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runthe
By runthe Latest Reply 2011-08-08 02:16:46 -0500
Started 2011-08-07 11:00:11 -0500

Good morning all, I am still sick with this cold and congestion. My appetite has not been so good. My husband does not take care of me like I do him when he is sick. When he is sick I make him homemake chicken soup, hot teas, juice and plenty of love. I do this until he feels better. On the other hand when I get sick I gets nothing. Yesterday I had to fix my own breakfast which was some cheese and crackers because I was sick. Took bs was at 54. Later on that day he boiled about 6 eggs and brought them with him to the bedroom to eat. After eating about 2 of them he ask me if I wanted one. I ate it because I was still not feeling good. That is all I ate for the whold day.
Why is it that our spouse or signifancant others do this? thank for letting me vent. It is now 10:59 still no breakfast. LOL


10 replies

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-08 02:16:46 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear that your hubby is not stepping up to the plate for you when you're not feeling good. I did a lot for the mother of my sons whenever she was under the weather, and even when she was healthier. But I felt she didn't appreciate what I did for her. It seemed that for her what I did was never enough.

With my bride Jem, it was different. She appreciated every little thing I did for her, even if it might not have been perfect, like she was used to with her mom, she still appreciated it. I had to do most all of the cooking as she couldn't safely do it due to her total blindness. Because I had signed on to take care of her needs, and because she appreciated my efforts (even if some of my meals I fixed were not entirely to her liking — her mom's style and mine were different) I enjoyed doing for Jem and strove to do better if I could.

Now I live alone and have no one for which to care, or to care for me when I am under the weather. But I survive.

diabetesfree
diabetesfree 2011-08-07 22:13:36 -0500 Report

My wife is pretty good at taking care of me when I'm sick. She won't go anywhere near the litter box though. That has somehow become "my chore". :-) I usually do most of the cleaning, but then she is usually preoccupied with the 5 yo. An even trade, in my book.

purple1900
purple1900 2011-08-07 22:05:01 -0500 Report

after reading this I feel even more blessed with my boyfriend. He doesn't get sick that often so I don't usually have to take care of him but when I get sick he puts everything on hold to take care of me. I had the stomach flu really bad at the beginning of the year and after staying up all night with me he then did all the laundry I had gotten sick on while I was at the ER getting fluids so I could come home and just lay back down. That is how we found out I am diabetic and now he eats what I eat. He says if its healthy for me its healthy for him

alanbossman
alanbossman 2011-08-07 21:43:57 -0500 Report

Sorry you are under the weather Runthe. As a husband I do more now than before early in my marriage. Not bragging but I do the laundry, cook breakfest, make lunch and cook dinner for me and my wife. I do this even if she is not sick. Since I have retried she says its my turn to do all these things, Oh I forget I clean the stove and do the dishes.
Alan

purple1900
purple1900 2011-08-07 22:05:33 -0500 Report

my boyfriend cleans the kitchen and cleans the litter box There are a few good men like you and him out there

runthe
runthe 2011-08-07 20:27:01 -0500 Report

I know thats rights. My sink will be filled with dishes, clothes everywhere, and others stuff out of wac.

edvel54
edvel54 2011-08-07 19:46:54 -0500 Report

I understand how you feel. When I am sick, I get nothing..I still have to get up and make dinner for the troops, BUT when the hubby is sick…everything stops just for him

Gwen Morten
Gwen Morten 2011-08-07 12:08:47 -0500 Report

I feel you on that! I can see myself getting so frustrated with him till I start going off! which would've made me sicker I'm sure but thats the way its been lately for me. have you talked with him about? it sounds like he s a good hubby otherwise. it may b he is just used to seeing you get up and go in any weather and thought you was ok enough to nurse yourself back to health. get well and stay healthy! i'm pulling for you and you got me too if you need a friend to talk to! :)

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-08-07 11:11:05 -0500 Report

I think some man are just helpless in the kitchen and taking care of sick people and since we do so much for them they are lost my hubby will not eat anything if i am gone all day except a granola bar if i am gone longer i have to tell people to take him to get a hambuger or something because he will not eat been married 17 years i but this is one of his qurcks sp lol .I had food poisioning once i finally had to call he was in the gararge all day i call him at 4 in afternoon to go to the store to get me soup and diet 7up he didn't even check on me so i know what u r going through hang in ther and get better my prays for u

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