Smoking....its a nasty habit

By Abby888 Latest Reply 2012-06-14 05:28:55 -0500
Started 2011-09-09 19:52:35 -0500

I've been smoking since I was 18. Thats 17 LONG years. My endocrinologist asks me every time I see her when I plan to quit and my answer is always the same…"not right now". I know smoking is bad for you but I just can't seem to quit. Even the expense of it doesn't bother me cause I get cigars that cost $2.00 a pack. My doctor told me that smoking for a diabetic is extremely bad yet I still can't quit. I'm afraid if I quit smoking, I will eat and snack when I shouldn't be. Does anyone else out there smoke or anyone that has successful quit?

45 replies

G0dsg1rl 2012-06-14 02:12:14 -0500 Report

My Doctor told me that woman have greater success quitting using e-cigarettes. He said, "I do not care about the amount of nicotine. I just want you off the smoke." This has been rather liberating for me. I am not going to lie I have bummed a few regular cigarettes but I am not buying them and when I feel the need to be violent, the e-cigarette takes the edge off. Something else that helps more than anything else is…pray for someone else who is struggling with quitting. When we intercede for someone else that has the same problem we take our eyes off ourselves and the cravings lessen. This is not only a physical battle but a spiritual one. When I am tempted to give in and bum one I am going to pray for your victory. LORD bless you abundantly.

Degibu 2012-06-12 07:55:47 -0500 Report

If you only do ONE good thing for your health, it is to quit. I smoked for years, much of while working at home, picking up the telephone and lighting up, only to leave it burn away in an ashtray, BUT I smoked ALOT. I quit, cold turkey over 15 years ago and never, EVER looked back. What helped me immensely was a phone call from a friend who was in medical school. He asked what was new and when I told him that I had quit, after yelling for joy the first thing he asked me was "how long since your last cigarette?" I told him "1 week" and he said, "congratulations, you're half way there". He explained that the actual physical withdrawal from nicotene is 14 days, addding that after that the cravings are all in your mind. He told me that I was home free since he knew that I "never did ANYTHING I didn't want to do", being the stubborn, pig headed person that I can be. :) He was right. While quitting, I found that being around other smokers didn't bother me, in fact I think it helped. I wanted the smell of the cigarettes and as I went further and further into being smoke free, the smell of those disgusting things became even more nauseating than before. I have never, ever picked up another cigarette and I feel 1000% better because of it. Good luck in quitting, and do it by whatever means YOU find to work for you, since all of us are different, what works for one may not work for someone else. If you need to find someone to talk to, you can always send me a message on here, I'd be glad to help you.

locarbarbie 2011-09-22 09:44:52 -0500 Report

Abby, I was diagnosed a little over 1 yr ago with type 2. Knew I had to quit smoking (smoked 40 yrs a bit over a pk per day). I was HARD CORE. Spent the last year tweaking my diet to control BS. Also tried and failed with Chantix. My daughter ranted at me constantly to quit and still I smoked. Tried quitting cold turkey almost on a weekly basis and could not get any further than about 16 hours! This Sunday will be 8 weeks since I have had a cigarette. I smoked my last on July 31st at midnight while my grandaughter was spending the night. We made a production out of it, told Sarah, "{well this is my last cigarette i will ever smoke'), after my last puff we sang and danced, I'm a non-smoker. Yup, pretty corny but dramatic!!
So how did I do it? My daughter promised me that if I could quit for 1 year, she would take me somewhere on a plane (I have never flown, have never had that kind of money) maybe vegas? And she also promised me insentives such as a pedicure after the 1st week (I checked with my doc 1st, LOL) and other treats spaced out for the 1st year. I also decided to pay myself what I would normally spend on cigs and gas per day. I now have over $400 in my "non-smoker" account!! But truthfully what has really helped has been e-cigarettes. Yes, I am addicted now to them, but I figure that will be next to go, just not quite yet. I have 2…one has the lowest amount of nicotine possible (Menthol) and the other has nothing but water vapor. I switch from one to the other and my goal is to eventually cut the nicotine one out completely and then the other, but this is a work in progress. Figure out what will motivate you and do it. It may take several attempts but at one point you will decide thats it and that you are more important than lletting your life and your money go up in smoke. Good luck and God Bless.

jayabee52 2011-09-22 22:31:59 -0500 Report

congratulations on being smoke free for 8 weeks! Praying you lose the habit permanently (even the e-cigs)

MarMann57 2011-09-13 01:46:10 -0500 Report

Hi Abby, I also have smoked for a long time, 41 years, 2 packs a day. I'm 54 now, it has now been seven days of not smoking. I called the 1 800 quit now line as I was in the hospital a few weeks ago getting a Ct scan on my lungs to check for blood clots, thank god no clots, but now diagnosed with COPD and calcification in my aorta valve, even tho it has only been one week, I would like to share a few tips that are helping me.. I can not believe how many pounds of carrots I have eaten the first 3 days. bought one of those big trays of veggies . did not last long :) sugar free hard candies, sugar free suckers. all ash trays gone. I have a partner that still smokes,, but he has been great, going outside to smoke, and I use the patch,
some people can do the cold turkey thing, but I'm not one of them, this is my second try of quitting, first time was 6 years ago and lasted 6 months, so I pray this time will be my last time of quitting. if you need some support in this.. please call a quit line.. they are there to help.
good luck

CassandraG 2011-09-13 01:23:17 -0500 Report

I am a smoker also and have had several doctors biting me in the backside over it. I do hope one day to get the urge to quit. To much stress in the world right now, and I know there will always be stress but I am just not ready to quit. I often tell doctors that smoking is cheaper than a defense attorney. Ones that will handle murder case are very expensive.

Degibu 2012-06-12 07:59:15 -0500 Report

Unfortunately, the medical costs for smokers are ASTONOMICAL, compared to a defense attorney. While you might have insurance (or not) that makes no difference. YOU pay for the insurance and since insurance companies have to pay for medical care for smokers and/or non-compliant patients with any and all diseases, it is the biggest reason that this country will NEVER have universal health care.

doggier 2011-09-12 22:48:03 -0500 Report

Hi everyone, I don't smoke, but my mom used to really bad. She used to tell me she didn't inhale she just held it in her mouth. Last December she got really sick and to have an operation and the doctor told her she had to stop smoking. She stopped the very same day she went into the hospital. I had been trying for 30 years to get her to stop smoking and it didn't work. Now I can sit dow in the living room with her and talk forever with outh leaving the room when she lights up a cig. Gook Luck to everyone who is trying to stop, I know it has to be hard. Keep the faith.

Raeguerney 2011-09-12 19:22:56 -0500 Report

I smoked for quite a few years but three years ago I put out a cigarette and have never picked up another one. There were four other smokers in the house. It was very lonely spending all my time in the breakfast room while the others were sharing conversation and good times in the living room in their cloud of smoke. I finally called the "Quit Now" group who were supportive and informative. They have a website that is much like this one—friendly people who know what we are going through. It has worked for me.

SaraF 2011-09-11 18:27:22 -0500 Report

Hi Abby888, I feel ya. I have been smoking since I was 7. My doctor has been after me for years to quit and even gave me perscriptions for quit smoking products. I am allergic to all of them. The last time I went for an xray of my lungs, I was told that they are as clear as the day I was born. How can that be? I feel that with us dealing with the diabetes is enough of a stressor. We don't need to add another one by trying to quit smoking right now. Lets get our diabetes under control first. I am here for ya.

Debbiejf 2012-06-12 18:18:11 -0500 Report

FYI to everyone, okay, not everyone who smokes get lung cancer, COPD, or any of the other problems, issues that can result from smoking. Yes there are those who become ill from second hand smoke which is totally unfair but it doesn't take much for it to show up in some form or another. just sayin'

red flower lady
red flower lady 2012-06-12 20:03:23 -0500 Report

As a non smoker, I shouldn't have to put up with second hand smoke from any smoker. Why should my health have to suffer because they choose to ruin theirs in some form from doing so? My father smoked, but would only go out in the back yard to do it after dinner. My mother and I suffer from asthma and the smallest amount of smoke sets it off. I'm not saying people can't smoke as is their right, but it's mine not to be subjected to it as well. Being basically a life long type 1, I have other issue from it and don't need to add to it. I would like to think if lung cancer was going to show up, it wouldn't be by making a choice that is known to cause it:)

Debbiejf 2012-06-12 21:27:50 -0500 Report

I agree, i smoke but do not subject those who don't to it, I don't believe in making others suffer for my choices.

MsKelly50 2011-09-11 16:28:42 -0500 Report

Hi Abby888, I am now 50 yrs old and have been smoking since I was about 13 and as you can imagine the older I have become the more I have smoked and I smoke the little cigars (cigarettes) too more times than not. I was diagnosed with T2 about 10 yrs ago and my current doctor asks me at EVERY visit if I'm still smoking…well of course I am. I want to quit and know that I need to quit. I've had 3 family members that have passed, my fathers passing should have been an eye opener for me, and then when my aunt passed (she was a closet smoker for yrs) I should have really gotten the picture. My grandkids want to quit and are forever bringing home phamlets from school, but to no avail…all I can say is NEVER QUIT TRYING TO QUIT! One day we will both make it there. =)

MsKelly50 2012-06-13 09:23:32 -0500 Report

Just an update, while I'm still smoking I have recently discovered that 2 of my older grandchildren are now smoking…due to my smoking…possibly…due to peer pressure…possibly and more than likely. Along with having type 2 diabetes I have other health problems while this is no excuse by any means I know in my heart that I need to quit. I'll turn 51 soon and when I think of all the money that I've spent and continue to spend I often ask myself why???? As I continue to try and quit and win my sturggles with this addiction I too hope that those that smoke and win the battle and quit too.

robinsonb 2012-06-12 21:28:48 -0500 Report

never quit trying to quit… i did it finally its been almost 7 months… i will be praying for you .. you can do it… one step at a time…

MsKelly50 2012-06-13 09:14:15 -0500 Report

thanks, i'm still a smoker today, but try to quit on a regular basis. like you said NEVER quit trying to quit! =)

redcamel 2011-09-11 12:27:22 -0500 Report

Dont mean to brag. I never touched cigarettes. This was back at the time smoking was socially ok. Smoking is a crutch that is the bottom line. Everything else is a excuse to keep smoking. Good luck for everyone trying to quit.

Degibu 2012-06-12 08:02:14 -0500 Report

Yep, but unfortunately it's an accepted crutch.While being an alcholic or a drug addict is socially unacceptable. It's absolutely NO different. It's an addiction, and a LEGAL one too boot! Stinkin' tobacco companies and stinkin' politicians who allow it.

Debbiejf 2011-09-11 13:02:57 -0500 Report

I'm happy for you :), I always regret the consious decision I made at 14 yrs old to start smoking, but back then there was no link between smoking and cancer. With all the chemicals etc put into cigarettes that's why it's so hard to stop :(.

Debbiejf 2011-09-11 11:41:32 -0500 Report

The longest I have been able to quit was 2 1/2 months, I have been a smoker for 40 years. Recently I had pneumonia, not a severe case thank God, but was able to go without smokes for about a week since I was on oxygen all the time at home. Also I didn't have money to buy cigarettes, which I was able to accept unbelievably calmly enough at the time. But one day I woke up and felt that horrific willing to kill for a cigarette craving and my boyfriend went and bought me 2 packs. Recently I went to a smoke shop that carries tobacco that does not contain any nicotine or tar or chemicals that the big tobacco co.s put in the commercial cigs and although I have supplemented those with the odd pack of commercial smokes I'm hoping to someday get to no smokes at all. I will NEVER call it quiting, but smoke free.

Degibu 2012-06-12 08:04:09 -0500 Report

ALL tobacco contains some levels of tar and absolutely contains nicotine. It may not have all the added chemicals that cigarette companies put in their products, but tar and nicotine…it's in there naturally. STILL not good for you.

Jan8 2011-09-11 08:04:10 -0500 Report

Yes, I smoke and am not ready to quit for fear of another episode od depression,and I am addicted. I know it is not good for me. I watch my diet like a hawk. I cannot exercise except for lifting weights. I think I have just given up.

margokittycat 2011-09-10 22:20:49 -0500 Report

Abby, I too am a smoker I was also 18 when I started, stopped when pregnant but after I had each child started right back up. My entire family smokes, even though I no longer see any of them but not by my choice. I have been smoking for 20 years and I want to quit to. I am trying to find somithing I can use that won't cause a BS increase and I feel like you if I stop smoking I will eat all the time.

CWMecca 2011-09-10 22:05:04 -0500 Report

I've been a smoker, on and off, since high school, 34 years now. I quit for several years and then started up again 17 years ago. At the worst I was up to 2 packs a day, my lowest is about 1/2 a pack…until now. I've gone from 1 pack a day to 3 or 4 cigarettes a day since I was diagnosed last month. Huge improvement but everybody else around me wants it to be done NOW. Not gonna happen until the stress level drops around here. If you can gradually cut back you'll be helping yourself in the long run. Good luck!!

margokittycat 2011-09-10 22:23:29 -0500 Report

A year ago I dropped to 1/2 a pack a day to and now am back up to a pack. I tell my husband the same thing the stress level has to drop. I can't just quit with all the stress and nothing to help me quit. I wish it was that easy. I guesse if you have never smoked you just have no clue how hard it actually is.

Harlen 2011-09-10 20:30:13 -0500 Report

Yes I know how you feel I was the same way then one day I sed I need to qwit not for D not for the kids not for the wife I quit for me I needed to do it for me.
going on 4 monthes and its not ez and yes I sill would like a smoke but I dont need a smoke thank god .
After smoking for 33 years it was a hard thing to do,
wish I had done it a long time ago but till I wished to do it lol it was not going to happen .
I wish you the best and when you sey no more then so it shall be .

AuntieM234 2011-09-11 09:39:54 -0500 Report

I know what you mean, Harlen, it isn't easy. It will be 12 years, in November, since I've had a cigarette, yet I find myself jonesing for a cigarette on a daily basis. I feel as though it will always be there in my head,

Jameesa 2011-09-22 10:35:56 -0500 Report

My son-in-law's Dad quit over 30+ yrs. ago and he says sometimes he just has the taste for a cigarette; some people never lose that urge even though they no longer are smoking… I still want one after I eat …

MEGriff1950 2011-09-10 18:10:38 -0500 Report

Abby I have smoked for about 50 years except the 2 times I quit. The first time I quit it was for 2 years the second time it was only a year and a half. I started smoking again this last time the day I was told that I am diabetic.
My father died from lung cancer, smoke related. My mother dies from emphysema and other health issues related to smoking. That should be enough reason for me to quit there.
I will quit again when I am ready. No one can make me quit, I have to want to on my own. It does not help that my lungs are clear as someone who has never smoked. Dang now you have me thinking about it!
I say congratulations to those that are smoke free. I also congratulate those who are trying and wish you sucess.
God bless,

hardware clerk
hardware clerk 2011-09-10 16:35:09 -0500 Report

my wife and I both quit in 2001 after 35 years for me and 30 years for her it is not easy the only thing is you have to deside that is what you want to do and not try to do it for someone else

katlovsdan 2011-09-10 09:47:36 -0500 Report

i would like to quit smoking and so far i've tried several times but not able to.
i've been smoking since i was 13 and now i'm 56 anyone that can help me it would be appreachated.

AuntieM234 2011-09-10 07:52:16 -0500 Report

Hey Abby! I smoked my last cigarette the day after Thanksgiving, 1999. The fact that I began smoking in the first place was a shocker to my whole family. Mama was a smoker and I was always on her case to quit smoking. I would tell her she would get lung cancer and die. I would tell her that I just loved her so very much and that I didn't want to lose her. As it turned out, Mama was killed in a traffic accident the day before Mother's Day, 1968. (I was 26 at the time.)

The reason I began smoking was one night when I was drivng home in the pouring, from a business meeting 98 miles from where I lived, I fell asleep at the wheel. Fortunately, I jerked awake just as I was about to go over an embankment off the road. Several people told me that smoking would help me stay awake while driving. So, I proceeded to acquire the habit. It was awful! It made my mouth hurt and tasted awful. But I was a real trooper, yes I was! I successfully became addicted to nicotine! Not long after that, my opthomologist told me I had astigmatism and that is what caused me to be unable to keep my eyes open—basically tired eyes! But it was too late—I was already hooked. (I was 35 years old.)

Okay, so how was I able to quit? Well, I got pheumonia in both lungs which lingered as bronchitis, and I was still trying to smoke but not being very successful. I didn't have enough lung capacity to talk, never mind smoke. In order to talk, I had to grunt out enough air to push the words out. I finally recovered, though, and continued smoking. Then, in retrospect, it dawned on me how utterly idiotic I was being!

A good friend's father had emphysema, a product of smoking, and had to carry an oxygen tank with him everywhere he went. I saw him struggling, trying to breathe, and was reminded how difficult it had been for me to breathe with the pneumonia/bronchitis. Then I thought how awful it would be if I ended up like my friend's father. Well, being afraid I would be unable to quit smoking, and not wanting to set myself up for failure, I never SAID I was going to quit. Rather, I said I was going to see how long I could go without smoking another cigarette. I carried an open pack of cigarettes in my handbag for over a year, thinking it had psychological value. The cigarettes were, so I wasn't being deprived—I was just choosing not to smoke.

I still have that pack of cigarettes in a drawer (inside a zip lock bag), but I've not smoked one since that day in 1999! (I was 57 at that time.)

As an incentive for you, let me share some harsh reality with you … In 2009, my oldest brother, a heavy smoker his entire life, who was just told two weeks before that he was in remission from stomach cancer, entered the hospital and died there a few days later, OF LUNG CANCER. The doctors somehow managed to miss it when they diagnosed the stomach cancer.

God Bless you! I wish you the very best of luck in kicking the habit! Sending love and understanding your way. ;-) Mara

cindygal1 2011-09-10 04:23:38 -0500 Report

I have found that trying to take care of sick husbnd and having my work load very heavy that I am under a lot of stress, but walking is out of the question because I have to be where he can let me know that he needs me, so I have brought a lawnmoers that runs by battery and is very light, so when he lays down I go out and take the phone with me, and i work out some of my stres, plus I am getting exercise while doing it. He is not able to do a lot of walking or anything, so is the way that I work out some of my frustation out also. It has really made a difference in my attitude, and Ii am also trying to quit smoking on top of everything. Thank God I have a few friends that will pick me up just to see how I am doing and how my day has gone. You would be surprise how nice is just to have someone that you can talk to you that listen and understands what you are going through. Try it, it works.

Kerstin Lujan
Kerstin Lujan 2011-09-10 02:06:37 -0500 Report

I'm right there w/ you Abby!!! I'm trying very hard to limit them down to 10per day, I did quit for 3yrs then I went to visit my family last xmas & I was a gonner…so now its been 9mo's. This may seem strange or offensive to some people, but I think of God when I want a cig., It's helping me…The guilt keeps me away from it. I still strugle but have a goal set now. I hope this helps, GOD BLESS you,Kerstin

Harlen 2011-09-22 12:16:24 -0500 Report

It is hard but can be done I am still smoke free even with all the pain and stress I will not smoke !
Beat wishes

jayabee52 2011-09-10 01:51:06 -0500 Report

Howdy Abby
Harlen has quit. I'm proud that he has done that. I myself have never smoked cigarettes I did smoke stogies for a short time until I got too many within a short time and I got sick. That stopped me pretty quick.

Here's one of Harlen's discussions about quitting:

Praying that you can find it in you to quit soon.



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