What is your philosophy?

By Chad1978 Latest Reply 2011-11-10 17:32:49 -0600
Started 2011-11-01 11:18:30 -0500

Good morning to my fellow diabetics, supporters of diabetics, people just looking for support, period, people looking to annoy those looking for support, and any of you others that I may have forgotten to add. Lately I have recieved a few replies to some of my posts stating that I must be in denial, and that my eyes are closed. Others stating that I'm full of BS, or whatever. Normally I wouldn't write a discussion about this as I really have no need to defend myself. I did start to think that maybe there are people out there that do feel that it has to be impossible for someone like me to be so at peace with a disease like diabetes. Maybe they wonder how it's possible for someone to not have had one moment of anger about this disease. I figured it was time to tell them how and why I see things the way I do.

First of all, I am a realist in life. This is a very important point to who I am. I have always seen things for what they are and not see them from someone else's view point. I have been this way for as long as I can remember. I remember this whole philosophy starting while I was doing the whole church thing. I was raised in an Irish Catholic family, so church was pretty big with most of my family. I went through CCD, first communion, and so on and so on. From the beginning I just was not like the other kids. I was always the one asking questions about pretty much every story or topic we were being tought. No matter how annoyed my parents, CCD teacher, priests, etc., got I kept on asking away. This went on for a couple of years until I started doing my own research and determined that although there are some pretty interesting stories with religion that ultimately I just didn't buy into all the magic realms, and magic men. One of the biggest problems I had was the whole Mary getting magically pregnant. I won't go into more religious detail, as I am sure many of you believe whole hartedly, and I am not looking to upset anyone. I just wanted to show you where my life philosophy began. This belief trickled down into pretty much my everyday life since then. I could never ever ever blindfully defend either political party, and it drives me nuts how many people blindfully and biasly defend there favorite political party with the my party can do no wrong whereas your party can do no right attitude. I look from politician to politician, and actually do my research before I make my decision. Most people have already made there decision 20 years in advance. No matter what I'm going to vote for so and so because he is in my favorite party. This thought process is the reason why politicans are as horrible as they are. When Bush was in office I had some very good discussions with many friends and family. Most of their beef with Bush was his spending habits. I am not allowed to even talk about Obama with these same exact people. When I bring up his insane spending habits there is always some crazy justification made to defend him. I can't do that. If I complain about someone I dislike because of something he is doing then I will still complain if someone I like is doing the same exact thing, and even doing it much worse. I can't blindfully or biasly justify bad behavior no matter who is doing something I dislike. Again, I know that politics is another unfortunate touchy subject. The two no no topics are always politics and religion. I feel it is this way because too many people take these subjects to darn personally, and definitely to biasedly. I am not faulting them. It's just who they are, and if that's what works for them then so be it. I am just trying to explain who I am.

In no way do I feel that I am better or worse than anyone else. I am just different, and I am A-OK with that, and if you are different then you should be A-OK, as well. We are all different, and that's what makes us all great. I do not want to be like anyone other than me, and I hope that you all feel the same way. By that I do not mean I want you to be like me, but I want you to be like only you. Who cares what those around you think! Go with your gut instead of just trying to fit in.

I am rarely one to judge someone else, and I really could care less if someone judges me. My thought process is definitely much different than many many people I know, and since I've had some strange replies about me being in denial and what not I thought maybe it was a good idea for me to explain why I am the way I am. We have learned that I am not religious. I refuse to call myself an atheist, though, because I just feel that that is another group with an agenda. I could care less if the word god is written on my money. I don't believe so it doesn't bother me. Atheists tend to be bothered that stuff, but not me. I actually send my kids to a private catholic school. No atheist would do that. All I care about is getting my kids the best possible education that they can and after a lot of researching we found an excellent private school for them. I also want them to make the decision of whether or not they want to believe in religion or not. I do not feel it's fair for me to take something away from them that they want. When they ask me about my thoughts on it I do tell them how I feel, but I tell them that when they are older and have asked all of their questions then they and only they can decide which path to take on that subject. I am pretty much against organized anything, as I feel that all things organized are evil. Just look at the Catholic church and all of the recent pedophilia and all of the othe nasty history of that church, look at organized government, organized mobs, and so on and so on. Where there is organized then usually there is money. When there is money then there is an almost guaranteed amount of corruption. This is why I am anti-organized anything, unless proven to be uncorrupted.

There you have it. That is me. I am a realist, and it is very hard, if not impossible, to get me depressed or stressed out. I had no control over becoming a diabetic, but I can control it. I am not a perfect person, and most definitely have my flaws, but I always own up to them. I do not think like the majority, and I am perfectly happy with that. If more people started thinking the way I did then I would be OK with that, as well. I am not afraid to ask questions, and I am not afraid to speak my mind, regardless of the topic. I say things as I see them, and I always do my research. If I think I know something, but someone proves me wrong with facts then I openly admit I was wrong, and then take a new stance. I always side with facts rather than my ego or pride. This is me, and I am sticking with it. I laugh a lot, and enjoy life. None of us will ever no when today is our last day, so I make sure to live like today is my last. I hope it is not, as I have to much to do like watch my kids grow, graduate college , get married, and so on and so on. I work for a railroad, so every once in a while I hear about a car getting hit, and what not. In many of those incidents the people in the car do not survive. Many of those that did not survive were pretty much completely healthy people. So that just proves that whether or not you have a disease that no one has any guranteed days of life, so the time we do have is up to us to determine how we want to use that time. I choose to use it wisely by enjoying it. That's pretty much all I have to say, for now. If anyone has any questions then ask. If you have any statements then state them. Don't hide yourself. I am not going to get upset at you. I am not going to be offended by you. I am not going to look down on you. No more of this anonymous nonsense. That just shows me that you are either being dishonest, possibly a jerk, just trying to cause a ruckus, etc. I am always open to open and honest discussions or debates. So long, for now.

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Jeanette Terry
Jeanette Terry 2011-11-10 17:32:49 -0600 Report

In response to all of the replies to this discussion, everyone please remember that we are all entitled to our own opinions and that we need to respect everyone as an individual here in the community. This site however, is here for you to talk about diabetes. There are many parts of our lives that are affected by diabetes and it is nice sometimes to talk about other things, but please remember what this site is all about. We are all here because we have diabetes and are looking for better ways to control it and live with it every day.

MrsCDogg 2011-11-09 06:00:13 -0600 Report

It took me nearly 40 years to get almost to where you are! Be who you are! Don't be a clone! I love it!!

Chad1978 2011-11-09 11:37:04 -0600 Report

Thanks. I was just trying to be as honest as possible about me. Some folks liked it while others were angered. This whole thing was me being honest about me, and yet somehow it caused much controversy. Quite strange, but it is what it is, and I appreciate your positive feedback.

pixsidust 2011-11-09 11:10:09 -0600 Report

did you read this? All of it?

Chad1978 2011-11-09 13:41:49 -0600 Report

Um, so if someone has a different opinion than you than there must be something wrong with them, huh? There is just too much anger within you Pixsi. Breath and count to 10.

GaryFB 2011-11-08 12:25:32 -0600 Report

Chad, be and stay your own person on this. All our D journeys are somehow similar but also so different. Keep it up!

Chad1978 2011-11-09 13:50:49 -0600 Report

Lol, I'm trying. When you write something simply about yourself and yet somehow manage to anger a ton of folks. I get people telling me that my religious views should not be discussed on DC, and then they end it with may God bless you, or something similar. That kind of confuses me. I mean that is the reason why I even wrote about my religious stance.

sheriden 2011-11-07 03:16:19 -0600 Report

This DC and all the other connects are organized. I always offer prayer. and blessings and will never stop. I know who knows the Lord in some cases it is those I ask for prayer on the connects. I was upset when I found out about being diabetic. But at the same time my friends here helped me through it, also my faith that when it is my time I will go weather hit by a bus or diabetic issue. I also only heard you speak about catholic and there are other churches one can try if you have only try one and do not have the belief in them but send your children there I question what type parent you are. I would never send my kids to a school or church I felt would teach them things I felt were wrong. For the most part the Catholic's Fathers if you will are the one's who have prayed on children. Others yes just not to the extent that the catholic's have. I do not go around stating that I to not go around telling others I do not feel that the the Easter bunny is not real, I say this because when people say God is not real it is the same thing. If you do not feel that the Easter bunny is real do you get into a heated debate over it, of coarse not so why if God is not real to you do you need to go all out and tell us all. Also God is not a church. He is in the hearts of the people who know his son Jesus and ask forgiveness and ask him in their hearts. So we who know the Lord are the church. I am in no way angry at you I just feel for you. Now amount of money or things can make one happy, we have a hole that can only be filled by our maker. As you see I am not saying or talking like to each his own as I know for a fact that God is real. And trust me after what you have said I will and am sure others will pray for you with a broken heart that God will send someone into your life to show you how real He is. As far as expressing our trust in God the bible says not to be ashamed to tell others about the father. I have many ills and depression is one of them. I am on med's for other ills as well. Chemical depression can not be helped any more then other types of depression. I would be very careful saying stuff like that as you never know when a mental illness may hit you, I also give of my self to the needs of people like the cancer animal shelters ect. That I do for the Lord and do not go bragging about if I only say it here because I think many of us do. Please read a bible before you make rash decisions. I know that some who do not believe will not be happy with my post but I felt as you brought this up something had to be said. for the most part I just ask blessings for others. and pray with out telling them unless they want prayer. You have to understand that people on here say what they feel and it dose not sound like it is about being diabetic but when it comes down to it, it is all about being diabetic. And it helps to talk about our every day life and if it helps with stress or makes one happy than that is a help for the diabetic. I writhe this with my heart and hope for your soul. Blessings Robin.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 13:38:19 -0600 Report

Absolutely. Most things in life are organized. What I am against are those uber powerful organizations that are meant to do us good, but are instead constantly involved in hanous crimes against humanity and/or corruption beyond belief. A friend and I ran a fundraiser a month ago, and guess what? It was organized. The difference is that we did things 100% properly so no greed or corruption could take place. We raised over $8,000.00 and every time a dime was raised it was instantly written down and on the board for everyone to see. We did not just collect and count later. It was collected and counted on the spot. We were organized, but not the slightest bit corrupt. That is what I am against.

You are another person coming at me like I attacked your beliefs. That is not accurate, at all. I was simply stating that I do not believe, and how I got to that point in my life. I respect peoples beliefs, but I do not believe in them. I was not pushing anti religion nor was I pushing anything anti-God. I was simply being anti big church. Personally, if I found about a favorite spot I hung out at was involved in sexual abuse of children I would never again step foot in that place. Especially, if I found out that the big boss knew about the abuse and was trying cover it up. No way wouldd I give that place another penny from my pocket. That is all I was saying about religion. I do not care if the word God is on my money. I do not care if people say God bless you. I was actually quite angry with NBC when they edited out 'Under God' from the Pledge of Allegiance. It had nothing to do with religion, but instead I felt it was a big FU to any proud American. I could care less about what anyone believes in. All I dislike is the corruption and sick things these supposedly loving big churches are constantly involved in.

What I do not like is someone not respecting my beliefs on a situation if they decide that they are going to push their own beliefs onto me. I'm not a big fan of double standards. I get a ton of religious replies, inbox messages, etc. That was one of the reasons why I wrote where I come from on the religious stand point. It's OK for people to be religious, but if someone is not religious then he better keep it to him/herself, because I am gonna push my belief no matter what. That is what I keep hearing. Look at your first sentence. That somes it all up. I get some people telling me that my talking about my thoughts on religion do not belong on DC, but then others telling me no matter what religion is going to be pushed whether you believe it or not. So which is it? Do our beliefs belong, or not? If people are going to push their beliefs no matter what then do I not have the same right to talk about my beliefs?

Anonymous 2011-11-05 17:26:41 -0500 Report

Your post is REALLY boring and self-absorbed. Everyone has opinions about religion and politics, but most people are considerate enough NOT to pontificate endlessly about them. This website is about diabetes, not your personal delusions. You used the words "I", "me", or "mine" more than 125 times. All I can say is: I'm sure glad I don't know you. my advice: Get a real life.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 11:55:10 -0600 Report

Thanks. It was supposed to be self-absorbed. It was completely 100% about 'me' and where 'I' come from. Maybe it's boring, but 'I' wasn't writing about a fictional character where 'I' can make the character be anything 'I' wanted. Nope it was purely about 'me' and where 'I' come from on 'my' beliefs.

As far as getting a real life, that is taken care off. Let's see 'I' am a person that is extremely charitable. 'I' have a pretty good career, and so 'I' do what 'I' can for whomever 'I' can. A friend and 'I' just through our first ever fundraiser and we successfully raised over $8000 for Chidren's Memorial Hospital. Why? Because we wanted to. When 'I' am not volunteering, donating, or fundraising 'I' am most likely at home spending time with my beautiful wife and our two amazing sons. 'I' have a full time career, spend time with my friends/family, am very charitable, and yet 'I' still manage to find time to go to college, and am currently all most finished getting my bachelor's degree. After that I am going to continue my education and get 'my' Master's degree. 'I' have not decided about continuing on to get 'my' PHD, as 'I' know the Master's degree is going to be very time consuming, and so 'I' will have to see how 'I' feel. 'I' am quite lucky, as 'I' get to go to college for free, other than books, as 'my' wife is a professor at the college, and one of the perks is that her husband and children can go to the college free of charge.

I like that game you made up. Counting my me's, I's, and my's. I made it a little easier for ya this time. It can be the new drinking game for us all. Everytime chad says one of these arrogant and self-absorbed words then we all take a swig.

jayabee52 2011-11-07 18:29:07 -0600 Report

I see your point, but we do not have to be so NARROWLY focused on diabetes we forget to be human beings. I do not agree with most of Chad's opinions, but I believe he has every right to express them here.

And I have the right to respectfully disagree as long as any of us do not become abusive or nasty in our exchanges.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 12:05:36 -0600 Report

I completely agree. This post was not meant to be the slightest bit controversial, though. Basically, I had a few people doubting that I could possibly think the way I come off in some of my posts. I also get a lot of religious statements from folks. Because of these two things I decided to show people where my life philosophy is coming from. I had no intentions of angering anyone, nor did I envision any type of controversy, as this whole post was purely about where I am coming from on my philosophy of life. I did not intend for it to sound anti-religious, but instead to show where I happen to stand on religion. The same can be said about the political view. I was not intending to sway people nor was I intending to say to people that my view is better than theirs.

jayabee52 2011-11-09 22:22:44 -0600 Report

I pray I was not one of the folks from whom you felt anger.

If so my apologies as my responses to some of your positions was not intended to show anger. I intended to express a disagreement with some of your positions and do it in a respectful way.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 22:46:25 -0600 Report

Anger? No, not at all. If you are referring to religion the only time I get annoyed is when someone says something with a religious undertone, but then gets angry at me when I say I don't believe in that. I get annoyed with the double standards. You have not even come close to annoying me or angering me. I have heard what your thoughts were, and you have heard my thoughts. Not once did you push any double standards. We both stated our opinions, and that's it. I didn't try to sway you to my beliefs nor did you try to do that to me. Anger? Not at all. I respect a person with strong beliefs that does not feel the need to try and change the belief of another person.

TsalagiLenape 2011-11-05 13:46:33 -0500 Report

For the most part I am the same way. Yet life likes to throw us curve balls when we think we have a handle on what we are dealing with. I know. I use negative and positive comments to help myself become better in myself. I also change a negative into a positive. Right now I am getting depressed over something personal. Yet I will indulge and get out of it. Right now its not happening. Yet I am not happy being a diabetic. I lost weight not to become one to become one anyway. Oh well. Yet I am learning about this and many other things along the way. Thus I can grow evolve and become better for myself at least. Others who no longer wish to be a part of my life have decided that for themselves that I dont matter nor the promises they made. Yet will bounce back in a while. So I do what I must and live with it.

pixsidust 2011-11-04 13:48:07 -0500 Report

It just dawned on me, you went through all this effort to write these books about who you are and where you are coming from…then you say its not you but your ability to write. How good is this going to get? No, don't answer that.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 14:11:50 -0600 Report

Ah, good ol' angry Pixsi never lets me down. I don't know what I wrote that got you so angry, but whatever it was it sure worked. My point was to explain to people where I stand on certain issues that I have discussed with folk on DC. I get a ton of replies with religious undertones, so I explained where I stand on that issue. The same was for my political stance, and any other subject. Everything I wrote about was because of a discussion or discussions I've had with people on DC. I did not just write about me for the fun of it. If that were the case I would be discussing the fun things I do in life, rather than my life's philosophy.

It is quite obvious that this post really made you angry, and if a post like this makes you that mad then I do have to suggest that it's time you got yourself a hobby.

Dixiemom 2011-11-04 11:45:40 -0500 Report

Very well put. I may not think like you, but I have some of the same philosophies. Difference makes the world interesting. I shudder to think how we would be if everyone thought the same way. Live and let live is my motto. I can't change you and you can;t change me but we can live peacefully together by mutual respect.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 14:21:33 -0600 Report

That's exactly how I feel. I think everybody took what I wrote as a shot to them and their beliefs, but that was not the case at all. I was simply explaining where I stand on my ideas, and why.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-11-03 18:35:17 -0500 Report

cml678: Me thinks you protest to much…where you find yourself a positive person the majority of us see a very negitive person, with a complaint about just about everything. This site is to discuss problems about diabetes and the joys concerning the big D. There are joys you know. Your views about church, God and politics just don't seem to be appropreite here. You keep coming back and trying to explain yourself, but it all sounds like bull-pucky to me. You have told us more than once your a positive person and you just diabetes in your stride. In my heart I find that hard to believe. I don't believe we should judge others, but in your case, you asked for it. I am a positive person, anyone on this site can tell you that. I try hard to pass that along, rather than moam and groan over things that shouldn't be dicussed anyway. Atleast here in DC. Religon and Politics just cause problems when so many differant views are at stake here. Thanks for listening…Valentine Lady

Dixiemom 2011-11-04 11:51:41 -0500 Report

I know we all tend to ramble at times and discuss our views, likes and dislikes and even our faith. But one thing for certain, some people are always negative and some are always positive. I hope we have more positive as I believe that is a healthy attitude. I am nown for always being happy and believe me I really try. Being a grump doesn't help anyone. I like being able to discuss my feelings on this site and I hope everyone will do the same. It's not a witch hunt, it's a discussion. So, everyone think positive and see the bright side of life.

Anonymous 2011-11-06 14:40:14 -0600 Report

Fanned and faved. This ISN'T a witch hunt. Those protesting they are the most positive are coming off the most negative.

Chad1978 2011-11-03 19:34:29 -0500 Report

In hind sight I would never have written an explanation of where I come from if I would have known that so many people would have been offended about me expalining me. The fact is I did write it, and I am honest about me, so I wasn't not going to do any sugar coating. After all of the flack I've received I have decided to retire from making anymore posts. It's just not worth it. I know see I have to improve on my writing skills because so many people are getting offended by things I did not say, or at least did not intend to say. As far as the church part what I was trying to say is that I am purely against the Big church, and that includes all churches that are involved in or push hanous acts like child molestation, stonings, etc. In not one way did I say I'm against god or religion, or the people that believe in god or religion, and yet somehow I keep hearing about how I am anti-god or religion. I do not believe and yet I have two boys that both go to a private catholic school, and also attend church every Sunday. If I were anti-religion I am pretty certain that I would not have them going to these places. Obviously, I don't attend church with them, but I feel it's there choice to make for themselves, and not mine.

The truth is that I am a positive person, and I very much take my diabetes in stride. Diabetes has actually been a very positive thing for me from day 3. Day 1 and 2 I was in the hospital, so that's why it took to day 3. Once I realised I was a diabetic I wanted to find out all I could to make it as simple as it could be. Diabetes got me to get back into a daily exercise routine. Diabetes got me back into eating much healthier. Diabetes allowed me to meet new friends that I most likely would not have met if I was not a diabetic. The way I looked at diabetes is that it could have been much much worse. I could have had a terminal disease. I could have gotten killed in a car accident, and many other things could have happened that is much worse than diabetes. Diabetes, at least for me, has been extremely easy, thus far. I've only had it for 4 years, and I understand that it could be much tougher to handel as I age, but as of right now I am doing all of the things I need to do, and it really has been easy for me. I have to put some hard work into it, but all of that work is beneficial to me so it's a win win. Before being a diabetic my exercise regime was I'll do it once I get a chance. Now it's part of my daily schedule. My A1C numbers have not been higher than 5.1 since I got everything under control in the beginning. The other reason why it's been so easy and stress free is that I have some of the greatest family and friends anyone can ask for. I can understand how some people can get frustrated with any disease when they have absolutely no motivation from those around them. I am very lucky to have so many people looking out for me. You bet your bottom dollar I am taking this in stride. Even though I have a ton of great people on my side the two people that make me want to make sure I always stay positive are my two sons. I am going to do everything in my power to stay as healthy as I can to make sure that I can live long enough to see them grow up and graduate college, have their own families, etc. They are the reason I just do not have it in me to get depressed about any situation other than something happening to them. They are the keys to my positiveness. If and only if something happened to them is the time where I would understand what it's like to feel depressed.

Again, I apologize for my poor writing on this my final post, but the intention was to show people where I come from. It completely backfired, so oh well. It is what it is and I shall move on. Here are the facts about me that maybe is what I should have written in the first place. I am anti-big organized things like church and politics. I am not anti-religion, god, nor the people that believe in those things. I am also not against people's political beliefs. No I am only anti- the corrupt people that run these organizations, period. Although I am not a believer in religion I am a very honest person, I help those in need as often as I can. I volunteer my time and/or my money. I do this because I can and I want to, period. I have the ability to help people, and so I choose to do so. Just recently a friend of mine and I decided to throw a fundraiser for the Childrens' Memorial Hospital, and this was the first time either one of us had done anything like a fundraiser, and we ended up raising over $8,000.00. Since it was as successful and popular as it was we are now planning on doing this annually. Next year we hope to raise over $10,000, and with the feed back we have been getting I think we will easily do that if not much more. Why did we do this? Because we can and we wanted too. That is me in the nutshell. The fundraiser was called the Ditka Sweater Vest Fest, and my picture shows us all in our Ditka garb, and I'm the drunken one in the middle doing some crazy dance thing. Needless to say there was much laughing going on that night. This is who I am, period. Whether that does indeed make me a negative or positive person is for each individual to decide and not me. I originally had hoped to help motivate people on this site, but now I realise that my writing is just not good enough, so I will stick with motivating the way I do it best, and that is by doing things face to face with people with much worse problems than I have with type 1 diabetes.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-11-04 13:19:12 -0500 Report

Chad; I still think you protest to much! I know that you are meerly trying to explain yourself to all of us and I appriecate that. I also appriecate all the good work that you have done. But why all the bull-pucky along the way. I can see your opionions, but we have a lot of our own too. Please remember that. I'm as honest as the day is long and you did motivate me, but in a bad way. Your writing is well thought out and put. There's no misunderstanding you. I do agree much worse things then Diabetes can happen to anyone of us. Someday I might tell you my story. But for now we'll leave it as it stands. Thanks for listening, Valentine Lady

Chad1978 2011-11-09 14:47:04 -0600 Report

Hello valentine lady. I like that. It's quite a pleasant screen name. Anywho, this post of mine was not meant to be a protest, nor was it meant to be motivating. The only thing I intended to do was to show people where I stand on certain subjects, and why. I didn't just pull out any random subjects. I spoke on subjects that I see or have delt with right here on this very site. Many replies I receive are very religious, so I spoke on my religious stance. I respect peoples beliefs, but I never seem to get the same respect when I speek on behalf of my beliefs, and so I openly discussed my stance on this post. The same is for the political stuff, and anything else. I didn't write this post about me for the fun of it, but instead because of situations I deal with. Not necessarily bad situations, but just situations where I have had different stances on than some of the other folk. I never push my beliefs or stances, but I tend to get people that will push theirs onto me, and thus I wrote this post.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-11-09 17:01:29 -0600 Report

Chad: That's a little more like it. To tell us about yourself and your beliefs is perfectly okay. But, you went on and on and on…you admit that you touched on subjects that really shouldn't even discussed at a party. It just starts arguements and conflict as you have seen here. Don't chane the way you are, just change your choice of sujects that you wish to talk about. This is for Diabetics and the problems and joys that occur there to each and everyone of us. You are getting a little closer. Good Luck…Valentine Lady

Chad1978 2011-11-09 17:21:56 -0600 Report

So, basically it's quite acceptable for all of the religious undertones in responses, but it is not acceptable for someone that's not a believer to state that fact that he is not into religion as that might anger the believers. I am not pushing anti religion, but many many responses I get or inbox messages I receive are filled with these religious undertones. If they can openly have their views then why am I not allowed mine?

annesmith 2011-11-09 22:41:52 -0600 Report

I think it's okay to discuss religion and politics, however, the main theme of this site is diabetes——I am not mad at you—-just saying there are different themes to different sites…How is your diabetes doing? Being you have talked so much about other topics, you are actually not taking care of yourself as far as your diabetes goes the way you optimally should…like I said, no hard feelings here. I forgot what type of diabetes you have, and would love to discuss that with you more——-ha, ha…sincerely, ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-09 22:50:16 -0600 Report

The crazy thing is that I was just stating in my post that I do not believe, and I had no idea that would turn into the controversy that it has. I also stated that I hate the leaders of our country, and the leaders of all corrupt big churches. I did not once blast peoples religious beliefs. I had no interest for political or religious discussions, but life is most definitely ironic at times, and so long story short I have type 1 diabetes, but am now getting a 2nd opinion and am in the middle of testing…LOL

Caroltoo 2011-11-09 18:07:05 -0600 Report

Of course it is acceptable for you to briefly state your views and move on. Personally, I think its more the intensity and the length with which you are defending them, that is problematic.

I'd guess that someone who doesn't believe in God would simply ignore or shrug your shoulders at a response with religious overtones. All of us take what we can use and leave the rest. This isn't any different.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 18:39:45 -0600 Report

So, a non religious person should just deal with it? I mentioned that I didn't believe in religion and was bombarded by religious people acting as if I just slapped them in the face. I did not say one bad thing about their beliefs. I simply stated that I do not believe in that stuff, and that I hate the folks running the big churches that are involved in constant hanous acts against humanity, and somehow that turns into me preaching anti religion. What I am saying here is how I feel. I have been told countless times that these views should not be on this site, and yet the religious views are all over this site. What I am being told in your statement is that I should just shrug my shoulders and get over it. Why can't the same thing be said about those that are religious then?

All I am saying is that if people want to be religious then that is fine, but they also better be fine with me on my views. It has to be a two way street, or it is simply hypocritical. I am not against the religious undertones, but what I am against is the anger and attitudes I receive when I say I don't believe in that kind of thing. Why should a non-believer simply just have to shrug his shoulders and get over it. Shouldn't that rule apply to both parties?

annesmith 2011-11-09 22:46:42 -0600 Report

I don't see a lot of religious undertones at all on this site—-I am respectfully disagreeing with you. You said you were raised strict Catholic? Or, do I have the wrong person ? I apologize if I do. Are you a college student? It sounds like you are writing college essays about finding oneself —-which is really good, but, I honestly do not see a lot of religious undertones on this site. We live in a free country, so, wouldn't you be even more offended or mad if you lived under socialism? ——-ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-09 22:56:17 -0600 Report

First of all, I am not complaining about the religious undertones. What I do not like is when people say something like God Bless, or whatever, and then get angry when they find out I do not believe. I get many inbox messages with a lot of talk about God. I also get a lot of responses with the religious things added in. Again, I am not mad at these people, as I know they mean well, but I just want them to know that I don't believe in that and suddenly I am some big jerk. I feel all people have the right to believe in what they want or not to believe in what they want. Both sides should be able to respect the other sides belief without double standards. That's all. I'm not saying they should stop doing it. Not at all. All I'm saying is that you can't get mad at someone who does not believe in the same thing that you do.

jayabee52 2011-11-09 23:06:09 -0600 Report

I am a peliever in God and the way I wish you well is by saying God Bless you and yours. It is an expression that I bear you no ill will and wish good things for you.

To require me to do otherwise would be like asking me NOT to be me.

A side question: You say that you do not believe in God. Would you classify your beliefs as atheism or as agnosticism?

Chad1978 2011-11-10 10:39:19 -0600 Report

I have absolutely no issue with someone saying God bless you to me. I get people that say that to me all the time. I usually do not have any closing statements like God Bless or sincerely yours, but one time I decided to end my statements with May the Schwartz Be With You, and I responded to this person this way twice. It's a saying from the movie Spaceballs. The person asked me why I ended my messages that way, and I told them that I wasn't religious, so if I end my statements I usually try to come up with something funny, and that person somehow was offended, and thought I was taking a shot at their religion. I was like, huh? How did they come up with that conclusion? That's when I started to get annoyed by the whole religion deal, and the double standards. Most people laugh at my statements, but every once in a while I get someone that always ends with the God Bless, or what not then get mad when they find out I'm not religious. I never once complained about their ending statements, but somehow they are offended when they find out I don't believe. It's quite strange. Again, not all people are like this, but every once in a while their is a religious person angry for me not being religious. I don't get it.

Actually, I don't really classify myself in any category. Most atheists seem to me like they have some anti-God agenda, and they want to do away with God's name on money or in songs, and that's just not me. I could care less about that stuff, and if it makes the majority of people happy then I say go with it. So I definitely do not want to categorize myself with the atheist agenda. I have no beef with God. I just do not believe. I also don't really fit in with the agnostics because I do not have doubt about there being a higher power.I just truly do not believe. I guess we would need to come up with a new category for me, as I do not believe, but I also am not anti-God. In other words I am not trying to take God away from anyone but I just personally do not believe. My own kids go to church with their Grandma each and every Sunday, and to a private catholic school. I'm not trying to take God away from them, as I feel that is their decision to make, and not mine. I do not push anti-god or religion to them, and if they they ever want ask me my thoughts on religion I will be glad to answer any questions they have, but I have no interest in pushing any agenda.

cavie2 2011-11-03 10:33:16 -0500 Report

By God cml0678, you are good. I could not have said that better. I am a Christian and there are many things I do not agree with but have learned to keep my mouth shut as there are far too many judgemental people about who are alwas RIGHT not matter what. I too was never upset when diagnosed with diabetes, my brother and neice both had it for years before I had it so I just took it in my stride. Yes it is tiresome at times what with watching what you have to eat and testing and injecting, the fatigue etc but if you always look on the gloomy side and keep complaining you are giving off negative energy that is a virus in itself it spreads at speed, I stay away from negative people and always try and be cheerful, happy and positive. What goes around comes around.

Dixiemom 2011-11-04 11:55:45 -0500 Report

I don't care what other peoplke think. I just point to my white hair and say "See trhis color, this gives me the right to voice my opinion." Yes, I'm a senior citizen but I also try and stay "young thinking".

Chad1978 2011-11-03 11:28:50 -0500 Report

I think many people are misinterpreting what I am saying about religion. I am not against religion, God, people that believe in God, etc. I am only against the big churches throughout the world that are constantly involved in hanous acts like child molestations, stonings to death for insane reasons like two consenting adults having unmarried sex, murder, etc. I have absolutely no problem with the word god on my money, in our nations songs, etc. God is most definitely not the thing that bothers me. I never judge anyone because they believe in god, faith, spirituality, etc. I absolutely do judge these big churches that preach one thing, but then aren't even coming close to practicing what they are preaching.

I really need to explain my positions much more clearer when I am speaking about things, so I do apologize for that. I did not intend to offend anyone. As far as diabetes goes I am still just a diabetic toddler, so things have gone pretty smoothly for me since I got my levels under control almost 4 years ago. I know this disease can be more demanding as we age, so if that does indeed happen I do hope I can stay as positive about things as I am right now. I am very happy that you do your best to remain happy and positive because I believe that is the most important medicine to cope with almost anything. If you are ever having a down day I do suggest that you watch some good ol' fashioned Chevy Chase vacation movies, or whatever that one movie that just really makes you laugh so hard that your ribs start to hurt. As much as I laugh at the Lampoon's Vacation movies I still think the one that does the most pain to my ribs is My Cousin Vinny.

You know it just dawned on me that my screen name is cml0678. That is a rather weird screen name for a site like this. I am going to have to change it. My name is Chad if you were wondering. cml0678 sounds like a name I would give to a robot, LOL.

annesmith 2011-11-09 22:57:07 -0600 Report

OH…you cleared up the confusion for me—-sorry for any misunderstandings. I saw two different names at different times. It sounds to me like you are hostile towards the Catholic church—I respect all religions myself—-I am not making a personal attack on you…just trying to figure you out…I attended the catholic school systems for 12 years—-they , like any other schools had really strong positives, and some negatives. I became United Methodist a long time ago—I am 41 years old now. It sounds to me like you are having mixed feelings about everything—-I think a lot of people today are confused—-JUST HANG IN THERE NOW…sincerely, ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-10 10:12:08 -0600 Report

I'm not confused about religion at all. I truly do not believe in any of that stuff. I definitely have issues with the Catholic Church, but my issues are not limited to just the Catholic Church. I have issues with any church's or faiths that are involved in sick and hanous activities. The Catholic Church with decades and decades of child molestation, The stonings happening in the Middle East religions, etc. Any faith that preaches peace, but then is involved with some of the most disgusting acts against humanity can never be forgiven, unless they completely change their ways. Let's be realistic, however, and realise that these hanous acts have been around since their very beginnings, so there most likely will not be any serious changes. It will be the same old same old as it has been for centuries. I hope I'm wrong about that, but the one thing that does not lie is history.

dietcherry 2011-11-02 11:07:17 -0500 Report

Good morning all! I just love all you good folks here!

I read through most of the posts and I can see everyones point. However, me thinks you protest too much Chad!

Your Discussion topics are slightly outside the norm. You ask for an exchange of opinions and ideas but then you freely show your annoyance with how a member chooses to participate in your Discussions, i.e. posting anonymously.

That comes off a little confrontational. Theres no judgement here but you asked for it so Im giving it to you!

The whole positivity thing is great and a breath of fresh air at times but positivity should never be shoved down anothers throat. Its like water: it should flow freely and if it meets an immovable force, water takes the path of least resisitance and just flows around it! It doesnt attempt to push the force in any direction!

The manner in which you express your positive nature comes off like a challenge almost.

You have told us MORE than once that you are THE positive person and you KNOW most people arent like you. Right there is an example of negativity, daring people to disagree with you, plus it feels like youre standing in judgement of others' dispositions. If you rub peeps the wrong way from the git with a superior attitude youre def not gonna feel any positive vibes coming from them!

Folks come here to feel a part of the community and the controversy that swirls around you is…stressful to me. But its of your own doing…and undoing. You do come undone and denying it doesnt make it any less true. Trust me I come undone too, several times a day if its that time of the month ;)

But the more you insist nothings gotten under your skin, the more obvious it is to us that it in fact has!

Just come here and hang out! You dont have to stand out to be noticed! We WILL notice you if youre nice, compassionate, and supportive—and you are Chad! We will give you the attention you seek but no drama please. This site is about EVERYONE! Lots of Love to all!!

Chad1978 2011-11-02 14:09:05 -0500 Report


This perticular post of mine has nothing to do with anything other than explaining about where I am coming from in my thoughts and ideas. I am pretty sure that I have not said that I am positive and others are not. I have definitely said that the way I think tends to be much different than the way most other people think. If that came off sounding like I am saying I am positive and others are not then that should have been worded a little better by me. What I was trying to say is that the way that I think and see things are much much different then many people I know personally and on this site. I would never say, on purpose, that I am more positive than other people, because that would be proven wrong by many people that are way more positive than me on this site alone. No, what I meant was that I look at things like politics, religion, athletes, celebrities, charities, etc. much differently then my friends, my wife, my parents, the people on this site, etc. That is what I meant to say, so I do apologize for my writing not coming off as clearly on paper as it did in my head. I do apologize if I came off sounding arrogant or better than anyone. That was most definitely not my intention.

I may tend to do a bit to much protesting, but the things I protest are the things that I feel are keeping people down. Maybe I am wrong, but that's how I see it. Maybe it's not my place to be as open and honest as I am about things, but that's me. I never intended to make such a controversy. This post was me just trying to explain who I am and why I feel and think the way I do. Sometimes I tend to get a bit carried away once I start typing, and that is usually when I tend to jump off topic. I can't help it. I love writing, and once I start sometimes I just can't stop. Just one of my many flaws, I suppose. Lol.

This has really not gone the way that I had intended it to. Honestly, the only things that get under my skin is our crappy law system where it involves child molestors, rapists, murderers, domestic abuse laws, etc. These are the only things that truly do make me upset. Let's just say these people are very lucky that it is not me making the laws, because they would never again see the day of light. Other than that there are certainly things that do annoy me, especially people that wear horseblinders and biasly defend things no matter what. None of these things, however, are sitting inside me festering away.

Believe it or not I really do not care about being noticed or gaining any attention. If I make some friends here than that is just a bonus, but not my first intention. I don't spend that much time on this site because I am just to busy. I wish I could be on here more, but with two boys, 3 dogs, a wife, 5k runs, and so on and so on I just show up periodically when I have the time, and when I do I tend to decide to write a discusion post. I will definitely have to reconsider this for the future because I'm just not sure it's worth it. I can't believe all of the controversy I am receiving for a post that is about me talking about who I am. It's like I have offended people by being honest about me. It's pretty bad when you are trying to write an honest view of yourself, and you have to sugar coat it so you don't offend someone. That is the one problem about writing to people instead of speaking to people face to face. It is much much easier to say things the way you mean them rather than writing what you are thinking. I suppose that is what I will stick with, and call retirement on making anymore posts. I am not looking to offend, start arguments, etc.

I have absolutely no issues with people judging me, my words, or any of my ideas if they feel I have gone overboard on something, or maybe said something inaproprietly. I want people's honest opinions. Take you for instance. You are showing me how you feel in a very honest way. You are not sugar coating your thoughts, and I appreciate that. If you feel that I may be wrong on something or you don't like what I say then do be open and honest and explain what your issue is, and I will explain what I meant and/or apologize about my choice of words. You are in no way attacking me or giving me any reason to respond aggresively to you. If someone throws a ton of sarcasm or attitude my way then most likely that is what they will get in return. There may be times where I may misinterpret what they are trying to say, and if that's the case I will be the first to apologize. I am not angry with these people. Not at all. I always appreciate honest and open criticism, but I just tend to speak to people the way that they speak to me. Again, this why discussions are so much easier face to face rather than on paper, email, etc. In those areas of technology it is so much easier for people to misinterpret another persons messages.

dietcherry 2011-11-04 09:37:37 -0500 Report

I concede to you; I didnt read the whole Discussion body because frankly it was just too long. I skipped down to some of the posts and thought that what I was reading there was what you had initially posted about-sorry!!
In a couple of other Discussions, youd written of how you feel you are more positive than most in this world and I knew you were upset over a few anonymous postings so I just started from there.
I have no beef with you and if you can help me with D, great, and I if I can help you with D, great! Thats what our beloved site is about!
The religion- and political speak is not really welcome here, unless in how it may pertain to D, i.e. a health bill or such. It can become very inflammatory very quickly so we dont indulge. Plus the fact that there are numerous religious and political sites online already to express opinions.
I recognize that you are a passionate person in your beliefs and I can relate because I am too. If you start a blog about your beliefs, please invite me! I would love to discourse with you there!! Lots of Love

Chad1978 2011-11-04 17:39:57 -0500 Report

Yeah, once I start typing or writing something it tends to be just like that energizer bunny, and when I do this I usually expect people will stop reading at some point and sometimes I'll make a joke somewhere near paragraph 6 about it.

I usually talk about how I tend to look differently to the general outlook in life, so if I said something about me being more positive then that was just a poor choice of words on my part. I definitely tend to look at pretty much all things in the most positive way I can, but I definitely do not feel that I am the most positive person on any topic. So, for that I do apologize. I know a few people in my personal life that are much more positive than me, as well as some folk I have met on this site. Again, I apologize, and on certain occasions I tend to reply via my phone, or when I'm in a rush, so sometimes I may not read and edit things before I send them. If I would have looked at that perticular post you are referring to and read that I guarantee I would have changed it before I sent it, because I do not feel that statement to be true about myself, especially since this site alone has people on here that are always cheery and positive each and every time they say something. I tend to come of kind of argumentative at times, but I am not actually trying to be argumentative. I'm just a very open and honest person, and if someone asks me a question then they are going to get an honest answer from me rather than a sugar coated atta boy/girl.

I have a friend that does the whole blog thing, and he has told me I really should get into that, but as of right now it is just something I'm not into. I don't do the Twitter thing, either. I am definitely passionate about my beliefs, but everyone is completely misreading what I am writing on that topic. Even though I do not believe in god, and all those kinds of things I am not anti god or anti religion. I am only anti those in charge of all churches around the world and are supposedly working directly under whichever god they believe in, and are involved in disgunstingly hanous acts like centuries of child molestation cover ups, stonings, etc. That is my stance on religion period, but I think everyone is seeing that and just assuming I am some atheist pushing anti-religion, but that would be completely false. The only reason I even mentioned that in my post is because of all the replies I receive with religious tones. It doesn't bother me, because I know they mean well, but I wanted people to understand where I come from with that aspect of life.

dietcherry 2011-11-05 12:27:23 -0500 Report

Considering there are 7 billion people on the planet, Im not sure how confident you can be in your estimation that you think differently than most. I guess everyone wants to stand out in some fashion, but beliefs are like bellybuttons-we all have one and most dont travel that far from the median.
Youve had the benefit of a Catholic upbringing to allow you to question the existence of a supreme being and you know what? Youre decision to no longer believe is not uncommon at all.
Yes there are heinous acts commited everywhere everyday but that is not to suggest that God has a hand in them. We were all given free will at birth and not everyone plays nice.
Some of the most powerful words I ever learned in life were that we have no human enemies; the Devil is our only enemy. Keeping this uppermost in mind allows me to accept this life for what it is and to not question every sin commited by man.
Some things we will never understand and I dont think we are meant to. Hopefully we gather lessons from others and go forward with greater compassion for all. I dont think you have to be religious to want to be a better person. Nuff said.

Chad1978 2011-11-09 19:56:54 -0600 Report

Saying the devil is our enemy is an excuse for the sick people we have in this country. If we are born with free will then how can the devil make us do anything? OK, the rational response would be that the devil can be very influential. OK, say that is true. It is still up to us to decide where we stand on each and every issue. If the devil tells some random person to kill their spouse it is up to that person to use their free will and to decide on their own if they are going to follow through on that idea. To me the devil is just an excuse to getting out of accepting responsibility.

You suggest that I am blaming God for the hanous acts done by the folks in the church. Since I do not believe in God then there is absolutely no way I can blame him. Nope I blame every Priest, Bishop, Cardinal, and even the Pope. I especially blame the Pope. The Pope had two choices he could make since he knew about all of the molestations happening over the world with his own catholic priests, Bishops, and Cardinals. Choice number 1 is to help preserve the image of the church and cover up all of the molestations that those evil predators were involved in. Choice number two, which really should have been the obvious choice, was to do the right thing and hopefully stop any further child abuse and most likely take a big hit on the image of the church. Well, the Pope decided that the church's image was much more important than stopping any more horrendous acts against children. Because of his decision many, many, many more children were molested. No I do not blame god. I do blame those claiming to work under God. I blame these people and all the preaching they do about being good to thy neighbor. When the show is over and the curtains close it was them that knowingly refused to love thy neighbor. I do not believe in heaven and hell, but I sure hope it turns out that I am wrong, because I would love to know that those sick people are down burning in the firey depths of hell. I have no place in my heart to forgive anyone that can do or allow what happened to all of those innocent children. Those people are the worst kind of scum there is because they hide behind one of the most powerful names on the planet Earth. We are now seeing this same sick crap at Penn State. I'm sorry, but if that guy starts praying to god and asking for forgiveness then I will just puke. None of these people cared about any of that type of thing until they got caught. Once they got caught then suddenly it is forgiveness that they seek. I say never to these scum bags.

dietcherry 2011-11-09 21:17:44 -0600 Report

OK 2 quick points and then Im done here Chad! This is not the place for this.

1. The devil cannot make man evil however his influence is mighty and he works endlessly to destroy us. What I meant when I said that we have no human enemies, the devil is our only enemy is humans CAN choose to do right but regretfully some do not. The devil will NEVER do right and only works to steal our salvation. In this way he IS the enemy!
2. I never suggested that YOU blame God for heinous acts commited by man. I will not debate this point because I did not say it! Good luck to you!

Chad1978 2011-11-09 22:38:50 -0600 Report

I agree that this is not the place for this, and that is why I am so shocked by the responses to my post. I totally understand those that thought it was arrogant or whatever, even though that was not what my post was meant to be. The replies that really shocked me were all of the replies from people that took me as blasting their beliefs even though all I was talking about was me and my non belief. I like people with strong beliefs, even if it isn't what I believe. I want people to be themselves, period. This was why I wrote this about me and my beliefs, and then chaos broke out. Oh well, it was quite the experience.

In point 1 I feel that only we are responsible for our actions. If we are pressured into doing something stupid than we can only blame ourselves and not our peers, heroes, the devil, etc. We had two choices. Do the right thing or do the wrong thing. Only we can decide which choice we are going to make. I think we can both agree to disagree on point number 1.

I do apologize if I misread into your number 2 point. This is what you wrote, yes there are heinous acts commited everywhere everyday but that is not to suggest that God has a hand in them, and I took that as you felt that I was putting blame on God. I thought that was kind of weird since the only thing I ever said about God was that I did not believe in him, so I do apologize for misreading into this statement.

Have a very good night, and hopefully next time our discussions will be based on health topics or animals. Those topics are way less controversial, LOL.

pixsidust 2011-11-03 18:52:43 -0500 Report

Remember what I said about out talking someone. Writing these books are just that. Your losing the audience. Listen and learn. We heard you loud and clear, now hear us…

Chad1978 2011-11-03 19:46:09 -0500 Report

Unfortunately, I am in college and am so used to writing such long essays, that it is now hard for me to retrain myself into writing short paragraphs to explain things. Believe it or not I have won essay contests in my years, and yet I couldn't write a simple explanation about me without people misinterpreting most of the things I said. Maybe it was just too long and they stopped reading, or maybe it was just poor writing by me. My guess is that it was my fault, as I did right it rather quickly, and took absolutely no time proof reading it or editing it. That was a stupid and lazy mistake on my part I really should not have written that until I had the time to do so properly. Instead I did it in a rush. Oh, well. This was good education for me, however.

pixsidust 2011-11-04 10:06:52 -0500 Report

Whoa! Do not blame the writing skill!
Its a function of wanting to argue/debate, & out talk people to be the last one heard. I at no time attribute it to your writing skills. You ramble, talk in circles and skirt the points being made to you. Its your form of debating/arguing. Instead try taking the points made, learn and quit making excuses. Excuses in this instant only mean that you are not taking responsibility. Its not your writing. Some people like to hear themselves talk, so they out talk everyone. You are a case in point.

Lets end this conversation. I hope you take my challenge and make the rest of Discussions different without the hate/dislike mongering. Your cynical attitude will do nothing for those around you except to work like sand paper whether they agree with you or not.

See how hard it is in your daily life to leave those words out of your conversation exp: bothered, bugs me, dislike, hate, not , don't, can't, annoy etc…

Stop and be somebody that people really enjoy being around. Right now you have work to do

annesmith 2011-11-02 00:44:58 -0500 Report

HI…my name is Anne. Write me back…you sounded very interesting and thank you for sharing so much. Were you juvenile diabetic type 1, or are you type 2? ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-02 08:26:20 -0500 Report

Hello Anne,
I am a diabetic toddler. I was diagnosed in early '08 with type 1 diabetes, but that type 1 is now in question. There is a chance I am actually a type 2 diabetic, and I am having some tests done at the University of Chicago Medical Center. So far test one proved nothing. They could not tell whether I was a 1 or 2 from the blood testing, so now they have me doing test number 2. Since they did find out that I am still producing insulin they decided to have me use use only half of my daily dose of insulin for two weeks to see if my body produces more on it's own. Today is the final day for me, and after work it's off to go get jabbed with yet another needle. I sure hope I get a happy nurse rather than the angry nurse that thinks my arm is a dart board. Either way it oughta be a whole heck of not a lot of fun. LOL

annesmith 2011-11-02 22:58:54 -0500 Report

Hi…I feel sorry for you. How old are you? Hopefully they can figure out which type you are …I do know that in rare cases, some type 1s produce up to 10% of their own insulin. If you are a type 2 you will probably be relieved. I wish you the best…write me back as much as you want!!!!!!!——-ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-03 07:59:30 -0500 Report

Ha, thanks, but no need to feel sorry for me. I am actually quite excited that I decided to seek out a 2nd opinion because I really really love my new Endos'. I did some research before I chose a new endo, and I found out that the best facility for diabetics in my area was the University of Chicago Medical Center, and so far I see why they were rated so high. Regardless of what they find out, whether it's type 1 or type 2, this was the best decision I have made. What I am seeking is an answer with 100% certainty. Sure, it would be great if I found out I was actually a type 2, but I have been a type 1 for almost 4 years, and I know pretty much everything I could want to know about it. If I became a type 2 then I would have to start reading out about type 2 diabetes, and that's a lot of work. I'd, obviously do the work, but what I am saying is that I'd be comfortable with either diagnosis. I just want a for sure answer rather than my usual answers which have always been, "well, we think you are a type 1." I want to hear, "Chad, you are a type 1 diabetic," or, "Chad, you are a type 2 diabetic." That's all I am looking for. Just some certainty on my diabetic situation. Oh, and I am 33.

annesmith 2011-11-03 20:57:30 -0500 Report

Oh…I thought you said you were a toddler…I apologize. I must have read the wrong e-mail, thinking it was you. So you are 33, and diagnosed type 1 diabetic at age 29? It sounds like they are not sure if you are a full type 1. Were you diabetic as a child? That is very interesting that they first diagnosed you type 1,gave you the insulin, but then found you produced some insulin later on. It sure sounds like you are type 1 but that you produce what they call extremely minimal insulin. Of course, I could be wrong, as I'm not a doctor. Write me back..sincerely, ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-03 22:58:54 -0500 Report

Ha, sorry about the confusion. I always say that I am a diabetic toddler since I have had it for 3 years. I became a diabetic in '08 at the age of 29, and in February it will have been 4 years since I was diagnosed as a type 1. It is definitely a strange situation that I am in, but really I should have gotten a second opinion as soon as I did not receive a definitive answer from the beginning.

I am waiting on my results for the 2nd test I am going through now, and I have a feeling that this test will just determine what they are going to do with the next test. This test is going to show them if my body is producing even more insulin since I cut my regular 32 units in half for the last 2 weeks. I think the genetic test is going to be the next step, but I'm really not sure until my Dr calls me and let's me know what the deal is. I am really excited to finally get a for sure answer. At this point I could care less of whether I am a type 1 or type 2. I just want to know what I am with certainty.

annesmith 2011-11-04 00:50:45 -0500 Report

That's okay…I literally took it you were a toddler that is diabetic—-ha, ha, ha!!!!! I am partly to blame for that. Yes, I see where you are coming from. Nothing is worse really than not having a definitive answer. I mean, either you are one or the other. I knew a person that had 5 different types of diabetes, which is EXTREMELY rare. It was found in the labs, etc…of course, it took them a long time to figure out her complex diagnoses…very understandable. She almost had a book written about her if I remember right. I felt sorry for her, I mean, HOW is one to juggle 5 types? I sincerely hope that they can figure out for sure which type you are. Of course, diabetes is diabetes, but, BOY, if one does not know for sure if they have to have all the insulin they are currently on, that might be kind of scary in some ways. The next time I write you I'll explain to you my situation—-STRIKINGLY similar to yours…I was diagnosed at age 26 as type 1, but…I'll explain the rest to you within the next few days…it's kind of a long story in a way, BEYOND frustrating, and I am just glad I am only 41 years old, and not 81, because I still have my youth to cherish, which gives me a lot more patience. In my case, I happened to run across what life can deal as situations where the internist that diagnosed me DIED, my record got LOST sometime after he died. Then, a couple of years ago, someone tried to steal my identity via my medical records…OOOOOHHHH, I pray to God every night to help me with all this. I'll talk to you within the next few days—-good luck!!——ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-04 07:51:34 -0500 Report

Wow, your story sounds like you had one heck of an adventure. Not necessarily a fun one, but an adventure nonetheless. I look forward to hearing about it. I do hope it ends with things working out for you, but at least it sounds like you handling it with a positive attitude.

I can't imagine dealing with 2 types of diabetes let alone 5. That has got to be very frustrating for that person. Extremely rare is good when it turns out the painting or antique your grandmother gave you is extremely rare, but it is never exciting to find out about having an extremely rare disease or illness. I have a friend at my job that had an extremely rare case of cancer a couple of years ago. It was so rare that the last know case was in 1987 or 1988. The chance of survival for him was less than 25%, but luckily he was in that low percentage of survivors. Known diseases can be tough enough, so I really feel for those that have those rare extreme cases.

annesmith 2011-11-05 01:17:13 -0500 Report

HI——YES, I think cancer would be the worst thing to have. One of my best friends died of breast cancer —she was a lot older than me, but I miss her dearly. She was diagnosed around age 58, they said she only had about 5-8 years to live, but she outlived it by another 17 years. She died in 1992 at the age of 75. I was only 22 years old when she died , but, to this day, I miss her…ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-05 22:13:31 -0500 Report

Wow, I take it that she was one hell of a fighter. I am sorry for her loss, however. I, too, have had some people in my life lose the battle to breast cancer, but hopefully in the near future they will have some kind of cure for it. My own mother actually just had a radical hysterectomy about four or five months ago because she had cervical cancer. She is also a fighter and is actually doing really good. She has her spirits up more than I can ever remember, and is exercising much more regularly. She has really made me proud by her hard work and determination to get through that with a positive attitude. My mom is definitely my hero.

annesmith 2011-11-06 02:26:59 -0600 Report

I think that's great your mom is your hero!!!!!! It sounds like she is a real fighter. Are you the only one in your family that's diabetic? ANNE

Chad1978 2011-11-06 08:54:46 -0600 Report

My mom was adopted, so we have absolutely no idea about her biological side of her family, but on my dads side I do have one uncle with diabetes. he's had type 1 since he was a youngster.

annesmith 2011-11-06 22:03:09 -0600 Report

Oh…that's interesting. At least you have a general idea of one side of your family. Do you get your latest tests done this week? ANNE

GabbyPA 2011-11-01 20:47:33 -0500 Report

Is there room in your pea pod for one more pea? When I was reading your post, it was very much like my own story of growing up. I didn't have the catholic background, but I had my own thing for many years.

I agree so much in that everyone can be different and yet we can get along. It takes a lot of confidence in ourselves to do that, and that is where many people fall down. When we have confidence in ourselves, nothing can stop us and no one can make us fit their molds.

Thank you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to share the deeper parts of us, but it will help others understand better who we are and where we come from.

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