Down in the dumps

By add_destiny Latest Reply 2011-11-29 13:37:43 -0600
Started 2011-11-24 10:05:44 -0600

Ok- vacation is too long. I want to go home- have a regular eating schedule, and fall back into my little world of licking my wounds and doing my daily battle all alone. I spend my days doing an in home daycare. I am with little kids all day that live for schedule. I am tired of my schedule being and "inconvenience" to my husband's family. :( I am sorry I can't go from 7 am to 3 pm and call that breakfast to lunch. I am sorry that I order salad at the best burger joint in the world- and decline to taste the fries. Sigh.

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add_destiny 2011-11-28 12:47:16 -0600 Report

I am home now and feeling do much better! Except for this cold I brought home as a suvonior! Lol my schedule- my house- my way now. I can read nutrition labels and eat when my alarm beeps. Much better place. I even got an apology from my husband. That made it kinda worth it. ,)

GabbyPA 2011-11-29 13:37:43 -0600 Report

Did you get that cold along with a sore throat from singing? LOL
It is nice when the ones you love see what you are going through. I know I am always apologizing to my hubby for how my mom treats him. It's hard to be in the middle, so I get is feelings. I'm glad you're home and able to get back on track.

meowbat 2011-11-29 01:45:22 -0600 Report

he is not the only one who owes you an apology. something tells me that when, not if, the tables turn you will be the bigger person. People shun what they don't, and don't wish to, understand. consider them ignorant. and yourself informed. remember their time is coming !!!!!!!!

Young1s 2011-11-29 01:21:06 -0600 Report

That's great that you got an apology from him. I just wish he could have stepped in for you on your behalf and got his mom off your back. But like you said, you're home now, back to you inner sanctum. I hope you can get the rest and peace that you so desperately needed. Be blessed.

Caroltoo 2011-11-28 12:49:16 -0600 Report

Glad you are home and feeling happier/healthier. That sounded like a really rough trip. Hopefully, your husband is also beginning to accept that it placed an unusual and unncessary stress on you.

meowbat 2011-11-29 01:14:16 -0600 Report

wow you are definitely hooked on the PH. why? My PH has no balance. it bounces like a bumble all the time. say hi to cousin Tiggggggger…!…!…!

lilmellie 2011-11-28 12:39:54 -0600 Report

My mother is diabetic and she went through the same thing until someone in the family had spoken up and defended us. For years since my mom was diagnose and I have learned about diabetes the two of us have been in constant battles, arguing with family members about everything, you name it, until that one day she finally stepped in, took awhile and told them what they thought was right were actually wrong. It is very sad and frustrating that these people think they know everything or just plain ignorant about diabetes.

Educating people on diabetes is important. Plus making them understand that it effects everyone..not just the obese…everyone.

It is okay to have a fry, I do let my mom have an order of fries, it is okay to indulge yourself.

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meter readers of void 2011-11-25 23:44:47 -0600 Report

singing all the way after a salad, humm- makes me wonder about the burger and scanning for a new station to sing to——————wow no comment ! make a basket of fries that ppl might enjoy and safe to eat while driving——sorry didn't mean to tune you all out ,am confused on this new burned cd that skips or maybe it was just another one of those dreams that keeps going,anyways its good to sing your heart out in a convertable with the top down and the wind blowing like you just don't care yah write! sorry didn't mean to sound like I got pissed off again ,been to anger management for that before,now learning to laugh at the mistakes I have made in the past—new PH balance helps

bleonard13 2011-11-25 20:37:25 -0600 Report

listen dont be sorry be joyful you can decline the burger and fries i am type two and still trying to learn how to say no to the extras your doing great your in laws need to understand the fact that and to understand the whole thing just like Just Joyce said below

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2011-11-25 12:38:31 -0600 Report

add_destiny, before I was diabetic I could go most of the day on breakfast alone. Now I have to stop and eat periodically. If your husbands family make you feel it is an inconvenience because you can't do that, educate them. Go on line or find articles on this site, print them out and give them to them. Your husband should also act as a reminder by asking if you need to stop to eat something. You can also take "go" foods when you travel with them. Pack healthy snacks in a ziplock bag and munch away when you have to have a snack between a meal. I miss fries but if you go in the best burger joint in the world and have a burger, why not taste 1 or 2 fries. Thankfully I rarely eat fast foods.

Mickey/CCHT 2011-11-24 18:01:19 -0600 Report

And yet again I hear ignorance spouted at people who did not ask for this. I wish people would get educated before they open their mouths! Don't they know that skinny people can get D and a lot of big people never get it! Sounds like some more people need to be schooled. Shame on them.

Never be sorry for taking care of yourself and not letting anyone bully you into doing what is not good for you. Makes you a very smart person. Enjoy that song ALL the way home!

Jeanae 2011-11-24 11:12:47 -0600 Report

Stay strong. If they can't be supportive that is their fault, not yours. Put yourself and your medical needs first. My husband and I went on vacation 1 week after I was diagnosed with Type 2. I had just started taking a ton of meds plus insulin. We went to Disney World of all places. I would get sick and have to find a bathroom immediatey. I would black out while in line for a ride. I know it was a trying time for him but he was supportive because I am more important to him than a "ride" or show. My mother-in-law hoever was a different story. She kept nagging, complaining and finally announced loudly that my diabetes was my fault as I was so fat. It served me right. I just had to be a duck and let her comments roll off my back like water. Hang in there and hey- congratulations for being so strong and commited!!!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2011-11-25 12:59:09 -0600 Report

Jeanae someone once walked into my office. This was a new employee. Out of the blue she said you're fat. Without missing a beat I said and you're ugly. I can die thin but you will always be ugly. For 3 months she never said another word to me. I noticed that she changed her hair style, makeup, and clothing thing had the nerve to ask me if she was pretty. I asked her if she changed her attitude towards people you encounter on a day to day basis. She said no. I told her until you change your nasty, opinionated attitude, you will always be ugly because an ugly attitude makes you an ugly person. She slowly changed and made friends with her coworkers. Sometimes people who resort to calling others names have problems themselves and until they solve those problems, they will always resort to calling names to take attention from themselves. Ignore them and eventually they will either shut up, go away or realize they can't hurt you as badly as they are hurting. Works every time.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2011-11-25 12:51:34 -0600 Report

Jeanae…I have a sharp tongue at times and when people say that to me, I say thanks however, the next time I want your opinion, I will give you one. That usually shuts them up. I have worked with the public for years and the one thing I learned is that people are ignorant, nasty, angry, idiotic or just plain
stupid. I ignore them and I am very good at that. It is sad that family members at times can be the worse people you encounter when you are sick or have a disease. Instead of being compassionate and ask if they can help in anyway, they blame you for your illness, ask why don't you see a doctor who can cure you, or criticize how you take care of yourself, the meds you take or your doctor. If that had been me, my mother-in-law would not have liked what I would have said and would never speak to me again. Thankfully, I don't have that in my family and I am not married.

add_destiny 2011-11-24 11:35:29 -0600 Report

lol! My mother in law tried to tell me that there is a clinic that can cure me… I just said, "wow! Too bad they don't have one in Arizona!" lol I am "padded" too—- and have native American heritage- my diabetes was actually hastened along by a pancreatic injury…I have heard the "you did it to yourself" crap before too. That's mean and I am sorry that ANYONE would say that to any diabetic.

GabbyPA 2011-11-24 10:57:51 -0600 Report

Kudos to you for your will power. There is nothing to be sorry for, it shows how serious you are about being around for a long time and living well doing it. Vacations are hard because you are out of sync, but once you are home you will be back on board and doing fine. Have a great holiday with them, and sing all the way home. LOL

add_destiny 2011-11-24 11:37:25 -0600 Report

I am gonna sing alllllll the way home!!! Hahaha with my foot to the floor gas pedal in the middle! Next year we visit my family. Let's see how my husband likes that! They are all diabetics- pre, 1, lad, and 2!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2011-11-25 12:52:56 -0600 Report

OMG lol I have this visual of you driving down the road singing 99 Flagons of Beer on the wall at the top of your lungs. Have a safe trip home.

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