By Inrvizion Latest Reply 2011-11-13 23:40:53 -0600
Started 2011-08-04 20:41:14 -0500

How does the friend feature work on this site? I created an account and looked at my profile and I already have 5 "friends." While I am a friendly person and totally open to talking to you, I do feel a little bit strange about automatically having to view the posts of these people who I guess just friend ed me for some reason (hopefully not to earn points or whatever) because to be quite honest I may or may not be interested in seeing everything that somebody posts who I don't even know if I enjoy their commentary on life and the issues contained within it.

Can I un friend people? Or can I set my profile so I actually get to approve or disapprove friend requests? Thanks in advance for any help, I am just pretty confused and I hate browsing through a bunch of how to and help stuff when I can just ask a question.

37 replies

Jeanette Terry
Jeanette TerryPA 2011-08-16 11:36:51 -0500 Report

In the welcome email that one recieves when they become a member of the community it does explain why they are automatically friends with our advocates. Our advocates are a great resource here on this site and they are only here to help. All other friends are chosen by you.

MewElla 2011-08-07 17:56:11 -0500 Report

There are so many neat people on this site. Actually, I have learned more from diabetics here who walk the walk 24/7 than I did from the Diabetes Classes at my hospital. People share their everyday problems and "friends here" jump in with what works for them. We learn from each other. I have sure met some wonderful friends on this site and I highly recommend it!!

Inrvizion 2011-08-07 17:50:33 -0500 Report

I started a pretty lively thread here :) I am glad to hear everyone's opinions and I am feeling more comfortable with the site now that I have tried it out a little bit. All the people I am meeting and talking with are really nice, interesting, and genuinely cool, that means you Ray. I look forward to hearing more from all of you and I hope that this thread helped somebody other than just me. I am going to unsubscribe now so feel free to carry on this conversation without me but if you post in response to this or my original post I will not see it.

More than one love,

RAYT721 2011-08-07 19:51:31 -0500 Report

I believe the whole auto friend thing does get a little confusing at first and I'm glad to know that I am not the only person to have been taken aback by it. I must agree with Invrizion here that the group is made up of some nice, interesting and cool people (and I don't only mean me). I think it is great that we all introduce ourselves to the new members and to offer assistance. So many "competitor" sites simply fall short of offering the support in the so-called support group but this place has been so different from the other sites that I joined and explored but promptly left. You guys are an amazing group of people, many of whom I am proud to use the word "FRIEND."

Nonna2Three 2011-08-07 16:53:24 -0500 Report

When I first joined I noticed my new friends that i had not added, but I also noticed they seemed to all have CA or PA out bedside their names so I quickly figured out they were the support people. I kept them in my friend list because I figured if they contributed to any discussions that it might be a discussion I would be interested in following. So far i see mostly Gabby. Every now and again John shows up, but for the most part they are not flooding the walls with spam or other useless drivel, so it's all good!

AuntieM234 2011-08-06 16:59:00 -0500 Report

I fully agree with James and Ray. I enjoy making friends and helping where and when I can. What Badges & Points mean to me is that I've interacted with fellow members, which I do every day. The Badges & Points carry no monetary value, so I don't think we are in this for any tangible gain. I believe the system of Badges & Points, along with the friends concept, is designed to encourage interaction among the members. Through that interaction, we learn and grow. We share experiences and knowledge, which are valuable in our struggle to maintain control of our life in the face of the big D. I cherish the friends I've made here and am infinitely grateful for the invaluable support I've both received and given. I will continue happily on this site for as long as I'm able. I, too, friend as many people as I can. I've left a friends request for you as well. ;-) Mara PS: My reaction to the already in place frends was positive, as I knew they were there to ask for help in case there was something I couldn't figure out for myself. I've come to regard many of them as real friends.

MEXICAN BEAUTY 2011-08-06 11:30:08 -0500 Report


catroter53 2011-08-07 14:50:22 -0500 Report

more the merrier i say,, everyone here is the same,,DB that is,,,come on now and pass those test stips.. lol life is too short..

MEXICAN BEAUTY 2011-08-08 14:17:59 -0500 Report


Auburn Bill
Auburn Bill 2011-10-15 09:46:36 -0500 Report

Frogs and Friends sound almost alike~ Loved to hear them at nite when we'd camp as a Scout near a pond of water. Cannot see eating their legs, nothing is there! Just don't "jump into the road" when its raining ot as we saw going down 79 South to Pittsbirgh one fal evening! Wgat a messthey caused with blood and guts all over, made it slippery also! Abyone for forg soup?? Grandpa Vill

RAYT721 2011-08-06 18:30:29 -0500 Report

Come on down… you're the next contestant on "I used to be shy!" :) … We are truly a genuine family/community who cares about you. It's great that you found us and so looking forward to hearing more from and about you. If I can help in any way, just say the word. The newbies today will help the newbies of tomorrow. I speak from experience!!! :) … Welcome to Diabetic Connect!

jayabee52 2011-08-06 16:24:54 -0500 Report

Well "Beauty" IMO this is the best place on the 'net to find both info AND support. Lots of friendly people who are "walking the walk" of controlling their conditions and are willing to talk about both their successes AND failures (yes we can learn from our failures, pick ourselves up and go on trying to control it). And we even like to share a laugh or two along the way!

I just sent you a friend request. Please do me the kindness of accepting it. ( I had been a CNA in home healthcare for about 11 years)

Praying God's richest blessings upon you and your husband and all of yours.


GabbyPA 2011-08-05 07:07:33 -0500 Report

Ray is right, we are automatically added so that you can get help on the site if you need it. We don't intrude on you or anything. You can always delete us from your friend's list by contacting us directly and we can "unfriend" you. That would be sad, but I have done it for another member before. The idea is just to kind of "prime the pump" so to speak so that you have some activity in your profile to look at.

There is not an auto response to anything in the site for our members at this point. I can ask to see if that is a consideration.

RAYT721 2011-08-05 17:00:59 -0500 Report

True story … when I first had those new friends I thought they were awfully pathetic people just waiting for people to talk to. I wrote each a "thank you" note and when I received a prompt reply from Gabby explaining the auto friends, I thought her existence was that of a "robot," of which I still kid with her about. Gabby is not only a real person but a real friend.

GabbyPA 2011-08-06 09:15:55 -0500 Report

Okay, I am blushing now...LOL. I remember that and thought it was so funny. So do I get to tell them about your frogs?? LOL

RAYT721 2011-10-16 08:47:17 -0500 Report

Correction: I don't have a fear of frogs per se. Every time it rains, my patio gets frogs that think the patio is a cement pond so they come down but can't get back up. SO… I have to chase them with a paper towel and every time they jump, I jump. I have a new technique now. I get them to hop into an empty trash can and take them to safety. Ok… so it's a fear of frogs. Blush.

GabbyPA 2011-10-16 08:53:37 -0500 Report

Winter is coming, they will go away for a while. Unless you are offering them a tanning salon. LOL

hillwalker 2011-10-17 00:29:10 -0500 Report

actually in florida the frog joke has to do with retirees my great aunt and uncle were snowbirds new york to fl every season change my parents are frogs retired to Fl until they croak

hillwalker 2011-11-13 23:40:53 -0600 Report

actually i think they are in your neighborhood they retired to the villiages which is close to where you are correct?

RAYT721 2011-10-16 09:22:57 -0500 Report

we are here for each other with genuine concern and friendship. funny how the internet can bring people together from across the globe. gabby is like the sister I never wanted. :)

RAYT721 2011-10-16 08:48:51 -0500 Report

Some things I will never be able to live down. Like the time I got my head stuck under my desk at work or the time that I had driven the store, walked home, and the next morning reported my car stolen with a police report.

jayabee52 2011-08-05 03:28:45 -0500 Report

Yep inrvirzsion, that confused me at first 3 years ago when I first signed on to DC. But a member cannot email another member on DC unless you are "freinds". So the folks on your "friends list" are there so that they can communicate with you via email, the only really private form of communication that is here. So I have taken a tack different than Ray below. I invite everyone new I see to be my friend. Not everyone accepts, but as many as I am aware of, I invite. Like ray I don't do it for points but so that I can communicate. And I have developed some wonderful cyber friends (and real world friends too). Sometimes it takes me an hour or so to respond to the emails sent by my friends for various reasons.

To answer your questions in your last paragraph: YES you can unfriend people (with the exception of the folks who were first on your profile as some kind of administrator.

And the 2nd question: NO as far as I know (and I've been here 3+ yrs) there is nothing set up to approve / disapprove a friend request automatically. I'm not sure I would want to use such a feature here at DC.

Please accept my friend request

Praying God's richest blessings be upon you and yours


Inrvizion 2011-08-07 13:35:12 -0500 Report

I wasn't asking about an auto response, I was asking if and how to unfriend people. I didn't know if it was an option I should set on my profile or if it was even possible. I look forward to talking with you more James.

May God bless and keep you always, may your wishes all come true, may you always do for others, and let others do for you.


RAYT721 2011-08-04 20:58:38 -0500 Report

The new found friends are actually the site admin and support team here. If you run into any issues, let them know. Now that those friends are automatically linked to you, you have the power to accept, decline and delete friends at your own free will. I will tell you… I have over 100+ friends who are not just added for any point value other than the value that each has within my real and virtual world and the points they make in helping me with mind, body and soul. This website is sorta like a family to me and hopefully will be with you. There's so much here besides just the discussions but exchanges and information on so many topics. Please browse around, contribute, make friends … all at your own pace and with your own interests. You should not have an issue with uninvited or unwelcomed friends.

Inrvizion 2011-08-05 00:50:27 -0500 Report

Thanks Ray <3 I appreciate your help.

RAYT721 2011-08-05 17:06:17 -0500 Report

If you'd like to test out real friendship, send me an invite. :) Feel free to approach me on anything at any time. I may not have all of the answers for you but, ya know … sometimes we find those answers ourselves just from having people who understand to write to. I hope to be one of them.

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