We Don't Judge

By Latest Reply 2008-12-19 07:04:45 -0600
Started 2008-10-17 07:11:42 -0500

You know I have read a lot of discussion threads, and see so many times that people want to live the diabetic-connect because they don't know how to start a discussion; or maybe afraid to hear answers to their posts; or afraid they can not type or spell well enough, or just afraid of change; meeting people in a different atmosphere.
BUT you know we all have reasons for being here, and fear of the unkown is always one of the greatest; but here, we are all the same, and we should not judge people for knowledge, fear, maybe of how their discussion will sound or come across; -litereate illiterate; It does not matter to me or anyone else, and most of all if you are afraid to do something because of your knowledge of "how too" just ask one of your friends in a private message. As far as the computer goes I would be the first to admit to being "computer illiterate", but practice makes perfect and so do friends, and like all the reasons afforementioned, for not posting or whatever; Chic Up. or Man Up; No One Will Judge YOU

40 replies

2008-12-15 07:20:21 -0600 Report

Thankyou for the post; because that is what makes it all worth while for me to keep up the meaningful and useful posts which I have stopped doing for a few days with the feeling of defeat, and being useless to the site

Lanore 2008-12-15 08:18:48 -0600 Report

Lil, You are not useless to the site, Why do you feel this way?? You have some real good info and just your post are great. Please don't feel you are useless you are not. Lanore ;-)

Anonymous 2008-12-15 14:51:13 -0600 Report

I know how she feels. I cannot be myself. Why do you think I post annonymous all the time. Now some are doing it so they can be rude and nasty and those are not mine but I bet some are thinking that they are, and it has caused alot of problems and now veterans like lilmarm and me feel they are not helpful to this site.

Lanore 2008-12-16 07:54:15 -0600 Report

Why worry about how someone else feels. The people who are posting nasty and rude stuff are not worth the trouble it takes to read them really. Let people know who you are. Sometime people post anonymous not to be rude, but to say aomething that is on there mind and don't want to be brought down for it. It has happened in the past and will continue I am sure. Keep posting you are not rude or nasty, the same with Lilmarm. I have always enjoyed her posts and yours as well.

Anonymous 2008-12-16 12:34:19 -0600 Report

Thanks for your support but I will stay anonymous. Either way I have been brought down too. Claudia/lilmarm is more of a woman than I am.

2008-12-17 06:58:21 -0600 Report

That is not true; I am no better than anyone else; I just want people to see that we try bery hard to accept people as they are, and help them whenever we can; luv:->?Claudia

caragypsy 2008-12-15 15:13:08 -0600 Report

ilimarm52 Please don't stop posting! I have learned so much for you. We all need your help. Cara

2008-12-15 20:11:36 -0600 Report

Thanks for all your support. Love to all and Happy Holidays. luv:-?)Claudia

2008-12-19 07:04:45 -0600 Report

Today is a new day, and welcome to all you new comers; come in, sit down, and type, ask anything you want (within reason; lol) look up anything you want; join our discussions and invite some friends cause we do not judge here. We are here to help and support you. Claudia

2008-12-08 18:35:31 -0600 Report

New People, enter; we don't judge, and we are open minded to anything you might need to ask or offer. We are a community of many, that try to come together as often as we can to take and give advice as best we can.

Anonymous 2008-12-09 11:26:18 -0600 Report

I love to read your posts. You are definitely the Diabetic connect mascot these past few days. So welcoming and have a great attitude. I enjoy that you have gone back and found helpful posts so that the newcomers know what we are all about. I see that more and more new people are feeling comfortable enough to post. We really do need some new insights on here. It is great that this site is growing day by day. It is a wonderful site for the newbies and the veterans. Thanks for all you do and are doing lilmarm.

2008-11-23 07:20:21 -0600 Report

Well, it has been over a month now, and I have seen a few attitude changes, but I also see the encouragement to those people feeling so bad, and not judgement.You Go People,You Rock

2008-10-27 08:13:47 -0500 Report

I too, believe that in this country we are lucky to have freedom of speech, where so many others' can not speak freely. But does that mean that we have freedom to hurt,perhaps even deliberately; If that is what people are doing, I do not know. We have to remember, people with our problems have to deal with them one day at a time, and one of the hard ones that I am not sure every takes under consideration, which is depression with severe mood swings which could account for some behavioral problems, and we have to be kind and understanding when we read their posts or replies and try not to react harshly, but stop and think about what you want to say before you answer.

sisson 2008-10-22 13:40:27 -0500 Report

Yes you are right we shouldn't be afried but we should watch out for little eys I wish that there was a site spreate from us because some of us adults can be a little strong! I do love this site because I can say what ever I want to let out all my frustrations and questions if I don't understand something and so should the young one's as well.

2008-10-23 10:22:21 -0500 Report

Eveyone should be aware of each others' feelings, wether they are young, old, man, woman; whatever, and we all have feelings. However; I think the small children who have type 1 diabetes are not the web users' but their parents, but then it also looks like kids even younger than 10 are on this site too; Yes, we have to remember to be curtious to everyone, young or old. And there would be no reason to leave, if you can be. Maybe if someone needs to air their opinions and don't wish to affend anyone else; they should email one of their friends they feel comfortable with instead of out in the public.

Anonymous 2008-10-22 13:37:43 -0500 Report

Yes you are right we shouldn't be afried but we should watch out for little eye I wish that there was a site spreate from us because some of us adults can be a little strong! I do love this site because I can say what ever I want to let out all my frustrations and questions if I don't understand something and so should the young one's as well.

sexyswamprat 2008-10-22 13:19:38 -0500 Report

I was afraid that people might think my questions or comments were just stupid or had a obvious answer. I am not afraid of that anymore. There are so many wonderful people on here that I am so comfortable posting or asking anything. And no one has ever judged me or discouraged me or made me feel stupid. Thanks Lil for your post, you hit on the nose.

John Crowley
John CrowleyCA 2008-10-21 05:36:09 -0500 Report

Thanks, Claudia for being so encouraging.

I don't remember who first said it on here but someone was encouraging a new member and said "Just click around, you're not going to break anything :-)."

I thought that was brilliant. And so true.

This is all one big experiment and we all learn everyday what it takes to make people feel welcome and included.

2008-10-22 09:57:16 -0500 Report

John, thanks so much for the compliment; and encouragement. lilmarm

Goddess 2008-10-22 10:07:20 -0500 Report

I have been on here awhile. I'm still uneasy and scared to start a discussion or to respond to a question.

Charish 2008-10-23 15:55:47 -0500 Report

Hi John,

Well I'm glad that I have not had these tyoes of experiences. But if a person get to a point of being insulting and mean spirited, then they should step away for awhile get yourself together and go on. People spend to much precious time on things like what happen here, which again I'm glad I knew nothing of, rather then placing their focus on encouragement and getting through another day and saying thank God for it. Forget the negative and try to see the positive.

There have been times when I've said what's the use because no one really comments on anything that you've tried to discuss or simply talk right over you when you have left a reply and as it seems only reply to certain ones on the site and forgetting to tell others who have left some very good and sound points on some post. But oine thing that I have learned in my walk is humility and taking my place on the side lines which in most cases has proven to be the best thing I could have done for myself. But when it all comes down to reality and you stop ansd think about it, it really doesn't matter and be encouraging anyway. I hope that my opinion doesn't offend but God never said it would be easy anyway, He just said go and run the race.

Hugs and Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

Charish 2008-10-24 06:46:07 -0500 Report

Hi John,

Thanks for that you are doing for us. It's people like you have geat compassion that will cause this site to grow and not fall on the way side.

I wrote a comment on that post, and well lets just say that it's a mess and one that I hate to see. There were several comments left to mine but I wanted to test and experiment and now I see clearly.

I have since deleted the discussion and the E-mail concerning the post in question. I want you know that in that reply I have made the decision to step back for awhile from the site and for only a brief moment. I was accused of making it seem that I was a victim or picture myself to be a victim to others on this site because the negative statement left to what was a test to see if your opinion is truly respected by others here. Well I've never been anyones victim and before I allow myself to be one I cut it off at its root. And the funny thing to all is that I never took offense to the statement and I'm actually lauging right now at it all. Know that I'm not gone for good but a brief moment.

Take care John and continue the race.

Hugs ans Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

morris.js 2008-10-24 06:57:53 -0500 Report

Teresa, You and I know each other very well, so I know I can say this to you without any ill feelings…LOL Girl, DO NOT step back from the site! Some have chose to become negative, so be it. You are way above that and you would be missed by so many if you stepped away for even a minute. I'm back, so you better stay too!
((((HUGS)))) John Morris

Charish 2008-10-24 07:06:11 -0500 Report

Hi John,

I think you could take me into anything…SMILES. And I would never take offense to what you have to say and I am well above that. Yes I laughed and then decided John is right but I did dismiss myself from the discussion and plan not to take part in it again.

And welcome back…Hugs and Kisses


Leigh Marsden
Leigh Marsden 2008-10-19 17:36:38 -0500 Report

I would pray that these requirements would have been being respected fromm the beginning. So far, I have felt very welcomed to this site. I don't understand why anyone of us should treat someone otherwise.

2008-10-20 00:43:41 -0500 Report

I guess that is part of the point I am trying to make, is people don't have to be afraid; we are all here to welcome and help them, and not judge at all. So they should feel welcomed.

Charish 2008-10-20 12:16:59 -0500 Report


Anonymous 2008-10-21 03:55:14 -0500 Report

Well you were not here yesterday when things got out of hand on a discussion. People did not feel welcomed and very insulting things were said and everyone had to blame people and it upset alot of people. So much for the family atmosphere this site wants to project. My own family does not get as mean as everyone was. Veterans on here are not going to post anymore, new people do not want to be here. It is a very sad when in the United States of America you cannot express an opinion.

sexyswamprat 2008-10-22 13:26:27 -0500 Report

My goodness, give it a rest already. This discussion about yesterdays unpleasantness is constantly being brought up everywhere. I would think people are getting tired of hearing about everytime they turn their head. I'm wondering why some are choosing to harp on it. Let it go.

caragypsy 2008-12-08 21:25:09 -0600 Report

I'm sorry that people are still upset about that problem. I wish people would try to get along more. I like it here a lot. Cara

2008-10-17 12:01:14 -0500 Report

So pleased that everyone has some insight to this problem; it helps a lot of people when they know that they are not alone.:->)Claudia

Charish 2008-10-17 10:26:55 -0500 Report

One of the greatest things that people fear is change or embracing the unknown. Fear should never stop anyone from exploring something that they have never done before, rather it should give you all the more reason to want to see what is not the same. Opening myself to a new way of thinking and seeing people has been the greatest thing that I could have ever done for myself. I feel that if you allow yourself too, you might find that the best thing in life that could ever happen is when you reached out and touched someone who was different. I did that years ago and I'm so glad I did.

We all are from different walks of life, cultures, educational levels, etc., but we are all the same in sight of God and to each other. I'm all for the new things that are introduced to my life because it keeps me from being bored and thirsting all at the same time.

I don't think it really matters about how things are written because when you look at it you can usually guess or know what's meant to be written or said anyway, but the important thing is to see the person's heart behind it and know that it's love that counts.

Hugs and Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2008-10-17 11:36:38 -0500 Report

I was always afraid to start a disscusion.So one day I started a disscusion and I was surprised at all the replies I got. o now I read all the postings and if I think I can add to it I
Reply to it. Like I was tld in school,
there is nothing like a stupid question.
People ask questions because they don't know something and this site is full of great information.

Charish 2008-10-17 13:37:21 -0500 Report

Hi Daniel,

I'm glad that you didn't allow the fear of what would be thought or the idea of being rejected stop you from reaching out and exploring. It may surprise a lot of people if they would let go and try without worry or concern of others.

Hugs and Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

teddybearcub1960 2008-10-17 08:03:35 -0500 Report

I was afraid the first time I wrote a discussion about how people would react to it. But I still wrote that discussion, and you were right no one judged me. I'm not afraid anymore.


2008-10-17 08:45:44 -0500 Report

Good for you, Jackie; I have noticed that it is harder for some than others, for whatever reason, but that is o.k. We still won't judge you, and we love you for even being here; that is the first step. Claudia

GabbyPA 2008-10-17 08:03:04 -0500 Report

Bravo! I agree. We need all of the different kinds of people here. It keeps us sharp, even in disagreement. I have learned so much from so many here, and I hate to see when someone wants to leave. I know lately I have been dealing with a lot of "demons" and sometimes I don't feel like getting into a disucssion. But when I get here, open up a few notes, I am forgetting my worries and moving on.

We don't make you stay, but I sure hope we don't make anyone want to go.

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