So High School

margokittycat
By margokittycat Latest Reply 2011-09-15 17:05:51 -0500
Started 2011-08-30 10:47:07 -0500

I remembered yesterday why I was so glad when I graduate High School.. It was not that I did not like school or that I was not a good student that I hated high school, it was all the fakeness and back stabbing that goes on there. My daughter who is a freshman this year has one friend inperticular that she has went to school with for the last 8 years and they are "were' really good friends. Last week my daughter came home and said that a boy her father and I approve of asked her to wear his football jersey for homecoming we went out bought a dress for the homecoming dance and everything and then friday her "so called friend" stabbed her in the back. This friend is on the dance squad and my daughter is not but this girl kept pistering the hell out of another boy to wear his jersey and he said no and leave me alone, she knew whos jersey my daughter was wearing and went up and asked him if she could wear it, 10 times that day she asked him and he got tired of it so he broke my daughters heart when he told this other girl she could wear it just to shut her up. My little girls heart is broke and I can't fix it.


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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-31 15:53:36 -0500 Report

Hi Margo.

High school is just one heartbreak after the other, isn't it? I graduated a long, long time ago, but I still have memories of disappointments and frustrations that can bring back some of the painful feelings that I felt back then. On the other hand, I also see how I learned from those experiences, and how they helped me to grow up. Of course, when someone told me that back then, it was cold comfort.

What I often worry about is kids I see being sheltered from painful experiences, or othewise sailing through, and then being blindsided when they get a taste of real life in early adulthood, e.g. on thier first job. So these experiences hurt, but they get us ready for the world we are going into.

I feel sad for your daughter and her broken heart. Maybe you can tell her a story about a heartbreak from your own high school days, and how you got through it. And I hope she has some other friends who can reach out to her.

High school heartbreak is about as painful as it gets, isn't it?

Gary

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-30 15:02:56 -0500 Report

oh how i remember school i loved it and hated it at the same time and it doesn't change all the stuff we went through and daughters go through and now granddaughter going through. the hardest thing to teach kids is to be true to them selves and not the pack ,click and in crowd or what ever they have to live with what they do not any body else

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-08-30 18:56:07 -0500 Report

Thank you that's my thoughts to. I know my daughter won't sy anything to this "friend" becuase my daughter just isn't that kind of person thanks to god and a good upbringing by her mother.

Harlen
Harlen 2011-08-30 14:42:09 -0500 Report

why not go get a 2nd jersey ?
that way what was wished for and wjat was begged for works out ????
Boy frends come and go frends are hard to come by ??
Best wishes
Harlen

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-09-14 23:16:01 -0500 Report

Harlen she did end up getting a second jersey and is now also going to the homecoming dance after the game, with another boy. Homecoming is the 23rd. YEA!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!! the other boy can eat his heart out.

swanslake54
swanslake54 2011-08-30 15:52:13 -0500 Report

Hey Harlan, I agree with Debbie it's not about the jersey. It's about a young girl's feeling and they are already so insecure, for her right now it's devastating. Hopefully she'll soon realize he wasn't worth her time and move on but it takes a minute. By the way, how are you?

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-30 14:11:56 -0500 Report

Sorry your daughter had to go through that. Time will be about the only thing which will heal your daughters heart. Just tell her to hold her head high and not let it get her down. I suspect that there will be enough heartache to go around this school year.

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-08-30 14:18:35 -0500 Report

Yes, I do to. It just sucks that a "friend" did that to her. But I also know the friends mother and the apple doesn't fall far from the tree there.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-30 14:29:13 -0500 Report

Well that also says something about the boy too. Some guy who gives in to that kind of pressure from a girl pestering him might not be the best partner for her anyway.

A stand up guy would have told that "friend" to shove off and not bother him again like the first guy who said "NO - LEAVE ME ALONE". Maybe you can get daughter to see that this might be a good thing that she knows this about this boy now, rather than getting further involved with him and he really lets her down.

Debbiejf
Debbiejf 2011-08-30 15:06:48 -0500 Report

It might help to let your daughter know it's okay to grieve about this but only for a minute and then move on. When I got my heart broken by boys during high school I alway felt better after a grieving period, usually a day or two and then something else would distract me…usually another boy or outing :). But to me to say to her to just forgtet it kind of like saying 'your feeling about this don't matter', so let her be sad and she will get over it. Then you can tell her that these kind of situations will happen but she can be better prepared and not so upset next time ( if there is one).

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-08-30 19:00:11 -0500 Report

Thank you that is well said and stated. I think she is over it. She came home from school all happy and bubbly again. Ate lunch with the new jersy boy today.

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-30 14:56:17 -0500 Report

i agree with james it only about a shirt now could be worse the next time better to find out now than later some friend huh

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-30 16:19:55 -0500 Report

OH yeah, girls would hurt my sons too by giving them the come-on and then suddenly dumping them. One gal even went out with my #2 son and kissed him, and then told him she had just gotten married that same night before she picked him up. She really did a number on his head. He is now married to a sweet gal who seems to be really good for him.

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