Help!, I need Suggestions

By Latest Reply 2015-02-22 17:18:41 -0600
Started 2008-10-27 05:44:47 -0500

I need help and encouragement to work throught the pain, and find the motivation to make this graduation-25th birthday party a go. That means cooking and cleaning, and before you say it, I won't let anyone else and come in do it for me, and financially I can not afford the help, either. And since I moved up this part of NJ I really do not know anyone here. So basically, And this day is sooooo—important to me, I really want to do it. Thanks for everything, ahead of time.LOL

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Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-22 17:18:41 -0600 Report

maybe you could try a food bank, they might be able to help you get enough groceries to do this party, as for the help to do the cooking, not sure how to help you there. Hope things so well for you.

2008-10-28 07:42:05 -0500 Report

John; those are some great suggestions, and I have a 101 disk player that is always fully loaded and ready to go; the only thing I have trouble with is stopping for a rest; I don't rest until I Am done but I will try. I have started making a grocery list and have shopped online for the past few months, but I am afraid I will have to go out and do it myself this time, in case I don't put everything on my list. But, my daughter will cook some and has helped with the list. Thanks again; Oh, I am a great music lover, all my life, I have 3 brothers who are musicians and all play with the best rock and jazz bands. So, I am not crazy about jazz, but soft rock, and rock, I love. They also have their own recording studio in Va. As much as I have trouble with them; a few things I am proud of.

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2008-10-28 04:25:18 -0500 Report

I know men and women think so differently about these kinds of things, you may just shake your head and say, "Oh brother!" But for what it's worth...

I always make a list. Then I just focus on one item at a time. When there's so much to do, it's so easy to get distracted. But the list can help you knock out one thing at a time. And when you start crossing things off your list, it feels great.

Also, getting everything on the list can help you decide what's absolutely necessary and what can be left undone if you run out of time.

If some of your cooking is baking, keep your list handy whenever you pop something in the oven. See what you can get done while your stuff is baking.

Also, use the list to plan your breaks. Look down and say to yourself, "After I get 1, 2, and 3 done this morning, I'll take a 45 minute break to recover my energy." That way you don't run out of steam before the end of the day and you don't feel guilty for taking a little break.

And my last tip, put on your favorite music. Seriously, I work so much better, faster and more efficient with good music on.

Best of luck.

Bluebutterfly 2008-10-28 05:41:09 -0500 Report

I make a list and try to go by it as much as I can. Stoffers has a excellent lasagna,that is what I would go with. Think of ways that would make it easier for you. I prefer to do my own cleaning. I also cook ahead as much as I can,you can always warm when you are ready.Good luck .

2008-10-27 22:13:35 -0500 Report

I wish I could get myself to use storemade lasagne or frozen, but I am a true Italian in that respect, expect too much of myself, but have to make my own.
I am horrible when people offer to help, esp. when it comes to cleaning, because I feel insulted, like my house is dirty. See I take things the wrong way. I am very lacking of self-confidence and take everything to heart.

sparkysmom 2008-10-27 05:50:35 -0500 Report

Use as much store made stuff as possible…Semi homemade is good. Surface clean. If they can't see it leave it. Fancy paper plates..Not a green way to go but it helps. Do a little at a time and do the things you can sitting when you can. I often vacuum,do dishes,mop and even cook sitting on my rollator. Good Luck! IPOD or stereo on and go…

2008-10-27 10:42:55 -0500 Report

Thanks so uch for all your help/will definitely try everything you said, and take it under consideration