Where do I begin with my children?

By Young1s Latest Reply 2011-11-09 18:51:10 -0600
Started 2011-11-08 15:21:50 -0600

I have been living with the knowledge that I am a diabetic for a little over a month now but only my husband and mother know about it. I have yet to tell my 4 children because one of them is out of state right now and I want them all at home when I do tell them. I want to be able to answer their questions, gauge their expressions and get a sense of how they all are feeling in person. I won't be able to do this until Thanksgiving break. I guess my reluctance also stems from the fact that when I was diagnosed with pancreatitis, and then ended up in the hospital from a serious flare up, they all took it very hard. Now I have to burden them with more bad news about my health.

I don't have any plans to address this as a doom and gloom aspect in our lives but I am still at a lost as to how to approach the topic, mostly for my youngests sake. I have two 19 year olds, a 17 year old and my youngest is turning 13. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

11 replies

Mickey/CCHT 2011-11-09 18:51:10 -0600 Report

By reading the posts below, they totally echo what i was going to say. By making it a positive thing, their will be less anxiety. Will probably be some, but by including them in what you are doing will help. Just being open and honest is going to go along way. Just highlight how all the changes are good changes and how they can also help you. I'm sure it will be fine. We are all here for you and i wish you luck! God Bless, Mickey

Gracie40 2011-11-09 12:34:08 -0600 Report

You are right about the positive life changes you are going to be making. You will be eating healthier, and that may explain why you don't have certain foods in the house any longer. But what a wonderful lesson for the kids to learn. Be sure you have the answers to their questions before hand. And as pixie says, their feeling may mirror yours. So stay upbeat and tell them how you are taking care of yourself. By the way, there is a recipe for a low carb pumpkin pie on this website, so take advantage of it. Glad you dropped in here. There is no place on earth like it for support and encouragement. Hugs. Gracie

Young1s 2011-11-09 00:18:11 -0600 Report

Thank you all for the encouraging words. Like I said, I don't plan to fill them with doom and gloom. As a matter of fact, I see the life changes that I am making now as good things for me and them. I will admit that I may be overthinking this a bit. I guess I just needed a little push in the right direction.

pixsidust 2011-11-09 10:55:55 -0600 Report

Tell them You want to ask for their help. You are changing some things for the better because you are Diabetic. You know with their encouragement and help with this healthy lifestyle you will do just fine.
Make sure you make a Diabetic friendly Thanksgiving meal and dessert. Start there by showing them even dessert can still be tasty while remaining safe.

pixsidust 2011-11-08 22:21:27 -0600 Report

Their feeling may mirror yours. If you feel you have one foot in the grave, they will too. So be positive and strong of spirit. Let them know you are making some changes in your life because of your new diagnoses of Diabetes. You are going to really eat healthy and do whats necessary to take control! So hold your head up, adopt a healthy eating habit and teach that to your kids. You can really give them the basis of a healthy lifestyle. Be of courage. My grandpa lived till 88 with Diabetes and many other things!

RAYT721 2011-11-08 18:45:03 -0600 Report

Diabetes is a disease but it's not life-threatening. There are people who live years and years with diabetes who never get any of the many complications from uncontrolled diabetes. The diet you should be following for lowering carbs and fat and sodium is the kind of diet that both diabetics and non-diabetics alike should be following. There are three legs to diabetic control … diet, exercise and medication (when prescribed). Having diabetes is a change but it's a good change. Oh, sure you may have to give up eating boxes of Ho Hos but we probably shouldn't be doing that anyway. Today is a great day to tell the kids the simple fact… you're diabetic. It's not your fault. You just have to make a few changes to your lifestyle… for the better!

MEGriff1950 2011-11-08 17:24:27 -0600 Report

I would tell my children now and not wait until Thanksgiving time. Kids can handle it and will have time for it to sink in. They can all go online and do some research, why not give them links to this DC site. I think that if you wait then you will have a cloud hanging over you for your holiday. Diabetes is not a death sentence but a chance to change your lifestyle to a much healthier one. Letting them know now will also prepare them for not having so many high carb foods for the holiday.

Harlen 2011-11-08 16:46:04 -0600 Report

Kids deal with things fairly well tell them the facts as you know them /thats a big one too.
My boy's try to help me lol lol
They will look for ways to help
They may even help you sort thrue all the info 'not all of it helps or works for you
They are kids and let them be kidsand have the bad things kid love that you can not have lol
Love them and be honest with them.
Best wishes

granniesophie 2011-11-08 15:42:05 -0600 Report

Ya know what, I would just tell them. Kids are smart-they will figure out something is up and ask anyway. Diabetes is not a death sentence. Tell them what you have and how you intend to take care of yourself. And how they can help you to do that. And how they don't need to be the "Diabetes Police". You are still their mom and they will love you no matter what, and they will support you no matter what.
When I told one of my daughters, she said "oh crap Mom, another family thing I'm gonna inherit, can't Hollie get this one??" And Hollie said pretty much the same thing! I raised two smart asses!!
Neither was too upset, just wanted information and whether I needed anything.
And told me that when I was old and decreped (sp?) they were putting me in a home!!
So, my point being, just tell them, and it will all work out. They may be upset a little, but it will pass, especially as they see you take care of yourself and they realize you can and will live a long healthy life and see your grandkids someday.

Young1s 2011-11-08 15:47:28 -0600 Report

The "Diabetes Police" is exactly what I am expecting from my twins. LOL. I hear you though and will do.

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