How do I tell one of my besties that I think she might have diabetes

By PharmaTree Latest Reply 2015-06-23 10:36:16 -0500
Started 2011-09-07 13:57:43 -0500

I love, love, love my best friend "L". She is sweet, smart, hard working and super funny. She is also relatively young, just graduated from college, and the four years that I have known her she has always been a little overweight (mostly in the belly area). We used to work at Whole Foods together, so she does get her fair share of veggies and grains…but she does not have the healthiest diet out there. She lives in a big city so she does get a lot of walking done in a day. Lately, she has been experiencing a lot of fatigue as well as some other health issues, and I want her to get checked for pre-diabetes. I don't really know how to start the subject with her, since I know it is a sensitive one and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I feel that it is even more important than ever for her to go and have her health checked on, since she decided to move to Europe for a couple of months and is leaving in a month. Once she leaves, she won't have the same health coverage and most likely will never get checked. Any advice on how I should bring the subject up?

8 replies

Jan8 2015-06-23 10:36:16 -0500 Report

-If she is your best friend then she probably would be grateful. It would give her time to get use to her new diet if she does in fact have prediabetes or is a diabetic. I would thank you for your vigilance.

GabbyPA 2011-09-08 09:01:03 -0500 Report

Let me see....hurt a life? It is hard, but it maybe something long term that you want to talk to her about. More from your experience than in judging her lifestyle.

I had to address this with my step-daughter and it was akward. But once it was out, at least she knew I was looking out for her. She has other endo issues, so I know they are watching her as well, so that helps me relax. But you cannot make someone, it is a gentle nudge that might just put that "doubt" into her mind to have it checked out.

Won't she have to have a medical clearance to move to Europe? I know before international travel there are a lot of questions that have to be addressed. Moving would be even more so I would imagine. And if not, maybe you can encourage it to be for her long term safety.

PharmaTree 2011-09-08 12:35:29 -0500 Report

Hi Gabby,
Thanks for your response. I am not sure what type of medical clearance she will have to go through, but I did call her last night and we are going to talk tonight. So I will let you all know how it goes. Thank you so much for the great advice and wonderful support!

GabbyPA 2011-09-10 08:40:29 -0500 Report

It might get bumpy, but if you preface everything in love, you should make it through it. She might be upset for a while, but just move on, and don't harp. You can only express your concerns, don't make it a big drama. She might, but don't get on that wagon. Just give her a hug and be happy that the discussion has been opened up.

byrun 2011-09-07 16:26:47 -0500 Report

I suggest just asking her to get a complete physical with complete bloodwork tests before she leaves for Europe and to carry a copy of her latest medical records with her. This way she will have a health record and will eliminate any delays or unecessary medical tests if anything happens and she isn't able to speak. Hopefully that won't happen but it is a good precautionary measure.

jayabee52 2011-09-07 16:25:30 -0500 Report

I believe that the best way is to tell her of your concern for her, straight out. You might tell her about your being here on DC and becoming more aware of what diabetes is all about. You might also mention that if she is able to manage her condition she may be able to put off getting the full blown disease for a long time if not for the rest of her life.

Nana_anna 2011-09-08 12:47:50 -0500 Report

This is my same thought. Than what was said above. If you don't tell her then she might also get upset later when she does find it out eventually. Then she will wonder why you didn't tell her.

PharmaTree 2011-09-07 16:33:02 -0500 Report

Thanks! Byrun and Jayabee…I am going to just be super straight forward and let her know I care for her and that her health is too important to ignore