Tip of the Week: Remember to Laugh

Gabby
By GabbyPA Latest Reply 2014-11-08 17:46:28 -0600
Started 2011-09-13 09:42:39 -0500

Diabetes is called a lot of things, some of which I cannot repeat.

But some things we call it is:
A life sentence
A thorn in our side
A death sentence
A cramp in our style
A complete change in lifestyle
A door to depression
An invitation to complications
And many, many more

In all the seriousness of this disease, and I don't have to remind you of those, we need to keep our sense of humor and enjoy life along the way.

Sometimes when the "diabetes police" swoop in, you just have to laugh at their ignorance and move on. You can offer them a white bread badge and a spaghetti baton. Then eat what you know your body can handle.

When the "negative Nancy" tells you about all her diabetic friends who have lost limbs or eye sight. You can tell them that they know what causes that. Whip out your meter and show them your last number. Tight blood glucose control will help you prevent those side effects. Let them know you don't plan to become one of the statistics.

When the "desert pusher" comes at you with the typical "one little bite won't hurt" as they shove a 3 serving size brownie in your face. You can scare them back with the calorie count or fat content of the goodie they are pawing. Or you can just tell them you are already full.

What I am trying to say is that those people are around us every day and we can choose how we deal with them. We can get upset with hurt feelings and huff off, feeling defeated.
Or we can laugh inside at the foolishness of them and their offering of advice on something they know very little about and choose to educate them in some little way, and feel good as we are victorious over the "offender".

I pretty much try to just turn it into a light heated situation. Not so much for them, but for myself. It lets me know that I have won in the situation.


23 replies

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2012-02-21 11:57:16 -0600 Report

Laughter is the best medicine. Crying just clogs your nose and gives you a headache.

I think people who let those around them bring them down should ask themselves why am I paying attention to him/her.

I have a friend who is not diabetic who thinks she is the diabetic expert. The first thing she said was keep OJ in your fridge just in case. I told her I can't have OJ per doctors orders. She then proceeds to tell me what I can or cannot eat based on friends she has who can eat some things. I finally told her that diabetes can have a different effect on each person and some can have things others cannot. As dear as she is to me, it is at these times I give her the "in one ear, out the other" look.

I think if we laugh at situations that make us feel bad, in the end we end up feeling better because we forgot what made us feel bad. Great tip.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-02-21 16:55:13 -0600 Report

You forgot the puffy red eyes...that is me and it is rarely worth the "crying hangover". I try to let thing roll off my back and seeing things through the eyes of humor.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-02-21 12:04:12 -0600 Report

It is my experience that crying is useful too in the proper place. Like when a loved one dies, for instance. If one tries to suppress crying alltogether in the appropriate situations, one may well develop psycosomatic illnesses. Sometimes if something is really busting my chops emotionally I find that it is healthy and I feel better after a good cry.

Laughter AND Crying are BOTH valuable emotional responses at the appropriate times.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-02-21 17:00:10 -0600 Report

This is very true...but I don't know if I want to start a discussion on crying.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-02-21 17:26:37 -0600 Report

I think there already was a discussion on crying done by Dr Gary. I checked and matter of fact he did here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/12...

Mays also did a discussion on crying here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/74...

I responded as I did not to provoke a discussion on crying but because I read and responded to both discussions. And joyce's mention of crying triggered that recollection and I thought it would add to the discussion here.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2012-02-21 17:31:44 -0600 Report

I still think there would be a great deal of use for a "sarcasm font" No offense taken no need to apologize.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2012-02-21 17:33:15 -0600 Report

Me too! We need that...maybe if we * it or something? I get worried when I see it didn't go as planned. Too much thin skin around here some days.

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2011-09-15 09:07:58 -0500 Report

Yes that does work so well. I dont think of them being foolish just undereducated! Hence a door way to teaching them. Yet my favorite quote I myself started, is Today isnt good and tomorrow dont look better! It sounds negative, but I use this against negative things. I.e. husbands ignorant behavior bothering me or upsetting me. I do my best to find a positive. Hence turning a negative into a positive is what I work on constantly. Yet so much fun! Like a post I read elsewhere about word association tbe previous poster had put Neil as in Neil Young…So I posted Standing! LOL Tis what you decide to allow to happen to you. Meaning that others negativity and etc can get to you if you allow it. Yet if you recognize this, deal with it to put it out of your way and become positive, that is what I do and what counts for me. So I hope this helps others realize its a matter of choice and allowing whatever. Even those closest to us, dont realize the impact they can have on us. Thus setting limits and boundaries helps me tremendously! Have a great day!:)

MarkieMarkie
MarkieMarkie 2011-09-14 10:11:54 -0500 Report

I'm laughing at my big toe right now cause it hurts so bad… I'd rather laugh than cry.. I was thinking about crying but I got to busy laughing and I forgot to cry… thanks for the tip of the day… it was awesome.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-09-14 17:26:01 -0500 Report

I am glad I was able to make you laugh. Now I hope you do take care of your toe or just do what my step daughter did. When my toe was hurting me, she drew a happy face on the bottom of it. LOL! She did all 5 on the one foot so if one was sad, the others were laughing.

MarkieMarkie
MarkieMarkie 2011-09-15 08:44:21 -0500 Report

Now that's an idea. I remember when my daughter was a little girl… I used to draw on her toes too and it would make her smile.

stormz
stormz 2011-09-13 11:04:44 -0500 Report

I love to laugh!! It is the best medicine out there. I know when my sister is down in the dumps like last night the only thing I could think of to do was to make her laugh so hard and she did. She replied with "my boss thinks I'm nuts". I said to her " he didn't before". HAHAHA We both started laughing really hard.
My boyfriend too is sick and has kidney failure. He does not like to talk about it. So I always change the subject to make him laugh so he does not have to think about it. At least for a little while. I did however offer him one of my kidneys if we are a match. I hope we are a match so I can end his worries. That is the true meaning of love and friendship.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-09-14 17:27:45 -0500 Report

My hubby tickles me out of a blue mood. I don't get them too often, but when I do they can be hard. He threatens the tickle attack and we both start laughing. Then if he tickles me, I turn red and laugh so hard I cry....a good cry.

MarkieMarkie
MarkieMarkie 2011-09-14 10:14:39 -0500 Report

I pray that you are a match too. He is blessed to have you!

stilllearning
stilllearning 2011-09-14 10:35:34 -0500 Report

I was told that laughing helps your heart (cardio) and your mood. As far as those complications negative nancy's, I have an aunt who has lost her eyesight because she thought her insulin would take care of every bad thing she ate. She still does it but gives me a hard time constantly. I know she means very well though. But sometimes it's like the pot calling the kettle black.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-09-14 17:29:34 -0500 Report

For christmas this year, buy her a little black iron skillet....put it in her stocking and see if she gets it. You might have to give her some clues. But maybe it would help. Probably not, but at least you could laugh about it.

stormz
stormz 2011-09-14 10:30:52 -0500 Report

Thank you MarkieMarkie…we are a great match we have known us better over 16 years…that is a long time..so I know how he gets..I am still praying that I am a match for him. There is no greater gift than the gift of life. That is the best gift I can give him. It means more than anything else I can give to him.