Annoyed by someone

By Anonymous Latest Reply 2011-11-15 16:43:35 -0600
Started 2011-08-24 18:26:19 -0500

I came on here to seek motivation and find answers to my questions but what I seem to find is people well one particular person who thinks they know it all and it's very irritating and it's it's making me want to leave this website. But I'm not here for them. I hope I don't come across this person AGAIN.

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watson4042 2011-11-14 19:57:01 -0600 Report

i came to this site for help not fighting…to me it sounds juvenile to ash out like that. you don't want or agree with what ius saidn then skip the message. i haven't posted a picture of mysef as i don't know how and haven't a nice picture of me i'd want anyone to see but i don't think that makes me anonymous.

Caroltoo 2011-11-14 20:22:40 -0600 Report

Watson: me, too. No skills with photography and don't know how to upload. Carol

Libby121 2011-11-14 20:41:32 -0600 Report

It doesn't have to be a picture of you. Just google pictures of whatever you are interested in ie dogs, cats, sunsets, waterfalls, rain forest or whatever. Then click on copy and save (or however your particular computer works). After you get that far, just come back and we will help you with getting a picture profile set up for you! They have worked on it to try to make it simple enough for even me. It took me the longest time to get my picture on and when I finally did I went, 'Oh! Even I can do that!' :)

lacat87 2011-11-15 09:50:12 -0600 Report

Another way is to do what I did: click on browser and get the file you want that has pictures of family/yourself, etc. and double click on that and your picture will be there on this website.

Caroltoo 2011-11-14 22:12:56 -0600 Report

Thank you, Libby!!! I did it!!! Found I had a few photos from an outing to Manoa Falls taken by a friend, one of my husband taken by my son, and a few local shots compliments of google. Wonderful idea, Libby. Thanks you.

riquelskyy 2011-09-04 05:42:14 -0500 Report

OMG is it that serious that I posted it anonymously? We are all adults here. Atleast I hope we are. If you must know its "riquelskyy" so feel free to give me earful of what you think of me

Nonna2Three 2011-08-31 14:19:16 -0500 Report

If I find a post by someone I don't particularly see eye to eye with I skip over that post and read the next person's. It's not like sitting in a room with them and you can't have conversation because they interrupt or speak over everyone. it's all text here - it just too easy to skip over them. It really is not worth letting yourself get upset - this life has so many other things, like our shared condition, to keep us upset. For the sake of your health and your peace of mind, try that for a bit - just train your eyes to skip right over anything that person posts.

melissa5786 2011-08-31 12:44:58 -0500 Report

I didn't take the time to read every response to this post, but I do have to say that the whole reason I joined this site is so I can understand our disease from EVERYONE'S perspective. I don't always agree or follow the advice that some people here give me, but if I asked for it and they answer, I appreciate the effort. And I've never actually encountered a "know it all" or someone who thinks they are better than me on this site, but I have encountered them in my everyday life and quite frankly, I just ignore them. No one is perfect and those who claim to be our the ones who need posts like this to make them feel good about themselves If you ignore them and move on they'll get bored.

It's like in middle school when the cooler kids make fun of you. They do it to make themselves feel better about themselves.

melissa5786 2011-08-31 12:48:26 -0500 Report

Oh and I refuse to ever apologize for any posts I make or reply to. I'm not a mean or rude person, so I don't see why anyone would take my posts that way, but if they ever have.. that's just too bad. You ask for someone's advice or opinion, if you don't want to hear their response, don't ask to begin with.

And as for posting anonymously, I think it's stupid, but to each their own.

robertoj 2011-09-04 12:01:21 -0500 Report

I cannot question anonymity; I don't live in anyone else's head. I would hope that we all come from place of kindness and helpfulness; unfortunately that would be naive. As for "know it all's" that is their own problem. It is literally impossible to know everything about diabetes because of the very nature of the disease. I could give helpful advice based on my own experience to one individual that might be down right dangerous to another. That is why choosing your medical support team (for those with the luxury) physician, endo and CDE et al are vital. I would not suggest making any major changes w/o checking with a medical professional first.

GabbyPA 2011-08-31 12:47:42 -0500 Report

Bravo! I agree. Sometimes the know it all, really does know what they are talking about and it is our own pride that makes the message unacceptable. I do like how you likened it to middle school...perhaps we just need to grow up a bit.

GabbyPA 2011-08-31 12:38:19 -0500 Report

The site offers the Private or Anonymous mode to make people feel comfortable with posting something that is hard to talk about, to prevent hurt feelings or to protect connections. When it is used that way there should be no issues with that. The internet is open to all kinds of predators, and keeping things private is hard enough. I don't have much in my profile because I don't need some weirdo lurking in the shadows getting a hold of my information. I keep most of my stuff private, that is my choice. We offer the anonymous option and so when people use it, that is their choice. In the case of this post, it was used properly.

Now I do have to say that when someone is being critical or attacking other members under the guise of the anonymous post, that is not having the courage to be honest in your criticism. That is not the intent of the option, but we cannot stop people from doing that. We can only hope that members will be of the character to be honest in those things, and actually, I would rather you post complaints in this manner directly to the member that you may have an issue with. That is not really public information and should be dealt with one on one.

AuntieM234 2011-09-04 03:11:02 -0500 Report

IMHO, you're not really making sense here. Your second paragraph contradicts the first one. And what do predators on the internet have to do with whether or not someone posts anonymously on this site? Are you saying it isn't safe for us to use our screen names and post here?

And, finally, do you not really mean what you said in your reply to Melissa's post? Because this post also contradicts that one.

GabbyPA 2011-09-04 08:54:02 -0500 Report

Ok, let me see if I can make it plain, since you and I often seem to be having misunderstandings.

The second paragraph is addressed to people who insult, cut down, make fun of or are rude to other members and use the anonymous feature to do that. That is not the intent of the feature. I am not a fan of doing those kinds of things at all, but if people feel they need to do it, they should be adult enough to use their profile to do it.

And yes, predators are out here on the internet and they can often use any kind of information you post anywhere. We all should be wise in what we post or what we make available to the public eye. That is true here and in any internet site. DC makes great efforts to keep us safe, but if you post things here in the public domain, there is nothing anyone can do to keep it from prying eyes. Getting too personal can back fire if you include your profile name and a predator can connect it to other sites. You cannot protect everything, but very sensitive things that might be embarrassing to talk about is what the feature is for.

The thing I was saying with Melissa's post is that it is often our own pride that makes the "know it all" not palatable. A "know it all" is an attitude, but that doesn't mean that they don't know what they are talking about. That is where some humility can allow us to learn from the "know it all" even if we don't like the delivery of the information. Humility is the character of a child who is willing to learn or an adult who knows the difference.

AuntieM234 2011-09-04 16:14:26 -0500 Report

"Ok, let me see if I can make it plain, since you and I often seem to be having misunderstandings."
When you begin a response with this sentence, IMO whatever you write following that is rendered ineffective. I am quite capable of reading and comprehending and your condescending tone is inappropriate, especially for a PA. Rhetorically speaking, do you really think it necessary that I be schooled by YOU?

GabbyPA 2011-09-05 10:14:48 -0500 Report

It simply seems that most of my posts cause misunderstandings with your replies. I don't understand why. This is not the only discussion this happens in. Please forgive my defensiveness and you are right, it was uncalled for. You said my comments were contradictory, I was just trying to explain them more clearly.

Gracie22 2011-08-31 08:24:27 -0500 Report

Please, don't start to criticize anyone. I think we're here to understand and help each other with our situations. Be happy all the time and think positive, and love everyone…

Anonymous 2011-08-31 09:31:17 -0500 Report

I have been criticized for posting anonymously. I posted anonymously because I care about people and didn't want to hurt anyones feelings. I understand completely why alot of people remain anonymous on their profile page. I will accept the good advice I get and ignore the rest.

Anonymous 2011-08-30 21:09:09 -0500 Report

There are several of you who don't think that we should be able to post anonymously on here. So WHAT ABOUT ALL THE ONES THAT NEVER PUT A PROFILE PHOTO ON THEIR PROFILE OR WRITE ON THEIR PROFILE ANYTHING ABOUT THEMSELVES? THE ONLY INFORMATION THEY SHARE IS THE SITE NAME THAT THEY CHOOSE. THEY DON'T ADD PHOTO'S OR SHARE WHO THEY REALLY ARE BUT THAT'S OK? As far as I'm concerned that is just as bad!!!!!!!!!!!! Why should someone that chooses to post anonymously be crucified for it? Everyone has a right to decide if they don't want others to know who they are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Type1Lou 2011-08-31 08:12:21 -0500 Report

Seems like you're trying to deflect the issue of anonymously posting…he/she who cries the loudest may have the most to hide.

Anonymous 2011-08-31 10:05:09 -0500 Report

Crying the loudest? Would that be the person here who started a whole discussion berating a family member and facebook posts? Or the one who thinks this discussion is about him and retaliates with mud-slinging of his own?
Don't look now everyone, but your hypocrisy is showing. Got a problem with me posting anon? TOUGH

keith01 2011-08-29 21:34:58 -0500 Report


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100 Acre Woods 2011-08-30 20:01:13 -0500 Report

That was a good one Keith! I had to write that one down.
Frankly I was upset about the Anonymous Post and then I got to thinking that it could be someone who is just jealous of us. We truly are friends and family. We really do care about each other and do our best to help each other. I personally haven't seen anyone doing anything that is rude or offensive other than this Anonymous person. I say we ignore it and do what we do best! Encourage, uplift, teach and learn. Love to you all.

And as to the Anonymous person. I personally hope that you just were having a bad day and decided to take it out on us.

robertoj 2011-08-30 20:19:17 -0500 Report

Many in this community offer really thoughtful and useful input. It may not work for everyone but may be vital for others. Only a complete fool would consider that they know everything about diabetes. I subscribe to many diabetes sites. I spend a great deal of time reading and much of the information conflicts with other information and reader comments back all sides. After more than two years of nearly daily searching I have barely scratched the surface. Everyday someone poses a question that I have no clue about. For all you wonderful, caring members - DO NOT HESITATE (FOR ONE SECOND) TO SHARE YOUR TIPS WITH US!

lorene1212 2011-08-29 21:10:23 -0500 Report

I don't like anonymous posts either, it shows your fears. Why not tell it like it is and be strong and say what you mean. Even an example would be preferred. But, like I said leaving is such a cop out without being yourself while you are trying to make up your mind or decision.

RAINDANCER1950 2011-08-29 20:21:04 -0500 Report


suziesgirl 2011-08-29 20:39:02 -0500 Report

You are so right, I joined this site to perhaps get and give some helpful ideas and gain more knowledge. I think people really care and want to help others. Sometimes it consumes them and they carry a large torch. We are all human and have opinions, thats how we gain insight into new things. Having an argument on this site is silly. If someone has some good news for me, I want it. This disease has been a real journey for me. I sucessful one, but a journey none the less. It changes our lives and hopefully for the better. I took it as a wakeup call. If not diabetes, well how about the thoughts of heart attack, stroke or cancer. Unhealthy eating contributes to all these diseases. We need to realize that food can be fun, and a challenge. I don't feel deprived anymore, I have learned to adjust the foods I used to eat to fit my diabetic lifestyle. Try some pecans or walnuts with drizzeled honey and sprinked with cinnamon. A square of dark choc. with a cup of green tea spiked with stevia. Yum Yum, Just a crazy Suziegirl!

princessbeiter 2011-08-29 20:01:34 -0500 Report

I do know that there are some people who post in several communities, and maybe do come across a little "know-it-all." But, if you don't want to read these people's opinions, don't. It is very easy to just skip over posts that don't interest you.

Be glad this community is not like some I've seen. There are no "factions" fighting each other constantly. The people here are here to help and get help.

I haven't had a lot of experience with diabetes, but I have done a lot of research. I certainly do not intend to sound like I think I know everything. I research and ask questions because I DON'T know it all!

BTW. posting anonymously is the coward's way.

margokittycat 2011-08-29 20:55:45 -0500 Report

I agree. But you do notice on here that the person whom posted this and then the one person who also responded to it and both did it anonymously, don't ever post anything back on anything we have said. I post on here yesterday and the day before. Why do people post anonymously or why does the site even allow that. It is very cowardly, and after I posted on it earlier today I thought about going in and adding that it was the cowardly way out of it. Why would you not like to be like the rest of us and let us all know who you are and share information with us. I have not run into one person on the site that I think they think they know it all. Kudos to all of us who do show our true self and let everyone know who we are and for helping one another out. I LOVE OUR COMMUNITY!

lorene1212 2011-08-29 21:16:07 -0500 Report

Hmmmmm! Maybe this person said something that this "so called anonymous" person needed to hear and is mad at hearing the truth. That may be why she thinks this person is a know it all. Everyone I have met on here offer their true life experiences and I have not seen any post that showed someone having a "know it all" attitude.

CaliKo 2011-08-29 21:05:43 -0500 Report

Well, the site may allow anonymous postings in case someone wants to ask something that perhaps makes them feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. It's probably not intended to be used for people to hide behind.

margokittycat 2011-08-29 21:39:16 -0500 Report

I have to disagree. We are all here for the same reasons, and have all been through a lot of things. If they have to hide then they should not be here.

AuntieM234 2011-08-30 19:36:44 -0500 Report

What the feature is designed for is the people who have something going on with their body that they are embarrassed to talk about. It isn't intended to be a shield for people to hide behind and berate others as these cowards are doing.

margokittycat 2011-08-30 20:09:36 -0500 Report

Sorry, I still have to disagree there are so many people on this site and some have some really terrible things going on in thier lives, yet the post them for everyone here to help them and do not hide behind anonymous lables.

jayabee52 2011-08-30 20:31:28 -0500 Report

to tell the truth when I was first on DC nearly 3 years ago I used the annonymous feature when sharing something I with which I wasn't comfortable, like my ED problem. But eventually I got over that and found people here so genuinely warm and caring it really didn't matter who I shared my deeper secrets with. They still loved me and cared for me anyway.

jayabee52 2011-08-30 19:39:35 -0500 Report

perhaps we should just stop posting on this discussion and maybe it will go into obscurity for a time. At least until it gets called up to be a featured discussion some day.

granniesophie 2011-08-29 14:50:03 -0500 Report

I am wondering why we are all wondering if it is us that are the one being annoying to this person who is posting anonymously? And we are all apologizing for something that we probably haven't even done. All that is happening here, as I see it, having sat by and quietly watched for a bit, it that people who should feel guilty over nothing have been made to feel guilty over nothing!
If this person posting can't even put their name and info, why are we all responding to them, apologizing and in general feeding the fire?
There, I said it, and if its me who's the annoying one, tough, because I am NOT going to feel guilty and apologize to someone who doesn't have the courage to reveal who they are.
Personally, I get the feeling this whole thread is just to stir the pot, and so it has.

AuntieM234 2011-08-29 20:27:25 -0500 Report

Hear, hear! Right on point, Sophie! I've been thinking the same thing myself! In fact, I said something very similar to that to one of our dear friends via Inbox about an hour ago. ;-) Mara

Anonymous 2011-08-29 01:05:23 -0500 Report


jayabee52 2011-08-29 19:29:45 -0500 Report

There are other ways of gaining knowledge besides experiencing something.
Will Rodgers once said "There are three kinds of men. The ones that learn by readin’. The few who learn by observation.
The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves."

So the only advice that is worth anything to you is that which is gained from peeing on the electric fence?

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-08-28 22:10:45 -0500 Report

I think that everyone on this site are wonderful people and have been a great help to me. I appreciate you all so much and am thankful for Diabetic Connect. If someone has advice for me that they think will help me then I want to read what they have to say. Alot of times it helps me and sometimes it doesn't but I still appreciate that the advice was given. Thank you to everyone !!!

margokittycat 2011-08-29 12:03:24 -0500 Report

I agree with you Teresa. The people on here are great. It bothers me that people are allowed to post anonymously like the comment above your response here. Who are they directing that at. I try to help when I can but by no means do I or anyone else know everything. I look at this as a learnign experience and I learn things everyday on here from others.

lilsista39 2011-08-28 21:53:54 -0500 Report

if you came to find answers then find them .but dont go attacking the very people who are trying to help you if you cant find what your looking for in a book or by asking your dr then dont you think a circle of what i would call my internet family of sisters brothers aunties and uncles and a host of cousins omg dont forget grandma grandad mom and dad …would have the answer or some other method for you to try im sorry im tired of being a pin cushion for the damn drs im ready for a change .and believe it or not it's called "Ask and ye shall receive " or did we forget (hi James) well its getting late have drs in the morning love to all incl.anonymous…

Anonymous 2011-08-28 15:03:28 -0500 Report

I think I know who your referring to and they annoy me too. It's not the know-it-all part as much as it's their need to post in every single discussion, even if it's only to admit they have no experience with it. Then why even post??? They live to highjack every thread with their personal life and yet I'm not aware of them ever starting any discussions of their own. Thanks for letting me vent.

lorene1212 2011-08-29 21:28:57 -0500 Report

Wow, anonymous! You are still here saying things to us and well I should give you some credit! Wish you had trust hon because we may be able to be your friend and give in ways that you never thought. Maybe you could try. You dont have to now. What you have done is done. I would not do anonymously ever with anyone here but maybe you thought you had to so you could say what it is that you really want. Some people are very much like this. I understand, maybe you could give this site a try… maybe just maybe we could share and become friends and rise above all this. I am here for you if you ever want to chat with me, but would like to know your name. You dont even have to relate to this discussion either. I am friend to anyone!


margokittycat 2011-08-28 21:31:11 -0500 Report

I would not let this bother you. Most of us are here for all the right reasons and that is to support one another and help each other. However I am am curiouse to why the writer of this article and you posting a reply to it post anonymously. Most of us on here put all of our information in our profiles and some have pictures and others don. But on your profiles you can put only the information you would like to share.. A lot of us on here may want to be friends with you but can't do it because when you do it anonymously, we can't go and ask you to be friends. I try to give help where I can and I am not trying to start anything, I just thought it was rather interesting that the writer and you are both anonymous.

Type1Lou 2011-08-29 12:13:55 -0500 Report

The initial poster of this discussion and the "Anonymous" replies above could all be from the same individual too. Too bad that "Anonymous" does not have the courage of their convictions and feels the need to hide.

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