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undermystars
By undermystars Latest Reply 2011-08-31 16:07:31 -0500
Started 2011-08-29 16:56:59 -0500

How do you deal with the loss of a pet,a dear friend who was a part of your very soul and being


19 replies

petals
petals 2011-08-30 09:47:26 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your loss. I still miss my smokie, and it's been 6 years. Just take it day by day. It does get easier, but you will always miss them.

prowsepap
prowsepap 2011-08-30 06:56:28 -0500 Report

Here is a copy of a poem I printed and buried with my little pug last year. We still miss him every day.

R.I.P CEASAR
11/14/2005 - 11/05/2010

Knowing
If I had known that on that day our time was near the end
I would have done things differently, my forever best friend.
I would have stayed right next to you deep into the night
but I thought I'd see you in the early morning light.

And so I said "Good night" to you as I walked in through the door
never thinking of the time when I'd see you no more.
But if I had known that on that day our time was at the end
I would have done things so differently, my forever best friend.

undermystars
undermystars 2011-08-30 08:52:01 -0500 Report

Thats a beautiful and warm poem,thank you so much I dont hink I will ever stop missing my boy he was really my only friend,I wasnt with him when he died and this will forever haunt me

RAINDANCER1950
RAINDANCER1950 2011-08-30 09:51:39 -0500 Report

MY HEART GO S OUT TO YOU , AT THE LOSS OF YOUR BEST FRIEND…MY BETTY BOOP , IS 13 1/2 YRS. OLD …AND THIS YEAR ,SHE S REALLY SLOWED DOWN,,,I KNOW OUR TIME TOGETHER IS COMING TO AN END SOON…AND IT'S SO HARD TO KNOW SHE WILL BE GONE, I RESCUED HER AS AN 8 WEEK OLD PUPPY , FROM A PUPPY MILL…GOD , IN HIS WISE AND DIVINE WAYS , KNEW , AS HUMANS WE WOULD BE HURT AND LEFT SAD AT TIMES FROM THE ACTIONS OF OUR FELLOW HUMANS…SO , HE SENT US , MANS ( AND WOMAN S ) BEST FRIEND !
EVERYTIME , I HAVE LOST A PRECIOUS FRIEND , I'D SAY " NO MORE " HURTS TOO MUCH TO LET THEM GO…SURE !…COULDN'T LIVE WITHOUT A DOG…THAT'S WHY I HAVE 3 …THE MORE THE MERRIER ! AS THEY SAY !
GOD BLESS, AND COMFORT YOU…IF YOU WANT A NEW , BEST FRIEND…PLEASE THINK TO ADOPT…ALL MY DOGS ARE RESCUES…AND THEY ARE AWESOME !

Cookie Roma
Cookie Roma 2011-08-29 21:23:55 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry for your loss. I suppose it's true that it's like loosing a dear friend or family member. All we can do us take it one day at a time.
You will be in my prayers.

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-08-29 21:21:23 -0500 Report

Dear undermystar, I am so sorry to here about the loss of your pet. It is not easy. A lot of us treat our pets just like we treat our children and when they pass it is heart breaking. I lost a black lab that I had had for 8 years and she absolutely loved my kitty's. I founder her one day laying there thought she was sleep but after a couple hours and her not moving at all I went ouside to check on her and she was dead. It took me a while to get over it I swore I would never get another dog but 5 years later I did. I also have three inside cats and this dog I have now is a blue healer, but he is an inside dog, I swore I would not make him live outside like my last dog even though he is big weighing 80lbs. He is like a baby to us.as are my kitty's.

Good luck and just grieve your loss and don't keep it bottled up.

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-29 17:57:57 -0500 Report

i lost a dear pet that we had for over 12 years and i still call my other dog by his name and think about him about every day it goes get easier but it takes time :)

robertoj
robertoj 2011-08-29 17:42:30 -0500 Report

Losing a dear pet is as painful as any other loss. The grieving process is the same. I never really considered myself a cat person until I was adopted by the four cats we now have. I cannot imagine how hard it will be to lose them. To be loved by a pet is an experience that is too powerful to be put into words. They make me laugh and Tease (the one in my photo) is a real drama queen that can make me tear up. Mourn them and enjoy the sweet memories that will inevitably occur. God bless you.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-29 17:36:05 -0500 Report

Howdy Stars! Welcome to DC!

You deal with it just like you deal with the loss of a good friend to death, or even the death of a beloved spouse. You grieve the loss to you and eventually not having that dear friend in your life becomes your "new normal". That does not mean you will not miss that pet, friend, spouse, but eventually the ache in your heart fades. I have lost the most amazing bride I had ever had in July 2010. I miss her still, but not having her with me, when she had been with me almost 24/7/365, is becoming my new normal. I remember the good times we had, even when the times were not sometimes so wonderful. I honor her memory.

Everyone grieves differently. Don't let anyone tell you that you should be done grieving by some particular time. But after a while your grief should diminish on its own and you will get on with your life.

Grief is the work you do when you love someone intensely and you lose that someone.

Blessings to you and yours

James

CassandraG
CassandraG 2011-08-29 17:16:58 -0500 Report

I sooooo know this feeling. I had my baby Bimbo for 18 years. He was a teacup poodle and was born in a massage parlor… Hence the name Bimbo. Anyway when I got him he only weighed .10 of a pound at 5 months. The vet said he would never make it so I took that as a challenge. I hand fed him, and took him where ever I went. Yes, even in the store in my purse. LOL For years I thought as long as I had him and my boys my life was perfect. Well children grow up and leave but my Bimbo was still there and always ready for what ever I wanted to do. When I lost him it was like loosing part of my heart and I cried for a long time. If someone said good Lord it was just a dog, before they finished they had better been ready for a fight. After a couple of weeks my husband said you just need some new fluff to pal with. Trust me I could not see how I could ever love another. He went and bought me a mini schnauzer and I was so upset. How dare him try and replace my Bimbo so soon. For the next few months every time I cried about Bimbo it was like Skitter knew, he would cuddle up to me and not move. I did not realize I needed him but he knew I did. It has been over 8 years since I lost Bimbo and when I look at a picture of him I still cry, but in the same breath I would not give love or money for my Skitter.

undermystars
undermystars 2011-08-29 17:22:08 -0500 Report

My Phantom died the 17th of last month on a sunday from a enlarged heart he was only 5 and then my other dog died the following sunday from bee stings he had went to texas on a trip and got stung by the killer bees there,he was 5 also,im just not sure how I will get by without him I just go day by day

CassandraG
CassandraG 2011-08-29 22:39:18 -0500 Report

I live in Texas and know all about the killer bees, and the fire ants. Both can kill pets and people in a hurry. I understand the day by day. The love of a pet is unconditional and they are always happy to see you no matter your mood. One day you will think I still have a lot of love in my heart for a pet, and there are several of pets out there that need it and need me. Give it some time and then go to a shelter and give one the chance to be your friend. Just don't end up like me…LOL I live in a county with only a kill shelter, and people dump dogs and cats all the time and they find their way here. So at last count I have 6 dogs and one cat. 5 of the 6 dogs are dumps with strange attitudes or quirks and I could not find them homes. The cat was here when we move here, it took over a year to get a good look at him. Then he became my porch cat. He also has an attitude problem, if you do not pet him long enough he bits and slaps at you. Luckily all the rest over the years I have found goods homes for and I lost count after 20. LOL

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-29 17:08:49 -0500 Report

my prays and hug sent you

undermystars
undermystars 2011-08-29 17:11:07 -0500 Report

Thank you for your kind reply

Painfulloser
Painfulloser 2011-08-31 10:42:23 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost many pets also. I have also had to put several to sleep because it was the right thing to do to keep them from suffering. It is always hard. I look at it this way. There are also a lot of homeless and adoptable animals needing a good home also. I would think your pet would want you to move on and to share your kindness and loving heart with an unfortunate animal so that he knows you care for him or her also. You will always remember your pets and love them dearly, but please pass on your love to other animals also. Wishing you the best and I hope you feel better soon. I am an animal lover also. I have 6 dogs and 3 cats. Best wishes. Brenda

undermystars
undermystars 2011-08-31 11:21:58 -0500 Report

Thank you,i have thought of another dog or puppy but I just dont know I love the Great Dane breed but there lifespan isnt very long but you know it would never be long enough with any dog,I have loved dogs since the day I got my first kiss from a puppy,when Phantom came to me from germany i dont think he ever got much love because when I gave him a kiss on his forehead it seemed like that was what he needed the most and he was mine forever.I dont know if i could go through this again,even if I am strong enough but then I dont know if i can live without such love for a Great Dane

Painfulloser
Painfulloser 2011-08-31 16:07:31 -0500 Report

I love the german shepherd breed but due to my back surgery I cannot handle such big dogs. My oldest lived to be 16 years old. I still love the breed but I got a little black and brindle chihuahua/yorkie mix and call her my little german shepherd. I now have a poodle/chihuahua mix and a jack russell/chihuahua mix. They give so much love and sometimes are stubborn but these little mixes make great pets. I know you really loved your dog and I hope you will find comfort in another that needs your love. Best Wishes

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