children grown. Would love for her to see her grandchildren. That may be pushing it but I am trusting God to answer our prayers. I don't know what we would have done without our trust in God. I will be thinking of your friends husband and remembering him in my prayers. - Teresa Rose

tabby9146 2011-11-29 16:07:26 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to read this. what an ordeal! I hope she lives for many many years. I've never heard a story quite like that. Sounds like she is a living miracle. Thank the Lord.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-12-01 05:53:33 -0600 Report

It is a miracle that she lived. Her doctors said that 99% of people die from this type of heart attack. We definetely are counting our blessings and are continually praying for a continuous miracle.

GabbyPA 2011-11-27 07:53:39 -0600 Report

Wow, that is so hard. It is part of what makes us all understand a bit of what others are going through. No wonder you have such a soft heart for people.

chetsgirl 2011-11-26 17:57:17 -0600 Report

So sorry for your loss. I will pray for this family and everyone else tjat is in need. My family is also still in need of prayers. My brother-in- law was a severe burn victim that was hit with a moltov cocktail and burnt over 40% of his body on 6/26/2011. We are trying to get him on diability, but are having to get everything ourselves.

pixsidust 2011-11-26 18:52:29 -0600 Report

Why don't you start your own discussion so we might give you the attention you deserve while also giving this one its own due? I would like to hear more and share more but out of respect for this one feel they should be separate. I will be watching for it so we may converse!

chetsgirl 2011-11-26 18:22:32 -0600 Report

I found out recently that I have peripheral neuropathy on top of all my other health problems including diabetic retinopathy. I don't know how much more my family can handle. If you know somewhere we can get help for little or no cost it would be very helpful. Thank you all.

Caroltoo 2011-11-26 18:17:28 -0600 Report

I have heard over the years that it is almost impossible to get disability without an attorney. Of course, we all think that we can't afford one and frequently can't. I've found many work on a contingency basis and do not charge unless they are successful. It might reduce the total settlement somewhat, but if you get it a year sooner than you would anyway, it might be worth it.

eristar 2011-11-27 06:20:34 -0600 Report

I was actually able to do all the paperwork required for disability myself, was approved, and have been getting it since the spring…so it can be done, but you have to have all of your doctor's numbers, addresses, and dates of tests and stuff handy when you start filling out the pages (and pages!) of application. Best wishes to you…

medic673b 2011-11-26 17:41:37 -0600 Report

thank you all i know the family but the husband the most will appreciate your thoughts and prayers as i do

Gracie40 2011-11-26 16:46:00 -0600 Report

I pray for peace and guidance for all of you in this terrible tragedy. May she rest peaceably.

Caroltoo 2011-11-26 14:02:49 -0600 Report


This is such sad and tragic news. You feel the loss deeply and I appreciate your turning to us at dc in your sorrow. It shows you really do think of us as family, as those you can trust with yourself and your feelings in a time when you must feel very confused and vulnerable.

I will join the others in prayers for you, the father, and the children. In the coming time of major adjustment for this family, I hope you will find ways to reach out to them, to be there for them, and to help them heal.


pixsidust 2011-11-26 13:29:27 -0600 Report

I will pray anyway.

God only you can answer the why of this loss
Yet I know you ask us to trust you.
Make a way for this man to go on
Give him the courage to draw close to you for comfort and faith
Heal the wounds of loss and the pain
that goes on like a scream with no end
Provide for this family
Give him a wise and kind help meet in your timing
a woman who will help the kids remember their Mom.
Touch this situation in this imperfect world we are in
We remember this family to you and with Love!

Annie Banannie
Annie Banannie 2011-11-26 10:31:45 -0600 Report

This news is tragic! I am so sorry to hear about this family! I imagine there will be the consideration of autopsy to determine what brought about her death. But,sadly, having the knowledge will never bring her back! I feel heartbroken for the small children. I feel for the Dad/Husband because his grief will have to be set aside… his responsibilities are too great to just sink in a hole! Sounds to me like a young family is going to need alot of help with family/friends and lots of prayer! The smaller and youngest (newborn) are so blessed to have a dedicated father to care for them. I pray his healing and comfort will come to him and her extended family, soon! God bless those little children!

Young1s 2011-11-26 10:27:17 -0600 Report

You don't need to ask for what is already freely given. I am so sorry for the loss of your good friend. She was way too young. And to pass on such a joyous occassion…it is just heartbreaking. You are all in my prayers. For the father to have the strength to raise those babies in the most loving and nuturing environment possible, in this difficult time. And for you and the rest of his family/friends to be able to be the comfort and support that he will so desperately need. God bless each and every one of you.

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2011-11-26 09:46:06 -0600 Report

Medic, Her family will be in my thoughts, such a young age, such a loss, an angel must have been needed somewhere. You take care also my Friend.


MEGriff1950 2011-11-26 09:35:44 -0600 Report

Medic my prayers just went out to all who loved her, her family and her friends. I pray the father has the strength and courage to raise his children. May God be with you all.

GabbyPA 2011-11-26 08:01:19 -0600 Report

Well prayers are always useful, no matter how they go. That is a young time to go, there must be a plan in there somewhere. I hope you can be there for the family as well, as I am sure he is going to need any helping hands he can get at this time.

nzingha 2011-11-26 07:24:15 -0600 Report

ohh…how sad? dont be afraid to ask for prayers.. those to whom it applies will answer u and act accordingly…in this life we ask for what we want and leave the rest up to whoever…!

alanbossman 2011-11-26 06:39:25 -0600 Report

Sorry to hear your friend died someone so young is sad. I will pray for that father and those young children.

medic673b 2011-11-27 22:07:32 -0600 Report

Thank you and everyone else whos has been so supporting during this time i appreciat each and every one of you