my daughter and i are new to being a diabetic

rhp
By rhp Latest Reply 2011-08-01 20:43:04 -0500
Started 2011-07-27 19:15:32 -0500

hi i was told back in jan i was a diabetic type 2. yesterday my youngest daughter whom is about to have her 3rd baby in sept was told she is a diabetic. i'm not sure what to say to her because she is going to be 28 has always been very healthy now this. im just learning how to control my owe and not sure what to say to my daughter. we live 1500 miles apart does anyone have any help ideas?


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anderson74
anderson74 2011-08-01 20:43:04 -0500 Report

i agree with everyone else tell her about this community and join. since i have join this community i have run across same interesting along with great advice.

Pappy03
Pappy03 2011-07-29 13:34:51 -0500 Report

Both of you need to join this community. It is a great place to connect with your daughter and with others that share the same problems. Above all don't either one of you feel like you are alone in this, you have friends here that can help, whether it be directiing you to an information site or you just need someone to talk to. I have only belonged to this community a little over a month and the people here are friendly and helpful, you can ask them anything and if they don't know, they will direct you to someone that does. Great community and remember that you can control this thing instead of it controlling you. God Bless.

rhp
rhp 2011-07-29 22:03:06 -0500 Report

I have told my daughter about this site and she is going to try to get on. she has her hands full with two boys and a baby on the way then finding out about this. this community has helped me many times and still do. thank you so much for your kind words. it makes me feel so much better. i'm sure once my daughter gets on here she will feel better just to no there are many people out here that are going thru the same thing as she is. thank you again.

hannatu
hannatu 2011-07-29 13:16:43 -0500 Report

It's just normal to inherit diabete as in My case My two parent were diabetics but My Aunt from My Dad side was.I was diagnosed at the age of 22years which was much younger than the your Doughter.At first,I was affraid it was like a death sentence but later I noticed that it's manageable and life goes on even with the disease.All You need is to let her try and understabd the consequencies of it and how fully how to manage it well.She should be happy and move on with life.There are more deadly diseases than even diabetes like cancer and more so so I don't consider it as threat to life any more.You all need to strictly follow the rules as medication,exercise and healthy meal.

rhp
rhp 2011-07-29 21:58:31 -0500 Report

I agree, my mom had this as well as all 8 of her sisters. my brother has it also. I have talked with my daughter alot and i have also told her about this community in how everyone helped and still helps me.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-07-28 14:44:21 -0500 Report

Like Grandmaducky said, share this site with her and you guys can be close that way. My mom was a HUGE help to me when I was diagnosed. We talked about all the emotions that go with it, the frustrations of high numbers on good days and the victories of it as well. It really helped me a lot to have her help me out. We live close, too close sometimes, but even across the miles there can be that bond.

One thing that we did was attend a diabetes education class together. You may not be able to do one in the same room, but if you both attend one, you can share your notes and see how they differ and what you are learning that is different and the same.

rhp
rhp 2011-07-28 15:24:52 -0500 Report

thank you so much Gabby thats a great idea. She was talking about classes and i will do anything to help her. We are very close but i live in N.Y. and she is in Texas. We talk everyday & when im able i fly to visit her. this all came as a shock to both of us.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-07-28 15:28:06 -0500 Report

Yes, I rather imagine it did. She is so young, but diabetes doesn't care how old or healthy you are. That is what makes it so frustrating. I know you both will make a great team. You can also do walks in your towns for a cure or join support groups and share what is going on. It will be an amazing journey for both of you. It will be up to you to help keep it a positive one.

rhp
rhp 2011-07-28 16:06:40 -0500 Report

so true. i just talked to my daughter and we both agree we are going to enter a support group to share everything.

JoleneAL
JoleneAL 2011-07-28 08:34:41 -0500 Report

Please don't take what I say wrong - but I sometimes wish there was someone in my family who could relate to me and my diabetes … I can't say thank god, because it is awful, but you guys can bounce ideas off each other and you knowing how she will be feeling and vice versa can be a great support to each other. Oh, and congrats on the new grand baby!

rhp
rhp 2011-07-28 15:36:06 -0500 Report

By the way thank you for your congrats on my next grand baby. this will be her first daughter and will be my #6 grand baby. now i will have 3 grand daughters and 3 grand sons.

rhp
rhp 2011-07-28 15:30:36 -0500 Report

this is very true. my daughter has asked me many things about how i felt when i found out. I was able to tell her. we are very close but i do belive she is at the point she doesnt want to belive she is a diabetic. I do agree its very awful because it runs in my family. I have delt with this all my life with my mom and brother for the last 15 years. Now me as well as my daughter. Thank you so much for your reply.

grandmaducky
grandmaducky 2011-07-27 20:35:48 -0500 Report

hi share this site with her and just listen too her and help with what u can ask for help when u need it i wish good luck too both of you

rhp
rhp 2011-07-28 15:32:26 -0500 Report

I gave her this site in hopes she will take the time to go to it. It took me awhile to go to this site but it has helped me alot. thank you so much for your reply.

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