By Doryian Latest Reply 2011-08-24 04:21:29 -0500
Started 2011-08-18 12:36:07 -0500

I'm sure I'm not the only person dealing with this, but I couldn't find any previous posts about it… I searched for Budinskys with no results… On top of dealing with all of the changes undertaking a diabetic "diet" and administering insulin, I find myself surrounded with well meaning diet police and not-so-well meaning tempters. I feel like I have to justify and defend every food choice I make. Being barraged by "are you sure you can eat that" or "it's OK - a small piece won't hurt you." It is SO ANNOYING. I have politely stood my ground, but I'm running out of patience. I anticipate that all of the frustration from undertaking the new diabetic diet and overwhelming feelings from the new insulin regimen is going to "manifest" itself with me loosing my cool with one of these people. Honestly I don't want to do that… But there's a little voice in my head that says "you are dealing with enough - you shouldn't have to take an additional assault from by-standers." I mean, really, it's hard enough to politely decline that delicious looking pie without pressure from someone trying to break my resolve… How do you handle these people in a way that is polite, but lets them know to butt out?

8 replies

MrsCDogg 2011-08-24 04:21:29 -0500 Report

Seriously, unless it's a very close family member I just give them "the look". The look usually stops them from ever trying that again with me…lol I don't know why people think they have to do that.

realsis77 2011-08-19 10:53:56 -0500 Report

Hi. Oooh yes THE DIABETIC POLIECE (haha) I try and explain that sometimes diabetics do need sugar and that they are NOT understanding diabetes correctly. Sometimes I'm just darn tired of explaining and just say don't worry my insulin takes care of me. And if I'm really short tempred that day I just say I know what I'm doing. I know most people are well meaning and only want to help but gosh I'm tired of hearing, oooh "can you eat that" uuuugh! I often explain that diabetics true enemy is carbs even more than sugar! Its very difficult for people to understand that. They immeditaly associate diabetes with ONLY sugar. When in fact the carbs can raise a persons BS just as quickly. Yes the well meaning diabetic poliece are everywhere! It does get very bothersome! My husband is defiently one of the cops! Ha ha. Just remember at heart they really are only trying to help. Sometimes just take a deep breath and smile. They care about you :) I believe they honestly want to help. This is why most of the time I take the time to explain diabetes and insulin and highs and lows. This way at least they understand our disease a little better :)

granniesophie 2011-08-19 09:05:10 -0500 Report

Don't ya just want to smack these people?? I understand your frustration. I think we all go through that at sme time or other. Grandmaducky had a great idea-turn the conversation back on them. People just love to talk about themselves and then they will get distracted and forget what they were bugging you about.
Maybe a visual of you smacking them might help as well, if you can't actually do it, visualizing helps!! :)

grandmaducky 2011-08-18 13:36:57 -0500 Report

This is what i say thanks but i am handling it the way that works best for me then ask them a question about them it throws them off and most people love to talk about themselves human nature lol good luck i have found that if you go to pot luck and such ,take what you can eat then u know there is something there for u :)

Doryian 2011-08-20 10:07:10 -0500 Report

That is so true! I use that technique to steer the conversation with people who are being too nosy or making me uncomfortable! I need to get this under control, so I can relax and am capable of thinking! LOL

jayabee52 2011-08-18 13:09:27 -0500 Report

Howdy Doryian!
Doesn't the diabetes police just fry you sometimes? Of course I have had to apologize to a friend who was newly Dx'd, and had to have a toe amputated. I was on him about his carb consumption, which was WAY more than I eat. After a conversation with him on another matter I realized that I had been trying to hold him to my low carb standards. He had already reduced his carb intake signifigantly. He is keeping his BG contolled without meds by his current eating plan, so I apologized to him for my nagging him about his carb and sugar intake.

I thought you might be interested in what we discussed a while ago (2010) on just this subject in the discussion "Diabetes Police": http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/55...

Praying God's richest blessings shower upon you and yours


Doryian 2011-08-20 10:18:49 -0500 Report

Thanks for the link! This site always cheers me up to know others are dealing with my same issues.

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