Perfection

petronius
By petronius Latest Reply 2011-10-30 17:12:10 -0500
Started 2011-10-07 16:36:02 -0500

I get so upset when I make a mistake. I put myself down and get frozen so I don't want to do any thing. It puts down my self esteem. Any comments?


16 replies

Mickey/CCHT
Mickey/CCHT 2011-10-20 17:59:16 -0500 Report

No one is perfect. The only one that was died on the cross for us because we are not perfect. don't be so hard on yourself. Chuck it up to a lesson learned and move on. It's when we don't learn from our mistakes that's the problem. We are all human and we all make mistakes. It's life! Time is too short to beat yourself up, the world as a whole does that enought for us! Take a breath and move on. Good luck to you and God Bless.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-10-12 12:00:08 -0500 Report

"Good judgement comes from experience! And experience? Well, that comes from bad judgement!" (As "borrowed" from dietcherry's profile)

You're human! don't stop living because you're fallible. Lighten up! Enjoy life!

Blessings to you and yours!

James

berrykins0
berrykins0 2011-10-11 12:22:16 -0500 Report

think about times that thing go good and the bad times may not make you feel to bad don't give up on yourself we all have bad days nobodys perfect. plus you learn from your mistakes whats right whats wrong cheer up take care.

lacat87
lacat87 2011-10-08 14:13:47 -0500 Report

There is only 1 who is perfect. Pray to GOD that he gives you the way to help you with your diabetes and life in general.

thr3ddzgirl
thr3ddzgirl 2011-10-08 13:51:14 -0500 Report

petronius, we are human beings, we are not meant to be perfect. With Diabetes, as with many chronic diseases, it is the long haul that counts, not an individual day or even a meal. You made a mistake, so what? We all do! You are no worse than anyone else here. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and you have a problem with your blood sugar. You can manage it! You have a chance that so many of us with chronic disease don't have - you can make choices that will make your disease better (or worse, but since you are here, I know that you are trying to get better). One mistake will not have the global impact that you are giving it! just tell yourself, "Okay, I'm human. Let's get on with life, and see if I can do it right the next time." No one gets it right every time! Forgive yourself, and know that you are loved. If you don't believe in a higher power, believe in us here at DC. We love you and care about you. Like the song says, "Pick yourself up, Dust yourself off, Start all over again!" Each moment can be a new beginning. YOU CAN DO THIS!

Auburn Bill
Auburn Bill 2011-10-08 10:24:59 -0500 Report

Some Good Advise: I was a perfectionist myself ~ a Sr. Electrical Tech and Calibration Tech for a compamy for over 25 yrs! Till they put me on the assembly floor to show the FDA something was done to correct their faults. It got me high BP and diabetes, for what? The pay was good, but to be an escape goat for this modern imeduical instrument firm! I have problems with typing due to the neuropathy in my hands but I simply correct the misspelled words after all done typing!
Dont cause your BP to rise, my mother did ~~ caused her to have a massive stroke! Play ot KOOLL. Let go. let God handle the problems and frustrations of life! Be Happy, Dont worry!!! God Bless, Grandpa Bill

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-10-07 21:07:18 -0500 Report

You are human. You also need to learn to be your own best friend. The world is harsh as it stands let alone be harsh to yourself. No one thinks less of you or is sitting in wait to tell you that you are a failure. You might think back to when that first happened to you…perhaps childhood, a parent maybe or other important people who lit into you for errors. Purpose to forgive each memory and the person(s) involved then ask God to take the burden from you and heal you. Remind yourself, You are loved, wonderfully made, a daily hero for surviving, with beautiful contributions to be made in life. When you make a mistake, Thank God for the opportunity to do even better. Love to you and all your mistakes

petronius
petronius 2011-10-07 21:14:45 -0500 Report

Thanks. That was awesome

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-10-08 08:36:18 -0500 Report

Even small contributions matter, like posting here. A drop of water can overcome a boulder. As you look at yourself, remember your contribution, no matter how small can cause a ripple effect that changes a piece of the world. We all put our oar in the water. Some of us paddle better than others but together we can get to the other side.

So know you matter and value does not exist because of perfection. If you have grown kids who you may have wanted perfection from, reach out to them. Let them know you love them, you are proud and its alright to be who they are. You are sorry for wanting anything different.

As you find yourself wanting to be upset all is not right or the way it should be…Hear my words. You have a choice to show what you are made of in adversity. Anyone can act decent when all is well in the world but in adversity…thats when character is proven. Sometimes I think God lets adversity come our way so we might learn and grow in our thoughts and behavior. Never let it steal your peace. Let go the need to always be right.

Take each day and see the goodness. See the opportunity, you have to leave a better legacy for your family and friends to see. Be like Scrooge with a changed heart and mind. Start from the beginning and let go each wound and then reach out to be a healer of wounds in others. You are a Hero…to live each day without giving up. Wow! How brave! I salute you!

RAYT721
RAYT721 2011-10-07 20:20:31 -0500 Report

You're definitely not alone; however, only with trial and error can you put the past failures behind you and move on to tomorrow's accomplishments. It's been said that practice makes perfect. It is okay to make mistakes so long as you learn from them. Don't be afraid to ask for help when trying new things. You can probably do more things than you think you can. Just know that there are some things that don't have to be done perfectly but that have to be done. Give yourself more credit by at least trying.

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