Are you happy yet? Here are some ideas to get started.

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2012-03-31 16:42:24 -0500
Started 2011-08-17 20:13:34 -0500

With the summer coming to the end, my clients are talking about how the months got away from them so quickly, and wondering why they don’t feel like they really enjoyed themselves. Often this leads to questions about what it means to be happy.

It seems to me that, during times of the year when we are “supposed” to be happy, we are more likely to question our own happiness. Am I right?

The challenges of dealing with chronic conditions can feel especially hard to face during certain times of the year like the summer and the holidays when so many of the people around us appear to be living it up, at least on the surface. But if you’re dealing with medication regimens, diet limitations, mobility challenges, symptoms, side effects… all the summer pressures to go-go-run-run can leave you feeling that you spent part of your summer sitting on the sidelines or, on the other hand, tried to keep up and ended up chasing your own tail until you got tired of running.

And this summer, a lot of us have also been feeling the uncertainty of the economy and the other problems of the world. That’s a lot of weight to carry around, right?

Happy? What are you, crazy?

Real happiness starts with your own attitude and your expectations. That’s all inside. And that means that we all have an equal opportunity to find and grab onto happiness, regardless of the challenges we might be facing.

No matter what time of year it is, here are some ideas to cultivate happiness in your life:

Accept yourself. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone else. And if you constantly compare yourself to others, you are sooner or later going to come up short. Instead, accept that each of us in our own individual path in life, we have strengths, weaknesses, joys, challenges. Let go of the woulda-coulda-shouldas and accept where you are at this moment in time. Ease up on the self-criticism. You’re doing the best you can.

Take care of yourself. If you are dealing with a chronic condition, you already know how important self-care is. Make it a priority to do everything possible to promote your own wellness. In other words, take responsibility for yourself. If you are concerned that this is a selfish attitude, remember that you if you aren’t taking the best possible care of yourself, you can’t be there for others.

Get out of yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in worrying about ourselves, and lamenting what we don’t have. Balance your self-care with reaching out to others. Giving has a way of giving back, starting with checking in on the people and throwing a little love in their direction. Be a friend to others, that’s the best way to have friends. We are all in this together.

Learn to handle some frustration. We all have a few – or a lot of – ideas about what the world should look like, how other people should behave, and what should be coming out way. But getting so attached to those ideas can only lead to frustration. It’s human to want to be in control, but the world around us is uncontrollable. Relax those expectations, accept that things aren’t going to go your way, and try relaxing yourself while you’re at it.

Enjoy the simple joys of life. Try sweating the small stuff, or at least acknowledging the little things that make you happy. Getting up in the morning and going through your routine, talking to a friend, getting outside in the sun. The potential for moments of happiness is all around you.

Accept others. We’re all dealing with a lot right now. Sometimes that brings out the best in us, and sometimes not. Sometimes people are going to think like us, sometimes they aren’t. When you accept yourself for who you are, it is a whole lot easier to also accept others for who they are. (You might have to forgive a few of them along the way.) Remember: compassion is a boomerang.

Give in to change. The only thing we can really count on is that things change. You’ve already seen it in your own life – chronic conditions bring all kinds of change into your life. The more flexible you can be – ready, willing, and able to shift your priorities, and change your routine – makes it easier to live with uncertainty. Resistance just leads to more resistance… and headaches.

Embrace your spirituality. Having spiritual or religious beliefs, and being involved in regular practice of those beliefs, can make go a long way toward strengthening your foundation and giving you additional tools for coping with the bumps in the road.

Get passionate about something. What do you love in your life? A hobby? Your work? Your family? A grandchild? Community service? Politics? One of the keys to happiness is having something that you are excited about, that inspires you to be creative, that you “lose yourself” in and that you want to tell other people about (though you may want to be a little careful about the politics, a sensitive topic).

(Be a multimillionaire. Sorry, just couldn’t stop myself. I don’t know if this will make you happy or not. I keep hearing that it won’t. But I would be willing to volunteer for an experiment if anyone wants to throw a few million in my direction. Anybody want to join me?)

See? Like I said earlier, happiness is something that you can cultivate in yourself, working from the inside out. What’s working for you? Any ideas to share?


84 replies

EdnaShukis
EdnaShukis 2012-03-31 16:42:24 -0500 Report

Thanks Dr. Gary for the words to the wise, It is so important to have a happy attitude and you are so right it is up to us, and we need to think positive. Several years ago I eradicated negative people out of my life and I feel so much better, I would bring on their trouble too and that was not good for me. I am one truly happy individual and like to smile and spread humor… that keeps me going. We need to remind our self of this from time to time. f Thanks for all you do to help us and I sure know about loosing time, I set down to read a post and hours later I am still there, but If I can help one person, I am happier!

JSJB
JSJB 2012-03-31 04:04:29 -0500 Report

I alway tell my wife, If you think you have it bad look at other people and see what problems they have to deal with. I wake up in the morning and feel great and start to plan my day. I rarely think of my problem until I have to eat and what I am eating but like I said I woke up with out any new pains or aches. Keeping active and accomplishing things make me happy/

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2011-10-05 08:08:36 -0500 Report

Yes you are right! Its getting an ATTITUDE! LOL Its hard with the economy and things are going crazy some worse than others. Then I think of what I would have to deal with and realize that its not as bad as others. I could be in worse shape but I am not. I am putting myself first. It does makes others mad. Oh well get over it. With the amount of people I take care of, house, animals bills and etc I have to stay on top of me to stay on top of it all. My finances arent great but I work at adjusting and living within my means. Not everyone can do that but I am a former military brat and wife. So I know I will one way or another.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-10-05 11:34:04 -0500 Report

Hey!

How you doing? Really glad that you jumped in on this. I always appreciate your honest take on things, along with your sense of humor. Getting an attitude is what's it's about. We all have to take care of ourselves first, as you say, to stay on top of you to stay on top of it all. That's a great line!

And I would guess being a military daughter and wife has given you lots of practice at being resilient, beginning with "we're moving!"

Thanks a lot for taking time to reply. I hope your week is going good.

Gary

troublemaker27
troublemaker27 2012-02-08 11:43:39 -0600 Report

hey gary how are you?
well i feel happy when i read my books,study my money as homework.
listen to music also be with my family and friends.
so ready for the weekend?
i am just taking it easy-tori

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2011-10-06 07:33:57 -0500 Report

I am doing good thanks! For if you stop and think of the Worst Case Scenario aka WCS of where you would be if you dont stay on top of things, UGH! not me! You just got to remember if your Mother like mine would remind us all to slow down and take care of ourselves. For if we dont what do we accomplish…not much that is for sure. So tell others that they are on alert! That you must take care of yourself first. The only ones this wouldnt apply to are young children under the age of 10. Yes being resilient is par for the course of military lifestyle. So if you have lemons what are you doing with them? Letting them rot or making lemonade? Tis a simple choice as that! Sure you're welcomed! Hope you have a great week as well. Thank you

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-10-06 11:02:17 -0500 Report

Some very wise words. "Slow down" is sometihng I tell myself a lot. It keeps me from being spread too thin and making mistakes, from over-working, and from being impatient and expecting too much. Catch up with you soon!

TsalagiLenape
TsalagiLenape 2011-10-07 07:43:21 -0500 Report

Rofl amidst my class for Phlebotomy, father in law who I am taking care of, daughter who is 39 weeks pregnant, husband who has been on short term disability about to return to work after 5 months, house, animals and etc. LOL So I try to balance myself make time for others and myself. Yet hope this weekend to accomplish much. Hugs

thr3ddzgirl
thr3ddzgirl 2011-08-28 21:36:42 -0500 Report

I read nzinga's post about retirement being derailed… And I wish mine and my hubby's were. We are now both jobless and in this economy it is really really hard. And just before be had a health crisis (mine, not his, and I'm not diabetic, he is) I was in a place that made me spend and spend and I ran up a huge (well, for me) credit card debt that now I have to figure out how to pay off with no income. I'm finding it super difficult to be positive and happy about anything when the best we can do is for him to be over at the military commissary, bagging groceries for tips as our only income. Get passionate about something? That's hard when you're bi-polar and if you're not depressed you're out doing things you shouldn't be doing. I guess I have things to be grateful for… hubby is bagging groceries, not sitting around whining that he can't get a job… all our parents are still alive (not like we can afford to visit, or they visit us, but they're still alive).. we have the house, even though it needs thousands of dollars' worth of repairs, starting with the foundation and going right up to the roof, literally… and hubby doesn't take care of himself. Doesn't check his blood sugar like he should, even though I got him a no code, small-sample meter, doesn't snack well, pretzels at 10 pm? and meals with no vegetables at all..

its a good article, but I am finding it hard to hold to. But thanks for putting it out there.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-30 12:57:48 -0500 Report

HI!

Nice to meet you and thanks for replying to my post.

I really appreciate your honest comments, but am also sad to hear that you are facing all of these challenges right now. I have so many people in my life right now who are facing not only economic uncertainty but economic crisis. You are dealing with so much right now. I am sure that it must take a lot of inner strength and determination to manager from day to day.

I hope you don't think that I was trying to promise you pie in the sky, or tell you to "think positive and be happy, and all your problems will go away," Beleive me, I that is not my approach. What I do try to do is to encourage clients to look at what is working in their lives, what their strengths are, what has helped them to get through crises in the past. Turning that focus a few degrees toward hopefullness when life feels so bleak.

I know you are struggling. And I know that you are trying to look toward what's positive in your life right now. In times like this, that is the best you can do but that is also a lot.

I hope that you have supportive people around you right now. And I know that you have a lot of supportive friends here on Diabetic Connect.

Thanks again for reaching out. I hope we can stay in touch.

Gary

cindygal1
cindygal1 2011-08-30 21:38:06 -0500 Report

You can only live one day at a time, and do the best that you can. I am 65 and have type2 since 1992, two months aso my husband was diagnosed with type 2, working together we have his almost to normal, when he tolld me I didn't know how I was suppose to handle so much and have more added to. Sevn years ago he was told he has 18 months to live, he has now outlived that by 6 yers, there is no cure for what he has. I have learned that God only gives you what you can handle, so we have learned every moment is precios. I am glad that I still have him and will handle anything else that comes alsong.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-10-05 11:20:01 -0500 Report

Thanks a lot for jumping in here with your inspirational words. You're right, it is one day at a time, one step at a time. You and your husband have had to face a lot and, together, you are doing it. It must help a lot to have a partner on this journey. Great to be in touch with you!

Dizzy65101 or Robin
Dizzy65101 or Robin 2011-08-20 15:45:52 -0500 Report

I hear alot about not beinging happy and expectations not beinging met and I too have had alot in my life that has happened that I never expected and its been challenging, although I cant say Im happy at the present time,I am learning to except things the way they are.
I came out of the gate fighting and have never stopped, but as time goes on and I understand that there are just somethings i cannot change.for me exceptance is the first step to healing emotionally and sometimes phisically.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-28 17:39:34 -0500 Report

Hi Robin!

I like this. Acceptance means living life on life's terms, and putting your energy into making the best of things. That is the start of being happier.

Thank you!

Gary

lorene1212
lorene1212 2011-08-20 08:57:11 -0500 Report

Hi Dr. Gary! I agree happiness is very important in one's life! I also agree that giving is very important because when I give I feel so much better about me. Sometimes others, thou, do not understand why I do things like that. As long as I do that is what counts. Summer has been just like every day. My motivation seems to be sucked out of me. Being energetic and doing exercises is work and I have problems with being able to complete the tasks ahead of me for one reason or another. I lose my balance, get dizzy, have symptom of vertigo. Forget a lot. Also, forgetting things too quickly which could be because I do not have things to do. When I sweat I sweat in buckets and sugars are usually what they are at other times. I have a lot of other issues as well. COPD, HIV, Nueropathy in my legs and beginning to have edema. This site has given me some motivation to check sugars and not skip it. Also along with diabetes I have scerosis of liver as well. Other issues as well. I am a walking medical book. I do realize there are many out there that have much worse illnesses than I have but still I wake every day and even that is hard. I have been very tired and BS's have been good. Just thought I would add this to what you said as well as economy I have had a most difficult time. So glad for the food pantry's and one of them gives lots of vegetables which I love. Thank you very much for saying the things you have said and I am trying to achieve these things in my life.

Lorene

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-20 12:37:04 -0500 Report

Hi Lorene,

I am happy to make your acquaintance and am looking forward to getting to know you better!

I understand what you mean about being giving to others, and sometimes finding that they don't really get what you are about and therefore aren't appreciative. We live in a world where people are often scared and frustrated, and this leaves them skeptical of the motives of others, and assume they have an agenda rather than that they mean well. It's a shame. But you're right, we give to give, not necessarily to get back.

It sounds like you are really dealing with a lot in your life. I hope that you are going easy on yourself, taking things one step at a time, and taking very good care of yourself. It's important to make your self care a priority and to work closely with your doctors. And to take advantage of any support resources available to you, including your local food pantry.

You mentioned some other conditons that you are dealing with. Have your visited the COPD and HIV boards here on Alliance Health? You might want to check them out for additional support.

You have a great attitude!

Lorene, I hope that you will stay in touch. You came to the right place.

Take care!

Gary

lorene1212
lorene1212 2011-08-20 14:58:51 -0500 Report

Thank you very much you are so right about all that you said. No matter what thou I will not change because of others so called feelings of insecurity. This is me! I have not visited the COPD OR HIV BOARDS BUT I do go to JRI here which is for people with HIV. I have had it since June 18th, 1989. A very long time, I look at it like I look at everything it is just like cancer or any other disease. I volunteer there also. Lately I have had to put that to the side. Unfortunately, I do plan to pick it back up again when I am feeling better, Thank you again Dr. Gary I really appreciate your words of wisdom.

Lorene

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-21 14:36:25 -0500 Report

You are very welcome, Lorene. I am glad that I was helpful to you. Wow, you have been living with HIV for a long time. You are a real survivor! I am glad that you are connected to an organization, it's really important to stay connected for support and education. I hope that you get to feeling better soon so that you can resume your activities. It is great to be connected to you! Gary

Auburn Bill
Auburn Bill 2011-08-19 15:32:59 -0500 Report

Yes I have a sugesstion: "Don't worry, be Happy" as the old song goes! My ideas may not be your ideas for gettng happy! I love to watch and talk with my visiting 3 yr old granddaughter! " What do you expect form a 3 yr old,Grandpa "!! Grandpa Bill

kaveolook78
kaveolook78 2011-08-19 23:24:46 -0500 Report

it only brings a person to become sick. I LOVE my grandbabies :) I spoil them every chance I get. God Bless you Grandpa Bill

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-19 19:01:29 -0500 Report

Hey Bill! I remember that song. Wow, that is a blast from the past. I agree, we could all worry less and be a lot happier. What is going to happen is going to happen, worrying doesn't change things. Have fun with your grandchildren!

robertoj
robertoj 2011-08-19 03:03:14 -0500 Report

Happiness comes from gratitude. I am very aware of the blessing in my life. I have a beautiful wife that has stayed with me and supported me even when times were hard and I had no coping skills. Things are so much better now because I have a set of tools that enables me to live a happy and serene life. This includes making my self available to share the things I have learned with others. Sunday night I ran into a woman that I had done a small service for nine years ago. She said that she always remembers that and that she was inspired. How empowering is that. I have had this is the kind of experience several times. The wonderful thing about it is that I'm simply doing the things I should do. Another thing that allows me to be happy is to ask for help when I need it. I love this site because I have already met many people here with similar ideas and I know that I can depend on them. Be kind and be of service to others.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-19 18:57:10 -0500 Report

Hi Roberto! This is great. Having people who care about you and watch over you, and you them, giving of yourself and not expecting anything back, just living your life with integrity and compassion for yourself and others... that has a lot to do with being happy. And you're right. There are a lot of people here who think the same way! Thanks!

Anonymous
Anonymous 2011-08-19 19:46:40 -0500 Report

I was much more sick when I was healthy. I get so many blessings every day; it is very humbling and on behalf of myself and my friends here in the DC community thank you so much for the encouragement.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-20 12:09:07 -0500 Report

A very interesting and inspiring thought, turning what could be your challenge into a blessing. And thank you for your kind words!

robertoj
robertoj 2011-08-20 16:20:52 -0500 Report

The choice I make is simply to face my life and address my challenges or cower and suffer. I don't know what's going happen next (good or bad); all I can do is to try and stay in balance.

Diaschm
Diaschm 2011-08-19 15:58:22 -0500 Report

THIS IS SO TRUE. HAPPINESS COMES FROM GIVING TO OTHERS AND DOING THAT WE SHOULD BE DOING FOR ONE ANOTHER. THE LITTLE KINDNESSES. TREATING OTHERS LIKE WE WANT TO BE TREATED GIVES JOY TO LIVING OUR LIFE. GOD'S LITTLE BLESSINGS.

kaveolook78
kaveolook78 2011-08-19 23:29:25 -0500 Report

there is a LOT of giving that needs to be done in our own country. Don't sell your belongings JUST GIVE IT AWAY. People need that.

robertoj
robertoj 2011-08-19 19:21:44 -0500 Report

No question this is the only way to live. I wasted many years before I learned that I must LIVE it; talk is cheap. Thank yo so much.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-08-18 17:58:19 -0500 Report

As "icky " as life has been the last several years, I am reasonable happy. Simple things have kept me going. Sharing a laugh with my Mom, a sister, or one of their kids. Catching a moment of sunshine and summer in a photograph of a bee. Although maybe not quite as simple, I can navigate a carbby meal at Mom's and not spike my BG. That makes me very happy. (I will try to forget yesterday and her treating me to a belated birthday breakfast at the best biscuits and gravy place in the Denver Metro area. I tried them and spiked. But at least I gave the Birthday Cake to my coworkers.)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-19 18:50:36 -0500 Report

HI! Nice to see you. You really painted a picture here, and it reminded me of how imaking connections with people we love can result in such happiness. I used to take my mom out to breakfast when I would visit her, and it would give her such pleasure to sit in a restaurant and eat breakfast with her son. It was her favorite meal. I would giive a lot to have the opportunity to do that just one more time! And speaking of carbs, what would mom's cooking be without lots of carbs? Thanks a lot!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-08-19 20:31:11 -0500 Report

I would love to be able to sit around my in-laws kitchen table and hear their stories again. Some where about Grandpa and the dynamite, the rats in the cistern, and their first date at the square dance with the ride home in the rumble seat.
I know the last two of my birthdays have been special for Mom and me, since I came very close to having no more of them last year.

kaveolook78
kaveolook78 2011-08-19 23:35:17 -0500 Report

thats the MOST AWESOME THING TO DO LISTEN TO OUR ELDERS. their stories from long past espically here where my Aaka and Aapa had to travel on foot,or dogsled,kayaks, to hunt food. they had a hard life but…they were giving people,and strong. I miss a lot of the elders. I'm always glad after church service a few of us go on a car ride to look for wild life caribou in the summers or polar bears this time of the year the elder sitting in the front tells stories from years past. I loved that we grew up listening to stories. back then we didn't have radio station,t.v.s only hard living it WAS GREAT! no running water, a lot of people didn't have electricity,running water only came 25/30 years ago here. I loved the old days,kids played hard worked hard,listened to the elders and gave them respect. Great times.

MewElla
MewElla 2011-08-18 08:37:38 -0500 Report

Very well said…happiness is indeed a source from within. I find that when I am pasionate about doing something, it makes me very happy and the happier you are the more content you are with everything else in your life. Happiness is not gained from others, you create your own happiness. My foundation of life is my spirituality, which most definitely helps me to cope with problems…it centers me…

nzingha
nzingha 2011-08-19 06:30:22 -0500 Report

i USED TO BE PASSIONATE ABOUT MY WORK..BUT NOW iM NOT BECAUSE i HAD PLANNED not TO BE WORKING AT THIS STAGE AND AGE THO i AM NOT AT RETIREMENT BUT i HAD SET 45 AND NOW i'M AHEAD OF THAT # AND STILL HAVE TO BE WORKING HARD.. i'M PISSED EVERYTIME i THINK HOW THIS SO CALLED RECESSION RAILROADED MY PLANS.. NOW i AM NOT EVEN SURE WHERE iM HEADED…!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-19 18:01:29 -0500 Report

Hi Nzingha,

I am sorry to hear that your retirement as been derailed. That is a situation that I am hearing about a lot and seeing a lot. I don't blame you for being mad about this, it's not fair. But I'm glad to hear that you have work. Is there something about it that you can latch on to so that the days go better? I know this isn't easy.

Diaschm
Diaschm 2011-08-19 16:05:38 -0500 Report

SORRY THAT YOU HAVE HAD YOUR RETIREMENT DERFERRED BUT THE ECONOMY WILL EVENTUALLY TURN AROUND. TRY TO FIND HAPPINESS IN ANOTHER PART OF YOUR LIFE. WE ARE GLAD YOU ARE PART OF THE DC FAMILY.

nzingha
nzingha 2011-08-19 06:30:55 -0500 Report

didnt realise i was in all caps.. apologies…not shouting..but then again maybe inside I am..lol!

mexpensive33
mexpensive33 2011-10-05 11:34:23 -0500 Report

I think many of us in that "pre retirement age are fustrated and worried at the same time about our future and the future of this country- we all are working hard to try and turn around this economey- it is fustrating when it seems no one is really listening

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-18 14:42:09 -0500 Report

Hi, I couldn't have said it better myself, in fact I didn't. I totally agree. Being passiionate about something allows you to get lost in it, to not only get out of yourself but to get lost in something a lot bigger. In that way, passion and spirituality kind of go hand in hand. I always encouage people that I come into contact with to explore their own spirituality. It does keep us centered, and also helps us to be fully human. Thanks a lot! Great to run into you.

MrsCDogg
MrsCDogg 2011-08-18 03:57:23 -0500 Report

In my way of thinking happiness is a choice that we make just like love. Each day we must wake up and make the choice to be happy. I once read a quote which was supposed to be by Abraham Lincoln…Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. I would have to agree with that.

Diaschm
Diaschm 2011-08-19 16:17:06 -0500 Report

I AGREE WE ACCEPT THE IDEA OF HAPPINESS. WE CHOOSE TO LOVE THE IDEA OF LIVING OUR LIVES IN A HAPPY STATE AND NOT GIVING INTO THE LITTLE THINGS THAT COULD BE BOTHERSOME. SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO OVER LOOK THEM AND JUST GO ON AND NOT CONCENTRATE ON THE DAY TO DAY OF THINGS. INSTEAD TO CHOOSE TO ENJOY EACH DAY AS IT COMES AND TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT FOR YOURSELF AND FOR THE PEOPLE YOU COME IN CONTACT WITH. TRYING TO BRING JOY TO OTHERS BRINGS JOY AND HAPPINESS TO YOU.

lorene1212
lorene1212 2011-08-20 20:32:13 -0500 Report

Diaschm, Your right! We do choose the way we react and see things. Our life only gets better even if it is not. It is all in the attitude I say.

Lorene

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-19 17:32:57 -0500 Report

Daishm, good point here. We have a choice about where we focus our attention, at what is working in our life or on what is not working so well. The choice we make can make alll the difference in our attitude.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-18 14:38:45 -0500 Report

Hi! Nice to hear from you. That is a great quote. I agree, happiness is a choice. And attaining happiness involves putting in some effort, starting with cultivating a receptive attitude. It's so easy to fall into despair if we alllow ourselves. I hope you are having a good week!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-08-18 08:28:39 -0500 Report

Yes, I agree! Happiness is a state of mind not a product of circumstance.

lorene1212
lorene1212 2011-08-20 20:33:37 -0500 Report

Hi Gabby! Agree with everyone here you all have great points. thank you for contributing and I know you do all the time. Your great Gabby and Thank you so much for welcoming me into this site.

Lorene

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-08-22 05:37:16 -0500 Report

You are so sweet and most welcome. Glad you are making friends here and most of all I hope you are getting support.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-18 01:49:16 -0500 Report

I get lost in the interactions between the folks here on DC. I really enjoy trying to help people here, and in the real world too. I have always had strong spiritual beliefs and have been deeply involved it my church. In the latter part of my life I am finding a lot more serenity and peace within myself. That makes me happy too.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-18 14:33:10 -0500 Report

Hi James. I like that comment about getting lost. I do the same thing. I might sit down at 10 p.m. to check in on a couple of boards and then the next time I look at the clock it is 11:30. So I guess that qualifies as a passion. I think that as we get older we often become more spiritual. Life teaches us what is really important, and what isn't. Nice to be back in touch with you.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-18 16:05:57 -0500 Report

I get lost for half a day sometimes in DC. Some of that is my hyperfocus from my ADHD and I really really like it here. In fact when she was alive my Jem had made a comment that when I was on DC she felt like she was an "internet widow". So I cut back a little for her. But now, I am in actuality a widower and don't have her to interupt me. I live in an apartment complex with a computer lab with 3 computers. One of the fellas who uses the one of the other computers is amazed that I stay on DC for such long stretches at a time. I really don't note the passage of time when here.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-18 17:32:34 -0500 Report

Hey! Well, we are definitely in the same boat, then. I live alone so, like you, there is nothing stopping me from jumping in and having a field day. I think of how not all that long ago I was wondering what I would possibly need to have regular Internet access for and what possible vlaue email would have. And now if I am without connectivity for even a few minutes, I feel like I am totally cut off from the world. And everyday, like you, I experience what a blessing these boards are to the people who participate on them, like me and you.

Diaschm
Diaschm 2011-08-18 00:14:05 -0500 Report

I feel very happy but I still think the summer went by fast. I think the hot weather was really too hot. I enjoy a more evan temperature. It was really sky high this year. I do not think we had a summer this hot in along time, give me weather in the 80s next year, please!! Poor texas they really had it bad this year, no rain!! But all kidding aside your article was very good thank you. Diaschm

kaveolook78
kaveolook78 2011-08-19 23:41:39 -0500 Report

I WISH WE WOULD GET SOME OF THAT HEAT HERE IN THE SLOPE. FEELS LIKE WINTER IS COMING SOONER. VERY COOL MID JULY N AUG. I NEED TO GO SOMEWHERE TROPICAL FOR CHRISTMAS. I LOVE MY HOME BUT…I GET TIRED OF THE COLD. AT THE SAME TIME I WOULD MISS THE SNOW . probably for a bit soon after the REALLY COLD FRONTS COME IN. GOD IS GOOD.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-08-18 14:31:21 -0500 Report

Hi! Nice to meet you, and thanks for getting in touch. I live in NY and it was really hot here, I went to Washington, DC and it was even worse there. I have been to Houston in August and that was probably the worst heat that I have been in. I feel bad for Texas, they are reall suffering. Glad my article was useful. Thanks again!

Diaschm
Diaschm 2011-08-19 16:33:16 -0500 Report

I HAVE ENJOYED MANY OF YOUR ARTICLES NOT JUST THIS ONE. KEEP THEM COMING. I WROTE MY FIRST ARTICLE FOR THE SITE A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO. GETTING HELP FOR DIABETICS POSTED ON NEWS ARTICLES. i HAVE HAD MANY GOOD RESPONCES FROM THE ARTICLE. I REVIEWED THE AFFORDABLE CARE ACT IN THAT ARTICLE. I HAVE A MASTERS IN SOCIOLOGY AND FELT I COULD CONTRIBUTE IN RESEACHING THE DOCUMENT. THEIR SEEMS TO BE SO MANY ON THE SITE WITHOUT INSURANCE OR WHO ARE UNDER INSURED AND CAN NOT AFFORD THEIR MEDICATIONS. THE ARTICLE TELLS THEM HOW THERE MIGHT BE PROGRAMS THAT THEY COULD QUALIFY FOR HEALTHCARE FOR NO MONEY OR IN SOME CASES VERY LITTLE MONEY. iT IS VERY HELPFUL IN FINDING PROGRAM TO HELP PEOPLE. I HAVE HAD SO MANY FRIEND ON DC TELL ME THEY HAVE READ THE ARTICLE AND NOW HAVE FOUND HEALTHCARE. I HAVE BEEN SO HAPPY TO BE ABLE TO HELP SO MANY THROUGH DC. AS I AM SURE YOU HAVE BEEN HAPPY HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH THE DC SITE.

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