DIABETES...it is NOT the end of the world

By FLDawn Latest Reply 2011-09-22 16:01:18 -0500
Started 2011-09-13 10:52:19 -0500

I have come across many posts that truly disturb me. When I see diabetes called things such as the end of life etc. I wonder just how weak that person is… Sorry, but diabetes is not the same as Cancer or so many other illnesses that ARE the end. Those people fight for an extra week, month of year of life yet some people are just giving up on diabetes and let it destroy their life. WHY? I was diagnosed two years ago with type 2. I know in my heart that due to an accident I have gained quite a bit of weight. It was NOT the accident that made me fat it was ME… You need exercise not just diet and then as I gained I almost gave up. Diabetes just might be the BEGINNING for ME. When diagnosed I was scared, then I called the American Diabetes Association for information. They are awesome and sent me informative books showing me how to eat and explaining my disease. I found THIS incredible site called DIABETIC CONNECT. The community here is warm and caring and they share if you ask them to do so. Doctors are necessary but someone positive that has diabetes is amazing at least I found them that way. I kicked my butt with diet change and exercise. It was NOT that hard. I love what I am eating now and I do not want to hear anyone say how they cannot afford to eat healthy. That is BULL…I save money by eating only things I should instead of prepared foods, junk food etc. You pay for others to make the junk they do that we put into our mouths. Make it yourself and feel safe that you know what you are eating AND save money. PS it tastes better too…experiment. I do things from putting fruit into my chicken while cooking etc. You CAN make it work if you choose to do so. Exercise is not my favorite thing I admit and I am still battling the weight…but I am NOT giving up. Don't blame diabetes, look at what YOU are doing. I realize type 1 is a different animal but I know people who do not do the right thing there either. My friend buried her husband…he was one of those who did what he wanted. He died of all of the diabetic ailments you can think of and had sight loss, heart, infection and amputationS…and finally kidney failure. I KNOW I don't want to go that route. I don't judge but try to not blame a disease…that is like blaming the pole that hit your car…unless it really had fallen down on you and hit YOUR CAR…welllllll
Take responsibility …I for one am so tired of seeing people blame everything and everyone but themselves. BE STRONG

28 replies

Abby888 2011-09-20 16:12:53 -0500 Report

Hi Dawn. I'm fairly new to Diabetic Connect and I have to say that I wish I had found this web site sooner and read this post like 5 years ago. I have read and re-read this discussion and the subsequent comments and I thank you. I was diagnosed with Pre-Diabetes in 2006 and type 2 Diabetes in Jan 2010. I have been on insulin since Feb 2011. Two months ago I went to see my psychiatrist and "weighed in". A whopping 273 lbs. I cried the rest of the afternoon. This was the heaviest I had ever weighed. After being diagnosed soon after that with Diabetic Neuropathy I decided that I had enough. I started carb counting, eating healthier foods (even being on food stamps), walking and stopped feeling sorry for myself. As of today, my blood sugars haven't been over 175 (average is about 120 now) and I have lost 21 lbs in just 8 weeks. I am on the right path now. I am off my Levemir and taking very low doses of Humalog. My goals are to lose 100 lbs total, get off insulin completely and get a part time job. I know it takes time but I CAN DO THIS. Thank you again.

FLDawn 2011-09-20 16:58:49 -0500 Report

Hi Abby
I am fairly new myself…2 years and a few months now since being diagnosed. I am not even sure how I found this site but I pass the info on to anyone that listens. Having volunteered at many health fairs myself as well as that being where I was first given the heads up on my diabetes…I now use that as a venue to tell people what you CAN DO… I am there with you now as far as losing a large amount of weight. Congrats on what you lost in 8 weeks. That is how I started out which is why I dropped down to a 7.2 in about 8 weeks with my A1C test. I am only on oral and have not needed it increased and am grateful. My post was because I saw so many postings of people who were afraid of diabetes and felt their life was now over. It is just something to do with blood sugar…oh YES it can kill you but …it is not deadly like a massive heart attack, it is not inoperable cancer…it IS something we can help ourselves take control of… I know not everyone can go off meds because so much damage has been done already. Each day they find new things to help those of us with diabetes but not everyone was so lucky. People do need to check their ego at the door though and look diabetes in the face and recognize what it is and what it is NOT… it is NOT stronger than you if you don't let it as a rule. I know…nothing is 100%. I have an Uncle who was 3 years older than me…he was born with juvenile diabetes…now that is nothing he could stop but then again…it IS something he was able to control and he is still healthy and alive because he chose to control it. Abby…it sounds as though you had it all under control without us here but…if you ever want to question something, wonder if someone else felt this way or that etc. This community is AWESOME… FYI there are also ones for migraines and other things as well. This is where I come though when I question something… PS I am not really as mean as I sound and as I explained previously…my rant started because I DO NOT want to hear someone say life has ended, is too hard or they can't. YOU and I discovered we could eat healthy with food stamps so NO excuses wouldn't you say? I keep hearing how people cannot afford to eat healthy and I say BULL to that. OK maybe I am mean LOL…I just don't want to see people afraid and giving up when they don't have to…I want us all to live and feel good. Hugs Abby…you are awesome don't forget it.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-09-20 14:03:02 -0500 Report

Yep it is not like cancer, a lot of cancers are curable. Diabete isn't.
In my career I have seen many people suffer and die from many diseases. Sometimes no matter what the person has done or is doing they can't beat the disease they have been fighting. I am sorry but any disease is just as bad as another in my eyes. Some kill you quicker, some kill you slower.We are all gonna die from something at sometime. Sometimes no matter what we do our bodies just aren't able to beat it. I have looked in the eyes of people who have beat cancer as they are actively dying from another condition as they are saying I don't think I am winning this battle. One beat breast cancer only to die from end stage renal disease from diabetes. She did what was right, her body just didn't know how to beat diabetes.
Don't think I am gonning to just roll over and let diabetes take control over my life. I will fight it just as hard as I have fought all the other medical problems that have come my way. I just can understand why some people state Dabetes is whatever name they want to call it.

robertoj 2011-09-20 13:45:03 -0500 Report

Diabetes is just one more challenge in life. It all comes down to attitude and how we allow things to affect us. I used to be physically active but quit after I became too injured to continue. Had I adjusted and incorporated activities that were low impact I don't think that I would not developed diabetes. I don't look back with sadness, yesterday only matters for what I can learn from it. I don't worry about pricking my fingers, with the thin lancets and the adjustment set right I seldom feel it. I test, never miss my meds, have an exercise routine and watch my diet. It's no big deal. When I go out I have to do a little extra planning and that too is no big deal. How do you thrive with diabetes (that is the question)? Eat a healthy diet and moderate exercise which is what we should do anyway. I do feel very deeply for all the sufferers of complication especially for those that were not diagnosed in time. I am a depression sufferer and that makes it many times harder. I have been fortunate to finally get through the darkness and I know that depression is a factor for many. Advertising works against many; I'm lucky in that ads have the opposite effect on me. If you are having problems dealing with diabetes make sure that you are not suffering from depression. If you are; seek treatment right away. God bless.

FLDawn 2011-09-20 15:45:55 -0500 Report

Roberto, I agree with you about changing how we do things and perhaps we would not have diabetes now. I believe I would not have if I had not let the injury take over so I REFUSE now to let anything take my power away. While it is true that we will all die of something…it does NOT mean you should roll over and let diabetes be what kills you. If you give up then I have no respect for you and if I gave up I would have none for me either. If we do the right thing it may not keep us from dying in fact I can tell you now that it will NOT keep us from dying of something…but why rush it? Why lose your eyesight and other things to diabetes as I watched my friend do. You may think you are doing right but none of us are perfect and the ones who say they do everything right…well those are the ones I think diabetes controls because they are fooled. It is tiring at times or boring so we all slip up…I see on here that there are recipes that are NOT diabetic friendly. The person means well but…remember sugar alcohol, remember carbs, remember fat…all of those contribute so if the sugar grams are low that does not mean it is GOOD for us. Be responsible for what you put in your mouth…I take no ones word anymore. I am working on recipes that are friendly in all ways and waiting for a friend to give me some info that may prove really helpful for us all. Food CAN taste good…but don't think you can eat your real pizza and cakes and adjust your meds and poof you are doing the right thing or doing what is good for you. Think before you eat…

Type1Lou 2011-09-19 16:58:57 -0500 Report

I SO agree with your attitude and approach. None of us like having this disease, whether it be Type 1, 2, LADA. If we choose to face it, and deal with it by learning as much as we can, eating properly and exercising, we are already on the track to better control. As chronic diseases go, diabetes is generally one that can be managed by the right choices. It takes discipline and it's not always easy but we (and our loved ones) are the ones who ultimately benefit. So…let's all join in wishing you a very successful new beginning!

FLDawn 2011-09-19 21:41:23 -0500 Report

Thanks Lou, I am no longer a newbie but plan on continuing to make NEW beginnings…it did not happen overnight so it won't go away that fast either…patience I guess is the key but we have to take the bull by the horns so to speak or the bull will run right over us and kill us

grandmaducky 2011-09-19 16:32:48 -0500 Report

i try and help people but sometime i have to bite my tongue some people just cant get off their buts and do it fine dont whine and if bs arent where you want them lower your carb even if doctors and others are telling you you need thios many try it and find out how many you really need to get the numbers you want doctors and others aren't god do what you have to do for your self to get to where you want to be okay all boo me now but thats what work for me and i am still saying lower your carbs youll get better #

Jan8 2011-09-14 09:43:04 -0500 Report

This support group has helped me so much because I felt like I did not have a life. Sometimes people get hit with many diagnoses at the same time and it make it difficult to accept. Thanks for the input FLDawn.

FLDawn 2011-09-19 14:43:36 -0500 Report

Hon, these people are great…just use your own common sense too and know that knowledge IS power. I honestly cannot say I ever felt that I did not have a life I just said "oh no, what have I done to myself". I had warning signs and continued to do the things I should not have and now I have to fix that. My doctor was my biggest supporter once he accepted the fact I was a diabetic. He listens to me and takes into his head the ideas I have come up with to make life good. He is alternative besides being internal medicine so is more open minded than many doctors. Changing the way I eat was number one for me and not very hard. Maybe because I was so afraid of the consequences of diabetes it made me do what I had to do right away. Whatever the reason…it worked for me. Sadly, food has become a way of life instead of something to keep us alive. That can make it difficult but luckily, living in FL the eating is different than when I lived up North. Believe me, I LOVE comfort food but I love feeling good even more. You can have anything in moderation…for me I can't because I can be weak so I stick to the basics. I am fighting many things at the same time as well hon and the different meds can also raise BS and make you feel lousy. YOU CAN do this and have a normal life. For the most part the treatment of diabetes is diet and exercise and that is normal these days for almost everyone. You no longer stick out like a sore thumb as in the old days LOL… unfortunately we are not freaks or the minority anymore but are the MAJORITY…

Jan8 2011-09-19 16:52:01 -0500 Report

Thank You FLDawn for the very comforting words of wisdom. I really appreciate it!! It helps me to be unafraid and to just live my life!

FLDawn 2011-09-19 21:42:32 -0500 Report

Life can change in a heartbeat for good or bad so you HAVE TO live it and enjoy…Hugs hon…live and dance and smile…when you are stressed it is harder on your whole body…seriously and even increases BS

Jan8 2011-09-20 13:17:25 -0500 Report

Thanks again for the words of wisdom. You are so right . Life can change in a heartbeat for the good or the bad. We just have to roll with it! Have to remain calm and positive. It just doesnt make sense to be so stressed over this. Hugs to you right back.

FLDawn 2011-09-20 15:47:00 -0500 Report

YOU have a great attitude hon…we all have off days but hang in there and don't let the thing win is my motto

grandmaducky 2011-09-13 14:40:22 -0500 Report

I agree with you but people all are on the own walk some walk backwards some take baby steps some run and some walk back wards some stay where they are it is their choice i pray for all no matter where they are in their walk

FLDawn 2011-09-19 14:46:06 -0500 Report

I agree with you about we all do it differently. My beef is the ones who whine to ME about they can't do this or that. It is not CAN'T it is won't. To me it is the same as those who are able to walk on a broken leg if need be or like those people last week when they lifted a car off a man to save his life following a motorcycle accident. YOU CAN do almost anything if you choose to… I am afraid, I choose not to die as my friend's husband did from diabetes… I wish them strength but if you sit and ponder and say poor me then you will get nowhere. I guess I am not into pity parties for myself…it is exhausting and accomplishes nothing.

jayabee52 2011-09-13 12:13:13 -0500 Report

Howdy Dawn

Having diabetes is NOT the end of the world ——— but you can see it from here! LoL!

I want to commend you on your post. Well said!

Unfortunately there are many folks whose only form of coping is being depressed. And I have been there too. It is not entirely by their choice that they have that inbalance of brain chemicals. I prefer to comfort those people rather than tell them to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and get on with life. Once they feel someone has listened to them, they are more likely to genuinely listen to what you have to say to them.

I have come a long way in the 16 yrs since my Dx. I am most certainly now a different person today than I was 16 years ago. It would have been nice to have been able to go immediately from where I was to where I am today with my management of my diabetes, but as will rogers once said "There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves." I'm unfortunately, the 3rd kind of man.

Praying God's richest blessings upon you and yours

FLDawn 2011-09-13 17:57:29 -0500 Report

Howdy James LOL…James I did not plan on coming across mean but I have had people write to me and whine and as you said…give up. As one who has been on medication for 7 years I fully understand depression as well as PTSD. That being said, I did not let that get me either. I was hit by an 18-wheeler…I have issues walking and more. My entire life fell apart and it took me 4 and a half years to finally get my SSA hearing for my disabilities. Because I tried working my unemployment was cut to less than 100 dollars a week and then it stopped. I was l almost homeless and if not for the fact that the place I was living in was foreclosed on and the owner ran away…well I would have been living in my car with my cats. So again…I know rock bottom but…what I tell people is that if I am still here and can bitch about it then I must be doing OK.

I finally won my hearing but it took another six months to see money. All I was living on was food stamps. BUT, I knew it was coming and instead of whining I was GRATEFUL. During this time I did manage to eat right and bring my BS down…in two months my doctor was stunned at how my BS had already dropped. It shows what you CAN do.

James, I try the honey first believe me but the ones I am pointing at now but not judging are the ones who need a little tough love like I did. For me it was the reality that I was no longer PRE diabetes but had the real thing. I was unable to keep my eyes open and wanted to sleep all of the time, eat all of the time etc. I broke down, went to the doc and found out what I could do to NOT DIE.

I also know you don't tell someone who is depressed to "snap out of it". Unfortunately I have a Daughter who is my one and only and she has that attitude as if we decide to be depressed. You and I know the difference so obviously you are more than the man who pees on the fence.

Luck was on my side and I finally got my retro, bought a small condo to call my own home and hope I never again have to worry about being homeless. It is paid for so it is truly mine. People whine about salary however I am grateful for that monthly income and pray the government does not mess with it. I have planned my life now based on that income. I am not rich but don't consider myself poor…I am grateful.

James, I still have weight to lose but my goal is to get off of my diabetes meds, my cholesterol meds and I am now almost 3 weeks free of antidepressants. On the antidepressant note I want to tell EVERYONE…don't do it alone. Talk to your doctor as my doc was far from thrilled with me. I began to go into withdrawal so set myself back. He put me back on a lighter dose and now…I FEEL GOOD. If I were not ready then I would be in tears again as I always was. I have a new life in a new location and I want to LIVE and ENJOY. Lucky for me also is that I have a doctor who does not believe you must be on meds forever. His goal is to get you free of them. If you don't have a doctor like that then look for one who is alternative. That doesn't mean mumbo jumbo stuff…he is internal medicine and graduated from a great school up North. It just means he is not into the meds and has an open mind as well instead of just meds and surgery for answers.

Thank you James…I'm not the hard person I come across as unless you are a whiner. If you are crying I will hug you…


jayabee52 2011-09-14 00:10:21 -0500 Report

My only sister is like your daughter. She is the VP of a bank and has all her personal and professional "ducks in a row" and she is really frustrated and po'd at me since I didn't do more with my Master's degree when I left my profession due to a personal meltdown. She doesn't understand that my degree needed me to further my education (another Masters or Doctorate) to do anything more with it. At that time I needed to rebuild MYSELF. I also had 3 sons their mother and I needed to raise, feed and clothe. We just barely scraped by, and we didn't have the money to put into further education for me.

I counted myself fortunate that the little town in Nebraska where mother of my sons had a teaching job was needing Certified Nurse Aides in the nursing home and hired me as a trainee.

Yeah, you're right I am more than someone who pees on the fence. I read, and observe. Part of that illustration was trying to inject some folksy humor into the discussion. My whole point was to not be too hard on people who may be down in the mouth or down on their luck, because I've been there too. I'm not there now but I've been there.

Actually I have been experementing since Feb 2011 on controlling my BG#s without diabetes meds, solely by what I eat. And in large part it is being successful. I have also lost about 50 lbs.

Right now I am doing very well Dawn

Blessings to you and yours


FLDawn 2011-09-19 14:55:22 -0500 Report

James, normally I am not hard on people unless they ask me things. When you ask me you will get MY opinion whether you like what I say or not. Don't ask I won't tell LOL… Don't whine and tell me you can't do this or that. As I mentioned to someone else, I am not into pity parties. I recently came off my anti-depressants and anxiety meds. I did it with my doctor's guidance and although he is not sure if I should have done, he supports me in this and will just be there if I need help. I know how easy it is to give up…been there almost and done it but something made me STOP quitting…believe it or not, for me it was my cats I had rescued. I have formerly ferals. At one point I no longer wanted to get up in the morning…I mean EVER… uh uh that is NOT who I am. My furbabies had been on the streets and had most of them murdered by a pack of wild dogs. The survivors are now inside with me. One day they put their little paws on their hips, looked at me with disgust and said "who do you think you are to give up". WE never gave up and we need you now. LOL James that is my story and I am sticking to it. Not even my Daughter who is grown FYI…gave me what these babies gave me to stand up and fight. Maybe it is because they are so innocent and defenseless…all I know is I have promised them a forever home and am planning on keeping that. This means do what you have to do. Whining and pity never fixed a thing. I like solutions not problems. Hugs James…sounds like you have done very well. Knock wood, my meds have never had to be strengthened either for BP, or BS…he put me on cholesterol meds and in two months I went from 260 to 160 for a count Now I have to be kind to my old bones and get this weight off. I am hoping that getting off the antidepressants will help. I was ready to start on the treadmill but had a fall last week and can barely walk at all right now…not giving up though and in the meantime it is back into the pool which I love. I know I sounded mean but…sometimes we all need a kick in the pants…I DID…

nzingha 2011-09-13 23:19:51 -0500 Report

wow u've been thru it.. u r a strong person.. keep it up..

FLDawn 2011-09-19 14:56:15 -0500 Report

I am thankful to be here and was not strong for awhile although that is NOT who I am…we all can be strong if we want to be… Hugs…

besther414 2011-09-13 14:57:56 -0500 Report

I think I am also more of the #3 type of person, with a tad of #1 mixed in there!! I have diabetic for about 2 years now, at first I took my meds, hated the way they made me feel, got off of them did an all natural pill worked for a while, got off of them, then did nothing but exercise and eat very healthy which also did not work. Now, I'm on a new medicine, eating healhty and exercising. Well, wouldn't you know, it's working! LOL!!!!

FLDawn 2011-09-19 14:58:39 -0500 Report

AWESOME…that is what I am talking about :-) Knock wood I was very lucky that the first med my doc put me on did the trick and never gave me issues. I love your saying posted on your profile…you go girl…YEAHHHHHH

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