Rejection Diabetic or Afraid to Catch It From You

saber32
By saber32 Latest Reply 2011-12-05 19:08:59 -0600
Started 2011-11-06 07:10:46 -0600

I found out some people will rejection you if they find out you are a diabetic ? Or afraid to hang out with any more because of the diabetics.

from testing every few hours . I lost friends because of the diabetic.

I I know who are my friends and who is with me through this problem whos not with me

I even have friends that are diabetic befor i became one I know how thay feel too


16 replies

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-12-05 10:47:14 -0600 Report

It all goes to show You can't fix stupid. These are people who would reject you anyway and are coming up with this as a reason. Its not the real reason. Its a way or means of a blow off. Its a put down of you as a person because its insensitive just to make crass remarks. They do not care how you feel and explaining means nothing because its not the real issue. Find someone who will appreciate you and respect you. You respect yourself by not wasting your time…trying. There are good people who will be great friends. Do for others, volunteer and suddenly you will be loved for you.

Young1s
Young1s 2011-12-05 08:11:38 -0600 Report

You can't let the actions of small minded people get you down. If they can't at least try to emphathize with what you are going through then they weren't really your friends in the first place. I say good riddens. Take this as an opportunity to find new and better friends. An of course, you have all of our support here. Be blessed.

Uncle Lew
Uncle Lew 2011-11-07 20:31:44 -0600 Report

The world is full of jackasses, the ignorant and just plain jerks. We all learn to deal with them and to really value our friends.
Good luck.

nanaellen
nanaellen 2011-11-07 15:11:34 -0600 Report

Hey Matt, Sorry your dealing with jerks (for lack of an acceptable term) But I wouldn't let it stress you out! Ignorance of Diabetes is EVERYWHERE!! I watched Iron Chef America a few weeks ago and even on t.v. they blame everything on diabetes!! One of the judges said these sweet potatoes are good they're not as sweet as my Mothers if I ate her's all the time I'd have diabetes by now! OOOHHHHH I was fuming at the t.v.!!! lol Some people just don't get it and never will. Don't give up not EVERYONE is that insensitive!! :) Ellen

Mickey/CCHT
Mickey/CCHT 2011-11-06 23:42:18 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to hear that in this day and age people are still so narrow minded and ignorant! I shouldn't be surprised because we see it every day, but it is so stupid!!
Obviously those people were not really true friends and you are probably better off without phony negative people surrounding you.
Go out and be yourself and met some new people who will like you for just the way you are!! Be Blessed, Mickey

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-11-06 10:30:11 -0600 Report

Matthew, I lost a wife and a 25 year marriage partially due to diabetes. I had been in denial for a while but had started taking care of myself. When she decided to divorce me she told some college friends that she was afraid I'd go into denial again and start not taking care of myself. She said she didn't want to take care of me if I got complications, so she dumped me. Her mom went through much the same with her dad and congestive heart failure and couldn't divorce him because he was the family's sole breadwinner.

And after I was divorced and trying to date, several ladies with whom I got into email conversations, and some I have met in real life, rejected me because they were afraid I'd "go sour" on them too.

But I have found that being up front with ladies about my conditions is the best policy.

I did have fantastic success with a lady on a dating4disabled website who contacted me and who quickly became my "Jem" and my bride.

I have found people with disabilities of some kind to be more tolerant with other people with disabilities, even if they don't share the same conditions. They don't seem to expect bodily perfection like the (so called) "normal" people do.

I agree with Gabby that we need to be educationg folks about our conditions.

We also need to look to other people who have disabilities and conditions different than ours. They often are lonely too and suffering from their version of public misunderstanding of them and their conditions.

Blessings!

James

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-11-06 09:02:24 -0600 Report

I know I have not lost any friends because of diabetes, but I do have friends who are much more helpful in my situation than others. This is where we can educate and help them understand.

I think as kids, this is specially hard because like you said, they think they might catch it from you. I know it sounds foolish, but when you are kids, you just don't get it. I had a childhood friend who was diabetic, but didn't realize it until many years later as an adult when I was able to put two and two together.

Reaching out, specially during November, it so important. We need to educate folks, so we don't loose friends over stupid myths.

saber32
saber32 2011-11-07 03:49:58 -0600 Report

thanks im tring my hardest with that

meowbat
meowbat 2011-12-05 03:54:21 -0600 Report

Just read this today, people that don't accept imperfection in others, either don't use, or don't own a mirror. some of them are innocent because of ignorance. some of them prefer to be ignorant.