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ROBERT VANTREASE
By ROBERT VANTREASE Latest Reply 2011-08-04 00:04:02 -0500
Started 2011-08-02 19:42:59 -0500

I HAVE BEEN A DIABETIC FOR A FEW YEARS NOW AND I HAVE TO TAKE ABOUT 10 SHOTS A DAY TO KEEP MY SUGAR AROUND 100. I TRY TO HIDE IT WHEN WE ARE IN A RESTAURANT OR PUBLIC PLACE BECAUSE PEOPLE LOOK AT YOU LIKE YOU ARE A DRUGY OR SOMTHING. YOUR FRIENDSHIP MEANS ALOT TO ME ALSO BECAUSE PEOPLE LOOK AT ME IN MY WHEELCHAIR AND THEY JUST RUN THE OTHER DIRECTION, I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE CAN'T TAKE ME AND OTHERS LIKE ME FOR WHO WE ARE AND NOT THE DISABILITY. LIFE WOULD BE SO MUCH BETTER FOR EVERYONE. TWO WEEKS AGO MY FAMILY AND I FLEW TO OHIO FOR MY FATHER IN LAWS FUNERAL, AND IT JUST HAPPENED TO BE THE SAME WEEKEND AS MY HIGH SCHOOLS 25TH REUNION. I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE A GREAT TIME TO CATCH UP WITH ALL MY OLD FRIENDS THAT I HAD NOT SEEN IN 25 YEARS. WELL THERE WAS A GET TOGETHER THE NIGHT BEFORE AT A LOCAL ESTABLISHMENT TO SEE EVERYONE THE NIGHT BEFORE. SO I TOOK MY TWO OLDEST DAUGHTERS AND THEY PUSHED ME IN MY WHEELCHAIR. WE GET THERE AND RIGHT OFF I KNOW PEOPLE ON MY RIGHT AND ON MY LEFT AND JUST EVERYWHERE. BUT WE JUST KEEP STANDING THERE AND NO ONE WOULD EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE ME AT ALL. IT WAS VERY OBVIOUS THAT PEOPLE WERE TALKING ABOUT ME AND WISPERING BEHIND ME BUT NO ONE WOULD EVEN TALK TO ME. SO AFTER ABOUT 30 MINUTES I SAID TO MY KIDS "WE ARE BETTER THAN THIS AND WE JUST NEED TO GO AND THAT THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT WORTH THIS AT ALL. I ALSO MADE SURE EVERYONE HEARD ME. SO WE LEFT AND I JOINED THIS WEBSITE AND THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I HAVE HAD FRIENDS THAT DID'NT LOOK AT MY LEGS OR MY WEIGHT OR ANY OF MY DISABILATIES!!! I LOVE THIS WEBSITE AND THANK ALL OF YOU THAT HAS BEEN SO KIND TO ME. YOU GUYS ARE TRUE FRIENDS AND I THANK THAT IS THE BEST OF ALL.
ROBERT VANTREASE


6 replies

harry1
harry1 2011-08-03 23:52:18 -0500 Report

Times have changed since the 70's and 80's the only thing people see is your wheelchair not the person in it. I thought taking 5 shots a day was bad until I read your post. Me and my wife go through the same thing with people talking about us any where we go my wife has leg ulcers which she has to use a walker and we are both over weight, I have this and heart problems. One day I parked in a handicapped spot this rude bimbo came up to us and said "must be nice being fat and being able to park there" she kept this up shooting her mouth off that I finally had to tell her off. I thought her husband was going to start with me he came up to us and said that he was sorry for his wife's actions and that no one ever told her off like I did. As for you hiding your shots don't it ain't no ones business I don't hide it #1 the restrooms in public places are filthy and #2 we went to Denny's I went to the restroom to do my shot so kid came in saw me injecting myself he ran out and told his dad which told the manager of the place. In the mean time I went back to my table the manager came up to us and told us that we had to leave since I was doing "drugs" in the restroom we had to explain to him that I am diabetic and he is violating my rights I told him from here on out I will do my shot at the table so everyone can see its insulin and not drugs. I called the district manager needless to say that they fired that manager for accusing me of doing drugs and not asking if it was a medacation first. People don't have anything else to do but putting thier nose where it don't belong.

elaines
elaines 2011-08-03 09:34:16 -0500 Report

Hello Robert,
I was very touched by your story. Right now I too am in a wheel chair, hopefully it is temporary. I have been battling a foot ulcer then fractures now charcot ankle. My 20 year reunion was 2006 and I wouldn't go for the reasons that you experienced. I then, was legally blind in both eyes and since have had one eye removed last year. I think I was afraid of what people would say or think. I don't want their pity but just want to be treated the same as everyone else. I still talk to a couple friends from high school and they accept me for who I am. Those who can't aren't true friends. I am proud of you for walking out and letting them know how you feel. No one deserves to be treated with that kind of disrespect. I doubt I will ever go to a reunion and that is terrible we have to feel this way, that we can't be accepted. Even if I am out of the chair I am still blind and have poor balance due to neuropathy so I walk a little funny and have a hard time balancing and standing still. So I think I will stick to hanging with the groups who know me and all my problems and love me for me. Yes they feel sorry for me, but it is not pity . They feel sorry for me because I have been through so much at such a young age and still try to smile. My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain and frustration. Best of wishes to you and have a wonderful day. Oh, I live in Ohio.:o)

Elaine

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-08-04 00:04:02 -0500 Report

I refused to go to High School reunions, and I CAN see and don't use a wheelchair, because many of the kids I grew up with didn't respect me when I was with them in HS and I really don't feel like faking it and making it seem like nothing was wrong.

My HS years were not the best years of my life, and IMO are best left uncelebrated.

Harlen
Harlen 2011-08-02 23:19:19 -0500 Report

Hello
First you got to look into a pump I to was rich in shots the pump has made my life much much better .
It seams to me that people act like it's catching ????
2nd when they would look at me like that I would sey YO do you wont a hit ?????
LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL the looks I get then are priceless lol lol lol
Best wishes
Harlen

cella65
cella65 2011-08-02 21:52:56 -0500 Report

May I ask why are you in a wheel chair? I went to my class reunion a few years back and was judges for my weight too. People said they didn't recognize me. I wasn't disfigured just gained weight. People can be so mean. Sorry you had a bad experience

Gwen Morten
Gwen Morten 2011-08-02 20:18:55 -0500 Report

hi robert! I really like ur article and was touched by u!! I am not in a w/c and I dont take shots although I do pop pills for d2. never the less my story is similar to urs in that I've been in the ctr of being the target for many years now. it's been so bad for me at times with people all over the place snickering and mumbling about me. I have not one person that will talk to me about this problem! every body just act like it is not going on!! you were absolutely rite to pick up and leave that place. they obviously are not your friends anymore anyway! (i probably would've curse somebody out!) lol!! welcome!!

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