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grandmaducky
By grandmaducky Latest Reply 2011-09-01 22:06:07 -0500
Started 2011-08-22 17:24:02 -0500

I got mad, upset ticked off and disappointed yesterday. We went over to daughter house so my hubby could help with plumbing problems . we got there at 1:00 at 1:30 i had a snack of about 10 almonds at 3:00 I had 2 sugar free pecan clusters at 5: i told hubby that we need to think about getting something to eat for supper i had tested i was at 90 so i know i need to domething within the hour about eating my daughter looked at the clock and said its only 5 and you have been snacking all day you should be find . Then asked me if i wanted to go with her to get something i said no that i could not walk around store because i know that that will drop me fast any i said no and she said she didn't want to argue about it will she walked out to go to store and i said i just whished someone could understand how i feel my granddaughter said grandma we don't know how you feel because we haven't been through it out of the mouth of babes well that was my sunday afternoon hope your was better


35 replies

Raeguerney
Raeguerney 2011-09-01 22:06:07 -0500 Report

I absolutely never leave my house without my emergency kit of appropriate snacks. When I get to the point of needing to eat I don't have to worry about my hosts or trying to find someplace with something I can consume. Sometimes I get strange looks and it is not always convenient to carry a snack pack but it saves the day for me.

Jupeto
Jupeto 2011-08-26 07:34:20 -0500 Report

I can sympathize with you, but I took action to show my friends and family what could happen. I also told them if i said i was having an attack they got the message. It doesn't matter to them = they cannot feel it. You sure do. I sat down with my son, daughter, and wife and explained to them the real danger and showed them what to do if i passed out because they did not listen to me. I have Glucacon Emergency Kits in the refrigerator and my travel kit. My family knows what to do. They also know what i need to have if i am having a low. Significant changes in the family take place when you have diabetes. Make sure you sit down with them and talk openly about the disease. If they choose not to listen, invite them over and have a nurse friend or other medical friend explain to them. It is dangerous for you. Good luck with educating them.

robertoj
robertoj 2011-08-24 20:31:20 -0500 Report

Diabetes is very much a family disease and it is in the best interests of every member of the family to know and understand what it means to have this disease. The first point I'd like to make is that if we go into shock they are going to feel the impact. The other point is that the children are likely to develop diabetes. I did not get the dx until I was 55. Many people that have diabetes have not been diagnosed. You may feel that you are simply venting but it is an important issue and it needs to be addressed.

berrykins0
berrykins0 2011-08-24 18:48:35 -0500 Report

seems like people that don't have diabetes don't understand what it's like to get hungery and need to eat at a certain time. it's like they don't need to eat. its frustatingwhen people don't understand that aren't diabetic. my mom doesn't understand me when i want to eat she thinks it doesn't matter when i eat cause i'm type 2 diabete. to me it still matters. i take 1 tabelet of metformin a day help me keep my diabetes under control.shes the kind of person that can go all day with out eating until almost supper time i don't know how she does it i can't live like that.it's not like she does it every day but still crazy. she gets the idea i eat snack in between meals i don't almost need to eat meals when i get hungery to she doesn't understand and never will. i have a meal plan up this way with my diatian 3 small snacks 3 small meals a day.i know what it is like to deal with somebody like this. don't feel to bad .

MrsCDogg
MrsCDogg 2011-08-24 03:41:40 -0500 Report

I think everyone should know what it feels like to have a really bad low. That way they would be a little more compassionate. It always aggravates me when people say stuff like that even if it is family.

Nana_anna
Nana_anna 2011-08-24 12:12:06 -0500 Report

Sometimes it helps not to say to much. Especially if it's something we haven't been through. To say that "It will be okay" or "hang in there" it's easier said than done. When your facing diabetes or other problems, it's hard to really know how each person will react.

sheriden
sheriden 2011-08-23 23:44:25 -0500 Report

Yes it would be nice if others could at least listen when you tell them what your need are with this illness because it can be a thret to you life. But how sweet that your grandaughter could come up with somthing so true. God bless and be sure no matter were you take care of your self.

sunnysteph
sunnysteph 2011-08-23 22:41:44 -0500 Report

I guess I am fortunate to have an understanding family but part of the reason they understand more is because not only am I diabetic but so is my Dad. My boyfriend has been doing his own research and is great about reminding me that it is getting late and that I need to eat something.

margokittycat
margokittycat 2011-08-23 20:07:29 -0500 Report

It really sucks when people don't understand and think your making a big deal of something. They don't understand when your lik that it could get worse if you do eat or better yet if you have to got to the store with them and walk around to find things for a meal.

Mistletoe
Mistletoe 2011-08-23 16:50:06 -0500 Report

That happened to me once at one of my granddaughter's birthdays. I had breakfast at 7:30 am, a granola bar at noon and a few potato chips (we were away from home) and got to b-day party. The child had to have a nap before we had the b-day party so they were yelling at her to go to sleep…my son gave me a couple of glasses of wine, had more potato chips too, I guess my bs really dropped because I was ravenous by 3PM when daughter-in-law set out crackers and some expensive cheese. Me and several other people were eating the snack as daughter-inlaw went upstairs for a shower. When she came back down I was still snacking on cheese and crackers. Therefore she told my son that I was eating all the expensive cheese (I had previously asked for a sandwich but never got one). The barbeque was ready around 5 and son came in glaring at me telling me I shouldn't have eaten so much cheese and crackers. And just to think…my daughter-in-law is a Nursing student, LOL I was extremely humiliated having my son "scold" me in front of everyone and I was totally "Teed Off"…wonder why?

tabby9146
tabby9146 2011-08-24 14:23:52 -0500 Report

yes that sure was too long to go without something more substantial to eat, they being familiar with your diabetes, and seeing hours many hours passed, should have known.

Doryian
Doryian 2011-08-23 15:44:02 -0500 Report

I have insensitive family too. I know the pain & frustration. Hugs to you. I hope today was better! <3

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-23 15:56:01 -0500 Report

yes its better today now it i could only find someone to rub my sore tried feet standing on them 7 hour a day coming off summer vaction is a bummer tell my feet and back get in the swing again hugs too you

realsis77
realsis77 2011-08-23 10:49:24 -0500 Report

Hi. I understand how you feel! I take insulin a 24 hour insulin in the am and my second insulin after meals! If I don't eat on time I'll get down to 39! Its happened! Usually at 60 I start feeling the strain. My husbands idea of eating sometimes is a burrieto in the morning and nothing until dinner. If I snack he will say the same thing, "well, you ate all day" no a carrot stick is not eating! Uuugh! It can be very frusterating! Its hard to get people to truely understand! I know exactly what your saying! Hang in therè and know your not alone! God bless

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-08-22 23:06:43 -0500 Report

I am really fairly new to all this diabetic stuff. I found out that I have diabetes on May 13,2011. Learning how to deal with the highs and lows and how to recognize when I'm high or low and what to do about it is challenging. I have recentlley learned that I need to eat small snacks throughout the day instead of just 3 meals a day. I have M&Ms for lows & free carbs for highs. I am just beginning to scratch the surface of how to take care of myself. I am so thankful that I have all of you all on Diabetic Connect because without you I wouldn't know much of anything. Diabetic class didn't teach how to balance highs & lows and my dietician only taught me about carbs and how to use the banking system to eat. It bothers me when I need to eat M&Ms because I'm way low and someone in my family tells me I shouldn't be eating them. I tell them, if I don't have a handful of thease you will be taking me to the ER. They are getting alot better about telling me what I can & can't have. I am doing the best I can to educate my family about diabetes at the same time that I'm educating myself. We are learning together.

pattroyka58
pattroyka58 2011-08-24 17:01:08 -0500 Report

Like it's not hard enough to learn all you need to know about diabetic nutrition and "food timing", no one ever tells us that we have to teach it all to our relatives and close friends!

josa0703
josa0703 2011-08-22 22:04:43 -0500 Report

Speaking as a spouse of a diabetic…go ahead and vent all you want! I don't know how my husband does it but he has to deal with highs and lows alot. As a spouse it's just the way it is, the only thing I can compare it to is the feeling after eating a bunch of food and someone wanting you to…run down the street or asking you questions about life. That's a small comparison but I can sorta understand what it must be like to feel so lethargic and not right at all after eating too much or not digesting food, like diabetics do.
How can "normal" people understand what it is like to feel so irritable or too much input coming at them? It's just so incredible to me that what I feel…is magnified so much for a diabetic trying to deal with it. I only understand so much from my husband and that's so incredible to me that an organ that is the major player in making food to energy can be so significant. And I thought I knew the human body pretty well but I was ignorant to the effects of diabetes and what that does to every part of one's body.
I hope that people understand diabetes better today. I hope that people will understand that you really can't control how you feel, you are up against a whole entire system that is disfunctional, specifically for how you act since nothing is going the "natural" way it should. You take insulin since you're pancreas doesn't work correctly…well that makes you hungry that's what insulin does. But then you get high since you just ate and who wants to go walk around the block when it's high?
It's all about understanding how energy effects everything from interacting with people, mental working to physical movement.
That's difficult for people when they don't feel they way a diabetic person would feel…for anything from hunger to emotions to everything in between.
Good luck.

Turtle
Turtle 2011-08-22 21:39:13 -0500 Report

Hi…I am sorry you went thru that. My mom, not a D, does not understand why I snack a lot and I am way over weight. Sometimes I just drop so fast and I shake and my head feels like I have take a drug that makes me just feel vacant. Then I swet and my breathing becomes shallow. Sometimes I get real thirsty. Weird thing is, for me, a bg high does the same thing.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-22 20:21:07 -0500 Report

Yes Becky go ahead and vent! That's one of the reasons for which we are here! Too bad there isn't a way to get a non PWD to experience what we PWDs have to deal with frequently. I'm gonna have to give that some further thought. How could a person without D experience what it is like to feel a low, without harming them?