Am I alone?!

By Starry20 Latest Reply 2011-11-13 03:56:25 -0600
Started 2011-10-23 09:47:43 -0500

Alright no offense but I sorta feel alone on this site… I know that all of you r here to help and stuff but am I the only teenager on here?! I think everyone on here is older!

79 replies

Gracie40 2011-11-01 19:12:11 -0500 Report

Raven dear,
I hate to say it, but you are probably better off without him. He is a knucklehead. You are not diabetes. You have a warm & friendly personality and you happen to have diabetes. Period. As you mature, you will find like the rest of us have found that it takes all kinds. Meaning there are all kinds of people out there and some are not good candidates for a relationship. He is a little immature, to be sure and frankly, not worthy of a super girl like you.
Guess what! He loses. He may never have the chance to really know you and find out how nice you really are. He shot himself in the foot with that statement, didn't he? Don't buy into his bill of goods. You are head and shoulders above him. God Bless! g40

peanutnovo 2011-10-30 08:55:10 -0500 Report

I'm sure ur not alone just give it time someone ur age will appear, just give it time.. and don't feel like ur offending anyone here on this site becuz ur not offending none of us we r all here 4 the same reason, and that is 2 learn as much about diabetes as we can and get help and support from others as well about other things that we may also be going through in our lives whether its bad or good.. so don't worry ur a great girl and id like 2 be ur friend if u want me 2 I also have 3 kids of my own.. a 17yr old girl, a 15 1/2yr old boy (soon 2 be 16) and a 10yr old girl.. so how old r u, 13-14?

Mickie G
Mickie G 2011-10-30 06:44:05 -0500 Report

I am not a teenager, but I have Two daughters that are and a 9 year old son. Although they are not Diabetics, they deal with it every day because I am. I am sure you will find other teen here, and you can always suggest the site to your health care professionals, I am sure they know others that would benefit from this site.

Starry20 2011-11-01 17:43:28 -0500 Report

This is a bit off topic here, but i must vent! A boy that i liked until very recently, was talking about who he liked, then askes me who i liked and so i said that i liked him, and he went ooooo i would like u except ur, condition!! And i am thinking that he means my db!!!!! So i dont like him anymore if hes that prejuduce

Mickie G
Mickie G 2011-11-06 05:27:15 -0600 Report

I am sorry that you have to feel the rejection of someone you liked. It is however something that others do not want to deal with , Diabetes that is, if they don't have to. The good news is that not everyone is like that, and at 12 you are not looking for forever at this point. There will be many people in your life that will see you for the beautiful person that you are, so don't even think about settling for anything less. Stick to those that know and love you and everything else will come in time. Take care.

Mickie G
Mickie G 2011-11-13 03:56:25 -0600 Report

It isn't always from ignorance, sometimes it is because they are scared or diabetes just doesn't fit into their plans for the future. It sucks but it is what it is. I just try to surround myself with people who want to be a part of my life and wish everyone else well on their journey.

Type1Lou 2011-11-01 18:09:19 -0500 Report

Dear Raven, You will find that there are many ignorant people in this world…like that boy if he has a problem with your diabetes. Best thing in my opinion would be to ignore him like it sounds you intend to. Hugs!

GabbyPA 2011-10-26 14:46:56 -0500 Report

I know there are a few here. It's not always fun hanging with the older crowd. Maybe we can find a way to help you guys find each other?

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-10-26 13:28:01 -0500 Report

Alone? Nope. There are people on here that had D at your age and can help you through. Then there are late comers like me that just want you to know we are here for you. Some are older brothers and sisters, some are extra mom & dads, some are extra grandma's or like me an extra Pop-Pop. You can ask anything you want, and someone will answer you or guide you in the right direction. Anyway, glad you are here. Pop-Pop Jim

Starry20 2011-11-01 07:15:40 -0500 Report

Well then pop pop thank u!! Now i have another family member!!! You are all close to my heart and my prayers!!

jpegram 2011-10-26 11:20:04 -0500 Report

Young'un you have lots of time to be growin up. Don't rush gettin older like us. Go outside and play more and dont be spendin so much time online.

100 Acre Woods
100 Acre Woods 2011-10-25 18:52:35 -0500 Report

Honey, I know that Alliance has a special site for Teenagers who are Depressed, but the rest just mix in with everyone. You certainly are welcome here. Other sites have people who have young adults who
Are 12 and 14 years old and they just mix in everyone else. We are very glad you are here and we hope that you stay.

sheriden 2011-10-25 14:30:59 -0500 Report

Bless your heart. You are not alone honey. You are no dif, frome the rest of us I feel if you are old enough to be diabetic than you are old enough to be on here getting help and helping others with your know how. I am sure there are young ones on here. But remember we are all the same young or old on here. You can friend me I love young people and what they have to offer. To this day my best friends are most older because I love their wisdom and their experance in life. And young people because i love to know what they think and can share new perspectives. So you hang in there my friend. I pray blessings and love to you.

Starry20 2011-11-01 07:12:50 -0500 Report

Thank u, that was sweet, and it really is sad that we are all so far apart!!! I would really enjoy the company of all of you!!! Its almost like youve all become a family away from my family!! I love it!!

Jean-9 2011-10-25 10:39:49 -0500 Report

i got diabetes when i was 14 so i know exactly how you feel…if you need anything or have any questions let me know and i will help you as much as i can…i have had type 1 for 20 years now so let me know and i am here for you!…:)

Jennifer30 2011-10-25 10:31:43 -0500 Report

Raven I feel the same way sometime but I remeber i have friends to talk to here and on facebook. I am older but don't let that stop you from talking to us all ok.

dietcherry 2011-10-25 00:30:05 -0500 Report

Hello Raven! Why not invite your friends and family to sign up here? They dont have to have D to become a member!!

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2011-10-26 11:30:50 -0500 Report

Went back in her posts
Raven12 July 7 at 1:23 pm 4 Likes I like this I don't like this Report as inappropriate No I think I am… I'm 13… But age doesn't matter here. We are all treated like equals and like to help each other
at 13 she is more mature than some here who have many many years on her


Starry20 2011-11-01 07:08:04 -0500 Report

@ tom
Not quite sure i get ur meaning on that post… Just wondering, raven

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2011-11-01 09:24:03 -0500 Report

What I was saying is, being a 13 year old, you a very mature young lady whom asks intelligent questions, gives wise answers, not childlike, like some older people can be. I also think you are a very valuable member here:~}

dietcherry 2011-10-26 11:54:20 -0500 Report

When she first signed up she told us in several discussions that she was 12 hence her user name I guess but thanks anyway :)

jayabee52 2011-10-26 04:45:46 -0500 Report

18? I thought the Terms of use said min age was 13 y/o

peanutnovo 2011-10-29 09:36:02 -0500 Report

Having ADHD is a difficult disease 2 deal with, my cousin has autism which can be challenging all in itself as ADHD can be as well. How old is ur son?

jayabee52 2011-10-29 16:18:16 -0500 Report

I have had my share of hard times with it, especially when I was in grade school through high school. But I eventually earned a masters degree and I learned to use it to my advantage.

My son Paul has it too, and he had it in grade school. He has learned to adapt to it in amazing ways. He is an intelligent young man. He repairs turbine propulsion systems on Navy frigates. He is now 29.

peanutnovo 2011-10-30 08:22:24 -0500 Report

Does medications help it, or has it come to the point that they no longer work anymore? When I was 15yrs old I was in a serious car accident & I was the passenger & we hit a telephone pole so hard that we took a 3in. Chunk out. The police said that if we hit the pole head on it would've fallen on top of us. Everythng that was behind me flew forward & hit me in the bak of the neck, it hit me so hard that I had absolutly no feeling on my whole left side. I had also smacked the rt side of my head on the passger window all @ the same time. I was on my way 2 school 4 a bio test… I had severe whip-blash & severe cauction I wore a hard plastic neck brace 4 2 1/2 weeks, I went bak 2 skewl cuz I didn't want 2 miss test anyway I ended up slipping into a coma @ my desk I didn't even realize I fell asleep… it took the entire class including teacher shaking me about 10mins. 2 wake me up… I have severe nerve damage on the left side of my neck & a 3in. Indentation in the back of my skull frm where the hard stuff hit me.. I've been on soo many types of muscle relaxers & pain meds 4 20yrs & now there's a very good chance I may need neck surgery, which I'm dreading, I have an appt. 2 c an ortho. 2 c what he suggests cuz dealing with a pinch nerve having no feeling severe tightness migraines shooting knife piercing pain shooting frm my neck up into my skull then spreading thruout my entire head & skull. Do u suggest anythng, any meds, or websites or even specialists bcuz I've been dealing with this 4 20yrs now & I just can't take it anymore!!!! Please HELP!!!

jayabee52 2011-10-30 08:50:11 -0500 Report

I am not on meds for ADHD nor do I think Paul is either, but I haven't asked him about it recently.

Right now I see no need to medicate myself since I am disabled. I have enough medications to deal with and adding another would be an added expense for little benefit. Plus I have learned how to adapt and work around my condition and sometimes even use it for my (and others') benefit.

As far as a website goes, I could recommend BackPain Connect. They might be able to recommend something. At the header on the right mouseover "Visit another community". Select from the list the one you want, use our login info from DC, and you're in. I have lower back pain so I am on it. Vegas Dave is the administrator there and is a very nice fellow. When you're there look me up and friend me. I'm not on there a whole lot as I spend most of my time here.

I don't know all that much about meds. At BPC they might be able to point you in a better direction than I might.

jayabee52 2011-11-01 07:28:08 -0500 Report

well, it's after church! ( a whole day and a half after) Did you take the time to look into Back Pain connect?

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-10-26 13:32:12 -0500 Report

I thought the minimum age was as soon as she was diagnosed, got mom's okay to be on here. I don't care if she is 8. If she wants answers, she is welcome to be here as far as I am concerned. There are enough of us on here to protect her if she needs protecting. I think you are right james, I think it is 13, but that doesn't matter to me. She is dealing with the same condition.

Starry20 2011-11-01 07:06:16 -0500 Report

I just said i was 13… Cus that is what the minimum age was and i was a year off and a bit offended! So i told the computer a story age!!

Starry20 2011-11-01 06:38:30 -0500 Report

Yes i am 13 i just turned 13… October 6, thank u for ur support!!!! I realize that no one is ever alone and that age doesnt matter here, were all kids at heart.

dietcherry 2011-10-26 09:14:39 -0500 Report

Oh that was a typo-I thought this young lady was 12

dietcherry 2011-10-26 12:17:17 -0500 Report

Hey Julie! Long time no talk! How have you been? Send me a private email. ;)

She did post she was 12 several times when she first joined; I dont care one way or the other but wanted to let her know that may be why she wasnt meeting other kids her age here.

Its really become much ado about nothing now and is just high-jacking the girls thread so Im not going to continue to contribute to it! :)

Starry20 2011-11-01 07:04:25 -0500 Report

@ dietcherry
Im 13 now! Had my birthday the 6th!! But if i may, u pay very good attention! I cannot believe u would remember that! And also, HIGH JACK away!!! Sometimes the outcome isnt what u desire but it still might give some people a chuckle, or a new perspective!!

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2011-11-04 13:28:25 -0500 Report

Lets see October 6, 1968, that means we are only 10 days apart~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Whoops foregot to add the 48 years in,Hugs little one


Bee positive
Bee positive 2011-10-24 22:43:05 -0500 Report

Raven12 you are not alone. I may be able to clear up any confusion about why you are not finding other teens. When you are diagnosed younger in life it is diabetes type 1 and if you are diagnosed older it is diabetes type 2. If you look for the type 1 category you will find discussion from other teens and possibly their parents. Smart of you to look for other people with diabetes to talk to. It can be very scary at first, but people can live long lives and keep diabetes under control…good luck to you! Remember…always think positive!

squog master
squog master 2011-10-24 21:40:16 -0500 Report


There are definately other teens on this site. Browse the membership & I know you'll find some. Do this by going to your profile & click friends. Then there will be a browse membership selection. Click on this & you be able to check. Some you will be able to know they are teens by their screen name. I have one friend who's screen name is percy jackson from the Percy Jackson & the Olympians book series. And I have another friend who's screen name is Jordan and ieisha. I'll do a quick browse myself too, cause I know there are some I'm just not totally sure what their screen names are. I remember a few but want to make sure before I tell you them.

Starry20 2011-11-01 07:01:19 -0500 Report

Thank u!! I will do that after basketball practice. Today, if i dont collapse and go to sleep!! But i will do it!!!

squog master
squog master 2011-11-01 13:02:34 -0500 Report

Bieberfever is another. Not sure about this one but there is one iBeyonce.

Read a post higher up and your Bball coach needs an education on Diabetes. there are many pro athletes past & present who have type 1 D. Bobby Clarke who played pro Ice Hockey for the Philadelphia Flyers is one. I think there is a web site that tells you others but I don't remember the address.

Starry20 2011-11-01 17:21:39 -0500 Report

He has, and thats what bugs me! He still doubts me! I have NO idea why tho, ive had a few lows in his class starting off the year, cus of the new schedule, but they were caught quick & corrected. No more lows now

squog master
squog master 2011-11-01 12:26:21 -0500 Report

I love BBall. I grew up with 3 older bros & we played it w/neighbors all the time. In 4th grade I tried it but it was different for the girls back then. 6 aside. 2 defense, 2 offense, & 2 Rovers who could go the whole court. The O & D players had to stay on their side of the court. I got stuck on D the first time & nothing was said about switching positions so I never went back. There is a new movie out called The Mighty Macs. it is from the time girls played that way.

By the time I got to high school it changed to the same rules as the boys & I played freshman year. That was when we found out I had a birth defect where a lot of muscles & tendons are too long for my body. My left knee kept going out on me. I had to have it pinned.

When you go browsing also click on the heading "newest" because the teens I talked to joined within the last 3-8 months. This heading goes by date joined. I'll also check for a woman who recently joined because her teenager has type 1. Maybe I can hook you up w/her & in turn w/her son.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-10-24 18:20:10 -0500 Report

Dear Raven; You certainly are not alone on this site, maybe us that are older don't talk the same lingo as you. But, we are here to help and get to know you better. There are people of all ages o this site. Open up to us and you'll see the results. Sounds like your lonely and Diabetes is a lonely desease. Only you can tell the way you feel and only you can fix it, well you and your Dr.'s. That's where we come in, for support. Reach out and give us a try…hoping we can be friends. Hugs, Valentine Lady

Dixiemom 2011-10-24 12:38:34 -0500 Report

There are all ages on this sight. Once you post something, someone in your age group will see it and respond. Don't get discouraged, pick the brains of the "old folk" and learn with the rest of us. Remember, we are all here with a common problem and sometimes we can learn from the young folk as much as from the older folk. Welcome to DC and don't be shy in expressing yourself.

Gracie40 2011-10-24 09:54:04 -0500 Report

Hey Raven, Let's find out some stuff about you. Bet you're type I. So that probably means you're taking insulin. Are you testing daily? More than once? Has the Doc run A1c's on you? Do you have trouble with low Blood Sugars? What is (in your opinion) the worst thing about having diabetes? Does anyone in your family have it? Have your parents educated themselves about it? Are they bossy or do they try to explain why things are they way they are?
Do you play sports? Dance? Sing? Remember, no personal stuff. Nothing that we could really identify you with. Is your doctor a male or female? Can you relate to them? Do you feel free to ask questions? Whoa, nothing shy about me, right? Does your doctor explain stuff to you or talk over your head to your parents? I would love to be your friend. Hugs! Other teens if you're out there, chime in. Gracie

Starry20 2011-11-01 17:24:51 -0500 Report

Oh and i love to sing as well, if i had stayed in the school i was in, i would be the choir captain

Starry20 2011-11-01 06:48:56 -0500 Report

Yes and sorry for the gap but i had academic meets and basketball the last week and a half after school, so i am now squeezing this in before school hehe… Yes the doc runs a1c, ive had this for a number of years and a1c is ALWAYS high… The worst thing has to b that i stand out in a crowd, ive had people stare at me while i check and give shots, o and yes im type 1, but my ENTIRE school is helpful and supportive, if i didnt have the friends i do now, i donr know what i would be today!!! Theyve helped me since 1st grade!!! No my parents arent bossy because they may know more than me, but they know its me with the feelings and the shots.I LOVE BASKETBALL!!! ahahahah, my my mean coach wont put me in as a starter cus ibe diabetes, hes afraid is what it amounts to, but ive more control over D than he does of his second grade class! My doc is male, no we cannot relate to him and we are switching doctors in january…yeaa i do lik questions, they impower me make me feel like i learn something with every word… My doc DOES like to talk over my head, half the time he avoids talking to me… So i butt in and throw my own in there… ;) and i dont care ur not shy! Thats wht ive grown up with a bunch of people who just get down to business!!!

Gracie40 2011-11-01 08:53:11 -0500 Report

Wow! what energy you have. Believe me, I understand how busy you are. No apology necessary for the "gap". There's no doubt in my mind that you will go far. I can see you are proactive re: your diabetes. Way to go! Glad you are changing docs. Pray you get an understanding one. My endo is a woman and and is sensitive to various issues I have. It is clear she CARES for her patients, and that is both meanings of the word. Your coach doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. Such as pass out. (not cool) But keep on hanging in there and prove you can take care of yourself. Someday the light bulb will light up over his peanut head lol) and he will recognize how valuable & mature you are. Your friends sound wonderful and supportive. That is great. And forget it if people stare when you test or inject. They suffer from not having a life if all they have to do is look at you. Pity them. And look at you! Bball, academic meets, diabetes, dealing with issues that we adults find hard to face. What a life! And your intelligence comes through loud and clear in your response. Keep on keeping on GF and the sky's the limit. Hugs G40

Jan8 2011-10-24 09:28:53 -0500 Report

You are not alone. There are lots of good suggestions from all ages. i think most are adults but I don't care what the age is. Sometimes I just need good advice from anyone.

pixsidust 2011-10-24 00:39:30 -0500 Report

Lets not talk age! How often do you get to pick the brains with the old folks? Just remember, we do remember being your age. We have the been there, done that to help you. Many of us have kids and we love you!
We care about all that you feel! Somewhere here, there is probably a teenager or two. Mean while heres a Hug!

Type1Lou 2011-10-24 14:50:03 -0500 Report

Quite honestly, I wouldn't want to be a teenager again for the world! It was such an angst-ridden stage of life for me…trying to find out who you really are and what you really believe in. I'm much more comfortable with myself now in my 62-year old skin, even with the diabetes. If you told me I could be 30 or 40 again, that wouldn't be so bad…but I do love my "retired" life and being out of the work-a-day rat-race.

RAYT721 2011-10-23 14:39:10 -0500 Report

You are not alone but a lot of times age doesn't come into play when writing discussions because diabetes is not just an old person disease as many people think. I have run into several younger people here although for their privacy, I won't reveal their names. The issues that you face do face us all so regardless of age, we hope to be able to help with not only questions relating to diabetes but questions relating to life. Please feel free to jump in and perhaps your post will get replies from others in your age bracket. What sets you apart from the other teens (and there are millions out there) is that you are choosing to find support and look for ways to better yourself by being here. A lot of young people aren't looking or aren't caring.

Type1Lou 2011-10-23 13:08:06 -0500 Report

Dear Raven,
There have been several discussions by younger PWD's (Persons With Diabetes) here. (The one I could find was titled "Shots" and was posted privately.) You could reply to the discussion and ask him/her to send you a friend request so you could both chat about dealing with diabetes as a teenager. There are fewer of us Type 1's in the overall diabetic population…I believe it's one in ten, and yes, many of us are older…(no offense was taken). Some have dealt with their diabetes since childhood and others, like me, were adults when it developed. Take whatever help you can from our postings and learn as much as you can. Browse the discussions and be on the lookout for younger DC members so you can befriend them and share your experiences. Good luck!

MissSaraJean 2011-10-23 22:17:45 -0500 Report

Your not alone, I'm a young adult myself and I came to this sight because I know No one with diabetes and I need to talk to people who truly understand what I'm going through. I hope you too can get that support from other diabetics on here regardless of there age.

Old-n-Grey-n-Wiser 2011-10-23 12:47:29 -0500 Report

Yes most of us are older, but like you we are learning to cope with diabetes and all that comes with it. Personally I think age has nothing to do with wisdom. I hope you continue to be a member of our community, looking forward to insight and input on how it affects you and your generation.