Bad Bad Week

By margokittycat Latest Reply 2011-10-29 19:48:00 -0500
Started 2011-10-14 14:12:42 -0500

Hi everyone. Sorry it has been so long since I have been here but had something happen on Saturday the 8th of October and I am still not handeling it well. My son was kidnapped by his father and taken to another state. Trying to get those that should be involved in it is proving to be rather difficult and in the meantime I am notsleeping, eating but getting sick afterwords from the stress and BS out of control.

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57 replies

margokittycat 2011-10-25 16:53:13 -0500 Report

UPDATE UPDATE! I hired and awsome attorney yesterday so by the end of the week everything should be filed and hopefully with in a week or somy son will be home.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-10-20 15:43:52 -0500 Report

You and your son are in my prayers. I can identify with you. I am raising my grandson, he is almost 10 yrs. old and he has Asbergers syndrome. I was thinking that your ex husband might try and use the excuse that your son is 17 and is old enough to say who he wants to live with. I just wanted to tell you that since your son has asbergers he is not in his right mind to decide who he wants to live with. Make sure that your lawyer shows this aspect of this. When a child reaches the age of 11 they have a right to live with the parent that they wish to live with unless they are mentally uncapable. - Take care of yourself. Praying for You - Teresa Rose

margokittycat 2011-10-20 20:06:09 -0500 Report

Thank you Teresa. My sons counslor has already said and will do an affadivid stating that my sone does not have the mantality to make his own dicessions. Which is good for us.

tabby9146 2011-10-19 09:48:58 -0500 Report

I am so sorry Margo. I am just seeing, this missed it the last two times I was on here. I pray he will be returned soon. I have not read all posts so I don't know any updates if there are any, so awful . I know nothing worries a mother more, this is the worst nightmare. I do hpe you stay healthy, and your blood sugars don't go too high. I hope you have talked to a doctor about something to help you sleep. ((hugs))

margokittycat 2011-10-19 14:59:39 -0500 Report

Thank you for all the support. I did get some what we are hoping is good news today. An old attorney of mine from saline county called me back, his assistant had called me last week and taken all the information from me and then walked out and quit on him he had no clue until they started going through files on her desk what was going on. He told me to tell my attorney her to IMMEDIATELY GET A CHANGE OF VENUE DONE FOR THE CASE, GET A CHANGE OF CUSTODY DONE AND A SEVRATION OF PARENTAL RIGHTS DONE AND FILED IN THE COURT BY THE END OF THE WEEK. HAV THE COUNTY ATTORNEY FILE KIDNAPPING CHARGES AS WELL THEY WILL FAX EVERYTHING TO THE SALINE COUNTY SHERRIFF AND HAVE HIM SERVED THE COURT PAPERS AND THEN WHEN HE COMES UP FOR THE COURT DATE HE WILL BE ARRESTED FOR THE KIDNAPPING. CALLED THE ATTORNEY WHO S IN COURT BUT SHOULD CALL ME BACK BY THE END OF THE DAY. KEEPING MY FINGERS CROSSED AND KNOW GOD IS WATCHING OVER ME AND MY SONE AND OUR FAMILY.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-10-18 22:08:45 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that you are able to get this resolved soon. This is terrible. I know it is hard to focus on anything but your child and having him home as soon as possible. But I hope that you will go through the motions of your life, including taking care of yourself, to keep yourself as healthy as possible. It's important to keep yourself as strong as possible. We are all praying for you.

margokittycat 2011-10-19 07:15:54 -0500 Report

Thank you. I throw myself into everything hoping that will tak my mind off of it or at least help me not think about it as much but it doesn't help. Thank you for the prayers.

grandmaducky 2011-10-17 16:56:42 -0500 Report

margo have you contacted the district att in saline and then ask them what you need to do i do think i have a old saline telephone book if you need me to look up any phone numbers for you please take care of your self prays for you the last time i got really sick i have to take fiber to keep anything down nothing eles work i talking about metimucle (sp) fiber your drink you may have to try it can't hurt Becky

margokittycat 2011-10-19 07:14:00 -0500 Report

Thank you Becky! Saline County is where al this got so missed up and they are never willing to do anything for anyone if you don't live there. I will think about it though. Thank you for all your prays since this has happened they mena so much.

DragonDreams 2011-10-17 14:45:29 -0500 Report

Have you contacted your local news paper? I have noticed that the authorities get a lot more involved/motivated after the news/media gets into the mix. Also, since he has a past of abusing you, contact the local women's shelter. They will have other helpful suggestions, and they will have emotional support for you. We are all here for you. Please keep us posted.

randy75 2011-10-16 09:24:47 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear about your son. I too went thru much the same thing back in 1993 when my ex-wife took my son, (he was also kidnapped, I had full custody. I got him back 2 weeks later. Keep on the law enforcement and make them do their job. I will be praying for you.

Uncle Lew
Uncle Lew 2011-10-15 21:51:44 -0500 Report

We all feel sorry for you. You and your son will be in my prayers. You have to relax so that you will be healthy when your son is returned to you. Godspeed

margokittycat 2011-10-16 02:12:59 -0500 Report

I try to relax but nothing helps. I have issues with the fact that those that are supose to serve and protect us are not doing their jobs. This is a vary vulnerable individual and they do nothing. It is easier daid than done, relaxing that is.

nzingha 2011-10-15 07:37:08 -0500 Report

oh no…how old is he? cant u negotiate with the father.. communication is always the best approah.. dont be angry with him.. he will only make life harder for u… whats his reason for such actions tho?

margokittycat 2011-10-15 21:17:13 -0500 Report

The father and I do not talk. He was abbusive in our marriage and beat me within an inch of my life two months after having our second child and so the communication has never been there since. Not do to me but do to him. He was charged and convicted and has a felony on his record and it is all my fault is what he say's. My son is 17 and has Aspbergers which is a form of Autism.

nzingha 2011-10-16 07:32:24 -0500 Report

oh margokittycat.. cute name by the way… am so sorry to hear all this… i dont know what to say.. these men r all the same.. he's clearly a weakling..any man who beats a woman is… but pray and fight because God helps those who help themselves..thats how i view life… i dont just sit and wait for him to do all the work..keep us in the loop so we know whats happening and can provide even moral support! its always good to have people to talk/write to…

Mickey/CCHT 2011-10-15 02:11:03 -0500 Report

That is awful! As a mother i can't even imagine the heartache you are going thru. Know that you do not walk this alone. Lean on Jesus, he will see you thru. You will be in my prayers. God Bless.

margokittycat 2011-10-15 21:14:43 -0500 Report

Thank you Mickey. I think Jesus is the only one that is getting me through this horrific miss at this time.

Mickey/CCHT 2011-10-15 23:49:35 -0500 Report

i'm so glad you have Jesus in your life. Please keep us updated, we are praying for you. Your Sister in Christ, Mickey

Heather44118 2011-10-14 18:19:03 -0500 Report

I am so sorry this has happened to you. I know you have to keep yourself healthy to fight this fight. Try this web site they maybe able to help you . Please keep us posted. You and your family are in my prayers.

margokittycat 2011-10-14 18:24:10 -0500 Report

Heather thank you for the website I will look at it in a little while my grandson is just getting here for super so I will check it out. Thank yOU.

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-10-14 18:17:02 -0500 Report

Margo, you know that we love you. I can't imagine the time you are going through. How about a mild sleep aid like melatonin and, I know it may sound trite, but slow deep breathing may help. Keep your food simple. Clear liquids, Chicken noodle soup, jello. You should be able to hold these down. I know the stress alone will send you BS AWOL, but, my friend, there isn't much to do about that.
Know that even though your son is in the hands of a man with a past, he is his son and you need to hope and pray that God will provide him with the protection he needs until he gets home to you. You & he are in my thoughts and prayers. Jim

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-10-14 14:41:57 -0500 Report

Dear Margo; I'm so sorry to hear about your problem, that's a biggy. I never had one of my son's taken by their Father, but my heart goes out to you. I know you must be beside yourself. I know I would be, but you must keep up with your meals and snacks. You know that, get something to help settle your tummy to hold your food down or you'll be so sick when your son does come back you won't be able to care for him, you wouldn't want that. I have faith he'll be back in your arms soon, so please take care of yourself. Valentine Lady

margokittycat 2011-10-14 18:21:14 -0500 Report

I try, but the doctors want to give me pills to help the anxiety that make you tired and I don't want to miss anything if there is a phone call or whatever I want to know it came in and be able to remeber it. It doesn't matter what I try to help settle my stomache it doesn't we have tried saltines, soda water, gingerale, diet 7-up, diet sprite and none of it works. I wonder around in a daze all day and all night long I have become and obsessive cleaner, and cook and dish washer. My daughter came home from school the otherday and thought she walked into someone elses home. I take care of myself eating my meals and snacks but they just don't stay down. It's been a week and we have heard nothing about my son or from my son other than what we heard when the sherriff's, rescue squad and search teams were out here last weekendlooking for him before we were notified by the sherriff of his wereabouts.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-10-15 13:02:50 -0500 Report

Dear Margo: My heart breaks for you and I keep you and your son in my prayers.
I'm so sorry that nothing will stay down. Between the stress and the food issues your BS should be all over the map. What do the sherriff's office tell you about getting your son back? Or atleast how to go about it. Know there are people here on this web-site that are praying for your son's safe return and your pending health. Keep in touch, I send Lots of hugs and love to you…Valentine Lady

margokittycat 2011-10-15 21:21:54 -0500 Report

Thank you Valentine lady. The sherriff's in the count where my sone was taken in another state won't do anything. I have attorney's here working on it and another attorney in the county where my son is at trying to work on it. He represented some other family members of mine years ago.

jnerdee 2011-10-14 14:20:07 -0500 Report

I am so sorry. I have a similiar situation with an ex son in law and my grandchildren, but it hasn't gotten that far. My heart so aches for you. please take care of yourself in order to handle all this pain and stress.

margokittycat 2011-10-14 14:32:47 -0500 Report

I try but no matter what I do it does not help. The father has had nothing to do with or wanted anything to do with my children for years. The last time he seen them or contacted them was Christmas day 2005. And no one wants to help. What the hick do we have polic sherriffs and attoney's and judges for if no one wants to do anything?

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