By Rapcom Latest Reply 2011-09-27 15:36:17 -0500
Started 2011-09-25 17:23:03 -0500

Me and my mother moved in together because we are both on disability and have similar health issues. Our preferred diets are like night and day. I prefer a low sodium, flavorful spices, and low fat type diet. My mother prefers a high salt, with little to no spices (meaning bland), and a fatty diet. We have diabetes, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol issues. We buy groceries together and she refuses to get skinless chicken, lean ground beef or turkey, and has a love for regular pasta (she hates the healthy alternatives). Now I'm not totally innocent. I hate fake sweeteners, but I use sugar sparingly. I have to cook separate meals for us both; which is a pain and a concern. Can some one make any suggestions? I have switched Bison or dear meat out for her meat balls in her pasta and she never new and complimented the meal. But if I tell her what I did She hits the ceiling. I don't like deceiving her; but it seems to be the only way to get her to eat healthy.

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sheriden 2011-09-26 21:31:23 -0500 Report

I am going out on a limb here. If your mom is anything like mine she is not going to listen to you and work on change. So if I were in your shoes I would do the best I could in fixing meals healthy w/o letting her know. I would not lie if asked but would not even bring it up. one thing with the ground beef you could buy the say 90/10 and mix it with hers and you can mix with turkey or even wild game. I like pasta eat very little of it. But you can make red sauce with chicken or ground turkey or mixed meet like I said. Good luck and blessings to you and your mom.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-09-27 15:36:17 -0500 Report

That is how I helped when I was making meals for my Mother-in-Law. I would try to modify what I could. She would often decide to go out to her favorite places to eat and make her own choices. But the alternatives were there for her. I still made some of her favorite foods even if I couldn't make changes to them. I know it is frustraing to cook double meals. I would make larger batches and freeze meals ahead. he cooking and clean up time was less than cooking from start every meal that way. We were on a tight budget but it worked out by starting with just one or two meals ahead each week.

TsalagiLenape 2011-09-26 09:05:10 -0500 Report

Well since she is sensitive to spices why not experiment with her? Get her to try something new with her help. This way she is making a choice in her own health. Be honest and frank with her upfront. Tell her you love her and want her around for another 20+ years. That if you both eat better you live better. Ask her what she would do if the situation was reversed. Then on her next doctors appointment go with her. Get the results. Tell her about doing an experiment with healthier eating. Starting after that appointment til the next one. See if she wants to suprise her doctors with her new results. Have fun and reward yourselves when you do make the goals. Hope this helps as it was meant too. Hugs

margokittycat 2011-09-26 02:07:01 -0500 Report

If you are doing the cooking and you can make the switch I agree with Harlen what she doesn't know won't hurt her. I bet if you did that with some of the other foods she would not know either. Try making the chicken and taking the skin off all of it before cooking it, she probably won't even know it. but some breading on it and pan fry it and there you have it.

Harlen 2011-09-25 21:00:37 -0500 Report

What she dont know will not hurt her ?????
You can always take the skin of your pice ?
Tell he if wishes to have pasta its ok just make two pots thats what I need to do wife and kid will not eat springfealeds iether lol I like it ok.
My wife was a salt feened aswell and I slowly swidhed out her salt fore spice now she love the spice and very little salt
It may just take time ???
Best wishes

Abby888 2011-09-25 19:18:38 -0500 Report

Try sitting down together and making a menu. See if you can get information on healthier choices from your doctor office or a diabetes educator. The most important thing to express to your mom is that you want her to be around and that you love her. You are only looking out for the both of you. Good luck and god bless :)

MEGriff1950 2011-09-25 18:21:04 -0500 Report

How old is your mother? Can she fix her killing meals for herself? You might say Mother I am tired of digging your grave, either you learn to eat healthy or fend for yourself? It I had said that to my mother I would have been picking myself up off of the floor. Has your mother given up? I know that was very personal.
God bless,

Rapcom 2011-09-25 17:26:51 -0500 Report

I do need to mention she has a very strong taste buds. she is sensitive to most spices; which I understand.

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